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6/26/19 1:04 P

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My kids, and even their close friends yes, if they were using a word in the wrong context...but never in a way or situation that would embarrass them. Adults only if I needed clarification in order to make sense of what they were saying...and then I would ask a question instead of pointing out they were wrong.

As for mispronouncing my name, I used to correct people all the time...but after 46 years of doing so, I've given up emoticon

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6/25/19 9:25 P

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It depends! I like @K-RAE82 's thoughts. I weigh if it matters or is going to add value to the conversation. If not, I may let it go. I think sometimes I can come across as overly critical when I don't intent to. Need to learn to be like ELSA in Frozen a bit more and LET IT GO, LET IT GO...

Have a great night everyone!

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6/25/19 11:17 A

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@LITTLEREDHEN8 : Like I said earlier, there's never an excuse for being nasty about it, but I did feel like it would have been wrong to let her go out and make a mistake. She could be tetchy, so I phrased it like a question of her intent and let her make the correction herself.

On the whole, I think there is a difference in the responses in this thread: I think correction is useful to learn, but it sounds like many of us have been bullied by people who wanted to feel big by trying to make us feel small. Not cool.

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6/25/19 11:16 A

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I do sometimes, but if its not going to make a difference in the conversation then I let it go. Its not great to be corrected all the time, but sometimes it is a learning opportunity. I don't mind if someone politely corrects me, but as long as it is in good spirits, no need to be harsh or cruel.


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6/25/19 11:00 A

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@CATIATM when proofreading I would think you would have to comment before someone made a mistake etc. Did you get reprimanded for this? & I think I meant family/close friends. But my late husband made little corrections in the past that hurt my feelings at the time. (Even for little things)

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6/25/19 10:47 A

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@LITTLEREDHEN8 Bless! I think we all understand that this is just a chance to connect if we want to. And you're right - I think we are reading this question a few different ways. When I read it, I thought of a time I was asked to proofread a speech my boss' boss was going to give - on television. And it referred to something as "capricious" when I thought the intent was "capacious." (Why couldn't we just say "big?" I don't know. I'm just the little nobody worker!) So I asked, "Do we mean 'fickle" or 'large'?" But when I read other responses, I saw that they had other ideas from their own experiences.

I think you are lovely to post every day with a new topic for us to discuss. Thank you!

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6/25/19 10:34 A

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Not adults, but the grands I do

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6/25/19 10:22 A

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Some of these daily questions sometimes goes deeper than I planned on. We are here for whoever wants the share.
Everyone of you are very important to the team. You are Special to us!

I meant like calling you by a different name or little things like that.

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6/25/19 10:07 A

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@SUGARSMOM2. I'm so sorry you had to go through mental abuse growing up. You ARE a good person, and we care about you!
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6/25/19 10:00 A

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@SUGARSMOM2 I'm sorry you went through this as a child. I know many people that grew up this way. I felt I wasn't good enough. But You are very Special to us!!!

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6/25/19 9:59 A

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No, I never correct another persons choice of vocabulary or grammar.

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6/25/19 9:34 A

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@SUGARMOM2 I am so sorry that you experienced that! I think we can correct a fact without being unkind, and there is never any call to be ugly. I hope you realize that those mean things are untrue, and I can imagine how hurtful it was to hear them. emoticon

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6/25/19 8:45 A

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No, I would never correct you or anyone. I am not one to tell another about their choice..my father told me daily that I was stupid and dumb. make me very unsure of myself I never stand up for or against anything.

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6/25/19 7:31 A

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It depends. If people might misunderstand the message, yes. If it's just a misspeak moment, and the real meaning is clear, then I wouldn't. Words do matter, even if some of what we see these days indicates otherwise, but there's no reason to be an uptight jerk about it.

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6/25/19 7:20 A

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Depends on who it is. Usually I just let it go

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6/25/19 6:11 A

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Do you correct people when they say a wrong word or let it go?

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