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My sister always told me its not fair that ur fat and still get guys lolz...I didnt know what to say its like a smack in the face but yet not....My family will only get on me abt my weight if they themselves are skinny, but when they gain weight or get fat again, then they say awww ur not that fat....Point is I KNOW IM FAT!!! but please dont put me down when im trying to lose it

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A few years ago,my mother(who is bigger herself)said to me"is your butt smaller?or did you get bigger?We were in the middle of a packed hallway ,leaving from a school awards assembly.She said it loudly,and several people turned to look.I ignored her,but I was humiliated!

I get the same thing-"I didnt think you were THAT big","You carry your weight well"ect..Yeah..that makes me feel sooo good!!LOL

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"you 'carry' your weight well" ::gag:: As if I want to carry this fat around... or they are basically saying "you are fat, but it's all spread out well" EW.

I know how to dress myself where it doesn't look that bad... but... I know my stomach is HUGE and my thighs are big... I know what is there. Thanks for thinking I am cute even with my M&M-esque body shape.

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I get the "you weigh how much?" .... oh and my favorite "well its all in your ass" like its supposed to be less offensive

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how about...at least your weight evenly spread instead of all being in one place like your stomach....then you'd look pregnant!

nice, eh?

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8/25/10 12:53 P

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I have started to get that - well more like "You don't need to lose THAT much more weight! There won't be anything there!"

Yeah, right. I just smile and say, "Trust me, I do."

My grandmother was the queen of the nasty weight put down, with my MIL (butter not melting in her mouth) right behind.

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8/24/10 5:25 P

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Oh fogrot my all time favorite insult from my lovely grandmother, when I had lost all 60lbs fom my first pregnancy she said "you are going to try to keep it off right?", my reply was "No grandma, actually now i want to see just how big this body can get, what do you think 300lbs?!" She was appauled and upset with me and I just LAUGHED!!

One day at a time....

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Good topic, I don't think anyone means to be hurtful it just comes out wrong. I know personally that whatever I weigh I always see myself as fat, flabby and gross. I don't carry myself this way (many people comment on my confidence) but deep down it's how I feel.

I too had family (my grandmother) that always put me down for my weight. It's not my fault my petit 5'4" mother mated with a 6' large man and I got his genes!! I remember when I was 15 I got signed with FORD Models to be one of the first Plus sized teenage models in LA, and her reaction.... "Well they expect you to lose some weight first right?" OMG Are you kidding me? Nothing was ever good enough and I wasa size 9 at the time at 5'9". Hardly even plus sized.

Growing up this way made me question every comment I got and I always assumed people were insulting me or putting me down. I still struggle with compliments! But not long ago someone pointed that out to me. They told me why work so hard if I don't want a compliment? I thought about that, I DO want compliments!!! They said "then learn to take one or people will stop giving them!" A very good point. I realized how uncomfortable I get when someone compliments me, I never know what to say!!

So I started with "thank you". Short and simple. If I am stumped or want to take something the wrong way I say thank you and elaveit at that.

Now some comments are just rude and there's no way around it!!! For instance, my 7 year old telling me last night "Mommy you still look pregnant". I was so proud of how far I have come and that clothes were starting to fit again and then THAT!!! I wanted to cry. So I talked to her about her comment, because my biggest concern was she would grow up not learning that it's never ok to insult someone, on purpose or by accident.

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8/23/10 10:58 A

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Great topic my Donegirls! Even the Wii Fit insults me. I only go on it when I'm desperate. Even the way it says "ohhhh" when I step on the balance board is insulting! Like I hurt it or something.

Hey keep up the positive self talk, it helps. I have 100 stories of how I've been insulted by people. I will leave you with this message "What other people think of you is none of your business". The most important person to worry about what and how they think is you.



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Im soo like that i always wait for the But part..or i think they are being a smart mouth its sooo hard when you tear your self up and then some one says something nice...my poor husband is awesome at tellin me how good i look and then i put up my wall and reply with something smart mouthed like OOO you have to say that ur stuck with me ...

Just because some one doesnt love you how they think you should doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have

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I think I also have an issue with taking a compliment... or I am waiting on someone to be a smart a$$ because the other day my sister in law was like "your pants are swimming on you" then, 2 seconds later "gah, that shirt looks like it needs to be folded in half" and a minute later "dang, you need to go clothes shopping". I suddenly said "OMG! Is there anything RIGHT with me, or do you plan to point out EVERY single thing that you think isn't right!?!?"

She was like "I was just noticing your weight loss!" I said "So say 'You look good' or 'Great job on the weight loss', don't make fun of my clothes or something! These were big on me before 38 pounds was gone... of course I need to get some new ones, but these are comfy omg"

I think I hurt her feelings, but she sort of hurt mine, too. Felt like she was picking on me instead of congratulating me. Sigh. I am so used to negativity, it's like a waiting game now.

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I think I scare some people because I can honestly say no one in my recent memory ever really mentions my looks one way or the other. Ever. I've never gotten a pretty face comment, your hair is cute, you'd be pretty if you were thinner, nothing. Maybe I just don't remember them. The only weight comment I can remember ever getting was when a group at work way back in the day was discussing about how much weight they had to lose. I mentioned I probably need to lose over 80 pounds(over 100 now), and I remember this one girl went "No way, you don't look like you weigh that much." I'm embarrassed to say I gave her my patented one eyebrow raised, slight sneer Bournbabe WTF look that clearly shows my doubt of the speaker's intelligence and said "Oh really? What I'm lying for fun? What does someone that weighs this much supposed to look like?" I know I know, I was an a$$, and I did apologize later...Since then, I swear my reputation proceeds me and I think ppl are terrified to say anything either way. lol. Or maybe I'm paranoid. emoticon

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The best one I got is "when is your baby due?" I told them 1yr ago. (my youngest was 1) :oP And then recently when I told my mom how much I weigh I got the whole "MELISSA!" in the scolding mom tone. Eventhough she was just telling me how I was looking really good and like I'd lost weight.

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My step mother pats my stomach and gets super close to me and says "You need to do something about this if you plan to be alive for that baby his whole life. He deserves a mother that can play with him and live to see him graduate college. Don't you want grandchildren some day?" And then walks away as if she has accomplished a goal.

F&#% YOU!! Are you serious!? NO! I don't want to be alive for my CHILD. I would rather eat and die of some sort of disease and leave him alone, you stupid idiot. OF COURSE I want to do something!! What do you think I am trying SO HARD FOR!?

What makes it worse... she was my SAME SIZE a few years ago until she got a virus overseas that wouldn't allow her to eat much of anything for about 8 months... she lost 70 pounds and she feels like she is invicible now. What.EVER. She didn't workout or measure her food or anything, she just couldn't eat. She is still flabby and lazy and tired all the time, just thinner. She isn't better than me, but LOVES to think that she is. Really she can bite me.


Same goes for those that say "if you lost weight, you would be so beautiful omg"... to them, I say "but now I look totally horrible, how awful for you to be stuck around someone like me". Their shocked expression is nearly enough to make me not hate them, but... yeah, I still do. Fk off. I am pretty and I try hard to deal with my issues about my health. You are ugly on the inside and that can't be fixed without drugs or therapy, so HA to you! :)

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I once was told "you know, if you became anorexic you would look just like Julia Roberts." Really! Anorexic! I should have decked him (my cousin, by the way). I was also told that I'm pretty but it's too bad I was heavier, otherwise I'd make the perfect girlfriend or wife. Seriously, how do you not slap someone when stuff like this is said???

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My mother is a lovely, lovely woman who could (and frequently did), with a straight face, say - in one breath:

Oh my god, you're getting fat... What? you don't want a second piece of chocolate cake? I made that special for you! You know, you'd be really beautiful if only you'd lose 20 pounds... Don't you want ice cream with your cake?

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8/22/10 5:49 P

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No one's ever told me that, although my mom used to tell me that I should watch out because I was "getting a little chunky." I think chunky is my least favorite euphemism for fat. I mean, I know that I have a full stomach and that my thighs rub together, but my body isn't literally CHUNKY. It's not like my extra flesh was haphazardly thrown onto my body in fist-fulls, creating a misshapen/lumpy form. I think I would have taken "big boned" or "not that fat" over "chunky" any day.

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So back in July I had a really bad week and posted a thread called "I'm Falling off the wagon! HELP!" and I remembered a video that NAQIDAH posted on there that this thread reminded me of.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=PyQ_IKkAM9I

The line "Why don't you pay for my gym membership" came from this video. She's got a few more awesome videos.

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Maybe all you girls just have really pretty faces.

When i was big i was pretty but the fat around my face was really noticeable and really not photogenic. No one ever said the pretty face thing to me and i kind of wish they had, i was jealous of all the really pretty big girls.

Don't take it personally bodies aren't described as pretty anyway.

The you aren't that fat is kind of annoying though.

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I suppose when people try to be polite, whether they mean it or not, because, true, we don't know where they're coming from most of the time, is perhaps because they are trying to be just that: polite. Who knows? Maybe they really are trying to communicate a compliment. My father, for example, comes from a generation where people ate home cooked meals from scratch, daily; as opposed to today, everyone is in a hurry, eating fast food and/or pre-packaged foods.

Let's face it, it's not easy staying fit when you're constantly on the go.

Never the less, if people are tired of hearing the "nice things" imagine what the reaction would be if people simply said what we, in our minds, mis-assume (is that a word?!) that people are thinking. So let's accept a compliment when it's given and be gracious. After all, we're beautiful no matter what and no matter what anyone says, no one can ever take that away.
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I think the one I hate the most is o don't worry it is just baby fat. here is the thing my daughter is 4 and I haven't weighed what I did before her so I think that is just as lame. it is ok being fat just cause u have kids. this usally coming from my sister who has 4 kids and weighs 115 I just say thanks and walk away. but i know that I will be thin and I am ok with that

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wow this topic really hits home for a lot of us doesn't it?



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haha! you forgot "big boned"


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My personal favorite, and the one that make me want to jump through the phone or crawl through the internet is when I'm trying to describe myself to someone I don't know, but that I'm going to meet to pick something up (freecycle, craigslist, etc.).

I tell them, "I'm the short, fat chick with glasses and dark hair". And inevitably they say, "Oh, I'm sure you're not that fat...".

I'm like, "look dillweed! (cleaned that up for public consumption!) I'm 5'2" and I weigh 350 lbs. I'm FAT."

And the response is, "Oh, you shouldn't say things like that about yourself!"

Really, what? I don't know I'm fat? You want me to lie and tell you I'm a size 2? You wanna spend an hour cruising the Wal-mart parking lot looking for a silver Neon?

You want me to say I'm Plump? Pudgy? Well Rounded? Well Upholstered? Oh, how about Stocky?

What should I say that will a) not hurt your sense of political correctness and still b) allow you to pick me out of the 20 or so assorted people coming and going, or waiting for a ride in front of the store at any given time?

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As a formerly fat girl, I kind of have to feel like I need to speak up for the skinny gals. You never ever know where someone is coming from and it may be that like me, the girl in the dress shop FEELS fat, despite the fact that she isn't. We often feel a different size than we actually are. I'm a size 4 now... but would swear that I am a size 20. When I go to try on clothes, I still grab a 10 to begin with and then go down a size at a time, because my brain hasn't caught up. I can generally acknowledge my accomplishments when faced with a mirror. But, i don't walk around with a mirror in front of my face, so I still FEEL really fat.

I'd love to say more, but my DH just got home and we have got to head out ASAP! Just keep in mind that sometimes, people say things... and they don't mean to be insensitive about saying that they are "fat" when they aren't... (and, you are beautiful!)

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I think they're probably looking for advice or support in a roundabout way....and i don't think that saying something like "Yeah, it takes a lot of activity to maintain your weight, that's for sure" is a pretty neutral response. I find that people who have gained weight in the pat year or 2 (in other words not USED to being overweight) are more apt to see someone who has had success and hope that there is a quick fix. Or maybe too, if they have gained a significant amount of weight, given your success, they are embarrassed to a degree, and feel they need to explain.

And hey-CONGRATS on your amazing success!


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A couple of separate times recently, when someone has noticed my weight loss they have started the conversation with me, I didn't bring it up. Like, "Since I haven't been dancing I have put on so much weight" Then looking to me for a reply. I don't know what I should say. Is there a reply for something like that? It's like "does my ass look big in this dress?" I know all the wrong things as you have all mentioned here, but is there a RIGHT thing to say if someone else brings it up first??

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Ugh-I JUST got the "pretty face" comment in Vegas last weekend. I've come a long way so far body wise, and am on the cusp of where I feel OK with my physical being (almost comfortable in a size 12) and this cute, petite vendor said "You're so pretty....such a pretty face."

Now, maybe she just meant it as a regular old compliment, but y'all know how *I* took it. Blech.


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I get the "you have such a pretty face, but..." comment a lot, and my friend and I were told by a co-worker "I can't believe how thin your legs look compared to the rest of your bodies!" Isn't that nice?

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I agree with STERRETT_DOWN. I admit that I have heard and said some of these comments myself like you don't look like you weight that much. for instance one of my friends is 6'1 and we weight just a few pounds of each other and to me she look great but on me It look like I weight much more because of my height. I have also receive I have such a pretty face mostly from my sister in law, but i know she I saying it out of love and don't want me to get to her age and weight as much as she do.

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I had to think about this one a bit, I really don't get any of that anymore. But I use to get it from my grandmother (when she was alive) and my mother when I was in my teen's. The worst part was it was always when I was sitting down to eat a meal. It was the worst because I could no longer enjoy my meal after getting in to it with them about how hurtful their comments were.

To top it off...when I wouldn't want to eat they would say I was dumb for not eating! Go figure!

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I agree with you STERRETT_DOWN. I get that a lot, too. But you know, I'm surrounded by a lot of love so when my father says it (he lost quite a lot of weight some time ago because of his diabetes and he's in his late 70s) he often adds that nothing feels better than accomplishing something via hard work and sheer will-power. Lots of family tells me I don't look my weight and while it's insulting some times, some times, you have to take it with a grain of salt when a grain of salt is called for.

No worries. KEEP GOING!
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Well the truth of it is, darling, that you don't look fat at all.

I think the hint about it is that we all view ourselves completely different than everyone else does. When I tell people I'm 270+, everyone stares at me like I don't know how to count past ten. "no way!" the say. "You don't look over 200!"

And they mean it. They really don't think I look over 200, even if I feel like 1,000. I think it's partially people's perception of weight is off because we're used to seeing some extra pounds on people, and I also honestly think people don't really think of it that way. "She looks heavier than that girl," is about as far as we get when guessing people's weight.

So don't take it seriously, and don't take it badly. I'm sure you've thought more than once someone doesn't look their weight. To be honest, you look fabulous. I can't imagine you taking 70 pounds off of your frame. :)

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My father often tells me, "Here's some Mexican candy and tamales I brought you. But Mija, don't eat too much...you gotta lose weight," just as I'm about to eat a forkful of food! It bothers me, but then I look at him and he's giggling while I'm counting to 10!

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LOL @ FIT2SWING! I bet that would shut them up!

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I've gotten the "Oh Honey, you should really think about doing something, you know that you're at risk for all these factors."

I've responded "If you're really that concerned you can pay for my gym membership."

and that shut them up.

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8/20/10 10:36 A

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"I just wish you cared more about how you look"

Thanks grandma, because busting my arse with 30DS and counting every last lick I take is totally not caring. And by the way, thanks for cursing me with the huge knockers.

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8/20/10 10:30 A

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my mother is the queen of these hidden ( or no so hidden) insults

her favorite is oh it looks good, but it will look better in 20 lbs or it would look better if you'd loose a little weight or ect ect ect

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Ive gotten the "you have a pretty face your just full figured" and "you dont look like you weigh that much"

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8/20/10 10:04 A

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I hate hidden insults. The one that infuriates me and I call people out on it now is "you have such a pretty face". I will point blank say..."yeah and the rest of me is awesome too." Most people don't even realize they are doing it but I HATE it.

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8/20/10 9:59 A

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OMG i totally understand!!! i had the women at the dress shop the other day tell me ( im 5 2) that she was jealous she wasnt so top heavy... but she couldnt handle having my butt so shed deal with being happy about being a size 8 and then rubbed it in about how fat she was and she couldnt imagin how i could look at my self in the mirror and how shed kill her self if she was my height and weight ( i wanted to snap her skinny twig ass let me tell ya lol ) and then the comment she made that set me off was oh well to each their own.... i just got redressed and walked out ! GRRR

Just because some one doesnt love you how they think you should doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have

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8/20/10 9:51 A

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"wow! How tall are you that you can carry that much weight and not look it?"

OR...my actual favorite (let's make it ALL about me)

"I wish I was as tall as you where I could get away with some extra pounds...{sigh} I'm so short I have to keep the extra 10 pounds off or I look like a bowling ball"

HUH?!?!?

So, is it supposed to flatter me that you envy my ability NOT to look like a bowling ball even though I am obese? Or am I supposed to feel sorry for you because you have to struggle to keep 10 pounds at bay...You know...to me...10 pounds is water weight..and WHY does it always get to be about you??!?

Alrighty then! I got some issues with this! My "loving" sister is my nemesis when it comes to comments of this caliber...

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"You have such a pretty face"

Oh thanks but the rest of me is the most disgusting thing you've ever seen???

"You carry your weight well"

I don't like hearing this at all! I don't want to "carry" my weight anymore!

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8/20/10 9:16 A

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Such a favorite of mine. "Really? You don't look like you weigh that much. You look really good for your size." Thanks but you could have just stopped after the first statement, I don't need a reminder that I'm not in the same "size" category as supposedly everyone else in the world is.

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I always get "Well you don't look THAT big. You must be carrying your weight solidly". That is still very insulting to me. I know that I am big but like you stated, I'm trying to do something about it! People should just make it a point to avoid commenting on plus size people at all, lol.

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i sware to Goddess If i hear that one more time im goin to punch someone( not litterly ) but ya get me

Is that supposted to make me feel better? CAUSEEEEE its not.....

why do people feel the need to candy coat it OK im Fat fine im doing something about it...

what kinda stuff do people say to you like that? i figured we could vent them and giggle with each other

Just because some one doesnt love you how they think you should doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have

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