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2/4/19 9:53 A

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This may be off track a bit, Kids adult kids, (daughter) can't live without them, and can't live with them, or rather she lives with me. now she's mad at me, UGH!!



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I had a good day yesterday. I met with three friends for coffee, prayer and conversation. Then I met another friend for lunch. I tutored at the library and stopped at the gym on my way home. I had dinner with my son and daughter-in-law.Today I have a fitness class and then I’ll be back on the treadmill and do some weights as well.

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I did donate my husbands clothes and art materials but I kept a couple of his big sweaters I love to snuggle into them and feel he is close ,
I gave his art materials to a seniors art group. The children and grands each chose a picture of his to have themselves , after two years we still talk of him.
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I had to move a year after my husband's sudden death...after packing, his clothes were easily taken for donation..almost 10 years later, I needed room in the storage area so his golf clubs, cameras, etc were donated...While it was more difficult than I thought to donate the last of his things, I was lucky it came as a natural progression of my timeline rather than forced.

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2/14/18 6:18 P

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I'm sure it will take some time, going through the rest of your wife's things, especially papers, maybe. Have a good evening

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It’s almost a year since my wife died and I still haven’t gone through all her personal things like journals, trunk, etc. I’m going to take a couple of days and just do it.

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You are welcome, in fact I have a roll of paper towels, on my dash board of my car, where my hubby used to keep them, when he always used them, to blow his nose on, because Kleenex was too thin, for him, so anyways, I still keep a roll there and put another one back when that one is gone, one time, one or two of my grandkids asked why I had it there, well, that's my reason, because hubby did so I will continue to do so

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Rosie, thank you for responding to my post on this thread. emoticon

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Makes sense to me, someday, maybe you or someone else, might want to make a quilt out of his clothes, depending on the material or etc, and the computer is useful as well...My hubby didn't do computers, no way, no how...

We all have our own way of leaving some things the way they were and the way we want them to stay for how ever long we feel the need for.

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After my sweet Alan passed away,the week after, we moved his hospital bed out and gave it to someone who needed it. Then I moved my bed into the spot where his was. All his clothes are still in his closet where they were the day that he passed away. All his books are still in the book shelf where they were the day that he passed. He and I both had a computer, and I am now using his most of the time. His is not any better then mine, but in my mind I feel like a "part" of him is still with his computer. He played a lot of computer games because of being so physically disabled that it was just about all that he could do as far as entertainment. Does any of this make any sense to anyone?

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Jeannie, that sounds like me, take some in, bring some back. emoticon A never ending thing emoticon

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I get overwhelmed thinking about the work. I do so need to thin stuff out though. Once I get going it will be good, but taking the first step is holding me back. I am getting one bag at a time to the Goodwill. But I do not yet see a dent in my overabundance of "stuff". That is perhaps because every trip to Goodwill I find another "treasure". LOL

One of these days I will get there.

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I haven't done much changing at all, in the past five years, except, moved the bed around once. I'd like to move it again, but I guess I really have too much stuff, as I do have a small bedroom. I still have our same bed. Thought about getting a full size bed as I have a queen size... I do have more clothes, books and maybe (jewelry) I think I should "downsize", but that can be a bit hard to do. I have kept the blue color to our bedroom.

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That's a good idea to 'girlie up' your bedroom but I don't think I'm up to that right now.I find that by sleeping in the bed we shared and sleeping where he slept is so very very comforting.He loved the colour blue so our bedroom is painted blue.I also use his colonges as well even his aftershave.
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Bedrooms: My bedrooms are blue. I changed the queen size bed for a double bed and most of my kids are in the married with babies stage so I also have a crib in my room. The house is small and the baby furniture gives it the same feel as the apartment we lived in when we were young and husband was studying and we had babies of our own. It also has an even earlier feel as when we were growing up, the bedroom I'm using now was my brothers' bedroom and my office area was my childhood bedroom. My husband never lived here but I did until I was 18 so I don't know if I feel like a widow or if I feel more like who I was at 18.

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It is not very fall like here in NW Ohio, but the calendar says September, so I'm bringing out the fall decor this weekend emoticon

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My DH did not like green for walls, covers, anything. Fortunately we both liked blues, so that is the domminate color in my house.

Now I'm thinking light green, pinks, or maybe beige walls that could go with anything.

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I'm not into girlie colors so much, but I did surround myself with more things that I like, things that dh objected to when he was around as being too feminine.

Go for whatever your heart desires Kat.

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A few months after my Dad passed away in 2007, my step-Mom painted their bedroom lavendar and bought feminine curtains and bedding with beautiful little flowers on them. It is so pretty and airy.

I'm thinking of doing something like that. Have any of you fancied or girley upped your rooms?

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HI Jeannie,

I can relate. When Earl & I first married only one of his 6 mostly adult children accepted me. His daughter was very oppositional. But over the next 6 - 8 years, with me being as kind as possible and making aquaintance with the ex-wife, the kids came around. (they were divorced 8 years before I met Earl)

At first my DH would share bad news with them about me or my kids. We discussed it and decided to not say anything negative to our own kids about the other or their kids. It helped alot!

I thought my kids were more accepting, turned into loving, of Earl than his to me, but now I see the impact of not only Earl's death but my part in their lives. At least 2 of the families has come to see me each Sunday since Earl's death. It is really hard on them.

It is sad for you and for your son that his step- sisters and brothers are not in his life.

Thanks for sharing that with us.

I'm so grateful that Earl fully retired 2 years ago and got to spend a lot of time with his kids families.



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Kat:

I am glad you got what you needed, for your books. It can be very difficult at times, with a blended family when one's spouse passes on. I experienced that myself with my dh's grown children, who were never enamoured with me and our son who was 27 when his dad passed away. I always felt their bitterness, minimized our life in so many ways. I could have helped them a great deal through the loss of their father. But it was not meant to be I guess. I have not heard from any of them in 5 and one half years, nor has my son.

Sad but life goes on.

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I am so thankful how GOD is watching out for me. I went to Walmart for something and decided to look at the put-it-together-yourself furniture. I found two bookcases, black, perfect size for my area where the hope chest was and on sale for $24.

I bought them and left them in the car (heavy) till my daughter and her husband came over. He brought them in and he and their 11 yr old daughter had the shelves put together in minutes!

They look great and I have a place for my books!

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I spent last night going through a hope chest that belonged to my DH's mother. In his written instructions, DH left the hope chest to his only daughter. She called and said she wanted to come get it. I said, I don't even know what is in there. She said I want to take it home then go through it. I said, I don't know how I feel about that.

There are many old photos, some old linens and some Bibles. These are in her family lineage, but she is young and I wonder what she will do with them.

I took a few momentos of DH and his Mom. I thought about doing a family history for the kids, but better work on family history for my own kids.

When the hope chest goes I'm going to buy one or two bookcases for that space.

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out with the clutter, in with a new environment and a new me!

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Hi Mary:
I do think it's all interelated the clutter in the house, in mind and on the body. Good for you, with a new beginning, I wish you the best.

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I'm starting another challenge on the 22 and hope this time I get it right.

I'm starting over. back to square one.

I'm printing out the ABC organizing and putting it on my wall so I can build some good habits. my house is always a mess because I don't follow through putting things back. so it piles up and then I get over whelmed.

I'm starting sparks over and see if I can learn something this time and get it to stick in my mine and build good eating habits.

the time has come to stop procrastinating and do something with my life. I'm not getting younger. 3 mos. have past in this year already. before I turn around once, the year will be gone again.

I'm coming out! I want the whole world to know the real me. emoticon

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3/30/09 6:55 P

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I usually just keep income tax records for just 7 years.

Thank you for checking for me...

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I have a list in work Rosie, I will check it today. I do know personal records get kept for 3 years and business 7 years. Income tax returns are kept forever, I believe. But I will double check the list.
I shredded another year last night. As I accomplish each task I feel lighter, emotionally anyway.
Tonight I shall organize and toss for 15 mins in some area of the house and plan to do that each day.

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I'm wondering how long I should keep my DH'S medical record's, such as receipt's, prescription's, Medicare statement's, and such thing's as those?

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One more step today. I shredded dh's work records and all of our personal receipts for 2001. Ended up with two garbage bags full of shredded paper. It's difficult going over the medical records, but it has to be done. In 2001 he was doing quite well, but things deteriorated year by year until he passed in 2004.
This helps me understand even more it is past time to clean out and to let go. The good memories need to be cherished, the bad ones cremated or shredded.

Onward.

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I have been pecking away here and there in corners clearing out magazines and recipes I print out ad infinitum. I am finding the willingness to begin to declutter, once again. My pattern is this: I begin and then quickly lose interest in following through. Largely because sorting means sorting through the memories items may trigger, and the lack of willingness to let them go because of the memories. Lord willing, and I know HE is.... this urge to begin again to approach "letting go" continue and run through the whole house.
15 minutes at a time, one day at a time.

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Well yesterday I went to the laundromat and washed the big down feather quilt for the winter. It has been sitting in my bedroom waiting for that since the last cold night. No too far behind am I? emoticon

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This is something I never thought about, taking pictures of something I'm getting rid of great idea.

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I'll be back here soon. Tonight it will be general clean-up; floor washing etc. didn't get taht done last week because I spent 5 days with sil.
Why does every task look larger when you are facing it alone?????

Janice you are my inspiration. emoticon

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my home is ready for my things to come back in. now is the touch job of what to keep and what to get rid of. a lot of memories and a lot of just 'things'. out comes my camera. I guess I'll be busy with my memory book.

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I'll need to go back and read all the post so I can get to know each of you.

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I am remodeling my home upstairs. I have a lot of boxes to go through when they come back into the house.
I am a person who doesn't like to get rid of things cause I either might use them later or they mean something to me.
I am starting a scrapbook of memories. I take pictures before I get rid of something. I will write a story of how I received it. that way I have memories to look back on but I don't have to store it. I am dejunking my house to make it livable and I will know where everything is. I am good at hiding things since I can't remember where I store them. A book takes up little space on the shelf.

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Sarah, I have a basement that seems to catch everything and I think it multiplies too.
I have found that if I get 4 big boxes and label them, trash, donation, keep and undecided. Pick up something and put it in one of the boxes. then I go back and go through each one and if I made the right decision, then I get rid of the two boxes for trash and donation. then I go through the other two and decide on them. you'll be surprised how it will disappear and you have a clean room.

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This morning I went to D'd office in the basement looking for contract on my Toyota.I don't know where or how to begin to declutter that room.Guess thats why I avoid going down there.I will have to face it eventually.
Still am suffering from jet lag.This isn't like me at all.Before leaving for Vegas I was so energtic.Now I am dragging around.Really acting my age!!

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Collie,
It was one of the most difficult jobs and decision of my life. One day I was looking at all the stuff that surrounded me. I am sitting in this big room and all around me is "stuff" I just felt so claustrophoic. I thought at that time that the decision should be to sell and move into somothing smaller. Well, the thought process went something life this. In order to sell, I have to clean it up and make it marketable and if I move into something smaller I would really suffer from claustophobia. So I decide that I would clean it up and live in it. Now the mind changing event. What do I get rid of--anything that I didn't need and use had to go. Mind you both criteria had to fit and that seemed to fit the majority of junk that I owned. I buy and don't toss. Now I must work on a policy for tossing when I buy.

Today, I am working with a clipboard. I am using it for scheduling and keepting track of my budget. The painters are here now and should be finished by Friday. Then the window cleaners will come on Tuesday. Now I have to schedule the floor people.

Last Thursday was bittersweet. I had new bathroom faucets and front lighting installed. But my microwave went up in smoke. Because the painters are here this week, I postponed having someone to come and look at it until next week. I will have the repairman look at both the microwave and dishwasher at that time.

I just noticed that the front picture window has condensation so I guess the seal has broken. I will wait until I finish the cleanup and have someone come look at it and the kitchen.

Since I have acceptd the fact that there is no end to keeping the house together and in good order, I have relaxed a bit. That is unitl, the next big crisis.

BTW, the basement leak that was supposed to have been repaired a couple of years ago isn't working. With the thaw of the snow and all the rain I got water in the basement and they are coming back on April 15.

I can't work without a day planner these days. Oh well, life could be a lot worse so my glass is half full and not half empty.

Enough of my whining. I will tell you all about the yard in another post. So Peg, you see, I am getting plenty of exericise--much more than I planned. I have even lost a couple of pounds in the process.

Love to all!
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Janice, I envy your purposefulness (is that a word?) in knowing just what it is you want to do to create your environment. I look around and am overwhelmed by all that needs to be done, and can't decide what's most important. I should get one of those 'staging' people who come in and help homeowners get their houses updated and ready to attract buyers. Actually, brfore doing any updating I need to shovel out clutter and useless stuff. Big job!




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I haven't posted here lately but that doesn't mean I haven't been busy and on task. It is all becoming to come together. Here are my plans for April.

Yesterday, my exterior front light were installed. I had an overhead ceiling fixture replaced. It is motion activated. And between the garage doors I had a dusk to dawn double spotlight installed. It has dual brightness. The ligths are low beamed and when there is motion the begins becomes brighter. also the faucets were replaced in the hall and master bathrooms.

This morning the draperies in the dining room and living room will be picked up for cleaning and won't be rehung until the painting, window cleaning and flooring cleaning are completed.

The painting will be done next week with windows cleaning and possibly floor cleaning the following week. Then I will have lots of dusting and furniture polishing to do. The worst job will be to clean the oven. Can I get a volunteer?

I think that I will work outside next week while they are painting inside. I will rake the leaves out of my beds and under the deck and pull up the wild onions that grow in the bed. The rain has really help their growth this year.

I hope to be able to plant my boxes in May and then coast awhile doing just maintenance.

Then in the Fall, I will tackle the walls. The botton walls are paneled so may be I will painted the top portion during the fall.

Enogh of my babbling! Everyone have a great day.

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My problem is losing both my glasses and scissors when I am outside playing around with the flowers. Good thing I can wear drug store glasses and we have a dollars store 7 miles away. emoticon Sue

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I've been checking through my message boards and found this one from Feb. Janice, did you get your new glasses? I remember doing something like that to mine one summer. I was outside working in the garden and my glasses steamed up on me. I took them off and forgot where I put them and stepped on them. Guess glasses aren't meant to be stepped on!

I'm certainly creating a new environment with the de-cluttering, painting and cleaning of the bedroom. It is resulting in changing my family room some too by moving furniture from one room to another.

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Today was too much change for me. I have been making my bed each morning. Well, today I forgot to put my glasses on the nightstand and they fell to the floor before I realized it and stepped on them. emoticon I will just have to wear the old ones until I go out and have them fixed.

This event was a great example of how far I have come. A while back this would have been very upsetting for me. Today, I picked them up and put them on the dresser and pulled out the old ones without hesitation or thought. I really don't sweat the small stuff any more. It seems that it is all small stuff.

Have a great day everyone and if you live where there are frigid temperatures, keep warm!

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D and I purchased the prelit tree at the end of the season .He passed before the next Christmas so he never saw the tree decorated.I really enjoyed the tree this year.Here in the northeast Halloween is a very big holiday with all kinds of outdoor decorations.

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I have neighbors who do some type of decoration for every holiday--even if it's only a banner. I love it but I don't have the energy to participate.

Coming outside and seeing the displays always brighten my spirits.

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I used to decorate for all of the other holidays when the children were young.Valentines Day and Halloween were the two biggies.

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Do you decorate for any other days, like Valentine or Easter?

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The Christmas tree is finally undecorated.Can't wait till my son comes and disassembles it and packs it away.Need to get familyroom back in order.Saturday night a few of my widow friends are comming to share dinner and a hot game of scrabble.



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Good Morning and how is everyone today?

I am still plugging away at getting rid of the "junk" that has piled up over the years. Somehow, not intentionally, I have started to work in a zone. I live in a ranch style home with the bedrooms and bathrooms on one end of the house. This is where I have been concentrating my efforts and if I stay focused by the end of the week, I should have this space in good order.

But the purpose of this post is to share something I found while tossing out old magazines.

From the Winter 2002 issue of Food & Family

"Finding time just for you is a positive lifestyle change that can make a difference to your sense of well-being. To help, we've broken down the year into 12 monthly goals. Just focus on one change each month and by the end of the year, you'll be 12 steps closer to achieving your healthy lifestyle goals.

1. GET SOME SHUT-EYE: Try for 8 hours of sleep tonight and every night.

Benefit: When at rest, the body repairs itself most efficiently. Have some soothing warm milk or a hot cup of herbal tea before bed. Nothing is impossible when you've had a good night's sleep.

2. QUIET TIME: Get up 15 minutes earlier to have a few minutes all to yourself before the day begins.

Benefit: You'll get your day off to a good start. Use this time to relax and plan your day.

3. THE ART OF RELAXING: Grab a paint brush and an easel or a sketch pad and unleash your creative spirit.

Benefit: Drawing or painting can focus your mind andmake you feel more relaxed and in touch with the world around you. No need for fancy tools--crayons and piece of paper will do. Writing in a journal will also do the trick.

4. BUDDY UP: Call a buddy and arrange to workout together.

Benefit: Haven't seen your best friend in ages? Catch up with a friend while boosting your metabolism. Working out together maintains your commitment as you don't want to let your partner down.

5: TOP 10: Count your blessings.

Benefit: Devote 10 minutes before bed to write down the top 10 good things that happened to you that day. This puts you in the habit of seeking out and appreciating those things that make you happy.

6. TICK IT OFF: Try to scratch off two or three things from your 'to do' list every day.

Benefit: Finish a few small tasks each day for a sense of accomplishment. Write some letters, send some cards or clean out your desk--it doesn't take much.

7. STRETCH IT: Take up yoga or stretching.

Benefit: Exercises that involve yoga and stretching are low impact ways of keeping your body healthy and your mind uncluttered. Join a class or try some exercises on your own at home.

8. DINNER SWAP: Make a deal with a friend.

Benefit: One night per month,double the amount of dinner you make and deliver it toa friend's house. The following week, she or he reciprocates. Serve on paper plates tocut down on clean-up.

9. FUNNY DAYS: Schedule time for fun.

Benefit: When you are busy and overwhelmed fun isn't always a priority. Make sure it becomes one. Schedule fun events and get-togethers so that you always have something to look forward to. Plan a night out at a play, concert,comedy club or movie.

10. SING IN THE BATHTUB: Take a long hot bath.

Benefit: Lounge in the bath with a book or magazine to relax and ease aching or stressed muscles.

11. THINK POSITIVE: Always keep an 'I can do it' attitude.

Benefit: Think positively in a challenging situation to encourage positive results. Whether you face a tough meeting or a family problem, an optimistic outlook put most situations into perspective.

12: LOVE THYSELF: Be good to you!

Benefit: When you reach a goal, celebrate with fresh flowers, a movie, a manicure, or a massage. Rewarding yourself encourages you to continue to strive for a healthier lifestyle."

Enjoy your day!

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That's one of my plans - to go to the library for the magazines also. They also have books on tape and cd. My kids gave me an IPOD for Christmas so that I can download books and listen to them. Right now I'm listening to the Skinny B*tch.

I have also taken some book to halfprice books and gotten a few $ for them. I think most of my books are diet books right now and some cookbooks. My friends aren't in to these topics.

My DIL from St. Louis has offered to run a rummage sale for me and I just might take her up on it. She's good at arranging and pricing. Once I get this house in order and cleaned out of things I know I won't use I plan to set a date with her. Perhaps I'd get it done faster if I set the date first?!
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Joan,I circulate my books to friends and tell them to just pass them on to others.That not to say that I still don't have loads of them around.Soon when the weather is warm again I will make an effort to reaquaint myself with the local library.An easy way to satisfy my hunger for readin without the accumulation.Less expensive also.Our library is a county library they do rent the new releases and most popular, by the day.

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Joan:
I am right behind on the books and magazines...I am always finding bargain books on Amazon that I can't resist. The only thing is, if we find them interesting we can pass that on to another by donating them. And magazines...my, oh my, I have a problem keeping them out of the shopping cart too.

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After DH stopped reading the paper, I cut it down to 2 days - THurs. and Sunday. I only look at the ads and a few articles in the Sunday paper so I think I might just cancel the whole thing when it comes up for renewal. But then again there are times I need some newspaper for under some craft project or I also use it for mulch in the garden. So maybe I'll just get the Sunday one.

I cleared 2 shopping bags full of books out of my bed room and 1 bag full of magazines yesterday. I really should get rid of more books as the shelves are full still. It's progress Now if I can just keep from buying any more!
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I am still taking the Christmas decorations down.Just have the tree left.My kids have been teasing me with why don't just leave everything up we can light the tree for Easter.
Am dealing with the paper clutter I keep getting in the mail(junk) and flyers in the newspaper.Think I will cancel the paper because I can't stand all of the flyers I get.
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Hi Springflower, even though it is winter, please pop your head up and tell us about yourself.

I got sidetracked today with grocery shopping. Still didn't get into that closet.

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Hi Springflower. Welcome and come join us.

I did some house cleaning today and got the clutter out of the living room and off the kitchen counter. I also managed to shred some of that pile of papers. Easy does it!
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Hello Springflower welcome to the team.You can be comfortable here for we have all experienced the same things.The support is very much appreciated.I have just finished my forst week.Found a bunch of new friends.It helps.
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Hello Springflower1 and welcome to our team! Have you introduced yourself to us? We are a pretty chatty group who have been together for a while. We would really like to get to know you. So please tell us a little about yourself. If you go to the thread "Introduce Yourself" where you can tell us about yourself and read about us. We spend most of our time on the "Comfort Inn" thread where we just chat and our other thread "Creating A New Environment" we report our progress for changing our homes and exchange ideas for making it a place that we can enjoy alone.

Again, welcome and enjoy the mutual sharing and supporting that we do on this team. We look forward to reading your posts so post often!

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Every day is a new challenge. That's life and I guess what keeps us going. I'm still cleaning out papers and have a huge pile to shred. Sometimes I have trouble remembering what is necessary to keep and for how long those papers and files won't be looked at today. I have to clean up the kitchen and the dishes. And this afternoon I'm going to my 1st Temari class. My last one was in 1996. I still have all the supplies but don't remember all the methods and steps in the doing. I'm sure it will come bach to me quickly.
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Every once in a while you get broadsided with something like the found files.I went into my cedar chest to look for a blanket and came acroos letters that D wrote to me in the 1970's.
Every day is a new challenge.
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I bought a new printer yesterday and in clearing around the computer I came across a file of 2002 business and personal receipts. Since dh has been gone 4 years next month I decided they could go.
It took 3+ hours to shred them, but the memories they brought back if illness and depression. 2002 was the year his cancer came back with a vengeance and there was all kind of palliative treatment being thrown at him. In a strange way is felt cleansing to shred the doctors bills, medication receipts, and medicare statements. Another wee step forward.

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Joan,I am in a small town in north western New Jersey.Trader Joes here is also a small store.I only go there occaisionally.All of the fish there is frozen would rather have fresh,and also pick out my own produce.Have 2 GRD and 4 GRS.The oldest is 17 just driving and a senior in highschool,youngest is 5 in kindergarten.Each is so unique.D used to call them the little society.He lived and breathed for his grandkids.
Think I had a fair day yesterday diet wise but by the time I got home and unpacked the groceries,prepared dinner it was really late 8PM.The only exercise I got was walking in supermarket,did buy 2 Biggest Loser CD's.Will force myself to participate with them tomorrow while dinner is cooking when I get in from work.
By the way I hired a young man to shovel,and plow snow when we have it.D had a snow blower but it sits in the garage idle.My son is 30 min.furthur north west from me,in severe weather he cannot make to my home for this type of activity.
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Peg, I live in the mid-west - Milwaukee Wi area to be more exact. This is the first Trader Joe's in our area. I guess there are plans for another closer to where I live, but it won't be built for maybe 3 years from now. The one that is here is very small and I was a bit disappointed that they didn't have a lot of items that I was looking for. Also their produce i mostly wrapped in packages like 6 roma tomatoes on a foam tray covered in saran. I'd rather pick out my own.

I did shovel some snow this morning just so I could get out with the car if needed. That was my exercise for the day. DGD and DD were here this afternoon so didn't even try to do anything else. DGD will be 4 in March and she "rules the roost."

It's getting late. I'll "talk" more tomorrow.
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Well,I am making good progress on getting my house in order. My latest accomplishment has been to organize my linen closet. It became easier after I faced the reality that I only need enough bedding and towels for myself and an occasional visitor. Once I did this discarding a lot of the old stuff was "a piece of cake". I have a habit of buying and not tossing. So my goal now is to develop the habit of tossing out the old when I buy something new.

I have also decided to only devote a couple of days a week to my organizing and de-cluttering project.

I hope that everyone is doing well with their projects for this year.

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Preditions are for snow, rain mix here on Tuesday.I have a 40 min. ride to work hate driving in snow and ice.Joan are you in the north east somewhere?There is a Trader Joe's very close to my home.I know that chain started in Mass. somewhere.
Did not get any of the decorations down last night.At this rate may leave the tree up till next christmas.Once I undecorate the tree then I must bother my son to come take it apart and carry it to the basement where its stored.He has so much to take care of with his own home.He lives in a small lake community near his in-laws and they keep him so busy helping them ,that I feel guilty when I have to ask him to come here.For the most part I hire workers to do the things I am unable to do.
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I went to the foot doctor this morning and on the way home stopped at the Trader Joe's store near there and bought a lot of food stuff. I stocked up again. On the way home it was very slippery. Although the snow coming down was light and fluffy, the cold caused a lot of slipping and sliding. The reports tonight were there were a lot of accidents. I made it home safe and sound but experienced the anti lock brakes on my car for the first time. It scared me at first. I thought something was terribly wrong with my brakes. It felt like something was going to fall off the bottom of my car. I finally realized what it was. I'm glad to be home. The snow is going to continue all night bringing us a total of at least 8 inches. Thank goodness it's light and easy to shovel this time.

I didn't accomplish anything around the house today. Tomorrow DGD will probably be here for a few hours. Perhaps she would like to help me clean out some drawer or something.
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It was 15 degrees when I left for work this morning.It is so quiet I keep checking to see if we have phone service.At this rate I will be looking to leave very early.Maybe then I can undecorate the christmas Tree and put other decorations away.
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I am planning to clean out the closet today. It is bitter cold so I won't be out for long, if at all.
The table is clear and will be relocated upstairs to hold plants.
Janice:
My heart does feel lighter this morning looking at that nice clean table....amazing.

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All of my carriers are working tomorrowso we are too.I still have to finish sorting D's suits,work clothes,then donate.I had started the basement,but was relying on snow days to work down there.We have not had any snow days yet this year so that task has to wait.I take one day at a time when the chore overwhelms I put it aside for another day.
Think I had a good day diet speaking.At least got through 30 min of exercise.Wahoo!!
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The last thing I need is a man to take care of. I wouldn't mine one to take care of me, but it doesn't seem to happen that way as we get older.
My job was a God send too Peg after dh passed away. I lost myself in routine and activity. The first six months were a daze.
I worked on clearing the table today, which meant I had to make space in the bookcase, so all day I have been gleening and have 2 bags of the Salvation Army, cookbooks mostly and some other items that could be useful, in another home. Isn't it amazing how it is never quite a simple to re-organize a corner as just putting things away? You have to find, or make space, decided what stays and goes, physically move the stuff and get the donation stuff packed and ready to go. And it takes time to review and sort, then deciding..... no picnic either. Tomorrow the work will continue, thanks to a day off.

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Men do need someone to take care of them.If you look at all the studies men are healthier when married,women when single.

I have a custom packaging and shipping business.I opened in 1989.My son joined the team in 1991.The business in some ways really helped when D passed.It made me get up every morning ,shower,and off to work.The days are busy so not a lot of time to sit,feel sorry for myself.I must admit comming into the empty house in the evenings was and still is pretty depressing.
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I had that discussion with one of my DD about ever getting married again. Right now the answer is a emphatic NO!. I know several friends who are widows and they want nothing to do with dating etc. again and then I know two men who got remarried within a year after they lost their wives. Seems men need someone to take care of them and can't do it alone.

What sort of small businesses do you two gals have? Sometimes I wish I had that going on for me.
Take care and stay warm.
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I have my own small business also.D came to run the sales end when he retired.My son is my business partner.I also do all accounting,estimates,paperwork for business.
I too at times think it would be nice to have someone to share a meal with or a movie,play,concert,etc.Intimacy I am not ready for that.Don't know if I will ever be.Anyone that comes along will have a tough act to follow.D and I had a very long,loving,relationship.We shared some joyous times,some really sad times,and some hardship.Could I ever commit to another man in this way?Don't know.
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I was fortunate in that I ran dh's small business as far a paperwork and accounting etc. That is not a problem for me clutter wise. I do find since he's been gone, I can get more lax with the clutter. Which shows a kind of lack of caring for MY environment, when I would keep it tidier when others were around.
I ordered Flylady's "Body Clutter" and "saving Dinner" books a few days ago. $3 ea. used on Amazon....more clutter! Am I bad or what?
Peg:
Welcome, and no you don't sound foolish sensing you dh there guiding you. I am sure he is.
The loneliness is deep sometimes isn't it. I think it eases with time but never really goes away.
I heard yesterday of a woman widowed after me, who now has a "boyfriend" I wish her well. I wouldn't mind a man pal...but another intimate relationship? I can't imagine going down that road again with a stranger. But that's just me and never say never.

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D was a highly organized engineer.He had everything filed neatly for me.I try to follow his example and keep records as well as he did .I know that this will help my children when my time comes.As tax statments come in I place them in a file folder marked with the tax year.This way when I am ready to file all of my statments ,etc are in one place.

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LUCK, Janice! I was doing some paper decluttering myself today. I filed all the loose papers and then organized my bank accounts. I also cleaned out some of the old files that I don't need any more. Next I'll be setting up the permanent file and transferring all those papers I have in the current file box. Then it will be time to pull all those tax papers together.
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1/19/08 6:56 P

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I haven't run out of steam yet but I have had to slow down and do some routine chores like do the laundry. I finished shredding and disposing of paper for the years 2003 - 2006. Now I face the real challenge of staying focused and developing my permanent files. I started with my bank records--now I will work on my tax files. Once I have completed them, I will work on the rest of my filing system.

Now I have to discipline and pace myself to stay focused. Wish me luck!

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1/19/08 5:42 P

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Hello Peg and welcome to our team! Have you introduced yourself to us? We are a pretty chatty group who have been together for a while. We would really like to get to know you. So please tell us a little about yourself. If you go to the thread "Introduce Yourself" where you can tell us about yourself and read about us.

Again, welcome and enjoy the mutual sharing and supporting that we do on this team.

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1/19/08 2:50 P

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I totally agree with the overwhelmed feeling.Things that seemed so insignificant in the past present huge obsticales.I talk to D a lot I know he is here with me.Some days I can feel his guidance through a situation.Do I sound nuts?I know he is watching and cheering me on with the get healthy agenda.
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1/19/08 1:55 P

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Welcome to SP and to our little group Peg.
You are exactly right about the loneliness even when there is a lot of support of family and friends. My DH was bed ridden for 15 years and wasn't able to do much for about 8 years before that. He died this past Oct. 12. I am used to doing all those things he once did and it can be done. It just gets overwhelming at times and while he was so ill, a lot was not done. So I am dealing with the accumulated clutter now. It's a whole new life and a big adjustment, but we can all do it. Just give us time.
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1/19/08 12:29 P

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I'm new to SP joined on the 18th.Lost my soul mate October 2005.Seems we all do the same things.Try to organize,go through papers,learn to do chores normally done by our spouses,etc.One of the biggest helps I had was a good support networK.Mainly my family,children and grandchildren.But when everyone goes home there is still the quiet,lonely house to contend with.
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Bravo Janice:
You are moving forward like a steam train....just great.
I am finding out not much gets done when I get home from work. I have to set aside weekend time.

Joan:
Hope you had fun with the little one and your daughters.

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"It's today," squeaked Piglet
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You are so centered on your projects, Janice! You are an inspiration! emoticon

I hope you can still use your oven, Jeannie. That was a job you didn't need.

I still have tons of papers to go through and the files to set up. Seems I always get sidetracked!
I'm waiting right now for two daughters and 3 grand daughters to show up with lunch. After that I'm sure I won't accomplish anything towards de-clutttering as one of the GD is only 3 1/2. She will keep the rest of us busy while her Mama is using the computer.
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Joan, Thanks for a timely article. It is just what I need. I am on a marathon, I hope I keep it up one more week. If I can, most of the paper and old books will be gone and I will have places to put the things that I plan to keep--files and bookcases.

Then I will start again working on clothes. Last month I donated clothes and at that time cleaned the closets. Now I need to work on drawers and the table with the big pile in the laundry room. I have already lined the dresser drawers.

I am working on the principle of I must both use and need it in order for me to keep it.

My marathon was designed to toss things. The curb is full today with four trash containers, two bags, an old broom and scanner.

It's time for breakfast and then I have one last big pile of papers to go through and see if there is anything that I need to keep for my permanent pile. I think this process will be finished tonight if I can keep focused today.

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