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5/19/13 2:19 A

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I am so sorry! I teared up again reading this! I lost my dog in July, we mourned until October, then we got our puppy and even still, It is not over. I still miss my old dog! We never get over it but it does get easier. emoticon

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5/19/13 12:23 A

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I'm sorry your dear dog is gone now. I've heard Brittany Spaniels are wonderful dogs. I hope your heart will heal with time.

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5/18/13 8:36 P

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We all feel your sadness. give yourself some time, then maybe take a look around~see if a puppy catches your eye. emoticon You strike me as a wonderful, caring dog person who will always need a dog in your life. Just sayin'


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So very sorry to hear, but she is in a better place now, no pain at all anymore

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I am so sorry. Thank you for letting us know, you have been on my mind.

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5/17/13 11:51 A

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I am so sorry for your loss....see what I meant about the "sign"...she was DEF waiting for you! She let you know....Thinking of you and knowing that you will channel your grief in some positive way...Do what works for you....there is no right or wrong in this type of situation.
Thinking of you....(please let us know how you are doing and if you need any help)
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I know this is very hard right now, but it will be ok. I am so glad you made it home to be with her at the end. She is out of pain now. Sending hugs for you.

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Update on my dog..SHe is gone, now in a better place I hope. I left work early to spend some time with her, but when i walked in the door, she looked up at me and just died right there, I feel she waited for me, our bond was that strong. She knew it was time and knew how hard my decision was and made the choice for me, Don't know how to get over it.. The house is so quiet and lonely now. Thank you all for the kind words..

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5/15/13 2:08 P

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Hi!
I am so sorry for what you are going through and I absolutely have been in your shoes and know how you feel. You are NOT playing God. You are doing what you have to do....she has given you the best years...and you will know....I believe it our job "as good parents" to do what is best and to NOT have our loved ones suffer. Eventually, you will both be at peace...and it is true that time heals all wounds.
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Flower dell-what you said reminds me of something I saw at our vets office.

A Dogs Last Will & Testament

Before humans die, they write something called their last Will & Testament. It is where they give their home and all they have to those they leave behind. If, with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I'd ask....

To a poor, lonely unloved stray I give:

My happy home.
My bowl, always full of yummy food, my cozy bed, soft pillows and my basket of toys.
The lap which I loved so much.
My master's bed, always soft, always cozy.
The hands of my master's mistress, who always stroked my fur and her sweet, gentle voice which spoke my name.
I leave behind the arms of my humans, who carried me when my body lost to arthritis.
I leave behind all the sunny days my humans and I spent at the park.
I leave behind the cool water from the garden hose on a hot summer day, all the ice cream cones master's little human shared with me, the warm cozy spot by the fire on cold winter days.
To the lonely, sad stray I will my water dish-always filled with clean cool water.
I will to you endless belly rubs and back rubs. The joy of running in the sand on the beach.
The joy of splashing humans after a romp in the lake.
I'd will to the sad scared shelter dog the place I had in my human's heart, of which there seemed no bounds.
So when I die please do not say, "I will never have a pet again, for the loss and pain is more than I can stand." Please do not mourn for me. I made it to the Rainbow Bridge. I have God and Angels caring for me. I have the body of my youth. I am well loved and well cared for here. I'll be here, with a welcome party on hand for when your time on Earth is done.
When I am gone Go find an unloved dog; one whose life has no joy or hope or love or kindness and give MY place to him.

This is the only thing I can give...the love I left behind.

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Thanks so much for all the kind words, i really appreciate it. Her appointment is made with the vet.

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Rhonda is right, anyone who has loved a dog (or any other pet) knows the pain of seeing a beloved pet pass away.

When there is no end to the pain we do what we have to, to let our beloved pets go easy. I think you know what you have to do and you aren't playing God, you will however be playing the loving owner that we know you are.

Remember no goodbyes just good memories. Remember the good times and not the bad.

Even though this may sound odd, you may feel better if you consider adopting another pet, not to replace the one you lost, but one to take a new place in your heart, it's amazing how quickly they will make your heart whole again.

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5/14/13 10:30 P

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It is hard to make the decision, but I find that when you start to question whether it is time, it probably is. emoticon I know it is heartwrenching, I just had to do the same with my dog this past July. emoticon

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For Kyle, the little pom pom/mutt mix we had for 8 months, it took hubby almost 2 1/2 years to look at his photos without crying. I was numb for a long, long time like he was.

All I can say is when your pooch is suffering that much, love them enough to send them to the rainbow bridge.

I know our pets go to Heaven-they have to. The closest I have ever come to slapping the snot out of someone was shortly after we put Kyle down was I was told "Dogs don't have souls." I call BS.

They have the biggest hearts, biggest souls. They only want to be loved and cared for. In return they become devoted to us and love us far more than we probably deserve to be.

The Rainbow Bridge is real. All creatures go there-and there they have human angels who are devoted to them, playmates and love and feel nothing but joy.

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I know how you feel, I lost two great dogs within two months of eachother from cancer. It about tore my heart out. The best advice I got on this wonderful team is that a natural death is not nice for the dog. It's painful, lots of suffering, and not something I would wish on my dear pets. The kindest, most loving thing I did for my very sick dogs was to have them euthanized in a humane way. It's the last thing you will do as a responsible pet owner for your pet. I know it's awful to think about, but it's a kindness to your dog to end it's suffering.

As far as coping with putting a dog down, it's not easy. It's been over 2 years, and I still can't talk about my dogs without crying. The hardest part of having a dog is that they don't live as long as we do, so when they die we are left behind to grieve for them. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. Anyone who has ever loved a dog knows how hard this decision is to make but I know you will do what is right for you and your beloved fur-baby. emoticon emoticon

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Sounds like the time has come for you to do the hardest, but most loving thing you can do for your bff. Let her go with ease and dignity. You can be with her the whole time, and she will love you for letting her go. Her faithful spirit will stay with you always, but her body has just worn out. Letting her suffer is not the way to go, b/c you love her so, show her in freeing her from the misery. Yes, it IS hard, I won't fool you, but it is the best, most loving thing to do for her. I think, from what you have written, that it is time...she's telling you.... Love her. You always will, I know......with love and hugs and all the best......this is the right thing at the right time.
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I love this poem:
FROM FRIEND TO FRIEND

You're giving me a special gift,
So sorrowfully endowed,
And through these last few cherished days,
Your courage makes me proud.

But really, love is knowing
When your best friend is in pain,
And understanding earthly acts
Will only be in vain.

So looking deep into your eyes,
Beyond, into your soul,
I see in you the magic, that will
Once more make me whole.

The strength that you possess,
Is why I look to you today,
To do this thing that must be done,
For it's the only way.

That strength is why I've followed you,
And chose you as my friend,
And why I've loved you all these years...
My partner 'til the end.

Please, understand just what this gift,
You're giving, means to me,
It gives me back the strength I've lost,
And all my dignity.

You take a stand on my behalf,
For that is what friends do.
And know that what you do is right,
For I believe it too.

So one last time, I breathe your scent,
And through your hand I feel,
The courage that's within you,
To now grant me this appeal.

Cut the leash that holds me here,
Dear friend, and let me run,
Once more a strong and steady dog,
My pain and struggle done.

And don't despair my passing,
For I won't be far away,
Forever here, within your heart,
And memory I'll stay.

I'll be there watching over you,
Your ever faithful friend,
And in your memories I'll run,
...a young dog once again.

~ Karen Clouston

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I am in tears reading your post because I went through the exact same thing with my 17 year old Brittney 6 years ago. He could no longer get up - wouldn't move, even to go the bathroom and I knew it was time to help him find peace but it was the hardest thing I had ever done in my life. I think it's even harder with a dog who has soooo much energy for so much of their life. And even with how hard it was, I know it was the best thign I could have done for my Wilbur. I was with him, holding him the whole time and I even had him cremated and brought back to me. Good luck with your decision. emoticon

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I definetly understand what you're going through.My dog Baby passed almost 2 years ago.I am just now planning on getting another. emoticon

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It's okay to feel and to grieve-there's no right or wrong way to feel right now.

I lost my first dog (couldn't have pets growing up) after we had him for 8 months, about 10 years ago. Got him from the pound, didn't know it at the time but he was being eaten alive by cancer. 10 years later I still remember the look on his face when my hubby or I would come home from somewhere (mailbox, work)-it was the look of sheer joy. By the time we had to say goodbye, our hearts were broken-the little guy had worked his way into our part of our lives. Our bed, our car-the day he went to the rainbow bridge he took a piece of hearts with him. I know he's there, being well cared for by the humans who have gone before and he wants for nothing-except for the day he is reunited with us. Kyle, our first dog-we've got pictures on our wall of him right next to our current pooch Kiki.

It's okay to leave her ribbons out, and it's okay to keep her photos up on the wall when she's gone. After all, she was with you her entire life. No creature deserves to suffer and you won't be the first to feel anger, depression and guilt. Making the old girl stay alive benefits no one.

If I was you, I would take a good week off from everything. Life, work, other commitments. Get your family together to throw one last hurrah for her. Walk her in the park, play with her-she can pig out on a bucket of fries and eat all the hamburgers and hot dogs she can handle. Then say good bye to her and in the few days afterwords cry, talk, cry some more. The greatest gift you can give her is the gift of love. You've loved her for 17 years, now love her enough to send her off to the rainbow bridge. She'll be there waiting for you-and she'll find as much love there as you gave her here.

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I understand completely what you are going through. I have had to go there a few times myself. But what you have to remember is how loyal a companion your dog has been and how completely they are depending on you to make certain they do not suffer needlessly due to our own grief and not wanting to let go. As hard as it is,it is our responsibility to let them go with dignity, grace and as little pain as possible. She will be waiting for you on the other side and you will be together again some day. Take peace in knowing that she will no longer be suffering and that she is thanking you for making sure of that.
My best wishes to you.

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I'm sorry for you and your beloved pet. Most of us who have dogs, have been through this. Your obligation as a loving dog owner is to do the humane thing for her. I nearly cried as you described her suffering. She has given you so much! and 17 is very old for a dog. She's not a young dog whose life might be extended with aggressive medical treatment. That would be an entirely different situation. Her life is coming to a natural end but you must take her the rest of the way. You can't let your own sadness and hurt over losing her, cloud your judgement. Please do the final act of kindness and love that will put her tired, painful old body at peace.

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The vet does not make that decision lightly. I know this from experience. If the future only holds much more pain, confusion and unhappiness it would be best to listen to the vet. We were traveling from Mexico to Canada and our old dog got very ill. The vet in California said maybe real hefty doses of antibiotics would help and my husband and I carried a 90 lb. dog outside to pee and ? because he was unable to get up. The vet in Canada said "You know what we have to do?" and it was done.

"The world is one country and mankind its citizens" one of the many truths spoken by Baha'u'llah and "Love is the light that guideth in darkness, the living link that uniteth God with man, that assureth the progress of every illumined soul."


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This is a very hard thing to have to do. If your fur baby is in that much pain and can't eat anymore or move on her own, would you want her to live like that? She is your friend and companion and I am sure that she would not want to suffer. You will know what you need to do. It was very hard when I had to worry about that with my pup Pookie.

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I haven't written on here but figured it might be a good place to vent a little. I have a 17 year old Brittany who has been my best friend forever. Over the last year, age has taken its toll, she is almost totally blind and can not hear very well..But each day i come home from work she manages to make it known she is glad to see me.. Even though the arthritis is bad, she makes it to the table to hopefully catch a stray scrap that has fallen. I have been taking her to the vet at least monthly so they can monitor her condition. Vet says the old girl will let us know when its time to say goodbye. she is on about every med they have to make her comfortable.Well two days ago she layed down and had refused to move or eat unless i hand feed her and then its only a few pieces of kibble. My question is how can i justify playing god with her,she has been nothing but a constant companion to me. we hunted together, i showed her and she won tons of ribbons, she even went on vacations to the beach with us.Will i be able to live with myself if i choose the course i think the vet is going to take.Really struggling here.

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