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8/11/10 2:19 A

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I totally feel like you! Just had 2nd baby 4 weeks ago who is completely attached to me and wont sleep unless she is in my arms. We have terrible nights of no sleep house a mess I feel like I'm neglecting my oldest who is 4, I feel sorry for the baby, my husband and I have 0 time for eachother, don't have relatives near by to help today I didn't even get a chance to put make up on and just went outside of my apartment for 30 minutes from being at home all day. And now here comes my husband with crying baby

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8/2/10 9:39 P

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$20 a week sounds AWESOME. I can definitely see how that would be beneficial as a new mom, especially with a colicky baby.

We are all here for you. I'm so sorry you're going through it. Your #1 priority is surviving right now. Try one small thing that you know you can do and will allow you to feel good about making a good choice (like drinking 8 cups of water a day). Don't beat yourself up at not being able to exercise or eat perfectly or anything like that. Just do the best you can and realize that there will be time when your LO settles down.

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7/29/10 11:09 A

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Wow, I would totally hire a housekeeper for $20 a week even for partial help!

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7/29/10 10:48 A

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There is an awesome blog about sleep regression that typically happens around 12 weeks. (Bad news: it happens again about 9 months and 18 months). It is often thought of as colic, but it's a natural sleep thing that happens to little ones. You can get more info from askmoxie.com (look for the article titled down and dirty on sleep).

But basically sleep anytime you can. If everything doesn't get done, oh well. If stuff has to get done, see if you can hire a sitter for a couple hours or see if you can hire someone to clean. I had to hire a house cleaner to come in for 2 hours a week. It cost me 20$/ week, but I couldn't have made it through without it...

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7/29/10 10:08 A

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I agree, being a new mom is NOT easy and you are in survival mode right now.

The good news is that colic is *supposed* to start getting better right around the 3 month mark. My baby girl wasn't colicky but she was not happy during the "witching hour" and we spent many nights "partying". I cried several nights when I thought I couldn't take it any more.

Just take it day by day, don't berate yourself and TRY to sleep when the baby sleeps. Even if you lay down and relax, it's better for your body. Like stated below, try to eat better...the best way that works for me is to just keep the junk out of the house. Don't shop when you're hungry OR stressed.

This too shall pass, try to keep your chin above water.

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7/29/10 9:01 A

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YOU CAN DO THIS! I was in the same boat as you.. ( family far away, stuck in an apartment lease, and colic baby) I can remember sitting on the couch with my son and crying as he was crying. My husband was looking at me like I was some Looney tune. It is hard but remember IT GETS BETTER! your spark friends are here to support you. I read a book called Colic Solved. It gave me a better understanding of what was going on with my little one as well as some tips! I got it from babies r us... listen you have to take care of yourself and TRY and make time for you. I would always turn on the fan in the bathroom( to drown out the baby screaming) and let my husband take control, and I would soak in the bath. you need it... oh and tons of coffee!! emoticon

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7/29/10 7:41 A

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Oh you poor thing. Being a new mom is anything but easy. My first was colicky too but luckily it was around 3pm. The screaming was so awful. Sleep is so important and I think right now your still in survival mode. Try and step back and just think of everything you are doing. Sometimes you can't exercise. Maybe just focus on eating well. Track your calories and don't worry about exercise. If the little one is behaving and will let you take a walk with her then go for it. But otherwise I wouldn't worry about it. As far as the sleeping- can you take something for it like a benadryl? That works for me. If you need someone else to talk to I would also try calling your ob then can refer you to a specialist. Good luck! Your not alone. Take it day by day.

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7/29/10 12:53 A

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I have a soon to be 12 week old who has colick. I have seen her doctor he has no explinantion for her crying bouts. We have done everything. So we just accept that this is part of life and move on. My other half works 2 jobs one 3am-3pm shift 3 days a week and another 8-5 shift 2 days a week. It seems like he is never here. (he helps when he can tho) i now have insomnia. I cant sleep becasue he is soo tired from the baby letting him get 2 hours of sleep that he sleeps thru 3 alrm clocks going off in his ear. i have to stand over him and yell at him to get him to wake up..our daughters crying bouts usually happen from 11pm-1am and he has to be up at 2 for work on those days. on the others we still cant sleep. I want to foloow my diet and excersize so bad. My health depends onme loosing weight.I barely have time to think. I find my self up at 4am eating breakfast some days..then others its not till 2pm. We live in a studio apartmetn (stuck in a lease) so we heear all of babies screams..he even tried ear plugs. Im not worried about the baby I know its very sad but she will out grow it. Im worried about me..Im up making lunchjes and cleaning and doign the first yoga in 3 days at 1am becasue its the only time baby is clingy to me screaming. Wont lack of sleep hurt me.and what about the wings and doughnuts..yeah about once a week I have a total break down crying and all and we eat about 40$ worht of junk. then I spend the next 2 days loathing myself..Whats a new mom to do? i lay down for a nap and I cant sleep...Or I finally get to sleep but its at like 11am and I sleep till 4pm and the realize i have an hor to do EVERYTGHING. I need a buddy. I need some support, my honey is great..but busy. I am 100s of miles from friends and family as we just moved :( Is there any one out there whgo feels me? (am not checking spelling or grammer sorry..in hurry to get the baby bottles washed befroe she screrams again..just had to get this off my chest.)

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