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Looks pretty cool. An app and a messenger with pre-loaded lists for decluttering and settable reminders. Can't hurt. I'll let you know how it helps. I'm reading a book on decluttering and letting go of the emotional attachment connected to alot of our clutter. Emotional baggage, if you will. The author, Peter Walsh, also has another book about losing the clutter, losing the weight that I just checked out. I'll report back after I'm done. These (your suggestion) and the books I'm reading give me an idea for new, ongoing few topics: book clubs/reviews, app suggestions/reviews. emoticon

What do you think? Someone else had suggested an app called StickyNotes. I downloaded it but haven't tried it out yet... emoticon

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Hello Irvington emoticon What is www.flylady.net? I'll look that up...

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Have you tried www.flylady.net?

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same here... ADHD isnt a disorder to me... its just my NORM..

I have found tools that help me with my impulses along with my Many thoughts (worries)

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My ADD hasn't gotten any better with age.

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I never left the team, but I haven't posted in a long time. I hate ADD/ADHD. It hurts to be this way!

Clutter hurts, and I'm having a very hard time dealing with it. What I am doing, however, does help a little bit. A little bit is better than nothing.

Since I'm a morning person and good for nothing as the day wears on, what I try to do is get the most out of the first hour or so. My rule now is that I can't look at the computer until I've done some sort of cleaning up in the kitchen. Wash any dishes left over from yesterday, and pick up any clutter that is starting to gather on the table. I'm not making much at all in the way of headway, but I am maintaining the counter and the table. That's better than nothing and better than the monster pile of paper on the table.

Paper on the table means important things get lost, bills unpaid, business undone. So I'm happy that I can maintain the table and counter and sink.

But I still have the rest of the house to deal with. I don't know yet how I can get that to happen.

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I'm back and ready to start anew.
Feature strategy I'm focusing on today: my pomodoro timer desktop app + timed breaks.
I've accepted it doesn't make me "bad" if I get distracted, but focus on using the tools - dont' get complacent.
My watch strap broke/went missing (haha) and so I've been without my wrist timer to help me time breaks and mitigate distraction.
My pomodoro timer is working just as well, and I can stop it after five minutes have passed.

Three things to do differently tomorrow:
1) Go through my focus ritual (Block distractions, get music set up, etc.) at the start of every focus block.
2) Tme my breaks or interludes, whether it's five minutes for a mental break, some time for lunch, or doing a different but essential task.
3) Slug through my morning ritual - even if I feel lethargic, as long as I push through I'm on the right track and will feel great about it once I'm awake enough to be mindful.

Which leads me to the three things I will embrace and do today:
1) Tonight: prep for the morning with AM snack, workout clothes, set out by alarm.
2) Willfully go to bed before 11 so that I don't get hungry and have an excuse to eat something else.
3) Check in re: the above in my "power journal" that I made for myself.

Distractability: always
Determination and energy: 8/10

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Love the article! That's my Weekly Challenge this week: It's amazing how hard it is to not get back in bed. I'm really going to focus on making my side of the bed and dropping onto my yoga mat to transition to wakefulness. Thanks for sharing.

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Hello all,

I've missed this community because I mostly use the mobile application.
Anyway, it's so important for me to engage because it's so easy not to do my weekly planning because I sleep in or insert other reason here.

Anyway, I'm going to write a blog post and note my weekly and monthly goals.
My ADHD tool of the week - that I've been neglecting for the past four months - is WorkFlowy.

TONIGHT I'm going to sit down and make a plan for the week.
WHEN 8 - 9:30 pm. (Because I haven't planned where I'll be, I don't know specifically, but it will be in this range.)
HOW LONG 1 hr: 20 minutes to compile all tasks in WorkFlowy, 20 minutes to schedule tasks in Google Calendar PRINT, 7ish minutes to compile list of weekly tasks from Workflowy that I will use daily to identify daily big 3/small 3 tasks; record on back of printed schedule, 13 minutes of overflow time to use as needed in either direction.

While I'm here, might as well share the other bit. There's an app called Fabulous and yes, it's aptly named. It is a great supportive tool as it coaches you along any of several journeys, e.g. self discipline and iron will, exercise to wellness, and others. I can't speak highly enough about it.

I'm coming through the woods now, and it's finals in graduate school. It's been rough. And nobody quite knows or understands.

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That is a great article!


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I'll start: gentle reminder of a good way to keep the chaos away
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Funny that this article was almost the next e-mail I had after posting here. Messages!

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I just checked this topic after steering a new member to it -- how come nobody's posted here since August? I hope everyone is just busy & not struggling too much with coping with our ADD/ADHD!

In case you haven't noticed, the holiday season is upon us & I don't know about you but that's the most stressful time of year for me -- let's support each other through it all & start chatting again!

Kate, in Citrus Heights California

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
~ Andy Rooney

Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Wayne Dyer



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Your post made me laugh Laura. Structure indeed! As much as I hate it, I too think I need it & I'm not much good at self-imposed structure. Gonna have to figure it out though!

How might your life be changing?

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If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
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Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Wayne Dyer



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STRUCTURE!! STRUCTURE!! STRUCTURE!!

More important than pills or therapy, I need STRUCTURE. I need the day to be punctuated!

My life may well be changing in the near future, and I hope I can use the change to create the STRUCTURE I need,

No executive function! Brain fried!

STRUCTURE!!!

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Hi Aspen, it's not piddly - it's realistic. These are things that we need to do. And if you want to aspire to more, you can. Try fish oil capsules too. Over the counter and I've found they help with my ADHD.

Just started grad school this week and have been a bit off kilter with my management strategies but I believe I'm back on track. I want to check in daily.

Gave my protein bar away to a friend who didn't have lunch today, and it was supposed to be my pre-karate snack. And then I ate handfuls of chips instead. Ok. I'll get back on track with a healthy portion of nonstarchy greens tonight and tomorrow.

Have my schedule and study schedule worked out. Goal for WED - Sun: focus on task initiation, at the time I prescribe.

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I know the feeling Earthrunner -- having spent almost all my life feeling "different", it's such a blessing to find people "in the boat"!

I'm trying to take your advice -- I'm setting 3 goals for myself every day -- mostly small stuff. Today it's finish folding the laundry, do 2 more loads of recyclables piled up in the kitchen, & strip my bed (getting ready to wash a load of clothes tonight when the electric rates go down, & hand them out to dry tomorrow.) Sounds piddly to most folks, I know, but I'm another poorly-developed executive function muscle person, & I'll let the day just drift away if I don't start trying to put some structure in my life!

Like many ADD folks, I struggle with depression, and my PA has prescribed Lexapro to augment the Wellbutrin. I'm hopeful it will give me more energy if nothing else, so I can at least make a dent around here!

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If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
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Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Wayne Dyer



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Hey Aspen,

My pleasure. It's such a relief to have people who are also "in the boat" with me. Clearly I didn't engage in here as I wanted. But I have been doing well. The perfectionist in me knows I can improve, and the realist in me is keeping my spirits up with pointing out the ways I am faring better than I feel that I am.

Check in for today:
1. Success 1 - checking in. Ate well today - breakfast, snacks, lunch. Keep it up: don't oversnack after sparring (martial arts) tonight.
2. Three things to do differently tomorrow: ARISE when my alarm goes off (aka don't get back in bed); monitor my time when I get into my workflow (help me remember to get up and move after a couple of hours, check in with daily tasks); mid-day check in... at mid-day (before I leave work.)
3. What's going well today: hyperfocus this AM, even though a productive ten minute "break" ended up being a 30 -40 minute ordeal (figuring out mass transit to work commute schedule); two out of three Small Tasks accomplished (I set :"Three Big, Three Small" for everyday. It's a work in progress actually accomplishing those each day.)

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emoticon Earthrunner for sharing your obviously carefully constructed program for staying on track. I've never thought about doing something like this -- I don't work, but I do have a lot of things that need to be done during the day & currently I'm not doing very well at keeping up with them. I'm also VERY resistant to making lists or trying to establish structure. I appreciate you adding to the conversation in my head about taking charge instead of just drifting with my ADD inclinations.

Kate, in Citrus Heights California

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
~ Andy Rooney

Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Wayne Dyer



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They say to post commitments publicly. I commit to:
1. Engaging in the community three times over the n!ext five days. Today's the first!
2. Checking in three times a day. This part is hard; the ADHD impulse in me wants to breeze past these check ins, but I have decided and found that these check ins are very important to being on track with some of the executive functioning skills I am building. Each check in alone takes no more than 5 minutes. Fifteen minutes a day. In the morning I check my "self contract"; this has notes about strategies - focus blocks of 60 minutes, a five to ten minute break, how I'll use my timer. I haven't done this yet, but I will tomorrow. Mid-day, any time, I look back at my weekly goals, my yearly goals, and a daily set of Big 3/Small 3 tasks. Afternoon (this is the first timme I'm doing an actual afternoon check in), I review and adjust post work plans. This one is essential because the post work transition is often where I have the biggest weakness. Checking in keeps me on track. It's a tiny, eensy fraction of my day filled with wonder and curiosity and ideas and thoughts.

#3. l have this. You have this. We have this. We can do this. Tomorrow is a new day, everyone. You can live well, function well.

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This ADD/ADHD really bites big time. It's not that I don't know and have to be taught. It's that I have precious litte executive function.

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You have this, Smigdon. Take a deep breath, and create a little bubble of sanctity in your crazy week (don't we all have them) - a weekly morning check in with your body. Breathe and stretch maybe! God be with you.

At work now, and about to sit down and do my morning check in: 1st. Morning mind dump. 2nd. What are my top three priorities. 3rd. Adjust and review plans as needed. 4th - and here's the KEY: turn my cell p hone on airplane mode, turn on my site blocker, plug in my headphones and pull up my background soundtrack, and lastly - get to work. I've been having idfficulty in the afternoons when I get home staying on track and focused for the myriad personal/social projects I'm working on (volunteer commitments, personal writing goals), so today I'm going to check in this afternoon to make sure I stay on track AND use my 5 minute timer in sets of three (15 minutes) to help me keep focused. I CAN do this, and I WILL achieve. Transcending the challenges of ADHD... love to everyone. Have a great day.

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Talk about being behind! What is normal now a days? It seems like a blur.

John had us concerned the other day. We didn't know if it were a virus or the Chemo. This new Chemo can affect from 2 to 11 days after treatment. Yesterday he was okay. PTL!

this wee, is a other full week. An d I have a dr. Appt. Tomorrow morning.

I hope everyone has a tolerate week.

GOD BLESS!

"All things work together for the good of those who love the Lord, and are called according to His purpose."

Romans 8:28

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I found an audiobook called "The Science of Willpower" - an excellent and easy read/listen that I return to often! Great strategies for self-awareness, managing impulsiveness and challenges with consistency and habit development!

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Thanks! Laughing ... I'm also so far behind that it's just hopeless! Looks like there was a 1977 update -- I've added that to my wishlist & hopefully will be able to bag it on BookMooch.

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If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
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Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Wayne Dyer



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Gee whiz! This question was posted a month ago and I missed it. My Recovery book is the old old book, "Mental Health Through Will Training". I've had that book a lo-o-o-o-ng time. It's really dated and antiquated. I don't know if it's been updated in the years since I was actively going to meetings. (I wish there were face-to-face meetings here now, after all these years. I'll have to find out how to do it via the computer.)

But even if it's really really antiquated (like 1937), it's still good, sound thinking. Mind you, there are things we do differently these days. We do question and challenge a doctor instead of obeying without question, and in this day and age we pay more attention to pain and discomfort. Still, Recovery is a good, solid method.

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Laurance, which Recovery book do (did?) you have? I'm such a compulsive reader that getting the book might help.

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I have to let past things go. There is nothing I can do to change the past. Poor Allan had a dreadful childhood - horribly abusive parents - and he still obsesses about things that cannot be changed.

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Several years ago, our Church offered a class on making peace with your past. I was so upset about things that had happened in my childhood. I took the class, and really got a lot out of it! I only wish they would again.

Hubby and I took the Respect Dare class.

There has been a lot of women's classes. I try to take as MAN Y as I can. If (like now) I cant, I purchase the oak and work book. That way I can take the class when I can, and during the time pick up something from the book to use now.

They offered a class late last summer I was all registered and had the books. It was all ed "Daughters of Sarah". That was when son was x and had his surgery. There was no way! It was the most involved class of all. I still hope I am able to at a later date.

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I posted that link to Recovery International, but it didn't work. My computer broke the link up, and maybe that's why it didn't work for me. It's the right link, I copied and pasted it.

I wish Recovery were still around here. I'd be glad to sharpen up my cognitive skills. I went to Recovery face-to-face meetings back in the 1970's because I was hideously depressed.

Now, Recovery didn't relieve me of the depression, and now after years of being depressed, I can see that my depression was not related to cognitive mistakes. Nevertheless I learned lots of sensible healthy thinking.

We had a married couple who came to Recovery. It was the wife who was suffering from crippling agoraphobia, and I want to say it was a joy to see this dear woman learn how to overcome this disabling fear and regain her life and mobility.

As for the husband, Wow, we all loved him. He was so loving and supportive of his wife, and he worked the program alongside her even though he didn't have these damaging problems and didn't need help. But he did it, and he said, "It's common sense! The things we're learning to do are all good common sense, and good healthy thinking!" He was applying this good common sense in his business dealings at work, and was happy about it.

I'm a burned-out caregiver. I'm now thinking I need to learn how to use this computer and get involved in virtual meetings, since there's nothing face-to-face here any more. I have the book from the 1970's, and maybe I can get involved online. I feel pretty bad being a caregiver, and maybe I can get those skills I learned out of mothballs and get busy using them again!

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Laurance & ROCKY84047 -- it's SUCH a joy to "meet" other people who also struggle with dyscalculia/math phobia. Before I figured out what was going on, I became almost homocidal any time I was forced to try & do anything mathematical. The only thing that could have made it worse was having a math professor for a father! I flunked algebra & geometry in high school, but was lucky enough to get an algebra teacher in community college who was committed to actually teaching, and I wound up wih a B+ in that class -- I am prouder of that grade than of all the As I ever got!

I wonder if I process things differently now that I'm 72, & know that I'm ADD & have dyscalculia? It would be interesting to see. Thanks for the info about Recovery Interntional -- I'm going to look into it. I really feel the need for some kind of system or structure to augment the meds.

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Yes, Smidgon! If I have things that are away from home I get other things done in the morning. I need to have my time punctuated and structured.

I'm right behind you. I'm 74!
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I find if I have away from home activities, I better get my most important to-do ' s in the morning, or I don't get it done! My problem I have Heritagy

ry Neurolophy which affects my balance,
. In my case it is just that Heritary. Now, with I suspect is stress, due to sons cancer all these illness is poking up there heads. Because, I am having a wt - bearing problem with my rt log (knee). It's been Che
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All we can do, as I see it, is do the best we can, with what we have. I am almost 76yrs. Old, by the way.

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Yes, math was torture. I walked out of tests. Was told I had far more potential than I realized. Math made no sense to me and frustrated my parents with my inability to concentrate . It's too late or early in the morning now to respond cohesively. Later

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Hello, Aspenhugger! Age has not improved my ADD/ADHD. It's as much a handicap as ever. Every day is a struggle to do things normal people do without much difficulty. My parents didn't know I had this condition - I'm 74, and back in the 1940's kids like me were bad kids who deserved a spanking. Nobody seemed to think there might be a reason for my problems.

Discalculia! Oh my! My dad was a Math Professor at Penn State, and there I was having no end of difficulty learning arithmetic. I suffered all my way through school. My dad made me sit down every evening and do a page of arithmetic. I could not go to bed until all the problems were done correctly. I'd be crying, and tears would be dropping on the paper as I erased yet another mistake and tried again and again. Multiplication tables, long division, it was pure torture. And in high school I could not comprehend algebra if my life depended on it. I think I passed with a D- only because the teachers didn't want to flunk me.

It was torture. But then I was in my late forties or early fifties and I took a Civil Service test. I didn't know it was possible to study for those tests. I just walked in cold. And there were math problems to do.

It was as if my dad were there (but not in a bad way). All the things he'd made me learn came back, and I got a 92 on the test. I guess he must have loved me. If it was miserable for me, it was miserable for him to spend all that time with a fussing, whining child who can't get it together.

When I was 68 somebody gave me a Teach Yourself Algebra book. I gave it a try and was astounded to find that at age 68 I process things differently. I could see things I never saw when I was a teenager. I believe I'd learn foreign languages differently now that I'm old. I think old people learn differently from young people.

So the discalculia did improve with age. But the ADD/ADHD is still a handicap. I need structure, and without it I just bumble around. Today I decided to change my morning routine. I'm a morning person and it helps if I can get some things done in the morning. If I can't, I'm sunk. By afternoon I'm getting nowhere.

Cognitive/Behavioral counseling? If you can't afford it, you might take a look at Recovery International, formerly known as Recovery Inc.:

www.recoveryinternational.or
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Back in the 1970's there were face to face meetings here (and no internet, of course). Now it's the 21st century and there are online meetings and chats (which I haven't done yet, it's still new to me and I haven't yet made the effort to learn this new way of doing things). The meetings were free. We passed the hat and anyone who had a dollar could put it in, but nobody was turned away.

Recovery Inc. was very valuable and taught me useful cognitive and behavioral skills, and I wasn't paying the price of a therapist. I wish there were face to face meetings around here now in this day and age.

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I so understand that Laurance! There are some things I do well (or normally ... LOL) and other things that are absolutely beyond my ability to do. Sigh. And it's getting worse as I get older. I really struggle with the notion that my ADD is a gift and that I have other abilities and talents as a result of being ADD. If I do, I haven't found them yet, and I sure as the world have found my deficiences that are a result of being ADD. And it makes it worse that my biggest comorbidity is dtscalcula!

I wish I could go for CBT counseling -- I think it would give me some tools I really need. But unfortunately I can't afford it. emoticon

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Thanks for the link to the article. I don't know about helping my miserable ADD/ADHD, but I do know that exercise can help somewhat with depression. And having ADD/ADHD is indeed depressing. I have such a problem with executive function. It's as if there's a part of me that isn't there.

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www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2
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Interesting article about what exercise does for ADD/ADHD brains. I'm sure it works the same for adults as for kids.

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I hope your Spark Break will give you space to do some healing. You sure do have a lot on your plate here.
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He finished Chemo last tuesday. Blood work shows very slim possibility they got it all. Massive! He let it go too long! Colon cancer; cancerous cells in abdominal cavity; and late stage renal disease. Everything still Stage 3.B he just turned 52yrs..

My nerves are shot. Hubby's been ill. 'Friends' turned back and walked away!

Hubby will be 80yrs. In July. I will be 76 in August.

Truthfully, I still have my Faith, my life revolves around my son!

THANK YOU FOR ASKING!

I AM GOING ON SPARK BREAK FOR AN UNKNOWN PERIOD OF TIME!

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What's this? A son fighting cancer? That's heavy-duty! How are you doing?

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Could possibility be. Our daughters both live out-of-state, our son is fighting cancer. No 'visiting' friends. Why 'force's elf to do much cleaning?

I can see me in your observation!

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I see that I am going to have a house guest. That may be the stimulation and structure I need to get some housecleaning done.

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Hello, Janet! I'm glad to see someone posting here. Right this minute I'm having lots of ADD confusion. It's evening and I'm tired and don't have structure to my time.

Maybe tomorrow will be better...
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I am here!

I am a newby!

My name is Janet.

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Has this forum died? Where is everybody?

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Getting lonely in Cyberspace! Where is everybody?

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Oh my gosh! The last post from Judi-Cutie was so long ago! Is anyone posting on this team?

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I am also back from a long SparkPeople break! I gained some weight and I need to really get back on track! I might not post every day, but it's better than once a year!!!

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I am back from a long SparkPeople break. My shrink thinks it may be hard to lose weight because I have been on Prozac for a long time. So I am tapering off that and will start on Wellbutrin which will help with the depression and may be good for my ADD symptoms. I take Adderall XR but don't feel it is very effective except at raising my BP to the point that I had to increase my BP med. Anyone taking or have taken Wellbutrin and have any words of wisdom? Also going to consult with a nutritionist.

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Yes, please steal the idea. There are many of us dealing with this disease. I was just diagnosed 6 years ago, already in my 50's. It took me awhile to get to understand this disease. It all made sense to me why I was always so different and unable to process ideas/thoughts as quickly as others. I also started reading some books that have helped.

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That's a really good idea....I may steal it. Being newly diagnosed I need all the help and support I can get. Heck there are days I even forget to eat.......gonna keep striving forward to find that balance.a emoticon

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I take several meds for various conditions. The only way I remember is that I put them out on my vanity everyday. As I take a med everyday I put it back in the medicine cabinet. I don't miss pills by doing this. I tried using the container that you put pills in and they are marked Saturday - the following Friday. This became a hassle for me so I stopped. As an ADD'r I have to take shortcuts or what is easiest for me.

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So frustrating...I can barely remember to take my meds, let alone try to be healthy. Feeling so overwhelmed I am not sure where to start, what to do. Guess I should just be happy that I even make it to the site once a week. emoticon

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I found this article online. I will say that there are probably other sources or books that may also help.

www.helpguide.org/mental/adhd_add_ad
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Thanks for responding Linda. I wrestle with executive function skills in just about every area of life. Memory and lack of organization are my nemeses! This is situation where will power alone will not prevail!

Do you know of any tools or specific strategies that deal with ADHD symptoms that affect healthy lifestyle change?

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Yes, this is the right place for your message. Sometimes our teams experience less chat than other times...probably due to the good weather. But I love what you are saying! ADHD causes some problems with fitness for some. For me it actually is keeping me focused. Maybe it is just the one thing I think of every morning...like, what am I going to do today? I exercise everyday but not always the doing the same workout. I will also say that ADD, in my case, has often caused some obstacles with my healthy living. I try to eat right everyday. However, i can lose focus and go for more fat or sugar in my diet. Trying to remember to track everyday often helps me, though.

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Where are you all? What's happening with your fitness? How does your ADHD affect your goals here at Spark? What are you doing to battle the obstacles that ADHD puts in the way of healthy living?

Is this the right place for this message?

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