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7/8/20 5:04 P

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Thank you so much for your kind and informative post. I have had a few good days .. I got myself out to my daughter's (I have a daughter that lives in town) and visited for a bit. I think I need to be around people more as it really seems to help. Grief is definitely something I am dealing with ... I have four daughters and there have been issues with all of them getting along. It has taken a toll on me through the years and lately has been tough to deal with. I mostly keep to myself with it but sometimes would love to let them know just how devastating their issues have been to me and my life. Getting together with friends has always eased the blow and that's been stopped due to COVID. I am picking it up on a limited level and it does help. I hope you are doing well........ Have a good evening Lynne. Sue

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7/5/20 6:44 P

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I'm so glad to e--meet you once again. I resonate with your feelings regarding missing touch with your extended family. In pre-Covid times, we would get together with our daughter who lives thirty miles from us and we would all (((HUG))), watch movies, and share lunch. I miss the hugs.

From what you have told us, you have several reasons to be anxious/sad and perhaps even a little angry. Even though you have a work- at-home job, you told us that you don't really enjoy it. You have told us that you live with a disability which limits your mobility. And you have anxiety about your hospitalized friend, as well as worries about your family members.

All of these situations may result in a grief reaction which can be more difficult to cope with in this time of Covid-19 challenges. It's important for you to acknowledge your grief and to be kind to yourself while you are working through it. Feel free to share with us about how you are feeling. We are good listeners. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Today I received an email.with a blog entitled "Riding the Phoenix: How Your Soul Takes Flight." I have read it through a couple of times and the words have begun to ring true for me. I am sharing it with you in the hope that it will be helpful for you too. The blog post contains an ad,but hopefully the blog content will still be helpful.

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Blessings to you from Lynne


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7/5/20 1:50 P

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So good to hear from you again and glad yesterday was better. To me one of the many insidious aspects of depression is it’s keeping us from seeing the small joys that are around us.

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7/5/20 11:28 A

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Thank you for your post. These are very strange times. Is your Mom close to where you live? I am somewhat disabled and usually have my groceries delivered so I don't have to carry them upstairs. I will pick up smaller items when I do get out. I have been making an effort to get out more now that the weather is better. I don't belong to a health club because it wouldn't be worth the money for the minimal equipment I can use. I do try to get out walking though. My day went better yesterday and I am looking forward to getting out for a bit today.


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My daily dose of Sparkpeople helps me in my dealing with depressive thoughts of what has happened, what is happening and what could happen especially with my children and grand-children. Keeping in touch with my children, grandchildren and sister by texting throughout the day has helped me and my husband feel thankful knowing they are staying safe.as much as possible. It felt so good to see my daughter and grandchildren when they came to visit us and all sat outside on our wrap around porch wearing masks. We hadn't seen them since January!

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If you check the websites of almost any performing arts center, museum and other cultural institution, you'll find that most are offering online options -- virtual tours, talks, performances, et al. It's not quite the same as going out to those places, but these are good opportunities.

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7/4/20 9:45 P

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I would be inclined to have a good talk with your Dr who can keep an eye on you that things don't deteriorate. I guess a number of those who are used to an active social life and suddenly find themselves restricted, suffer as the result. Part of it is grief.
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Reaching out on SP is also a very good course action to take. I have wonderful friends on SP, and apart from my sister, they are often the only ones I "talk" to in a day, however I am happy in my own company and don't 'need' people face-to-face, and in that way I am fortunate.

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7/4/20 4:21 P

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It has been very difficult and I understand where you are coming from. I would go to the grocery store almost everyday, just to get out of the house.. Of course I would wear a mask and gloves and keep away from people. A few of my neighbors sit outside 6 ft apart. It all helps, but you can still feel isolated and i really miss my Mom She is 94 and I am concerned about her.

I do jigsaw puzzles, take solo walks and have cleaned out closets and cabinets. Do you have a gym membership. They are open now in CT

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7/4/20 3:47 P

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Thank you for your post. I do reach out and met with friends yesterday for a get together at someone's home. It is few and far between though and I have been so tired with work ... I just don't think I am dealing with all the changes very well. I do meditation daily and listen to wellness lectures. I know what to do and am keeping up with most of it but just not feeling the good benefits!! I am changing my eating habits which went completely haywire once we went into quarantine in March. The friend I mentioned is presently in the hospital being checked... she has multiple issues and when we talk which is a couple of times a week it is usually about her.


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We, as human beings, do crave social connection. Knowing you are not alone in your isolation concern is not very helpful I realize. I’m just a bit curious about your not reaching out to your friend. You may find that just a simple call to say hello, just a greeting to let her know you are thinking of her may help you feel some connection and a sense of small accomplishment.
A friend who worked from home long before the pandemic told me that after breakfast, she would dress in “work appropriate “ clothes, walk out her front door and walk back in the front door to go to her “office.” She carefully regulated her work hours to take care of herself.
If you are able connect with others via Facebook, Zoom or other social platforms. It’s not the same as in person, but it does help. Keep in touch..

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Hi everyone,
I have been inactive in Sparkpeople for years but managed to lose 35 lbs in the past 2 years. I am 69 yo. I had a fairly active social life before COVID hit which has almost completely stopped as far as enjoying anything other than socializing outdoors. No plays, movies, eating out or casual shopping. I have become quite depressed and am beginning to think nothing will help. A close friend has been ill off and on for months and I don't feel comfortable speaking with her as I don't want to bring her down. I still work full time and have hated my job since day 1... it is only getting worse with this pandemic and I am working from home. Well I am feeling very lonely . I guess I'm hoping posting and getting to know others in this group will be an outlet for me and ease some of the stress and loneliness I am feeling. Thanks for listening.. Sue emoticon

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