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4/28/11 12:59 P

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I've decided after training my contact with her will be minimal.


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4/28/11 6:33 A

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some peoples children :-) hang in there - at least you've "got her number" and are on to her. Stay away from sharp objects while training emoticon Pat

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4/27/11 9:23 A

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Thanks ladies. I found out I have the support of my coworkers - they feel the same way!
Just this morning I noticed she put her ID tag on right after I put mine on. It's like she watches everyone. She walks out of the office a lot, probably to go be nosey. I'm trying to find humor in it now and I just try to avoid eye contact and leave the room when she gets too chatty for me to handle. I know I can handle it and I think it IS a good idea to bring it to the attention of our supervisor WHEN the time presents itself and WHEN it feels totally appropriate. I'm not going to run complaining everyday but when she gets to me to the point that I can't keep quiet I will diplomatically SAY SOMETHING. He should tell her in some certain terms that we are onto her and we don't like it. We are a team in here and don't need one person pushing us all around and dominating ALL conversation etc. It just gets really annoying - to the point where none of us care or want to help her and that is bad.
The ONLY really bad thing that I HAVE to deal with now is that soon, in the month of MAY, I will have to train with her to learn a job she is doing now. UGH. I know she's going to tell me all wrong and I'll have to relearn it on my own. I can't do anything about it. Once I am trained I'll adapt my own way of doing the task and HOPEFULLY it'll be better and I won't have to bother with her anymore. I am convinced she's very nervous about her job and that is why she's always listening and trying to dissect (a great word) everything everyone says.
W H A T E V E R...it is what it is...
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4/27/11 6:23 A

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I just read this Linda - Every office has one. I don't understand why people repeat their salary - that's automatic termination in some companies. She sounds like someone you want to stay away from. Lord! Offices are interesting at best :-) Pat

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4/21/11 11:31 A

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I have a co-worker who is chatty, but not nosy. She just is a news junkie and likes to discuss, disect, etc...I just tell them I have a lot to do and go back to work. Usually she gets the hint. However, when it gets too bad I have gone to my boss and said "Can I tell them ENOUGH is enough? Maybe we can discuss it at lunch?" My boss is good about whatever I think is best in the office dynamic.

Unfortunately, I had a neighbor that was the epitome of nosy once. It was awful!! Plus, our boys were the only ones their age in the neighborhood so they wanted to play together which meant interaction. Lucky for me they moved!

It's never easy to deal with difficult people, but with tact and your supervisor's blessing I'm sure you can handle it!

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PS - Vent away - it's better to vent here than cause strife in the workplace!

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4/21/11 11:27 A

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Yes, I was hoping this might happen. I have been told by my other coworkers that the BOSS is well aware of the situation. He too participates in the walking away and avoiding eye contact etc. He gets it BUT I'm not sure he's said anything to her. I think if he did she'd be quiet for a day or two and then it would all start up again. She just doesn't get it. It's the type of person she is. It's not her fault, hard to change a lifetime of learning how to be nosey. She doesn't even realize what she's implying, when she says things, I'm sure. For example, "I have a pregnant girl in my class, I figured I'd ask her if she wants a bigger size shirt" Um, why not just wait and see what happens? If the pregnant lady needs a bigger shirt at some point in the next few weeks I'm sure she would inquire. WHY start on her now and assume she'll be gaining lots of weight...that can be very insulting to some. AND why tell the whole office? She's a jerk, no doubt. Now we just have to deal with it. I figure I will give her hints or some sort of kind remark that might sway her into realizing what the problem is around here (her). She always says "they're talking about me" as soon as she's out of the office. Usually that is not true.
I also noticed she copies my actions. Since I started here 7months ago I've noticed she's dressing nicer and she puts her ID badge on and off at the same time I do. Weird. I think she's jealous and very insecure - always questioning things and wondering what is going on. I don't think that way and I TRY very hard not to let her get to me. Someday....maybe things will change.
Hummmmmm....yoga.....inner peace....quiet when she's not here, like now, this is great!

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4/20/11 6:43 P

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If I was your supervisor or boss, I would hope that you would share this with me, in a professional manner. Then I would have a little chat with her about staying focused and not distracting others from their work focus.

Be an adult about the situation and don't gossip!

Good luck!

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4/20/11 3:10 P

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At the end of my day I told a coworker how she's been toward me. Guess what? 3 people agreed and had similar experiences. We decided that is just the way she is and we'll try to avoid eye contact or make excuses and walk away. She is painful to the ears. The nosey-ness is what really gets everyones goat. She'll join in conversations that have nothing to do with her. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS --- Is there a polite way to say that? Any thoughts?
I could use a great way of saying that without hurting her feelings (I have to sit next to her y'know).

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IGNORING IS THE KEY
I support you in this it's difficult to deal with people like that.
Mine went away after a while thank god!

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4/19/11 3:44 P

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AND today she's just 3x annoying. I was speaking to another coworker who approached me about training with them tomorrow and NOSEY gets into the conversation flipping it totally to another subject before I could barely finish the conversation about training with this other coworker who approached me (not her) to ask when a good time would be for us to get together - we spoke over NOSEY and decided to train "sometime" tomorrow. What the heck? HOW RUDE, she's a JERK - no arguments on that. AND she's probably jealous!
I had to ignore her a little today, it was just too much!

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Wow she sounds like a total pest!! It makes the day so stressful when you have to deal with that. Hang in there. Wish I could give you some great advice that would help. The only thing I can think of is telling her that her constant interuptions are bothering you. Maybe after she tells something that you know someone prob told her in confidence you can ask if so and so wanted her to tell everyone else. Then say something loud enough for others to hear kind of jokingly so she can't get mad but hopefully takes the hint like "wow I'm never going to tell you any secrets! Cuz I know you'll blab! Also when it comes to her observations on wether or not you have work to do etc... You may just have to say "Ya know ___ it's really not any of your business and cut her off. Not being mean but not being nice about it anymore. Good luck. I hope she moves on to another job soon!

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4/19/11 10:50 A

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Wow, I've got a coworker who won't SHUT UP. I try to be polite and pretend I'm interested. I really don't CARE about her stories. She really needs more work to do. She just "let it slip" that she makes $18 an hour. This may not even be true. Jerk. I started here 5 months after her and make a lot less. She also came over to my desk and says "so you have nothing to do today" because I don't BUT that's not my fault, we are in a lull and she's got nothing to do too. IDIOT. OMG I just want to tell her off sometimes. She thinks she knows everything and yet I think she knows nothing and fears for her job most of the time. I know her type, I've got her number, she's just ANNOYING and very nosey. She's always off walking around and finding out personal things about people - to be repeated - and usually she's WRONG. I'm so relieved when she's OUT of the office. Thanks for letting me vent.

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