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2/21/20 7:10 P

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emoticon speaking of shifting with baby steps, stumbled across this pic today - and um, yes... agree!



we often praise babies/others - and criticize ourselves - I think the self-criticism is learned and becomes a habit - which means, we can unlearn that and replace it/learn something new - to celebrate and try and explore and practice more baby steps!

Cheers :)

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emoticon Here's to recognizing & celebrating small changes!



honestly, the day 7 technique has helped me move changes forward... at times, I celebrate the change with a little happy sticker on the calendar - one year, I had 7 little pocket calendars going for the tracking - one for exercise, one for things like sleep or water drinking, even big things like didn't binge middle of night - or didn't scarf down a whole big open package and used regular portions...



you can see one of the little mini pocket calendars I used to track a little change, sitting on top of the paper food journal/tracker that I used to jot down what I was eating (instead of full blown online tracking)... it creates a happy visual to see the stickers add up and helped me to stay focused and take intentional actions on those particular things - sometimes just to get my sticker! LOL

emoticon I went shopping and found pretty stickers, pink, sparkly, ones I liked... and you can see, some days/weeks I got the stickers and other days/weeks, not so much... and that was ok... I just tried to focus on the actual activity for the current day... it was not about getting perfect stickers... it was about practicing the actual activity. some days I made it. other days not... either way, each day was a brand new chance to practice more, just for me, just because I chose to... the calendars/tracking were not anything I intended to show anyone, ever... just a tool to help me :)



emoticon life evolves, for sure and having the kidlets means a different routine. it's ok to make intentional changes/adjustments in the schedule/activities for different kinds of days - actually, that's what this is kind of about - we're learning how to eat well - that is not our life... it helps us go live and do the other things in life we need to do - work, play, babysit!

emoticon I am looking forward to being able to go walk at the zoo again.


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I still haven't done Day 7, that's on my to-do list this weekend.
I was doing meal prep for entire week on Saturdays but since dh is back to working from home I've fallen back into the pattern of cooking every night. I really want to get back to it though. After I get home and go to the chiropractor a few days a week I'm not much in the mood for cooking.
I still try and get salads made for the week and boil some eggs if I do nothing else. I have my granddaughter this weekend, I don't know why but when she's around I just don't get anything done. How did I ever do it with two kids?

Hmmm! I need to sit and think about what changes I have made for better health.

The one thing I can remember is I drink Almond Milk now instead of regular milk and I really prefer it now, even in my cereal.

I usually get diet cokes when we go out to a restaurant but now I'm trying to drink more unsweet tea.

Have a great weekend!




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2/20/20 7:59 P

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emoticon Not Willing to Change ~ Day 7 of 100 More days of Weight Loss

~ the lesson for today is interesting ~ and as I look back, I can see times and ways I have done this and it has helped me... Essentially, Linda Spangle asks are there things you are not willing to do or change? But those things are holding you back from actually losing weight? And, for a solution, she suggests that: Quote ~ "Shift Just a Little. You don't have to eliminate all of these areas at once. Instead, identify one (or I would say, identify 'an') issue... and look for ways to compromise just a little. A tiny bit of extra effort is often enough to change your pattern. For example, if you're not willing to exercise, maybe you could walk for five minutes or go to the end of your street and back." /end quote.



emoticon Shifting with Baby Steps emoticon

Change can be hard and this has been 1 of the most essential skills that's helped me make progress... to Shift just a little (work on the next baby step ;)

emoticon from drinking mostly pop to mostly water emoticon

emoticon emotional compromises with chocolate
- left off the candy in-between holidays and special occasions; stopped clipping coupons and stocking up 50% off the day after holidays

- occasionally buy 1, like a 240 cal pack of m&ms and work it in...

emoticon other emotional compromises
~ use chocolate whey protein powder in my morning coffee! yum (after I proportionally mixed/switched from cocoa powder)

emoticon from milk chocolate to dark ~ heart health emoticon
~ never ever wanted to eat dark, didn't like it... but it apparently can help with heart health - so I decided to eat dark if I was gonna eat. started with foil wrapped raspberry chocolates, then 65% non-alkaline processed dark, and worked my way to 90%. I use a square melted with a tbsp. of pb as a dip for bananas or apples - and discovered to my surprise that it will snap/break a sweet tooth urge/urge to binge... as do pickles with mustard! lol ;0

emoticon it is hard to imagine future changes, but this technique helps me - to get real about what I am doing and to find things I am willing to shift/try as I reach forward with my hopes & dreams :)



emoticon this is very different than going cold-turkey, white knuckled, no excuses, all in... with a change... that I had to do when I quit sickerettes…. and when I withdraw from EXCESS/OVEReating carbs - which totally sucks and I often don't make it through the withdrawals... but that is emotionally much harder... and when I'm doing that, it's like all sorts of extra tlc - go take a nap/cry my way through it... and I hate it... so the little baby steps/small shifts actually is much happier making way to make changes for me :)

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2/20/20 12:53 P

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emoticon doing any batch cooking this weekend? we just did a whole chicken crockpotted last night... I added a bag of small white beans... (didn't think about pre-soaking... big mistake.... huge! - they tooooooookkkkkkkk fooooooorrrrreeevvvvverrrrr!!! lol ;)

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2/19/20 7:07 A

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Jules, thank-you, thank-you, thank-you, I so needed this today. You definitely captured my inner child now I need to learn how to rein her in. And thanks for the laugh. I'm still laughing. She's actually kind of cute. I love the image about the Inner Idiot coming out.
When I have slip-ups I need to forgive myself off and get up and keep on trying because I'm worth it. We're all worth it! emoticon
Hope you have a great day!



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2/18/20 2:20 P

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I think of this as my wild child, inner 2 yr old child ~ she used to totally escape & run wild, evenings & weekends & all holidays and for days after.... ;)



urging me to eat, eat more, eat more now!



popped up everywhere ~ in the craziest of times, in the whackiest of places!



and, I saw this one today, and thought, yeah, that's about right! emoticon



emoticon just made me laugh...

emoticon a few years ago, I decided that I just needed to practice and keep practicing helpful ways to eat and helpful things to do for non-food stress... read these little books, have heart2hearts with dh... forgive myself, get up, dust off, assess & adjust what happened, tweak perhaps, then more practice... and repeat...

emoticon honestly Shirley, sometimes, this is what it feels like! emoticon



and other times, it just has helped tremendously - to release the guilt, to forgive, to dust off and move forward - it has been my key to forward motion... I think Mermaid last year shared a "recovery" strategy. I've lost the link, but that was it... We are adults, we're going to have ups/downs, but we are gonna just keep trying because we're worth it! we choose to, we want to and we're just gonna! Chin up! This week can be gr8! Onward :)



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Jules I so enjoyed reading everything you wrote, you're very inspiring and know just what I'm feeling. I had a good week and lost 6 lbs.! Then the last 3 days I went out and self-sabotaged myself, even after waking up saying each day today is going to be a good day and I'm going to track my food and stay on course. I didn't realize how sabotaging my dh is until this weekend. He would go into a gas station to get something to drink and bring me back a candy bar or something. I should have just gave the whole thing to him but no I just share half and eat it and then beat myself up. Weekends just do me in. I need to have a talk with him I guess, after all he's not a mind reader.

As for Valentine's Day dh admitted that the cookies were all that he was planning to get me but after being at work all day and seeing several women in the office getting flowers he felt guilty and stopped and got me some on his way home from work, at 11:30 at night. I think I got him straightened out that cookies were not appropriate when I'm trying to lose weight.

The good news is he starts working from home today! I'm so happy. As of yesterday he thought they had gotten all of the glitches straightened out, I sure hope so. We'll see how things go this afternoon.

I had good intentions to do Chapter 7 and didn't get to it either. Hopefully tonight I'll have a chance.
I guess I better go and get some work done. Hope everyone has a great day!



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2/16/20 7:17 P

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emoticon just didn't get the next chapter, day 7 done, yet... ran out of time - will probably not do until later this week/next weekend... I did skim day 7 and am pondering it... because it is an approach that has worked really well for me with some things... and not others...



which always brings me to... just start. start where you are today, go from there... It's all good :)



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emoticon {{{Mermaid}}} ~ sooooo glad 2 c u! Yes, agree, there is a time and a place... and there are times when I just can't or won't and there is nooooo reason to beat ourselves up for it when we don't! I think 1 of the most freeing lessons in the original book was wide/narrow road - and the realization that it is ok to make adjustments... You are in an extraordinary moment of life ~ it should be full of things related to your wedding ~ make them happy, enjoy them, no guilt! You will get back to creating a self-care normal days routine after the honeymoon! And during these days, because life does not stop... find ways that make you happy, nourish you physically and emotionally, that support your hopes & desires.... and when you are back, I can't wait to hear about your adventures!!!

and, ps, I think this could be done anywhere ;)




emoticon {{{Shirley}}} I dooooo hear what you are saying... I went through several times when hubby knew I was trying to "diet" (for whatever reasons, I was trying to stay away from carbs...) and he brought me some.... I didn't ask for them, hadn't planned for them, and usually they triggered me to dive in and eat them and then I would be so upset... After several incidents of that happening and subtle hints from me, we had a little heart2heart... I asked him gently, 'why are you bringing me food? are you trying to sabotage me?" and he, not defensive... said… No... I love you... I wanted to bring you a treat - because I know you like these things... [which is true, they were things I had.... in the past, called him at work and asked him to bring home for me.]

emoticon I was not expecting that answer, and it melted my heart about it... we went onward in the conversation about how... for now, again, I was trying to step away from those things, please don't bring them for me...

emoticon sometimes it is hard to change our own thinking, let alone our hubby's! LOL... it was not a 1 and done conversation - we have had it often, in many more ways, especially because he has not wanted to change the way he eats in the ways I want to try eating - he doesn't want nearly the amount or ways I like veggies and try to have 2 cups at lunch and dinner (helps fill me up) ~ I quit baking because he would have like 1 or 2 pieces and I would eat the other 98! He brought home donuts, and I asked him to put them someplace I would not cross paths with them.... because I would raid them... and dang, I found them like 6 months later, he had eaten 1... I would've scarfed the box before bedtime... and

emoticon It was because I could not help myself/resist my trigger foods that I had to find different ways to cope - which included asking him to keep his eatings out of my sight... like when I quit smoking, I just could not be around anyone smoking, because I would like tackle them for their sickerettes! Same with sweets, treats & goodies...

And honestly, it breaks my heart that it's even a problem, but it is, and it helps me to get real about it, with me and my own self-talk and when I need to, to let hubby know what I need from him... and it has helped.

emoticon now bosses are another story - they pay us to be there and do what they want.... and to do it with a smile. And, it is hurtful when they are snobs about it... I had a boss who looked me up and down at my appearance, darn near every time I encountered her, and it always included a flash of disapproval in her eyes... and that really can knock us off our self-confidence feet... and get in our head and make us feel anxiety...

because, honestly, it is their personal problem and character flaw to be judgemental and a snob...

emoticon somewhere along the way - I realized that... I was xtra sensitive to what everyone thought of me... good, bad or ugly, a lot of people and the world make me feel fat and ugly... it seems to be the way of the world these days... and honestly, it's stupid, as stupid and ignorant and racism and stigmatism/hate towards any group of people for their gender, race, reglion/faith beliefs, height, eye color, left/right handedness, squeaky voice or booming voice problems, the way people gigglesnort or whatever... or the color a person paints their house or the car they drive... I mean what the heck is up with any of that???



emoticon it is a change in thinking to choose different self-thinking - to set aside other people freaking expectations - to not carry on where they left off... to not beat ourself up with wet noodles because we're not good enough, too fat, or whatever...

emoticon I had a real hard time in 2017 when a doctor fired me because I was fat and would not have the weight loss surgery or take happy pills - I tried to tell her, I was not depressed and those things don't fix my urges to eat - I am trying to change how I eat and my whys, hows, whatnots... She said but you are still stress eating, don't do any of that... and when I still wouldn't do what she wanted, she fired us, started getting all jerky, and slammed the door...

and I thought wow.... and in that experience, brought to mind, all the people who disapproved of me because of my weight. Honestly, it can be severely damaging to self-confidence... as if our weight makes or breaks us as a good or bad person, and honestly, it just is not true....



emoticon I love everyone, my family, my friends, just the way they are... I don't care if they wear glasses, are left or right handed, short, tall, skinny or fat... we have people who have the other "disabilities" or whatever, and when I love them, I hardly even notice... I can't remember what eye color they have or anything sometimes because i'm not sneering at their quirky quaint uniquely them personal characteristics and qualities...

emoticon what I am loving is their kindness, their thoughtfulness, their giggles and sense of humor, the hands they reach out in love or friendship, the heart2hearts they share...

emoticon and what does that mean for me - I am as precious and worthwhile and valuable and marvelous as any other person on this planet... as precious as any baby...

emoticon I do think it is something we have to consciously and actively choose to think... and practice... I find it hard to look in the mirror, and when I do catch someone sneering at me or trying to "fix me, because I'm just not ok the way I am" well, dang, I have to talk back to that.. express it, and choose to release it... and I find the emotions from that come in waves, for days... of upsetedness and sorrow, and self-flagellation that I didn't meet their expectations, then anger, like who the heck do they think they are...

and that's when the hand comes up - emoticon talk to the hand emoticon

even if it's just in my mind - because we really can't talk back to the boss... :\… but we can reject it in our brain and our heart...

we can consciously choose to release their nasty...



emoticon and we can choose to love and accept ourselves, and practice that as long as it takes, until we believe it, deep down inside ~ until it is our 1st thought, instead of something we have practice...… because we matter... as much as everyone else...

emoticon and I am forever grateful that Christi shared this pic in our book talks... It has helped me choose me... and accept me, just as I am...



emoticon sorry about the long, I get long too... ~ methinks it helps to express and talk through these things! thank you for sharing. thank you for caring, and thank you for listening :)

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2/14/20 8:47 A

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It's so good to hear from you Mermaid! I can understand why you might not be quite ready to start with your wedding coming up. I know you're probably stressed and really excited.

Jules, I work for a large school district in the central office so I'm a year round employee. They started doing the compressed work week about 8 years ago, oh how I hate them. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy having a 3 day weekend but I'm so exhausted by Friday that it does take a day to recuperate. This is supposed to be an "energy saver" so all offices and schools are closed on Fridays. I go into survival mode. We have a tendency to go grab fast food more because I'm too tired to cook. I don't even enjoy summers anymore.

Oh dear, I'm kind of frustrated with my dh. Usually he's very supportive of my dieting and he needs to lose a little too so we try and support each other. Of course he's working today and I really won't see him again until Sunday. Usually he has flowers delivered to work or he buys them but since he's working I know his time is limited. There are these home baked cookies at WalMart and they are to die for. I love them. Thankfully there's only 3 in a package. So this morning when I got up he had put out those cookies and a card. I appreciate him thinking of me and he knows I do love those cookies but I'm on steroids and have to watch the sweets and carbs plus trying to lose weight. So wow! He woke up long enough to tell me Happy Valentine's Day and I told him I got his gift and was happy. He said it wasn't much and I told him it was fine. I'm just feeling really disappointed or hurt like he set me up for failure. Do you get what I'm saying?

Wow! Talk about a kick in the stomach, the other day I had my evaluation with the director. She's very skinny and petite and always dressed to the nines. Here I am obese and I wear whatever clothes I can find that fit and kind of look frumpy. So I'm sitting there in a chair that's too small for me and feeling so utterly awful about myself, I've never felt fatter in my life. I'm the biggest person in the office so I always feel a bit out of place. I was sitting there comparing her to myself and feeling very embarrassed, I didn't hardly hear what she was saying. I'm hoping I'll keep that vision in my mind and be more motivated to lose weight. I will have to say I'm doing much better about tracking my food. I just need to stay motivated. I'm so thankful for this team and the support from everyone. I'm really enjoying this book.
Hope everyone has a good weekend. Sorry this is so long.



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2/13/20 5:09 P

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Y'all don't know it, but we all just had a lovely time catching up... When I noticed how many posts I had to catch up on, I got something to drink (can of sparkling water), turned on some background jazz (from YouTube), and lit a candle (fresh cut lilacs).

I'm not ready to get started yet, but I do have a few observations...

First, I love reading the book together and comparing notes. I always find it interesting when a certain line in the book triggers one person and soothes another. On Day 2, when Spangle says something along the lines of, "If you're not ready, don't even start!" I can fully understand the triggering reaction. But for me... It was like, "Y'know what? I'm NOT ready!" It reminded me of something I read in Beck a long time ago. Before you start a new chapter in your weight loss journey, you need to consider whether or not you're truly ready. On the flip side, the ideal conditions do not exist. Stress happens, life happens. But during certain big moments of change in your life (like say... planning a wedding!), there's really only so much you can put on your plate. Figuratively speaking. (Ha!) So when I read that line, I gave myself permission to put the book down.

But then I kinda allowed myself to give up entirely for what felt like an eternity...

So I said all of that to say this: I am back, just dipping my toe in the water. I'll watch here from the edge of the pool, cheering you on, until I'm ready to dive into the deep end!
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emoticon 4 ten hours a day, that's the thing, they are exhausting... I would need a day to catch up and rest... Any chance they could rearrange so you had Wed off instead of Fridays this summer. it was easier when I could do that... otherwise, I spent Fridays at home, puttering... I would sleep in, do a little light housekeeping, take a nap, have lunch - go do an errand, come home, nap, dinner... then more unwind Fri night... Usually felt much better Sat morning! It was like Friday became my 'me time' ~ in some ways it was nice to take a pamper~me day each week...

emoticon Happy Valentines tomorrow ~ we have not quite settled, but hubby may come home early for a dinner out at a smoked meats restaurant... they have a hoagie sandwich and you get to choose 2 or 3 meats.... served warm.... considering that with a green salad... mostly, just looking forward to getting to sit and yammer fireside for an hour or so...

I will do the next day sometime this weekend too :)

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During June and July every year we work 4 - 10 hour days, no lunch break, and now I have an hour commute each way so I'll be gone 12 hours a day! OMG! I absolutely hate it, it's nice to have Fridays off but usually by then I'm so exhausted I just feel like i need to recuperate. I just go into survival mode during the summer, I sit down and think about what easy recipes I can make that don't take much time and crockpot meals. A lot of times we would just go eat out because I'm so tired, but since dh will be working evenings now we won't be doing that. I've started food prepping on weekends that's what I need to do.

Anyway, dh logged into the system at work last night from home and it worked! So hopefully next week will go off without a hitch. LOL!

I want the same things you do too, I guess most of us do. I'm so tired of waking up every morning with a different pain. Unfortunately this steroid my Dr. has me on now isn't working at all. Yesterday was really bad and another bad night. I haven't slept for more than four hours any night this week. It's starting to catch up with me. If I have time today I'm going to look for a chiropractor that takes my health ins.

I'm so glad to be on SP too, it sure helps when you find out you're not the only one struggling. I hope you have a wonderful day! Going to try and work on Day 7 tonight.



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That would be great Shirley, if he can work from home again... and if not... maybe later!

I am glad you're doing better this week... and yes, 'thirsty' is just the word... when I worked in an office, 10 hr days and more sometimes with OT, I would feel thirsty for fun, free time, and time with hubby... it was way worse when our schedules were not the same... Looking back, I wish I had learned better coping skills - I love the idea of the diamond painting - I can see how that relaxes... and I also have gotten up middle of the night with can't sleep~i~tis… it drives me nuts and sometimes, I just get up... usually flip on the tv to a boring monotone "teach you how they make nuts and bolts" kinda show.... and even that doesn't always work, lol

anyway - the older I get, I just feel like hey... whatever... what can I do today to help myself - whatever the day is... reading this book once or twice a week is part of that...

yesterday I watched a "where are they now..." show about someone who had the weight loss surgery and it showed the 2 - 3 years afterwards... amazing... she went from like 700+ lbs to 150... had severe arthritis in both knees, 1 had locked up, couldn't stand/walk - and eventually had both knees replaced, was able to get started walking, and could walk without the wheelchair or walker!

I want that. I want to be able to walk, bend, reach, get up, get down, move, breathe easier... and not need help!

emoticon it's why I'm here, doing these things, and I am glad to have people here who understand and who will talk about it! Thank you!!!! hugs



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This has been a big adjustment for both of us. He's been working from home the last three years so to go from that to not seeing him for an entire week was really hard. We didn't even get any warning. So it's been nearly 4 weeks now of this. His schedule has changed again so that he's off on Sundays, Mondays and Wednesdays. This week he'll find out if he'll be able to start working from home again next week. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. He told me his boss is happy with his progress, he just needs to get his speed built up. They've never hooked anyone up remotely to do this sort of job so we'll see. He'll still have the same crazy hours but at least we can sit down and talk during his dinner break. You describe being "thirsty" for your time together, that's exactly how I feel. I'll just be glad when I don't have to worry about him driving home at midnight anymore.




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emoticon emoticon that's a big schedule shift Shirley ~ it will take some time for things to fall into place... for several years, our schedules didn't match... and we worked days the other person had off, so we just had evenings... and sometimes not that when one of us nights and the other worked days... I remember I felt "thirsty" for our home time together! I also stumbled into a routine that got things done when we were apart so we could spend time together when we were both off... your Sun date(night) sounds gr8!

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Day 6

The weekends have always been hard for me. I'm not on my weekly schedule, we get lazy on the weekends and don't eat meals at a certain time or sometimes we just grazed most of the day on junk food. This past Sat. was my dh's first time working on Saturdays, so it was really strange. I had my 4 year old granddaughter and my great niece came over. I didn't even fix dinner, I had leftovers. My ds came home and took over his daughter and I went to bed. I did do some cooking for this week. Sunday my dh is off so we went out to eat, I was in the mindset of eating what I wanted before I started on these steroids today. Since our new norm will be dh working on Saturdays I only have Sunday to really worry about anymore. Our date night has moved to Sunday now. I guess I'll do better now since he's working and we're not going out on Saturdays for meals.

Valentine's Day falls on a day that he's at work so we won't even see each other that day. I don't know if I'll do something on Sunday when I'll see him again or just give him his gift and not worry about it. He knows not to bring me candy, I usually get flowers. It's going to be different this year.



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emoticon So Day 6 is titled Monday Diet
The topic is about something pretty typical for many of us... we "diet" and do well during the week, then crash on the weekend and dive back into food, promising ourselves that we will start again on Monday!

emoticon It's a tough cycle to break emoticon
What if Monday, is a holiday? ok, then I'll restart Tues. What if there are leftovers from Monday? Ok, I'll start again after the leftovers are gone! What if Monday, or Tues is a bad hair day? Ok, I'll start again after I get my hair back in order! And sometimes, it just gets harder and harder and feels more impossible to get stopped and back on the "diet" ~ It was a cycle I was trapped in for years! So, I find this lesson inspiring and empowering and great timing since next weekend is a food holiday and we have a family get2gether!



I think it helps to choose an overall approach/plan... especially for regular days... then it is easy to make adjustments for special days, like sick days, holidays, special weekends. And our thinking and choices are what we make right now.... as we grow/evolve, we can make different choices later... we don't have to decide everything once and for all... that's the beauty of looking at today, this weekend, and adjusting things in good4us ways :)


emoticon in the book, Linda suggests "Fill Your Heart back up" emoticon
Excerpt, pg 12 ~ Linda talks about making a plan for the weekend. Instead of trying to make your diet plan more rigid isolating yourself from social events (on the weekends), consider ways you can take care of your heart.... Decide how you'll stick with your food and exercise goals as well as get some emotional refueling (in non-food ways.) Then build these ideas into a written plan that starts on Friday... take care of your heart by doing the activities on your plan... /end excerpts.



emoticon My regular days Weekend plan(s)
~ spend time with hubby just enjoying an activity together
~ take a nap or sleep in or go to bed early (to catch up on rest)
~ do something active; appropriate for the particular weekend
~ follow regular days eating and movement plans; adapt and adjust for the weekend particulars

emoticon my Valentines plan ~ enjoy a gourmet meats dinner out, time with hubby. I have asked him not to give me candy this year, since it was such a trigger last year. I can always choose/have candy later... if I want it later.

emoticon Also, this year, the family get2gether, bring meats & veggies I can eat & enjoy that are appropriate for my regular foods, and if I am feeling ok and not compulsive, enjoy a serving of a favorite food or too... If not, well, then not now... I can always choose, make or buy it later... After all, I am doing this to help me ~ it's not a punishment. It's a choice, and I choose me :)

emoticon hope you are choosing you & things that help you too! Cheers :)

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emoticon understand!

emoticon I once read somewhere... that it is pretty common to experience a little down-ness after changes - even good changes... we all know about job loss or death, but the article mentioned it could be happy/good things like 3 weeks after marriage, vacation, moving to a new home... birth of a baby...

what struck me, is that it is a bit of our mind & heart sorting the new changes and putting the new things into a reasonable/doable place in our lives ~ and the suggestion was to give ourselves extra compassion and tlc, and do extra little things to comfort ourselves (in non-food ways ;)

emoticon I am so happy you will get to celebrate with a trip to the beach! totally awesome and something to look forward to!

emoticon life is hard... pain is very hard... these kinds of things disrupt our usual routines and make us tired... and then it's normal to have feelings with that ~ so give yourself a hug, lots of hugs and keep on keepin' on... and keep putting the smiles back on...

emoticon remember that song from Annie ~ the sun'll come out tomorrow! Sounds like yours will arrive with granddaughter this weekend! Fun!

emoticon So, my phone broke and it snowed... emoticon
-- i didn't eat because of that, but I sure had strong urges to comfort eat... and I celebrated the win! Woohoo!!!

then the next day, on the 4th, I pulled out the project that was due on the 5th!!! and it was due on the 3rd... so instead of early, I was late, and then I really wanted to comfort eat.

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and I didn't! for the win!!! Confetti happy dances! Woot! emoticon



emoticon Keep the faith & celebrate the small wins :) emoticon

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Thanks again for the SparkGoodie! They make my day and cheer me up. I should be sending out more to cheer other people up.

I'm so down in the dumps, I'm not sure what it is, I think it's a combination of several small things. DH's new job and work schedule, my former supervisor/friend dying last week, work, and this pain, it's like sciatica and some days the pain is unbearable. I go to the Dr. tomorrow to have blood work done, I'm sure she'll want to do an MRI or something since it's just getting worse. She put me on steroids a month ago and it helped for awhile but now it's just become unbearable. Plus I had this big project going on at work and yesterday and the librarian came and picked everything up without warning so now I'm back to twiddling my thumbs. Wow! it's been a tough week. My eating hasn't been the best this week.

Thanks to you I see now that I've been looking at all the negatives going on everyday. I need to concentrate on the positives so I'm going to start writing down the good things.

The one good thing that happened is every year on our anniversary we go out of town somewhere, so we were talking last night and my dh suggested going to the beach, I find the ocean being my happy place and comforting so we made reservations to go back to a place we stayed at a few years ago. It's right on the beach and it's reasonably priced. At least I have something to look forward to.

I haven't done day 6 yet either, just thinking things over and putting them into action.

This weekend I have my 4 year old granddaughter coming to visit. She always cheers me up. Today starts my dh's new work schedule which is 10 hour days going in at noon and getting off at 10:30 pm. He will also start working Saturdays this week. UGH! It is what it is. Just grateful he still has a job.

Thanks for letting me cry on your shoulder, I think that's what I needed. I've been doing a lot of diamond painting, just so thankful for that since it helps my stress.



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emoticon Woohoo! Yay You!!!

emoticon Shirley, can you swap treats for something non-food?

In the original 100 days book, and beck, there are lessons on celebrating our wins, through the day ~ can't remember for sure which book, but essentially, most days/all days - we do way more right than we goof up!

emoticon And Beck calls the wins little woohoo moments - give yourself a woohoo when you do something right! Like sticking your lunch in the fridge and skedaddling out without looking at the candy bowl nor snagging a candy! That's sparktacular and deserves a woohoo!!!

emoticon rainbows & roses emoticon
so one of them says it's like looking for the rainbows in the day, the other says looking for the roses - appreciating the lots of little good things in the days, the reasons to smile...

emoticon I have found that for me, this kind of thinking was new for me. I was used to beating myself for things that went wrong, for my lack of willpower... and the switch is to embrace and celebrate the things that went right.... assess if something goes wrong, think about what to do in the future and practice it in the future... the whole approach for me has been much more empowering and happy making!

emoticon and by treats/swaps ~ I mean, is there something you can treat yourself with instead of food? like a new magazine/book, time to spark, time to diamond paint? when I quit smoking, I took the sickerette $$ I used to spend to buy good4me food, exercise tools like pink handweights/pink balls, pink clothes...

emoticon In fact, my treat this week was a pink lightbulb! LOL hubby was like, what? lol... but hey... my phone broke, it snowed, and I bought a pink lightbulb instead of diving into comfort food, and that was a big win for me! confetti happy dances and my reward/treat was the pink light bulb :)



ps ~ I snag cute pics off the net... search using the images search (instead of searching all... google and bing have a "images" to click on) then put the words related to whatever in the serch bar... and I'm in cute pictures heaven! lol


emoticon very busy here too.... I haven't done day 6 yet... maybe this weekend or next week ~ it's ok to go slow ~ I think it's actually more about the idea and mulling it over and how it can help us that is important... otherwise, we're just reading it like a storybook and what's the point of that? there are funner storybooks I'd like to read - or movies to watch, lol



emoticon oh and there's a new biggest loser on USA that just started, and the 40th season of Survivor starts this week. Tonight is a 40 season recap... can't believe this will be the 40th time! These shows are part of my me time... Hubby is just not into them at all... which is ok - i'm not into a lot of the shows he likes... he's such a guy! LOL ;)

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I just had to share my great news! Yesterday there was candy in the office break room. When I went to get my lunch I saw the candy on the table and I was so so tempted, I swear the Devil was sitting on one shoulder saying one piece isn't going to make a difference but on the other hand it was fresh on my mind about having no willpower. I decided I didn't need that candy; this morning when I came in the candy is still there but I quickly put my lunch in the fridge and got out of there. I'm not sitting here beating myself up which is a great feeling.

My other wonderful news is my dh is off today! He starts his new permanent schedule tomorrow. I'm so going to enjoy this afternoon with him. I haven't seen him since Sunday night and won't see him again until Sat. morning before he goes off to work.



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I finally got around to week 5 - No Willpower

Think about places you'll face food temptations.

The grocery store
The office lunchroom
Home

Create a new mindset for protecting yourself from unplanned eating.

Order groceries on line - resist temptations to get a sweet (reward for making it through the week) I need to keep in mind all the healthy foods I'm eating and how much better I'll feel avoiding those temptations.

Office - Ignore the treats everyone brings in (thankfully it's not often) Avoid looking at table when there is a tempting treat. Just focus on getting lunch and water.

Home- Resist buying any sweets, just because dh got a treat doesn't mean I need to have one too. Stick to my plan.

Doing all of this I hope I can set myself up for success and then I can avoid beating myself up.
Last night I sat down and took the time to log all of my food for today, the day goes better when I do this, doing this gives me a more positive attitude.

Two things stuck out to me while reading Day 5.

Willpower is not something you either have or don't have.

Do anything that will help you stay strong and focused on your goals.

On a side note I am loving this book. Each day is a short read and the topics are all things I am facing in my life.





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I'm still lurking in the background. I just can't get motivated to do anything lately. If there was ever a weekend I needed week 5 it was this past weekend. I'm going to go home and read it and go back and read the first 4 chapters too.

I don't know what it is but on the weekends when dh is home one of us talks the other one into eating something not on program. This coming to an end when he starts working on Saturdays starting this week. We're trying to figure out how we're going to fit all of our chores ,errand running and church into one day a week. He's never had to work Sats. before. The biggest dilemma is picking up groceries, I can pick them up but I know I won't be able to get them up the steps and into the house. He's going to have to leave for work around 10 am. I may just have to go get them while he's getting ready. I need to pick up the food on Sat. mornings so that I can do all my cooking for the week while he's at work, then I'll have Sundays free to spend with him.

Where do you find these cute graphics? I'm having a hard time finding anything.




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emoticon love the graphics Christi - you always find ones that are just so spot on! just like your thoughts on day 5! I would agree, finding a rhythm/routine so helps!




emoticon Shirley, yes! can hear you contemplating and sorting your thoughts - you will find a way through as you explore and find what works for you... Hope you have a chance this weekend for more prep - that so helps me too...



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Strategy list to face down food temptation.

Day 5 – No willpower

1. Think about places where you’ll face a food temptation today.

My biggest hurdle is having a plan in place and then having to get my husband to be on track with me.

Example being breakfast:
My plan is to have oatmeal and apple.
Husband is OK with that except he also wants 2 buttered biscuits plus sausage plus eggs.I
Basically he wants 2 separate meals. Having to reason out EVERY MEAL with him is exhausting!!

2. Create a new mindset for protecting yourself from unplanned eating.

Stay present, remember my goals.
Don’t be a victim.
Don't give in because it is easier.
Remember I do matter.
Be responsible for what goes into my body.

3. Record your success with using this new mindset.

It gives me confidence that I can approach the challenging times without giving in and going back to old patterns.

Strengthening and forming healthy habits:
For me it is reinstating healthy habits. I know what to do. I know that routine and consistency are some of the strongest strategies.




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I need to get busy and read Chapter 5. I really need help with no willpower. I'll try and do that tonight.

I haven't done the best with my eating plan the last few days. Keeping a journal is so helpful though. I totally looked at things differently this morning, with WW everyday you get a certain amount of points for the day, so everyday is a new day- a fresh start. I finally saw that this morning, as I contemplated everything I had eaten the last few days that went over on my daily totals I thought okay it's a new day and it's time to just forgive myself and move on. Today I'm going to log everything and make sure I drink my water. The thing that has been the most helpful is spending the time on the weekends to prep food for the whole week. It's so nice not to have to go home and think about what we are eating or remembering that I didn't get something out of the freezer. Yesterday I went out to lunch with a former co-worker, lunch took up most of my points for the day but I was able to eat a very low point dinner because I had poached chicken and roasted vegetables. I'm slowly learning to take care of myself better. Having meals already prepped also gives me one less excuse to go out to eat during the week.
I hope this all made sense.



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Oooh, ooh, Shirley, lots of life! they do grow up so fast! Sounds like less chaos ahead... sometimes we do get interrupted by life! whew... hang in and keep at it... this is for you, just you and you're worth it :)

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emoticon Day 5 No willpower

I found day 5 really empowering - life will always be throwing us curveballs... the lesson is about knowing we are free to use our skills to choose tools and strategies to help us deal with the curveball... it's very exciting and empowering! blogged it...

sometimes I feel like I had so many reasons and times to OVEReat, I realized I had to let some of those go. it kinda looks like the pic below... each up arrow is 1 of those things I'm releasing/trying to change... and this day 5 lesson says, hey, we can do this... what worked before, what do you want to try.... choose and try that... very empowering! we can do this!





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Good Morning everyone,

I haven't gotten to Day 5 yet, ran out of time this weekend. My ds gets his daughter every other weekend so she was at our house. She's 4 going on 5, my baby is growing up way too fast. : (

I also didn't get much meal prepping done for the week so I'm going to have to go home and do that today. We really undid all of our hard work last week. We grabbed fast food and then we splurged and had a big treat and then pizza for dinner because I was just too tired to cook. I did some of the meal prep Sat. Unfortunately Sunday wasn't much better. We keep doing this on weekends. DH has one more weekend off before he'll have to start working Saturdays, I think we'll do better because we won't be out running errands etc and I'll have time on Saturdays to do all of the food prep. Having all the meals cooked worked out great and I plan to keep it up. I just have to move forward and not beat myself up. This week I'm going to work on having a plan for next weekend.

And miracle of miracles dh decided I was moving into his office this weekend no matter what so we did it. I have a big mess to sort through now. It's not the ideal situation but we'll manage. My ds was overjoyed to have a whole room to himself, we went out last night and when we got back he had rearranged all of the furniture, swept the floor and folded his clothes and actually put them away! I was astonished. He was so happy and seemed to be in better spirits so I'm glad he has his own space now.



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emoticon Christi, Shirley! Love your Day 4 Lists! emoticon

Christi, love the collage, have to snag! starting a job, it's like you have to re-sort your whole life routine. Hang in!

Shirley, same for you with your family changes. I love your I can do!

emoticon when I quit smoking, I adopted the Little Engine that could... and repeated it often... it was soooooo hard... I think I will use this again...

Icandoit, Icandoit, Icandoit!
Icandoit, Icandoit, Icandoit!
Icandoit, Icandoit, Icandoit!
Choo Choo (not chew chew!) Woohoo!

emoticon and, when we release something (like stress eating snacking in evenings) it helps to actively choose something to replace it. For me, I am trying to stop eating at enough.... instead of eating more... so I need to get up and do something instead. I really like your idea of diamond painting and things... can you temporarily do the kitchen table? a little extra walking to bring supplies out and put away, but I can see how calming the painting would be... sounds fun!

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emoticon Day #4 ~ Today I am on my plan
I love day #4 ~ actually I find it really empowering ~ for me, it's about moving our daydreams into reality ~ about the actual doing ~ about intentionally CHOOSING, each and every day, to actually act, do and stay focused with my personal self-care, food choices, getting some movement in, the sleep I need, helping myself emotionally de-stress and all the other self-care things we choose to do to help ourselves... these are all part of my daily approach to self-care ~ we each need to find what we personally can and will do each day



It is easy to let other things divert our attention... and slip into autopilot/not pay attention to our hopes & dreams and desires to help ourselves ~ but our hopes and dreams are important ~ as important as our job, our doctor appointments, watching kidlets in the store so they don't wander off... nods... yep, as important for each of us personally, just truly important for just us...



I think it is also just something we keep choosing - each day, any moment ~ we can get up, dust off and point ourselves forward again and walk more talk as we actually act and do and live our lives! SparkCheers :)




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emoticon Hi everyone!

emoticon day 3 ~ caught up and read your day 3 comments...

whow, we could just be triplets!



emoticon Shirley, sure can relate - tried so many things and here I am... I do think we learn a lot, each time we try or retry something. we learn what we can not do, don't like, even despise! and we find little snippets that are keepers like a splurge is 1 meal for a special occasion instead of days/weekends or the whole holiday season Halloween to Valentines! lol ;)

emoticon love the idea of food prepping on the weekend and different ways to make veggies.. I haven't really done roasted but oh my goodness, I love them grilled on the bbq in the summer! And I like them cooked with spices & in broth in the winter... hubby likes them all plain boiled, I just can't... makes me gag... so we do veggies separately, and that's ok... more work but ok... there are lots of things he likes that I don't too...



emoticon oh my goodness Christi ~ back2work? that is such a huge change and time eater... it always takes me a good while to find a routine that works - and a way to stay sane/destress in the process. I am glad you are still even reading this book - it is an affirmative act of self-love, because we matter, to do things to help ourselves... You go you! hugs




I will always remember the 1st time I saw you posted this.... it helped me express and hold onto this... thank you. and this.... (see, you make a difference in my life ~ thank you for sharing the journey! :)





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emoticon More on Day #3 ~ flip side to What if I fail? ~ What if I succeed

I realized I had pondered the 1st part of the excerpt where the book asks "What if I Fail" (day 3)

book quote/excerpt ~ Failure is such a negative word. Don't allow that awful word into your day... You have power over what happens in your life. So today, start conquering your fears by changing the way you think about them! ~ end book quote.

and it hit me today, What if I succeed? I have the power to switch my mentality... to stand up, dust off, step up and take another crack at it... it is very empowering and makes me want to hop up and try more!




emoticon losing weight is so much more emotional.... takes longer and is about so much more than I ever thought... After I crash, burn, totally relapse/collapse, I get this total feeling of frustration, despair, even hopelessness and also a feeling of now what? I've tried so much, none of it worked... and at that point, it feels so NOT sunny and impossible. I get to feeling like it's not ever going to work... that I"m out of ideas and I have absolutely no advice for anyone else because I hit that brick wall and failed again...

emoticon when we are totally crashed and feeling that way... how the heck are we supposed to get going again?

reaching rock bottom after a good, long cry
~ ever notice there's a moment when we get an urge to get up and dust off again? or we feel a glimpse that the sun will shine again, that we're ready to set aside the kleenix and do more?

emoticon that's a good time to grab hold of the urge, stand up and try. for me, it has been very different each time... and thinking about it, we have learned a lot from each major crash.... what worked, what never worked, what we can't tolerate, what we might want to try again... it's not even rational, but when that urge hits, it's a good time to take another crack at it...

hopefully we won't go through many utter collapses again - I think working on our self-talk and our squirrely thinking is pretty essential to help us figure all this out... and I'm just gonna think, eventually we're gonna get this done! I am glad we're talking about these kinds of things... it helps me in ways that words can't express, just the sharing... thank you!

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Day 4 Today I'm on my plan

Today: Write a list of three things you will do to stay on your plan today.
1) First and above all else: I need to take time to plan - plan what I'm going to cook for meals and plan and log what I'm going to eat the night before. I'm more likely to stay on track this way.
2) Log everything including how much water I drink.
3) Be mindful of my emotions and wanting to eat. I'm a stress eater! Need to find something else to do when I want to eat, keep my hands and mind busy by scrapbooking, diamond painting or crocheting. Since my husband has new hours now and is gone when I get home I"m lonely. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel displaced too, I had a great space all set up in the spare bedroom so that I could do my crafts but now that my ds is back living with us he's taken over that room and my space. My dh is going to share his office with me but he still has boxes to unpack and since he's no longer working from home he has a lot of paper clutter to go through and throw out then we have to rearrange furniture, it's going to take time. I'm hoping this weekend we can find time to start going through things in his office.

Identify any emotional issues such as stress that might get in the way of your focus:
My dh's new job and hours. This is proving to be a lot harder then we thought it would be. Starting Feb. 6th he'll start working 10 hour days and Saturdays.
Other stressors in my life: My ds
Our finances
My job

Create a self-talk phrase to use instantly when your focus starts to slip away.
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"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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emoticon Day 3 ~ what if I fail

blogged it, and this is additional thoughts from the workbook exercise. ever notice that the brain kind of chews on ideas and spits out 12 different pictures of how to make it happen? my brain is still pondering day 3 and what it means to me, so might post more later ;)

emoticon and, I'll double back and read your day 3's tomorrow :)



emoticon What if I fail?

emoticon What if I don't?

emoticon I have pondered this kind of question before, and for me, it has been an essential and profound life skill to learn and practice.... because, I have been dieting and diving off the diet, over and over and over again since my 1st diets with mumsie, about the 3rd grade... and that all ads up to epic failures and inexorable weight gain each and every year for decades, and well, here I am, with way too much extra weight - that hurts my body - that I desperately want to lose.

emoticon the emotional side of my brain reacts with strong emotions of disgust and despair and I find myself beating myself up... (with wet noodles) - all tangled up with other roiling emotion - anger, frustration - I get to feeling totally hopeless and helpless....



it is essential to release all that... acknowledge it... emotions are normal... not freaky weird. it's our bodie's way of saying things are craptacular and I am not happy with crappy! After we acknowledge the emotions, we can forgive ourselves... we can get up, dust off, step up and ask ourselves, what next? what now? Linda Spangle calls that our logical brain...



and I think of it as turning my body around and facing forward, reaching forward - the possible, the doable - things to try and practice that will help me... it's part of why I am reading this book and share support here!

emoticon and I think, it is something we have to keep doing, trying and practicing... as many times as it takes... because what we are doing matters because we matter... we have to keep choosing us and reaching forward to find our way :)






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Day 3 What if I fail?

My biggest fear is failure! I start out great and then after a few weeks or months something happens like the holidays and I get derailed. I'm so hoping that I will be successful with WW this time around. I have learned a lot the last few years like a big splurge should only be one meal and for a special occasion.

This is the question I have every time I start a new diet. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have tried to lose weight. I've done WW over and over and over, I lost 26 pounds the first time I joined and then quit and gained it back and even more. I've done Atkins, Keto, Grapefruit Diet, and the Mediterranean Diet. I've lost about 10 pounds and gained it all back and more on theses different diets.
Because I've failed so many times I hesitate to tell friends, family and especially the people I work with. I hate when people are the food police. I know what I should be eating and doing and it's my body so back off is what I want to say.

Identify your emotional response. Feel the fear and panic. The following statements make me stressed and tense:
I can't keep doing this. What am I doing to my body? lf I don't stop eating like this I'm going to end up on insulin or dying early or amputation.
I can't lose weight due to stress eating and in social situations.
I'm always self-sabotaging myself, why do I do that.

Create a logical, positive message:
I can do this! Other people have why can't I? If I've had a bad day and screw up then I need to get right back on track with the next meal and quit waiting until Monday to "Start Over Again" I need to quit beating myself up and do more positive self-talk.




"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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I'm still here just haven't been reading or posting. I do need to go back and reread Day 1 and 2.
Yesterday was a day full of stress and very emotional. After seeing my dh off to work I went to fold clothes, I was feeling utter exhaustion. After thinking about if for a few minutes I decided instead of trying to do everything I wanted to get done yesterday that I needed to be KIND to myself and quit putting so much pressure on myself, so I had a day to myself. I also started WW yesterday; I wasn't perfect but felt good about things.

I'm so very proud of myself this week. I always make up salads to grab and go on the weekends but this week I knew if dh wasn't at home for dinner then I knew I wouldn't cook for just me so I spent most of Sunday prepping food. I learned a lot from that day. I roasted vegetables for the first time, OMG they are so good. I also poached chicken breasts that turned out full of flavor and moist. I also boiled eggs, made salads, made a big pot of 3 bean chili (no meat) and Beef and Bean Verde. At least I know my dh has good wholesome food to eat and pack.

Today my plan is to go home and straighten up the bedroom, diamond paint to relax and spend time practicing self love and working in the book.

Christie I so get where you're coming from, you went to staying home full time to working. That in itself is a big adjustment but to add to that you have a farm and disabled dh to manage everyday. Don't worry about your house and what other people might think. If I go to a friends house which is far from spotless I don't care. I've gone to see them not their house. If I can offer some advice - on your days off I would start with one room - maybe the kitchen and just really concentrate on it. Toss out stuff that's just taking up space and just do a good general cleaning. You'll feel so much better. Good Luck!



"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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emoticon More thoughts on Day #2 I'll start tomorrow

I blogged a longer version, but as I pondered it more, I realized - Spangle often says things in "black & white" ways that sometimes trigger me... like when she says in Day #2 (excerpt) "...so unless you're ready to take action, don't even utter the words..."

emoticon Ok, I won't, so bite me! talk2hand... emoticon
black/white statements like that often trigger rebellion in me

emoticon so... sometimes I just need to recognize and acknowledge that I'm having a negative reaction in rebllion… so I can release it and set it aside, stand up, dust off and look for the next step that I can do.. that works for me - whether it's baby steps or back to the basics or just adding in something helpful like choosing a piece of nourishing food that helps my body.

there are no right or wrongs.. it is not all or nothing... it's choosing what works for us. turning our body and facing forward, reaching forward... and that feels possible and doable for me ~ for today - the nugget of truth in day 2... do something to help myself today... whether itty bitty or monumental - do what works for me, and please, don't let myself talk myself out of it! :)

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emoticon Sparknb ~ sounds like you've learned a lot! Look forward to sharing the book thoughts with you too! Glad you're here :)



emoticon thoughts on Day #2 I'll start tomorrow
-- just blogged a longer version... and would say, this "I'll start tomorrow" has been such a stumbling block and habit that I unconciouslly used for a very long time... I can hear the voices and all the reasons we would give in our family... I learned it, I can unlearn it!



somehow, we have to make the leap from talking about what we want and pushing it off until later... and make the leap to actually doing it! I think of it as less talkie talkie, more walkie walkie… look at the choice in front of me, make a choice - then get up and do...

emoticon a real stumbling block for me are sick days

before - I would eat favorite sick day foods - like soup stuffed with crackers, cinnamon toast, mac & cheese, and think to myself, I will get back on my "diet" when I'm better... AND... I used to think these kinds of foods were emotionally soothing/comforting... the truth is, they were overwhelming my body with extra foods, I was gaining weight instead of helping my body...

emoticon After/Now - so what can I do to help my body now - when I'm sick?
I think convenience, pre-cooked, pre-chopped and all that is fine... easy stuff... choose and eat foods that help my body. That's part 1... part 2 is stop at enough (like 1 bowl instead of 6, instead of use sick as a reason to eat 6 bowls.) It is ok when we are sick to adjust the food we eat - find other foods that are yummy, comforting, nourishing - perhaps tea instead of milkshakes... egg flower soup instead of a can of soup crammed with cracker and melted cheese.... or make an easy soup from a pre-cooked chicken... I'd like to try this recipe when I have a cold...

www.bettycrocker.com/recipes/lemon-c
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Thanks for this thread; just read it all, and may go get the book, otherwise will just do it vicariously through y'all's posts.

emoticon My '3 people'
1) me, I've lost 100 pounds a couple of times. Both were after big divorce-type break-ups.The weight gains prior had been unacknowledged-by-me clues to my unhappiness in the relationships. Kept it off until new relationships started and same cycle. Plus ups and downs with thyroid Rx. Lesson: emoEats & bad habits around partnerships. Am single now, but living with my folks doing light elder care, so different situation. Have usually lost via healthier habits, exercise, and Rx adjustment.
2) My sister; she has also gone up and down with her weight over her life; also has (different) Rx issues; has never been as heavy as me. She's being quite successful on ww (down 75 lbs, still working the program though had plateau'd) and when we get together (she lives in Canada) we go for walks and hikes together. She visited for the holidaze and was looking good, and I remember looking like that (we are very similar in build). In addition to ww, she walks her dog multiple times a day, works out at home, and takes classes at gyms. In contrast, my other 2 sisters are not as careful about food as she and I, and are more sporadic with their exercise; they are both gaining.
3) My old friend Shawn: not sure about her poundage loss right now, but she went from a size 15/16 to a 6/8 iirc; it had crept up on her; she's vegan (I was veg for 25 years), but I think a Dr.'s scare got her to cut sweets plus she started biking to work.

4) I often read the before-afters articles, and lately that # on community feed on spark, have watched the BL occasionally, and recently found others online (weighwewere.com & before-after tumblr blog); others have also mentioned instagram and facebook, and even twitter. So inspo wherever online.

One of the things I've realized is that I'll be sparking forever, to a greater or lesser extent, esp. food tracking. When I finish losing, this 3rd and final time, I will need to stay on top of maintenance. Also others have far greater challenges in life; a good friend is blind, and she has such a positive attitude; as challenges go, not eating as many sweets as my inner glutton wants is not even on the same level, AND will allow me to eat a moderate amount of sweets longer (I have some longevity in my line, my grandma & her sister where both centenarians; my folks are both in their 80's as was my other grandma)


Looking forward to make the Roaring 20's the best decade!! Making it happen!!! Motivation into momentum.
My words-of-the-year: *SMART* (goals) & *evolve* (2018 was persist, 2019 was: *eMbody KIND(/ness) &/ =balance= )

My 2020 goal is TRACKING FOOD to result in a loss of 100 pounds (so 111.20 on ticker, started year 11.2 down from summer 2019)
Jan-Feb fitness goal = PUSH-UPS! Starting with my age (56) wall push-ups....


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Day 4 – Today I’m on my plan
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My answers to the 3 questions at the end of the lesson

Start each day by saying, “Today, I am on my plan and I will stay on it all day!”

Remind yourself often that you are determined to stay on your program.

If you start slipping into old patterns, review your weight-loss goals and why they are important to you.

1. Write a list of three things you will do to stay on your plan today.
emoticon Track food and water.
emoticon Pull out my list of reasons to lose weight.
emoticon Do my exercise today.

2. Identify any emotional issues that might get in the way of your focus.

Fatigue
Feeling moody
Discouraged about progress

3. Create a self-talk phrase to use instantly when your focus starts to slip away.

Today I’m on my plan and I will stay on it all day.
I choose me.


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emoticon Day 1 - Others have done it & So can I!

Enjoyed reading your comments for day 1...

The snippet that I really liked in the book was the statement "Starting today, cultivate a belief that you can be successful with managing your weight."

very empowering!

I also do not know many people who have lost a great deal of weight. There are success stories here, and there was the show Biggest Loser - then I wonder if they kept it off... and I notice when I hear 'how people do it' ~ like on the biggest loser or with the weight loss surgery, I think, nuh uh, not my cup of tea... So then, are there people and ideas that do fit us?

as I thought about it, 4 people came to mind
Gramps & Grams - they would swap out desserts and double their green salads when his belt got too tight or grams wanted to lose a pound or so... they were more 'normal eaters' who maintained/managed to keep their weight stable - over time... they did not need to lose 100+ lbs... but I like the idea that they just made small adjustments, nothing drastic. that's more emotionally tolerable for me.

2 ladies who lost 100+ lbs... one said she swims several times a week to help her maintain her loss and the other said she kept going to her real world TOPS weightloss/support group for ongoing support.

emoticon I like both of those ideas... right now, I can see myself enjoying chair dancing with music on the back porch and also, Sparking, here with all of you, for the ongoing support… It sounds and feels doable and possible! Looking forward to sharing it here together :)

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Day 3 – What if I fail?
I am already failing!
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"Even if you have times when you struggle or gain some weight back, don’t allow the word failure into your day. You have power over what happens in your life.

So today, start conquering your fears by changing the way you think about them.

1. Write down one of your biggest fears around managing your weight.

I’ll never get it done — lose some, gain some
I’ll just let it go and stop caring.
I’ll always want fun, nurturing and comfort more than losing weight.

2. Identify your emotional response. Let yourself feel the fear and panic.

It’s awful! I can’t get past the barriers! I’ll never reach my goal!

3. Create a logical, positive message to use any time fears creep into your thoughts.

Of course I can so it. I need to stay consistent with my plans:
Track my food, water and exercise
Keep learning new things
Remind myself that I am totally capable of reaching my goal."
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I have basically gained 30 pounds in 6 months and my house is a huge disaster zone.
emoticon The new job has solved some problems but has created other ones. Can't seem to get any ying without a lot of yang in return.

I have auditory sensory issues. Hearing is something that I have to concentrate to do and because I grew up with hearing loss due to Eustachian Tubes that had crystallized and were blocked until a doctor ordered a MRI when I was 24 to see the cause of hearing loss and opened the tubes back up. It was a bit overwhelming. I went from muffled sound to hearing overnight. My speech has improved but I will always have a "strange" accent. What I am getting at is that being a Receptionist/Secretary and in particular answering phones is stressful!! When asked about my "accent" I just tell people it is Midwestern Pennsylvania Dutch, which is partially true.

I am scared of gaining back weight, I am scared that someone will come into my house when it is such a mess. I am scared that my sensory issues will be discovered at work.

I guess what I am doing is just acknowledging these things so that I can start to accept the things I can't change and work on the things I can. My speech and hearing are things I really don't have control over but my weight and my messy house is something I can work on improving.

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emoticon Shirley, and no rush! Although Spangle suggests reading 100 days in a row, I've never been that way... it's too fast for me... I hope you get squared away and this week goes better!

emoticon Key #6 is Line up a support system! Glad we have this team & people here who want to talk about this stuff. Sparking is my 'go to' support group!



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Good Morning everyone! I didn't see the 7 keys in the introduction, I need to go home and look again.

I need to go back and start all over. I gained a pound and got way off track. So for the next couple of days I'm going to work my way through the 7 keys and go back and re-read Chapters 1 and 2.

I'm really liking this book, it's a lot easier than Beck. I also love that each section is just two pages long. It's short, sweet and to the point.



"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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emoticon how's it going? getting started yet? struggling?

emoticon ever notice reading these books can be emotional? emoticon
for me, I find these readings sometimes easier to do when I'm not struggling... sometimes, when I'm struggling, they motivate me... it's weird... right now, i'm in the mood... last year when I was crashed, not so much...

emoticon right now, i'm still working through the 7 keys in the introduction. just did #5 on the roadblocks... and that has triggered a lot of memories, and also was a good lookback at progress... emotional because this changing and weight loss thing is way more complex/complicated than I wish it was! More practice!

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emoticon Hi everyone, good to see people here yakking :)

so, I'm still working through the 100 More days prep pages and keys... blogged them... just did key #3, so still have a few to go. will read your comments about the different days when I get there, so keep posting & sharing - don't wait for me... this is my 1st reading so, I want to take note of my initial thoughts & reactions when I read these lessons for the 1st time :)




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I have used the excuse that "Tomorrow is another day" an entire year. I don't want to let life get me down. I do want to rise again. Stop the victim mentality. Stop giving up on the day with every little slip. Move on and make the most of what is left. Don't allow 2 minutes take away 24 hours.

100 MORE Days of Weight Loss, Day 2

1. Identify what’s getting in the way of your weight-loss plan.

Depression, Self Pity, Holidays, Allowing others to sabotage me.

2. Decide how you can get past this barrier.

Meditation, Routine, Take responsibility for my actions.

3. Take the steps that will make it happen today. Record what you did.

5 minutes uninterrupted time a day for me. Track food every single day. Make a daily plan and follow it.


I choose today.

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Day 2 - I'll Start Tomorrow

This one was for me for sure, I fall off the wagon in the middle of the week and I think oh well, I just blew it so I'll eat what I want and start over again on Monday.

Identify one thing that is getting in the way of your weight-loss plan. My answer is weekends. I get out of my daily routine and totally blow it.

Decide how I can get past this barrier. My answer is have a plan for the weekend. Are we going out on a date Sat. night or staying home?
If going out then I need to figure out where we can go to eat to stay on plan.

This weekend we are going to a concert in downtown Atlanta and spending the night down there. We will be eating out on Sat. night, I'm not sure what yet because I don't know what restaurants are in walking distance. Right now I'm planning on eating a low carb breakfast and have a salad with a boiled egg for lunch. Breakfast the next morning is made to order so I should be able to stay on plan with that. I'm so proud of myself for figuring this out ahead of time, I don't usually do that.

My book is due to be delivered today, I can't wait to get it. I'm really liking this better than Beck.

I'm already feeling better after just one day of being back on track. My sweet cravings are already gone, I have more energy, my mood has improved and I'm thinking clearer and more focused.



"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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I'm so hoping I can stay motivated to keep this up. I accidentally ordered the journal so went back and ordered the book, hopefully it will be here in the next few days.

I did do Day 1 in my journal, can't wait to get the book.

I had a really hard time thinking of anyone who has lost a lot of weight and has kept it off. One of my friends had the surgery but she is gaining it back. I hate that for her!

Since I didn't know anyone to talk to I just thought of things that I need to remember on this journey!
1) Patience - Getting this weight off isn't going to happen overnight.
2) Self-Care - Taking care of me (my motto for the year) Love myself no matter how I'm doing.
3) Persistence - Keep going even when life gets in the way. Keep going no matter what!
4) Most importantly is motivation - I have a tendency to start out strong and then I fall of the wagon and can't remember how to get back on it. This will be my biggest obstacle.



"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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emoticon Woot! it's coming! LOL

I'll read day 1 comments after I read/ponder emoticon

Right now, reading the short/sweet 5 page intro and blogging it (long, so won't repost here ;)

I also don't think I"ll post on the spangle team but may browse the comments for each day AFTER I do my own/reading pondering.

I have found that sharing our thoughts often helps me see/understand it in ways that I didn't think about... and that has also helped me with all this too...

emoticon this is the 1st time I"ll read through 100 MORE days, so new things to think about. I look forward to talking about it :)



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100 MDWL, Day 1: Others Have Done It

I only know two people, in passing, who have been successful with weight loss long-term. Plus, ~INDYGIRL here on Spark...

The three most important things that I've learned from all of these people that I can apply to my own efforts...

1. Never give up. Absolutely never give up!
2. Carbs matter.
3. Start small, start where you are.

2020 "I'm Getting Married!" Personal Challenge (Goal: 394)
1/19: 399
1/26: 398
2/2: ---
2/9: ---
2/16:
2/23:
2/29: Wedding Day!


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Shirley, you can get the journals for free on Linda Spangle's websites.

Journal for first book:
www.weightlossjoy.com/wp-content/upl
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Journal for second book:
www.weightlossjoy.com/wp-con
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They're also available to purchase on Amazon if you want a hard copy. I just use my blog for journaling.

Pick whichever book speaks to you. Thumbing through the second book, I don't see a lot that really builds on the first one. It's not necessarily a sequel, more like a continuation... That being said, I cannot stress enough how much the first book helped with my self-talk and all around mental fitness for weight loss. Still, I would hate for you to take on both books at the same time and get overwhelmed. (And there will be overwhelming lessons, especially when she digs into emotional overeating.) Whichever book you want to talk about, we're here for you. If you want to do the first book while we do the second, that's fine! I would certainly welcome going through the first book again like that. Just do what works best for you. Work at your own pace. It took me a full year to get through the first book!

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Thanks everyone for the input. I’m going to go ahead and get the 2nd book but try and read the first book too.



"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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emoticon Shirley, was just reading the intro to 100 MORE days book... she says you can read it first... or not... says, these are additional ideas/skills, that add to and build with the skills we're learning :)

either way, hope you will share your thoughts, whichever book you read...

When the world says “Give up,” Hope whispers ‘Try it one more time.'
Food nourishes our body ~ food is enjoyable ~ Food does not solve non-food problems.


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emoticon Happy New Years :) emoticon

emoticon this will be my 1st time reading through 100 MORE days of weight loss. I am looking forward to it... and I tend to prefer reading 2 or 3 a week, so will probably go that pace as well...

emoticon Shirley, I will be reading the 100 More days this year... haven't read it yet, so don't know how different it will be, but wanted to say that for me, the original 100 days was profoundly worth the read... I have read the original several times since maybe 2008 - and each time I read through it, I have found that pondering the lessons has helped me in profound ways to sort through my thinking... well worth it and I will likely read again in the future... every time, when I look back, I can see the progress in my thinking... the team that Christi linked to has a thread for each day, and it's a nice place to see other people's comments. Whichever book you read this year, or both, I look forward to sharing the talk with you :)

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Shirley it is the 2nd book. On the 100 days Spark Team page they are starting the "100 MORE Days" book on the 6th. When you subscribe to that team then links come up from the Spangle page with the daily reading.. YOU are my people!!! I don't interact with the team over there but I do like getting the daily lessons (Monday -Friday).
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Day 1 – Others have done it
Day 1

From 100 MORE Days of Weight Loss, Day 1
My answers to the 3 questions at the end of the lesson

1. Find several people who have been successful with losing or maintaining their weight.
Ask them what they did and how they made it work.

My youngest sister who was diagnosed with diabetes a few years ago. She counts her carbs each day faithfully, and has lost more than 100 pounds.

Another sister who walks every day, no matter what. Even when she got off work at 9pm, she would still take a walk, winter and summer.

My client, Kathy, who lost more than 60 pounds with Weight Watchers. In the middle of her weight loss, she became very ill, and eventually had a liver transplant. A year later, she is now riding her bike for 20 miles and keeping up with seeing her personal trainer for strength training and cardio work. She is 70 years old and is amazing.

2. From their comments, write a list of three things you can apply to your own efforts.

Stay consistent with tracking calories and carbs.
Do something for exercise as close to daily as possible.
Don’t let age or health issues get in the way of my progress and commitment.

3. Make a sign that says, “Others have done it and so can I.”
Place it where you can read it often and let it inspire you to reach your goals.

emoticon My responses
1. Find several people who have been successful with losing or maintaining their weight.
Ask them what they did and how they made it work.


Honestly everyone that I "know" who has lost a large amount of weight and maintained the loss for long term did it through surgery. I am scared of surgery and do not want to go that path. I do think we can do this but it is a lifestyle change that we are going to have to continue for the rest of our lives. We are going to have to find out calorie intake range and choose our "dot" (green, yellow, red) every single day and hold ourselves accountable.

I have learned that my journey is not a straight path but I am going to work my hardest to get myself in a better place. Mind, Body and Spirit.


2. From their comments, write a list of three things you can apply to your own efforts.

emoticon I like and am going to adopt Linda's list.

Stay consistent with tracking calories and carbs.
Do something for exercise as close to daily as possible.
Don’t let age or health issues get in the way of my progress and commitment.


3. Make a sign that says, “Others have done it and so can I.”
Place it where you can read it often and let it inspire you to reach your goals.




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Is there a big difference between the original book and the 100 More Days I wonder? Does the journal work with both books? I bought the original. I started reading it and am liking it. I’ll more than likely start Monday when I’m starting my way of eating. I have my granddaughter until Sunday so I’m kind of preoccupied.



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Whoever wants to start first, go right ahead! I'm going to take a day or two off before jumping into the next book.

I hope we can keep this momentum going all year long, but I know we won't. That's why we've got to be there to support each other!
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emoticon looking forward to the discussions :)

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I’m ready to start too. I’m excited!



"This too shall pass"

I need to get up, brush myself off and keep doing it until I learn to do it right!

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I am ready to go!!!

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I'm so glad you're firing this back up. I look forward to jumping back in.

Thanks, Mermaid!

Laura

2019 is my year to work on ME!

~Laura

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Just wanted to start a new thread for our 2020 adventure through Linda Spangle's book, 100 More Days of Weight Loss! A lot of us are from the thread "Club 52" but anyone is welcome to join in!

(You're also welcome to join us on the Club 52 thread: we're a "team within a team." We post weekly weigh-ins and general chit-chat. We're very close and very supportive!)

This thread is COMPLETELY at your own pace. (Recommend allowing a full year for the book.) Read a daily lesson from the book and then post your thoughts here. Discussion encouraged. Lurkers welcome.

We'll start with Day 1 on January 1st, and go from there!

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