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6/24/11 2:03 A

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Living in Los Angeles, I get a LOT of mean and nasty comments, and I get laughed more often than not when I'm out in public. (Friends who have been out with me confirm this. I'm not imagining it.) Ignoring it makes me feel worse, so I have a variety of comebacks depending on the situation. Here's my favorite:

You know how in your head part of you is saying, "OMG I can't believe an adult would actually say that to another human being"? That's exactly how I stare at the person, and I say absolutely nothing. I just keep staring at them in amazement until other people are staring at the person instead of at me, and they get really embarrassed. Then I walk away.

Is it the most enlightened approach? Maybe not, but it feels a lot better than keeping it inside and not saying anything, and it keeps me from going to that self-destructive place of not eating, which I tend to do as well.

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6/23/11 1:07 P

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I ignore them if need be knowing that they are in a different place than I am and that's ok. What I no longer do is continue to play the games which include judging and calling them names such as stupid. It really doesn't benefit me to act or play into the mindset and the mind games. Make peace with them knowing you won't always see eye to eye, and move on. If need be, you assert yourself and inform the other person they are not allowed to be disrespectful and hurtful and if that behavior continues, you will no longer talk to or be around them- family included. But at the end of the day, keeping your grace and dignity about the situation will do more good for you than stooping to their level.

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Needless to say, this person is highly unprofessional. In the end, he looks like a complete moron to anyone with half of a heart and brain for that matter.

There's one thing I've learned over the years, everyone has their opinions about you. I used to allow others thoughts of me become my own thoughts of me. A sure way to change that is to find things about yourself that are meaningful and bring value to others. No one can change what you think about who you are but you. This all sounds trite I'm sure but it's so true!

Of course that doesn't mean we all don't have our bad days when we're more sensitive to what others say or do to insult us some way. Just remember to love yourself and never be ashamed of who you are, no matter what you look like or what size you are!



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6/20/11 5:39 P

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One of my favorite quotes is from Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

I have struggled to lose about 65 pounds for the last 7 years. This time, I am really doing it. I am not going to let some ignorant person derail my efforts. I DESERVE to be healthy.

I handle mean people by calling them out on their behavior. I am respectful, because "I was raised right". Mean people are bullies, and they respond best to facing up to them.



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6/20/11 4:50 P

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I read somewhere that what other ppl think about me is none of my business. Easier said than done, however something i try to take into account. They r going to talk about someone anyway. My sister always says better they talk about me than someone else cause at least i know i can handle it. Sad to see jr high mentality at an adult level.

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6/19/11 7:05 P

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Stupid/mean people suck! I read that comment about the trainers at the gym and I swear I was sucked back in time about 10 years, back to the reason I quit going to the gym.

Unfortunately there will always be short sighted, simple minded, stupid people out there that think the only way to make themselves feel better is to make you sound/look worse.
We can get sad and dejected about people like that or find the silver lining. I choose the silver lining. If someone has to criticize me to make themselves feel better, then there must be something wonderful radiating from me that I'm not even conscious about that they are upset they don't have.

So what if I'm not the skinniest girl in the gym? At least I'm there working on making my body healthier.
So what if I've got hips? Isn't the hour-glass shape the coveted shape? Don't women pay BIG $$$ for fake boobs and implants of all sorts?
So what if I'm eating left overs from the restaurant last night? I'd bet you a mani/pedi that my restaurant choice is better than yours all the live long day, and I bet I have a doggie bag because I made the wise choice of portion control, where you probably at the entire oversized plate!

Ok, so we'll always have to deal with these people and the best way to take away their power over us is to not let them bother us. Know you are beautiful, strong and wonderful!

If it's amazing, it won't be easy. If it's easy it won't be amazing. If it's worth it you won't give up. If you give up you're not worth it.

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AAHHH!!! WHY do people have to be like that?? It makes me so angry. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, although you handled it a LOT better than I would have. Just please don't skip meals or feel self-conscious! I know that's a lot easier said than done, but you're already doing everything right, you're already losing weight, and you're already beautiful.

Another thing that angers me is one of the commenters (sorry, I can't remember your name!) mentioning the personal trainers at her gym having a table where they snark about the non-skinny people there. That makes me FURIOUS. Those trainers do NOT deserve to be personal trainers!!!

Ahem. *Smoothes askew hair and clothing* Sorry for the outburst there! I blame it on the stupid judgmental people! LOL

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Thank you so much everyone! Done Girls are hands down the BEST EVER!!!

While it saddens and upsets me to hear how much of these comments run wild from the mouths of stupid people, in a twisted way it makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone out there. Sometimes the battle of weight loss feels very isolating and it can send me into my head and get me in a weird head space.

Thanks again for all your support! You guys are AWESOME!!

If it's amazing, it won't be easy. If it's easy it won't be amazing. If it's worth it you won't give up. If you give up you're not worth it.

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It's great that you had the courage and self confidence to confront this person. I have a coworker that doesn't like me for whatever reason, but she makes lots of catty comments about me behind my back. She seems to harp on my weight a lot because she doesn't know anything about me so she focuses on superficial aspects. For example, if I bring leftovers from a restaurant for lunch (because I deliberately only at half of my meal the night before) she'll roll her eyes and say something about how eating out is so unhealthy. It makes me feel very self conscious about what I eat so mostly I void eating in front of her in particular. I don't really know how to handle the problem so mostly I just avoid it and I avoid her. I don't say anything about her in return, but I don't confront her either. Then, there's a sick part of me that actually was a little happy when she gained like 30lbs when her husband left her. But, I understand that's a spiteful and destructive train of thought that I try to avoid.

I'm proud of you for being so strong!!

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6/15/11 12:10 P

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I am so impressed with your handling of the situation. I honestly don't know if I would have been so nice about it if I heard him say that to me...I'm also really proud of you for NOT binging and sabotaging yourself. You've worked hard for your weight loss and don't need that.

I have yet to encounter anyone meaner than myself (yet). Right now, I'm the meanest person in my life to myself, but I am working on it. I think if that day does come when someone says something mean to me or about me, I'll remember your story and try to act like an adult about it.

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6/14/11 4:33 P

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You should be so proud of the way you handled the situation! I'm sure amny of us would have struggled to do so with so much self respect left! Just keep focussed on yourself and what YOU are doing! I'm a teacher and work with teenagers (not the most sensitive people at times!) and recently I found that someone had written on a window ledge 'miss is fat'. A few months ago I would have been destroyed by it but now? I laughed! I told my fiance and he also laughed! And not because it wasn't true, (lol!) but because I didn't really care that that was how they saw me! I know how far I've come, and perhaps what was written 85lbs ago?! Maybe I'll always be the 'fat teacher' to them? But it no longer bothers me because I know who I am and how much I've done for myself!
My point is it's all about you. And although other people's opinions will always matter, make sure yours matters more!!!!!!! Particularly more than idiots like this guy!!

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first things first....if i could deal with mean people the way i really want to i would be in jail for assault and battery emoticon just saying emoticon

second i think you letting him know was awesome! he is a coward though for just kissing your butt and not truly saying i am sorry. if it was me i would let him know you can stop brown nosing it for me please cause butt kissing doesn't fix you being a complete f***tard! or in your own words would be probably nicer... emoticon

i think the fact that you didn't go to your usual crying fest and eating..made you go to the other extreme which isn't good either. you have to realize people like that are going to have to share this world...sadly. emoticon i use to be that person before i was big...years ago i was a very nasty person to other big people. i know it doesn't seem like it but i was...i regret it many times over as years went by. sometimes people can't know how it feels unless they are in your shoes. it sucks.

in order for you to move forward know in your heart you are a wonderful person, no matter what anyone (including yourself) says or thinks!!! know that sometimes people have to live in learn. always be nice even if that person who is an a$$ is suffering themselves (trust me i really hate being nice to people like that)...i believe in kill em with kindness. being kind to a jerk shows them you are a better person, and the fact that you confronted him shows that your kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness!!! do not let this eat away at you!!! as hard as that sounds!! i am a firm believer in karma...one day he will feel your pain (emotionally) and trust me you are going to know about it. don't enjoy it as much as you would like to...just know he learned his lesson.

love yourself...think positive thoughts about you. and no matter what no one can break you. eat in front of others...and enjoy it! do not skip meals!!! it will be worse if you do. do not lose all your hard work because of this. you are an amazing person and you are human. you did the best step in talking about it. I BELIEVE IN YOU!!! emoticon emoticon


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6/13/11 10:44 P

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because I am 15 (ok, I am really 31, but I act like I am 15 a lot) I usually use the retort..

I know I am fat but you are ugly. I can lose weight for free, you however, are going to have to spend thousands to get that face fixed

Honestly, I am sorry this happened to you, and I am sorry that people (for lack of a better term) suck.

I think you handled it well - and I am very proud of you that you held it together, didn't binge and didn't cry

Remember, you are awesome!





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I'm sorry to say that the world, and work place, is sometimes full of insensitive people who just don't use their brains before they open their mouths. I'm glad that you called him out on it. I think he needs to squirm on it for a while.

If it was me, personally, it would bother me because I would think that the people that I work with would know me well enough to see the person I am beyond that number on the scale. The one with the pretty blue eyes. The one with the great laugh. The one with the bubbly personality. (But enough about me. LOL)

There is so much more to you then that number and a small minded persons rude comment. Maybe he is insecure and has self-esteem issues and it just makes him feel better to tear other people down. You are taking steps to a healthier and happier you. Hopefully someday he will do the same.

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6/13/11 5:54 P

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Wow. I can't believe he would say something like that in a PROFESSIONAL capacity! I mean we know people can be a$$es in private, or to their friends, but in a work environment? WTH?

I think you handled it well. As for the lasting effect it has on you, it makes perfect sense; you spend your time at work trying to prove yourself as a valuable employee, and to be devalued like that with one little word undermines who you ARE and what you DO. Talk about a confidence shaker! Ugh.

At least it seems like he realizes he was a jerk, judging from the way he's squirming.

Huh. My grandpa once said to me, after going from 161 to 170: "My, it looks like you're eating well."

Really???? I was speechless but man I'd love for him to say it again cuz I'd have my snappy little retort ready & waiting! (And Ha! I'm back down to 164 now. Thank goodness he never saw me at 212!)


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6/13/11 5:00 P

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It was my mother who did that to me. She was in the hospital, in physical therapy. She wanted a sundae. I went to get it for her, and she forgot she sent me. When I returned, she was yelling "Where is my daughter? She's the fattest one in here, so she can't be that hard to find".
I did not confront her then. Now, however, I might have. So you are way ahead of me in meeting problems head on.

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6/13/11 4:57 P

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Confronting him was a good idea. I'm not sure I could have done it. But it shows your feeling of self-worth. Don't ever lose that!

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6/13/11 4:17 P

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Well darling, I do not know you personally so I am not able to say why you are so bothered by it, BUT if it had been me I am sure that the reason that it would bother me so much is because 22 pounds is a great amount of weight to loose and to have someone make such comments after making such progress would depress me. Maybe that is why this is bothering you so badly.
I think you handled this jerk accordingly. Nobody deserves to have to work with people like this. I hope your week gets better. emoticon emoticon
P.S. The bare is not to imply that you are a baby, it is to help you feel better. I still have my baby blanket, and it helps me from time to time.

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6/13/11 12:57 P

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I'm glad you confronted that jerk! I bet he's sweating it right now, worried that you're going to HR.

Don't let his ignorance get you down. You know that you're working out and following a healthy nutrition program. Sit right down at lunch, have your healthy lunch, and let everyone watch! Maybe if they see that you continue to eat salads, they'll pass on the heavy, fatty, unhealthy foods and decide to join you!

Just don't lose focus because of this jerk! Your health is worth way more than that little weasle!


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6/13/11 12:20 P

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The best way to deal with a jerk is to not let his or her attitude or behavior affect you. I'm glad that you didn't resort to food to make yourself feel better, and it shows self-confidence on your part that you confronted him about it! His behavior was totally unprofessional! However, don't allow his rudeness to affect your health. skipping meals is NOT a good thing, especially in the long run. It's normal to feel self-conscience about eating in public, and it can be good, in that you won't overeat. Just don't allow it to cause you to not eat enough. emoticon

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6/13/11 10:53 A

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what do i do? i ignore them... a situation like that is NOT worth my time.

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I would say the guy is a jerk but that would be insulting jerks! What a shame he is so stupid and inconsiderate! You handled it well though.

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I agree, you handled it assertively and professionally. However, isn't that type of comment considered workplace harrassment? Seems it falls into the category of mentioning someone's culture or language in a derrogatory way... it just isn't okay in today's workplace. Good for you for speaking to him about it. If I were you, I'd document it and if it happens again, I'd go to HR and let them know that this is a recurring issue.

Stay strong.

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I think part of the reason this is affecting you so much is because it is so shocking to hear a grown man in the work place talk like this! I think it is extremely rude, immature, and childish. I am so sorry you had to go through this. Sometimes words are the hardest thing to get past. I tend to go over them again, and again, and again.

Just keep telling yourself there is nothing to be ashamed of when you are bettering yourself. He's the one that has the problem, not you!

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I'm really sorry this has happened to you . I don't know why people think they can act like that especially in a work setting. Not only was it upsetting to you but I'm sure it made the other people very uncomfortable. I think that you handeled the situation well but I wouldn't let his behavior start impacting you now. I find myself doing the same thing when people call me fat but really it's just hurting you more in the end.

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I'm so, so, so sorry that happened to you. That kind of name-calling sounds like something that would happen in high school, not the working world! You handled it really well. Sometimes if you just walk away, they realize they don't have any power over you and won't call you names again (I've had that happen). But if he's that blatant about it, then it was a good thing you told him off. I'd bring it up to HR if it happens again because that is just completely unacceptable. As was mentioned, it's probably bugging you because you work with this guy. Just because he might be narrow-minded doesn't mean the other people you're working with are. Make sure you're eating enough. I know it's hard, and I know it's easy to just want to give up food because this is eating at you, but it will get better, I promise. I still flinch now and again when I think of the nasty guy at the store who sneered, 'WOW....you're attractive" but it doesn't bother me as much because I know I'm making a change in my life. I'm doing it for myself and not for those narrow-minded people who don't understand the struggle we're all going through.

G_E_Momma: I understand how you feel. I still have issues going into the gym because I feel like people are staring at me or snickering under their breaths. It's intimidating to see all the skinny girls in their cut off shirts and shorts running in front of me, causing me to wonder, "what are they thinking about me?" Honestly, just ignore them and the trainers. They're not worth your time or your stress. They have bad attitudes, and you should just worry about you. I tend to bring music with me and focus on that instead of the other people in the gym. It helps out usually. Also, you may think they're giving you looks or laughing at you, but they're probably not. Our own insecurities make us think that others are making fun of us. It's not easy to get over, but keep your head up, and be strong. You can do it :-)

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Good for you for standing up for yourself. Please try to remember, you are working to change the fact you have extra weight. He's not working to change the fact he's an inconsiderate a$$.

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so sorry this happened to you..Unfortunately, there are many people in the world who don't think before they open their mouths to speak..it happens all the time..a few weeks ago, i celebrated 9 full years of sobriety..a well meaning(?) person said that they were very happy for me and that, to celebrate, they wanted to take me "out for a drink"..i know they meant well, but, i felt like i was being made fun of when i was told i could (surely) have just 1 drink..
i've also encountered people who, when they are told how much weight i've lost so far (over 200 lbs), say to me "WOW, you must've been as big as an elephant"..
i think you handled the situation very well..forgive his ignorance & say a prayer for their enlightenment..

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6/13/11 9:13 A

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What an awful way to talk about ANYONE to clients! How unprofessional! Did you overhear him say this or did the clients mention it to you? (that would actually make me madder if it were me, that someone wouldn't have the tact to mention the name calling to a boss instead of the person being talked about!)

Just remember, his description has no control over you, and is biased! He has NO IDEA what you are doing and are not doing. You didn't consult him when you decided to lose weight, so don't let his words change your healthy eating habits now either!


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But I think calling him and confronting him on it was a huge step for you alone! So Way to GO!

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I think you handled this beautifully. emoticon I would just advise that at the times you are not so self assured as when you told him off, remind yourself of how much work your doing and how much you love yourself. Don't punish yourself even after the fact by pushing away food you have every right and need to eat.





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Geez! I kinda feel sorry for this guy because he obviously does not have a "filter" and is ignorant. You, on the other hand are not like this...so... I know it hurts when people make such comments (have been dealing with this in my life, well, forever!) I would like to suggest that you take the high road by keeping your chin up and keep plugging away. I am proud of you for telling him about it--to me...that is huge...I wouldn't waste any more energy on him. I know our first instinct is to lash out and put him down, but what good does that do?---it lowers you to his level and you are better than that! By dwelling on this, you are giving him the power. You can use this power to keep moving forward. I always try to think about how a person or situation is going to effect the rest of my life...if it isn't positive, I let it go. Be proud of the work you are doing to improve your life and think about how good it feels! Hang in there!

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Awww Beth (((hugs))) Sorry to hear about this, babe. But.. .the reason it bugged you so much is probably because he works with you and is around you all the time and you dont want people to see you that way. However, I react totally different. I would have called him and confronted him, but I would have said "Hey, make sure next time you point someone in my direction to mention something a little less lame like my weight, unless you say something negative about yourself also... such as ______" and point out something that is lame about him. Or you could say "you know, my weight is something I am working on, but your narrow-minded attitude seems to fit you so well, I'm not sure if you could fix it if you wanted to."

I'm glad you didn't binge, but make sure you are eating properly and balancing things out or you will start to feel bad.

What others think about you is none of your business, sweetie. When it gets brought to your attention by someone else's insensitivity or stupidity, remember that if they are pointing out things about you, then there is something wrong with them inside. You are working on yourself and they can just bite you!

P.S. I think you are beautiful! XOXOXOXO

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Wow, what an a$$! Unbelievable. That's great that you called him out in it in a mature manner. Sounds like it had an impact to let him know that was not okay. I think you handles it about as gracefully as anyone could (and without sabotaging yourself).

It is very understandable that it has had an impact on you. Someone has summed you up in one word, "fat," as if body size is the be-all and end-all of who we are. This little man probably has major insecurities with his own body, otherwise he wouldn't have said something so idiotic.

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I think you handled that situation well. If you let the comment go, he will just say worse things. He is kissing up because he knows it could cost him his job. Some people are so rude to people who are overweight.

I know exactly what you are feeling, I encountered that last week at my gym. There is a table where all the personal trainers sit and sneer at all the non skinny people using the weight machines. Well this one large trainer wouldn't even make eye contact with me when I was standing RIGHT next to him filling my water bottle at the drinking fountain... total jerk. It made me feel bad for DAYS. I guess he only trains skinny people. The thought that came into my head was, "I guess being full of muscles and having no body fat means you can't have a friendly personality and must be a total jerk." Ha ha.

I would like to know if anyone has a way for me to stop dwelling on it, so if you get some good advice from this post please share with me!

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Last week at work a colleague (and I use that term loosely) spoke with some clients and he told them to come talk to me. But he told them to "go to Planning and talk to Beth, the fat one"

So the good news is that the old me would have imploded, binged, cried and felt sorry for myself. Instead of doing that, I called him and confronted him on it. Now he hasn't come out and apologized for his stupid, narrow-minded, unprofessional behavior, but he can't look me in the eye, he sucks up like crazy and acts totally different around me now.

So I didn't binge and do my usual behavior, but I've found something new. For whatever reason, a week later this incident has REALLY impacted me. I find myself pushing food away and skipping meals. I also find myself really self conscious around other people at lunch and avoid eating in front of them whenever possible.

When you encounter mean people like that, how do you deal with them? Why can't I get past this? Why has this one made such an impact on me? I don't know....

If it's amazing, it won't be easy. If it's easy it won't be amazing. If it's worth it you won't give up. If you give up you're not worth it.

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there was no one there" ~ Jordan Wirzs


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