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It absolutely annoys me when guys overlook me when am with the girls, jeez!!!

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Honestly...I think the only one of my friends that views me as the "fat friend" is me. The only thing that REALLY sucks about being the fat friend? shopping...because i canīt shop in the same sections as them :(

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5/28/12 12:22 P

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I hate going out with my two much smaller sisters and knowing that I weigh more than the two of them combined. Really?! How are we from the same family? Everyone says they look just alike and that I just must look like our other parent... no! I would look just like them if I didn't have all this fat around my cheeks lol! I know that's not meant to be an insult, but these comments are usually made in conjunction with "your sisters have the most beautiful smile/eyes/are plain gorgeous! Oh, you have some of those too, but I think you look more like your mom than they do." Ah! It kills me every time lol!

And like a lot of other people have mentioned, I hate going shopping with skinny friends and pretending like I'm only interested in jewelry or shoes because nothing at that store will fit me. I also avoid taking pictures and as a result my presence at events is usually unchronicled. In the end, I'm not a shy person and I really do enjoy hanging out with my friends, but I think that the confidence of being thin will just add an extra boost of fun to everything because I won't be so self-conscious. I am really looking forward to that time! We can do it!!

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I totally get it. I am 5'11 343lbs and have a friend/aquaintance who is 5'1/5'1 and 98 lbs soaking wet. awkwarddddddd.

my goal is to get smaller than my hubby, who is dropping weight like crazy. i am stuck being the stay at home mom had my second baby in november. and also have a 2.5 year old ugh

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- Carpooling. I'm always having a mini anxiety attack when I have to share a backseat w. two other people. No one wants to be squished by the fat chick.

- Going to the beach is an excursion. There is the anxiety the night before, the 20 min. pep talk to get into your bathing suit, the anxiety filled car ride to the beach praying all along that you are the only person who realizes it's nice out and there is no one on the beach but you, and the 15 minute pep talk to take off your cover up instead of being the weirdo in the black head to toe mumu sweating to death on the sand.

- Turnstyles. NYC Subway riders/Amusement park fans feel my pain. That nervousness that you are going to have to shimmy sideways to get thru and still not be able to get thru w.out some effort.

- The awkward bar situation. I find myself being a coat hanger, bag holder, seat saver, drink coaster, and sober fat friend.

- Sometimes my friends will decide we are going to walk somewhere instead of driving, which is fine, I love to walk. But, my body HATES walking. By the time we get to the destination, no matter how close it may be, I'm sweating, my hair is sweaty, my breathing is slightly heavy, and I'm an overall mess.

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4/29/12 1:50 P

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I especially hate it at bars, when I'm sitting down because I have "a pretty face" then I get up and they see me and have 0 interest. It's also hard to go shopping because most of my friends are tiny, and they will find things in XL and say "this is cute," and I never know what to say because XL would never fit me in a million years. *sigh*

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4/27/12 12:27 P

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Oh Ladies! I am the fat friend. The fat girlfriend. But it ends there. I have a few friends smaller than me. But only one or two. I don't have very many friends at all, thinking about it. - I'd rather go shopping by myself simply because if I think its cute and try it on and it looks aweful, no one else I know will see it. There is a store in my close mall called Debs. I love this place!! It had big clothes for big girls. At 25, I find that most of the plus sizes looks like clothes my grandma would wear. This store has cute big girl clothes. But here's the catch: I have cute clothes my size that I feel good in, so why should I wanna be smaller? So I made another goal, to be able to share shirts with my lil sis again. She's three years younger than me and when I was in high school, we could wear each other's tops. I have too much butt to wear the same jeans as her lol. Even at 120 lbs I was in size 9 jeans. Darn butt and hips!

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4/27/12 1:06 A

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I totally understand what you're saying, but RE: your friends...they don't care what you eat or don't eat if they're your real friends. It look me a long time to realize that.

ETA: I also hate being out and getting looked at by guys, but then they see my weight and never come up to me.

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I have always been the "Fat Friend" and there is SO MUCH that I absolutely hate about it.
---I hate that I cannot shop at the same stores that they do at the mall. They try to get me to try on even the biggest size that store carries and it is still MUCH too small. So embarassing.
---I hate going out to dinner with them because on matter what I order, it feels like someone in the group is judging me. If I order a burger, I feel like they are thinking, "Why is she eating that...doesn't she know that's how she got so big in the first place?" Or if I order water and a salad with fat free dressing, I feel like they are thinking, "Really? Who does she think she is kidding? It is obvious she doesn't always eat like that."
---I hate always having to pretend that I don't care that guys don't hit on me. Don't get me wrong, I am engaged to a WONDERFUL man who means the world to me, but even so, when I'm out with the girls, it would be a nice ego boost if I caught the glimpse of a guy who wasn't old enough to be my dad/grandpa.
---I hate that I feel like I always have to be funny and make jokes about my weight. I feel like if I bring it up first, it will be MY decision to talk about it and it wont hurt so much.
---I hate when my friends tell me that I'm not fat. HELLO!!!! I'm double your weight. Don't even try to lie to me!
---I hate when we are out in public and they make fun of a 'bigger' girl. I mean, don't they know that I am considered a big girl too so it's like their comments are almost directed right toward me? Sheesh...

Anyway, I could go on forever. I don't really even go out anymore except with my BEST FRIEND. We are the same size and we have the same weight loss goal. We understand each other and we both know how hurtful it is when the "skinny friend" indirectly hurts our feelings.

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((hugs)) to all you girls! Often, I have also felt similarly awkward, out of place and too big for this world. I too hate being introduced as the "funny" friend. But I also hate being the fat wife. My hubby has never ever ever made me feel less than beautiful, but his friends (ex friends??) were nasty. I heard often, and hated the phrase "well, she has a pretty face". I was always like "eff you buddy. Really? you have a pretty NOTHING!" in my mind and then realise that I am not very good at insults.

I want to be more than the funny girl with a pretty face. Or worse, The American Girl. Some South Africans have a this weird cultural obsession with other people's weight (oddly less of their own obesity) and will make nasty comments fairly frequently. "Are all Americans really obese?" I say to them, "Nope. Just me". And then I am introduced as the "funny" one. Vicious circle.

These comments are pretty much the worst and definitely the thing I hate about being the fat friend/wife. But darn have they given me some great one liners for a party trick. *eye roll*

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4/21/12 1:29 P

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Going clothes shopping is by far the worst part of being the "Fat Friend." Everyone else can just go to any store and at least find things they may be interested in, and most of it isn't even a possibility for me. Except maybe the jewelry. I now have way too much jewelry.

I couldn't drag them into a plus sized store without feeling bad that they couldn't browse the racks for anything themselves, so I always go clothes shopping by myself. I don't like shopping without getting a second opinion, and shopping by yourself is always pretty lonely... Even if I were simply a bigger size than most of them and could still shop in the same stores.

It doesn't seem to matter much nowadays, though. I moved to a new state a few years ago and haven't had much success in making new friends in the area, so I end up shopping alone all time time, even for shoes. I can't help but think my self consciousness of my body is holding me back from meeting friends. I think at this point I'd settle for being the "fat friend" at least until I drop the weight.

Anyway....enough whining from me! emoticon

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There are quite a bit of things that I hate about being the 'Fat Friend' and a lot of others have mentioned some of them already.

1. I don't like going out with my friends when they invite me in fear of being ridiculed for my size. Usually when I do go with them, I will try and stay quiet and not draw attention to myself. I always feel that others are watching me. It's even worse at restaurants, I get to the point where I am too afraid to order anything because someone might tease me.

2. I have a friend who is skinnier than me and a few of my other friends and she is constantly calling herself fat. It really feels like a knife to the chest and I can't help but ask "If you are fat than what does that make me?". It makes me feel worse about myself though I know she does not mean it that way.

3. Going to amusement parks and not being able to do some of the rides because it can't lock over my belly. This is by far probably the most embarrassing situation to be in. To be escorted off a ride because I am too fat for it. I feel constantly left out I had eventually stopped going to the fairs and amusement parks in general.

4. Finding clothes that I can't fit or not being able to find anything in my size. I always have a hard time finding 22/24 size pants. I really dislike going into a store with my friend when she is clothes shopping and I can't find anything in my size. It's bit dis-heartening, especially when all the clothes I want to wear are meant for petite people.

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I feel every ones pain here. I've always been the "big friend" in the group. At 5'8" i'm not super tall, but i tower over all my other friends. So I feel awkward about that too. A lot of my friends are chunkier so it helps a bit now a days, but back a few years ago...it was horrible. Some friends in the group are tiny, and make comments about looking fat and how horrible they look. In my head, i'm slapping them, and then crying. I am guilty of the "self degrading" fat jokes when around them too. I've actually said to them "wow if you're fat, then I must be a whale!" and then nervously laughing. I could rant on and on and on lol

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There are a couple of things that really bother me

A few of my friends always wanted to stand next to me in photos, made me feel quite loved and supported (as I hate having photos taken) until one of them accidentally forwarded me an email saying how standing next to me made them look much thinner in comparison, and recommended taking me shopping as I didn't try to waste time looking for clothes for me so would spend the afternoon chasing down different sizes or colours for them.

One of my closest friends keeps trying to set me up with anyone, anyone at all, as if I must be that desperate to go on a date that I would have no standards.

Or the alternative, being considered 'safe' and sexless, "No, no, no- you can't share a room with another girl for the weekend! Oh it's just Iinana? Well that's okay then."



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I have an issue with being the "elephant-in-the-room-fat-friend" A couple of my friends will make fun of fat people and will make fat jokes in front of me. Never about me, but they do it often enough to where I have to think "Really? If this is the way you're talking about so-n-so and how she looked in what she was wearing the other day because she's overweight I can only imagine what you say about me when I'm not around" The problem is these guys are geniunely nice guys and have been my closests friends for YEARS. I'm not trying to dismiss their poor judgement or excuse them for making fun of people or critizising people though. They suck for saying that stuff. I just really, really HATE that they say that stuff in front of me. It's like they think they can do it as long as they're not saying things directly at me. It's still not cool. And then when they are talking to me about me they tiptoe around the subject like if I didnt know I was FAT. C'mon people!! I am the elephant in the room... Literally!

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Hands down it HAS to be when you have friends of a healthy weight or who are even skinny that complain about how fat they are and how they're going on a diet. I've discussed this with one of my friends before (normal weight), and explained how in the end it just makes me feel worse, not better, when they try to relate. Because really, they don't understand and won't be able to unless they become overweight. It makes me frustrated at them, hopeless because in comparison I have so much more to lose, and sad because even those without weight issues feel like they should be smaller so will I ever feel satisfied? It's annoying and can be hurtful, even though I understand they're just trying to make me feel better and relateable. When I finally lose the weight, this is one thing I will make it a point never to say in front of overweight friends:)

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I have always been the "fat friend" "fat girlfriend" it's always been the same for me, but I think this is the largest I have EVER been. The smallest I have been was at 200lbs right out of high school. That is were I would like to be, actual goal weight advised by my Dr. 189lbs. I always loved shopping at Maurices... I LOVE their clothes, only clothes I have ever owned that would make me feel pretty and confident, regardless if I was fat or not. I can not fit into their clothes anymore. I have to wear my boyfriends clothes, he is 6'7" 390 funny thing is he does not look it at all, most of him is muscle the remaining fat is in his stomach.
I met him last year (022711) I was at 300lbs then still could fit into my own clothes with no problem, even then I would wear his clothes only because it was a good feeling I could wear his and that my boyfriend is much larger then me. I only spend time with him now because my boyfriend is the only person I feel comfortable around that wont judge me. Ever time I seen my family or friends they just comment on how large I am and how gross I look. Regardless on how big or small someone is your family and friends should never tell you that.
The boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married, going to vegas and getting married in a white wedding chapel, this is 1 motivation I have for myself is to lose some weight so I can fit nicely in a wedding dress, I look at all the pretty dresses and I'm excited but also sad at the same time, wishing I could be smaller so I can fit into the dress I want or fit into the clothes I want. I really need to kick myself in the butt and stick to my diet this time to show myself I can be healthy and not be that "fat friend"

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I don't have so much of the "fat friend" syndrome, most of my friends are very supportive. But at times little things can come into factor. I went with my friend her children and ours to Idlewild park, which is an amusement park as well as a water park. Her daughter wanted someone to go on the slide with so I volunteered since my daughters were too scared to go. My friend and her sister rode together and I got in one with her daughter, the people that ran the ride gave me the most dirtiest looks cuz our little blow up raft wouldn't quite go that fast at the start point, where there wasn't much water. They were pointing and whispering, and I felt so bad, when we finally made it at the bottom my eyes were wet and not just from the water slide water but from tears, My friend and her sister who are both quite skinnier than I am way below two hundred pounds asked me what was wrong, I explained to them and both of them were like why do you let it bother you, are you sure thats what they were talking about your over exaggerating. I know they were just trying to make me feel better but the words from them just seemed to hurt worse, it was like to me that no one understood. Then to make matters worse my husband who is 6 foot 2 and 185lbs soaking wet told me to suck it up and quit crying. My kids were the only sympathetic ones there, they hugged me and told me they loved me and not to cry mommy, that your beautiful.
I don't like having to feel that way, especially in front of my children. so its not so much the "fat friend" its more along the lines of the "fat mom" I don't want my children to ever be embarrassed of me. I don't want to feel like that mom on the movie What's Eating Gilbert Grape, where her children love her but behind her back are making fun of her as well, I don't want them to be embarrassed if I die and they have to think about getting me out of the house. I don't want to be that ya know. I want them to be proud of me, and not afraid to say thats my mommy that beautiful woman over there is my mom.

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My friends aren't mean about me being fat, most of the time they forget I'm large and don't understand when I don't want to go somewhere or do something because my size won't let me, or I'll be embarrassed, like going to an amusement park where I don't fit in the rides, or going bike riding, and other things like that. They think I will fit, or that I'll be fine, but I won't. They just don't get it. I don't ride airplanes because larger people have to buy 2 tickets, they think its because I'm afraid of flying, but that's not true. Everywhere I go I have to think about what kind of chairs they have there, or if I'll embarrass myself there somehow because of my size, because usually about 75% of the time, its an issue. Being this big has kept me from enjoying my life and being able to do the things I want to do. I've had fun in my life, but not nearly as much if I would have been at least a size 10 or less. emoticon

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All of my close friends have recently lost a lost of weight. I'm so proud of them and extremely happy for them. It's just frustrating when I have so much more weight to lose.

What I hate the most about being the fat friend is going shopping with my friends. I get to watch them try on beautiful clothes...that don't come in my size. Then they'll say, "Oh, you should try something!" And there's that awkward moment when I explain that this store doesn't carry anything in my size. Even most of the shoes and jewerly don't fit.

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I have always be the "fat friend". I am working my ass off to get to where I want to be. The one thing that I hate is the fact that a friend always would tell me that when she would be talking to other people about big people and how "she (I) was one of the most beautiful woman she knows and she is (i'm) a big girl". I don't hang out with her often, but yes I am beautiful, you dont have to be skinny to be beautiful. I take great pride in being presentable (to my standards emoticon ).

Side note: I have been losing a good amount of weight. Very noticable. Everyone has been making comments (and yes- secretly I love it- i worked for it). I did find it humorous that the above mentioned friend didn't make a comment. And as someone who you think is close to you- would have said something. Simple as " you are looking good". LOL.

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I took a lot of time reading many of the comments and i'd like to apologize to everyone who has ever felt like being fat has held them back from enjoying themselves. I have definetly had similar experiences as many of you, but i decided to cut off those people/decrease the amount of time i hang out with them.

Since my junior year in college, I have not hung out with those people (keep in mind this is about 6 years ago.) the people i started hanging out with more/the new people i met are more considerate, kind, and better to hang out with than the other insulting people were.

being overweight has not held me back from having fun. There are some things i wont do because i dont want to set myself up to be depressed. Shopping is a huge one. shoe shopping - yes. clothing shopping - i think i will go by myself, but thank you for the invite. And if i do go with my friends who go to stores where there arent any plus size clothing, im there to help them pick out something fabulous. Most of the women who i know who are half my size work very hard. Im not going to slam them because of that. it makes me work harder.

I too was single for a long time but i had no issues with guys. i used to get hit on and taken out on quite a few dates. At first i felt self conscious about it because i was thinking they only wanted ONE thing. some of them did, and the last guy didnt and i ended up marrying him. Being married has been the most rewarding thing i've ever had to experience and i wouldnt trade it for anything in the world.

So ladies, please stop hanging out with people who make you feel like crap. Its not worth it. Go to that concert (but wear comfortable shoes, even if they arent the most fashionable ones. I wear crocs to concerts, yes crocs. they are hideous but i dont have sore feet by the end of the night.), go shopping and help your friends pick out cute clothing. and last but certainly not least, talk to your friends about how you're feeling about their comments. If they are good people, they will apologize and try to keep those comments to a minimum. They will suggest going on a long walk or hike rather than going out to eat; or to cook a healthy meal rather than go to a chain resturant, or to drink mineral water instead of soda. Be more confident and start loving yourself! you are beautiful, strong women!!!!!

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I hate when my sister complains about how fat she is to me when she's like 113 pounds and how guys always hit on her and it's "so annoying". I never complain about my weight because I'm aware that's annoying to have to hear about that from other people. I wish she would get the hint when I try my hardest to seem disinterested, I'm practically 3 times her size. It's almost like she's rubbing it in my face. Her skinny people problems are nothing compared to mine. :l

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Sammikay - I know exactly what you mean. I have a few friends who only call me when their original plans fall through. It's like they assume that because of my size, I can't possibly have any other social prospects for a Friday night and that I'll be available at the drop of a hat whenever it's convenient for them.

Also: I always end up turning down invitations to go shopping because I know that my friends will be shopping in regular stores without plus size sections. So many times I've gone out with friends and only been able to shop for accessories, and never any cute clothes to wear them with. It really sucks.

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omg. Being the fat friend is the worst. I have other friends that are a little chunky but nowhere near my size so I always feel like a huge blimp. I think being the fat friend means I'm the "on call" friend when they have nothing else to do or nobody else to hang out with. It really hurts. Like because I'm fat means I have no feelings or desire to be around people? I'm not THAT hurt in the self esteem department that I want to be a hermit! I also hate shopping with them. They get to go to all these awesome places and I'm just hoping they maybe have a plus size section with something halfway decent I can try on. Just walking into the plus size section while they're looking at cute stuff is humiliating. I miss amusement parks and concerts, too. I don't like huffing around the mall because my weight puts me out of breath really easily. Ugh. Fat friend= not really a friend, just a convenient way to kill time. At least that's how my friends make me feel.

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That moment during the catch up conversation when someone inevitably says "Did you see so and so? She got so fat, it's hideous!" and then right after the nods of agreement there is this moment of silence where they remember there is a real life fat person standing next to them. And then the silence stretches out all awkward like. Or worse, the one asshat who turns to you and goes "I don't mean you. You're fine."

Also, working with a lot of skinny girls and having the chair you're sitting on break from the weight it's carrying. Twice this has happened to me. Most mortifying thing ever.

Being told we're not going to a certain restaurant because they have super small chairs.

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I don't think I have a single close friend that wears anything larger than a size 6 and ithas done nothing but make me self-concious since high school.

This week I signed up for team in training to train to run a half marathon to raise money for the leukemia and lymphoma society an am so excited! But I have friends that want to do it with me and as much as I want them to, I also hesitate because I don't want to train together because they're obviously in better shape.

Oh and liking one of your best guy friends but not saying anything about it because you've seen the girls he's into and then having to hear about one of your pretty skinny friends sleeping with him because she was bored...awesome perk of being the fat friend.

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Can you be 'the' fat friend if your friends are fairly heavy too?

My weight is not spread as nicely as theirs, so wondering what I'm going to wear (that won't make me look like everyone's mom or grandmom) is something I'd like to end soon...

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1/21/12 4:36 A

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The shopping and wearing clothes designed for us big girls is the worst. It's like if we are fat we don't deserve to dress cute. I also get embarrassed at amusement parks because of the seat size or my butt size. It's just so hard. I love my friends but they don't understand. I don't blame them they kept thin.

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1/20/12 5:00 P

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I love music and concerts. But being the "fat friend" means that at general admission shows (e.g., no seats), my feet are killing me by the time the headlining band gets on stage. It took me a while to figure out why none of my other friends really seemed to have this problem, but then I realized that their feet aren't holding up nearly as much weight as mine.

I also hate not being able to jump and dance like everyone else. I get tired halfway through a song and have to take a break. I feel like I'm missing out. (That said, I do highly recommend rock concerts as an alternative to the gym once in a while! You can definitely get a good workout at one!)

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1/20/12 3:11 P

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I REALLY hate how they endlessly discuss all the guys who hit on them this week. Its like they tell me it so I feel like I can live through them, i hate it.

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1/20/12 2:19 P

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DITTO!!! I hate being out with my friends and everyone else is getting hit on BUT me.

Or even worse, someone will buy me a drink/talk to me....to get information on my friend. UGH!



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1/19/12 11:15 P

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The thing I hate most about being the fat friend... definitely the beach and swimsuits. Altho I think in order to really succeed at weight loss or any other life challenge we face, we must be comfortable in our own skin. Be confidant in who you are, commit to improving yourself, and love every minute of life you breathe. I don't go out as much as I did when I was skinny, but when I do I say F*CK all the other people and I have a blast.

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1/19/12 10:53 P

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I have always been the biggest out of my group of friends. I hate that I can't always buy cute clothes in the same stores that they do. They still tell me how cute I look, but I don't usually see it.

I am usually the single one out of the group...which sucks!

I don't really like to be in pictures either cause that just makes me see how I actually look compared to them even more. I have a lot less pics on Facebook than all my friends do.

I know they don't really understand and I know they care and its not their fault....it just sucks sometimes :(

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1/18/12 10:14 P

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Edo-Chan - I'm always introduced as the funny friend at parties too. As if I don't have any physical qualities to sell myself so my friends always turn to my personality.

-Hate always being the single "fat friend". Everyone always assumes that I have no life and asks me to hang out when they're bored or their boyfriends are busy.
-Hate not being able to shop in the same stores as my friends. It makes shopping with them awkward.
-Hate not trying new things with my friends ie sky diving (I will when I lose this darn weight) for fear of being rejected in front of all of them.

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1/18/12 9:49 P

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Winterdeity - I know what you mean. I hate it when I'm upset about being too big and I know that no matter what I say, my skinny friends just can't understand what it's like. The worst part is feeling alone.

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1/18/12 8:45 A

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Winterdeity--

I understand the not going to amusement parks for sure. I haven't been on a roller coaster in 4 years, because last time I almost didn't fit..and i'm bigger than I was then. So I just tell everyone I'm scared of roller coasters and refuse to go. I want to go on a roller coaster again to see if I really am scared of the ride or just scared that I won't fit.

Edited by: BERAKA89 at: 1/18/2012 (08:45)
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1/18/12 1:08 A

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I hate knowing that they can't understand, that even if they really wanted to and tried with everything they had, unless they were overweight or obese at some point in their life, they're still going to wonder why you feel uncomfortable in certain situations or why no, you'd rather not go to the amusement park because you're afraid you won't fit on the rides or why you'd rather stay at home than go to a party or get-together or prom. I hate seeing that confusion and disappointment in -themselves- whenever I choose staying in over going out. That's what kills me most, because I know I could be healthier if I could commit to losing weight as much as they do to trying to understand.

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1/17/12 6:28 P

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Ditto, BERAKA.

Also, while having conversations with the "Skinny Friends," being told that I actually eat healthier than they do; my rear-end disagrees.

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1/17/12 7:39 A

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Good question.

I hate feeling simultaneously self-conscious and invisible.
I hate not being able to wear the clothes that I like and always looking frumpy.
I hate not fitting into seats at restaurants and movie theaters.
I hate when I go out and people ask me if I can give them my friend's phone number, then totally ignore me when I refuse.

But the worst WORST part of being "the fat friend" is being introduced at parties as "she's so funny", as if my size were a source of comic relief.


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1/16/12 11:37 P

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When they tell you "you aren't fat" ...yes I am.

When they say their are guys out there who like different types of women when I'm upset that I never get hit on.

Feeling like when people whisper, they are talking about you.

Totally agree with the watching what I order when I'm out with them.

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1/16/12 3:47 P

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Ugh! I really loathe going to cute stores with them and watching them try on adorable clothes I don't fit in!

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1/7/12 8:05 A

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There are SO MANY things that I hate about being the "fat friend!"

- Not being able to look for clothing in the same stores as my friends when we go to the mall together. I see SO many cute things that I wish I could wear, but I know that it's not even worth looking for my size, because they simply don't carry it.

- Not being able to dress as cute as my friends when we go out. All of my girlfriends wear their cute little dresses and heels and I'm stuck in sneakers and jeans because anything else either doesn't fit, or is too uncomfortable (or just looks ridiculous!)

- Feeling awkward about what I order at dinner. I always feel like, being a "fat person," I can't order what I want because people will judge my choices, and I HATE that.

- Never being the one getting hit on. While my friends have guys eyeing them up and down, I'm just the fat, awkward girl that doesn't seem to fit in.


When the world says, "Give up," hope whispers, "Try it one more time."


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11/1/11 8:48 P

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I hate it when we go out to eat and such that I feel like everyone is looking at me and not "fitting" into the booth when we go out to eat

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11/1/11 4:46 P

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I hate looking the worst in the group, having to be the one who rides shotgun cause i'm too fat to fit in the back with others. I hate having to feel like my friends are embarassed by me, even though they protest that they aren't.

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10/28/11 9:12 P

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Hello everyone. If there is one thing I hate about being the fat friend is that I hate not being able to go out and have a fun time with my girls. I hate that I have to hide in the corner hoping no one will see me. What do you hate about it?


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