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JR had a habit of buying his favourite chocolate bar every afternoon. Over a course of a month, he gained 10 pounds. His wife made pointed comments about his spreading girth.

He put a Post-It note on his computer that said “NO MORE CHOCOLATE BARS.” Epic fail. The next afternoon, he was gnawing on a bar.

“It feels good. It's that temporary feel-good high. A chocolate euphoria and then... it crashes and it feels bad,” he wrote. “Tomorrow, I promise myself, you’ll muster the willpower to resist. Tomorrow will be different.”

“But tomorrow the habit takes hold again.”

So, he turned to psychology for the answers. Experiments show that there are five categories that serve as habitual cues:

Location
Time
Emotional State
Other People
Immediately Preceding Action

This he thought, makes sense:

Location — When we’re at our desks, working from 9 - 5. When we’re in the driver’s seat, getting from point A to point B destination...well, you get the idea.

Time – We don’t think about changing our socks in the middle of the day. But in the morning and at night, it’s an automatic on and off.

Emotional State – Do you know anyone who scarfs chocolate when they’re stressed or upset? Enough said.

Other People – You act differently around specific people and influences are specific to each individual. You discuss certain topics. You develop a certain personality and report with each including your own language. You even frequent certain eateries ordering certain types of food or drinks. Your feelings are different too. With some you are relaxed. With others, you're uptight, bored, or happy.

Immediately Preceding Action. You don’t deliberate these decisions or actions. You don’t weigh the pros and cons. It’s reflex.

JR wanted to apply this psychology lesson to his own life. So every time he felt the urge to buy a chocolate bar, he jotted down some notes:

Location: Sitting at the desk
Time: 3:36 pm
Emotion: Bored
Other People: None
Preceding Action: Sending Email

He continued taking notes daily until he saw a pattern. Four out of five of these factors fluctuated. Only one stayed constant – the time of day.

“The reward I was seeking was a temporary distraction,” he wrote. “And the habit … triggered between 3:00 and 4:00.”

So he found a different way to grant himself the same distraction. Rather than buying a daily chocolate bar, he started taking a 10-minute break to chat with a friend, every day between 3 pm and 4 pm. He even set an alarm on his watch for 3:30, to remind himself to do this.

It worked.

Now I'll just bet that each and every one of us has a habit we do every day, the same time of day, without even thinking about it. It's become so habitual for so long that it's now a way of lifestyle.

A bit of a revelation? Time for a reflection?



Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/19/2019 (10:15)
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