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Similar to KCOCHRA5, I used (still do even though he's 12) the code word "sidewalk". He stops in his track and moves to the side of the parking lot by parked cards. Since we live in a apt bldg, I started using it when he was little and playing in the driveway with his friends. He would even tell his friends to move over as he got older. And continued to use the code word whenever we were out. Stop never worked, but hearing "sidewalk" always did. Key to a code word working is that, in my case, if he didn't move out of the driveway, then he had to go in the house for an hour.

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My eldest son and I had such a lovely chuckle when reading your post.

Jacqui

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I have 3 boys, 1 nephew on my husbands side and 10 nephews on my side. My husband's nephew just had a girl (She won't be too spoiled, huh?!?). We have 4 dogs, 3 cats, 3 turtles, a fish a hermit crab and 2 fire-bellied frogs. I know a king sized water bed holds enough water to fill a 2000 sq ft house 4 inches deep in water. I know a 3 yr old boys voice is louder than 200 adults in a crowded restaurant And I know that a dog leash, attached to a ceiling fan, is not strong enough to lift a 42 pound boy wearing batman underwear and a superman cape. It is strong enough, however, if tied to a paint can, to spread paint on all 4 walls of a 20X20 room! And lastly I know that raising boys is like nailing jello to a tree! And I wouldn't miss a single day of it! It's like living in a frat house!

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Why does this sound so familiar. LOL

My boys certainly try to manipulate all the time. The eldest is 13 and so clever with his comebacks (have to give him credit for that). Because DH is away so often our relationship has changed and is a lot stronger and he regularly tries to take advantage of this. It generally end up with laughter and he accepts I mean what I said the first time. The younger 2 just feed off his lead.

Did the room get cleaned?

Jacqui

Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations to manifest.

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"The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does." James M. Barrie

"Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal; While others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous efforts than ever before." Herodotus


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Life is an amazing adventure with boys - it took me quite a few years to discover that wrestling and punching was their way of showing affection to each other - name calling isn't necessarily mean - and that rude jokes can be funny. With 6 boys between the ages of 2 and 24 - I am still learning! Patience and a good sense of humor are very key. Also - first aid skills and strong nerves! lol. I learned how to catch things - also very important in surviving boys!

Have an attitude of gratitude!! : )

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River (my 5 year old) got a "5 year old BB gun" for Christmas (BB Pistol) It's a tad more dangerous than the regular BB gun he got last year. His Daddy told him not to shoot people or vehicles...so you can imagine everything else that he's thinking is NOT off limits!

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my middle one is the worse....lol...he thinks everything is something to shot hes into EVERYTHING army and any thing he picks up he uses as a weapon...Thank god two of them are in school all day every other day...lol

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LMAO! How funny. I can only imagine what my house will be like in 10 years. (mine are 2 and 5) I'm just now trying to conquer my kids telling ME "NO". My baby is SOOOO mean...but so darn cute that it's hard to be serious while beating him, ya know? I tell him something, he says "NO!" I tell him "QUIT TELLING ME NO!" and he says "NO!" and so I say "DO YOU WANT A SPANKING?" and he says "NO!" so I say, "WELL THEN YOU BETTER BE A GOOD BOY" and of course...he says "NO!". But "no" isn't all he says...for instance, "Cason do you want a cookie" and he says "UH HUH!"

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I can tell you ladies, it doesn't get better with age either. They just find new ways to drive you crazy. The new behavior right not is to think my no really doesn't mean no. This morning for example I told my 12 year old son that he was not making pancakes - I had just cleaned the kitchen and he had not cleaned his room like he had been asked for the last week and I did not wish to reclean the kitchen. He wanted pancakes so he waited until I was very busy and then asked me again if he could make pancakes. I didn't hear him so I didn't answer. He decided since I didn't respond then he could make pancakes.

I smelled the pan heating up and went to check what was hot. I was livid, he had not yet started the batter and I asked him what I had said. He claimed that I had not answered him. I reminded him that I had given him an answer the first time he asked a while ago and what had I said - he kept claiming he had jsut asked me and I had not responded. I continued repeating myself until he had to say that I had said no. I told him that unless I verbally tell him otherwise the answer doesn't change because I didn't respond or he asks his father. The first no goes. Then I was this terrible mean mom who never has food in the house and doesn't feed them. Waaaa. My cabinets are so full of food I can't find room for more but it is not exactly what he wants. I told him that if he were hungry he would eat what we had, so he must not be hungry so he could go to his room and not come out until it was clean. There was much wailing and gnashing of teeth I will tell you but up to his room he went.

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I know some days I think their goal is to see which one can drive me crazy first....LOL
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5,4 and 3 and you are still sane??? good grief!!! mine are 5 and 2...I just can't imagine!!!
nice to meet ya by the way :)

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Way to handle the running away. With little people, you must let them know what is expected and then consequent them if it doesn't happen. You really aren't doing them favors if they get away with it, we call that feeding the mouse.

The leash worked as a consequence and should be reused if he does it again and he should get an immediate time out - on your lap if necessary if he does it again and then hook him up to the leash for at least 10 times.

The mouse in the maze story goes like this.

There was a mouse in the maze and they taught it to run a maze for food. After it learned to run the maze they took away the food. After 5 tries without the food, the mouse stopped running the maze and trying to get the food. If during that 5 times they gave the mouse food once, it would try to run the maze for 10 times before giving up. If during that 10 times they gave the mouse food once it would try 100 times before giving up. Our parenting style is to not feed the mouse. If you want a behavior to stop you must not reward it ever. If you do it will take longer to remove the behavior. So make sure you mean no when you say it because if you take it back even once, you will have to stand your ground at least 10 times, if you take it back twice you will be standing your ground 100 times. I always say, I will have to think about it. Then I do and I never give in.

Timeouts work if used very consistently and you must realize that sometimes you have to be punished too by leaving and not going in if he runs - it can put a damper on your plans as well but in the long run it will be worth it.


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Glad it worked for both of you. Lot's more fun challenges ahead but he will know you mean what you say and this will guide him.

Jacqui

Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations to manifest.

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"Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal; While others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous efforts than ever before." Herodotus


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Thanks everyone. After a few days of the harrness, I asked if he needed it and he said no. So I tried it and on the way into day care (which wasn't the problem) he pointed out "I stay right by you mommy" So I praised him for it. And he has been pretty good since then. But it is always there if needed to do again.

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Don't feel guilty about using a harness to keep your son safe. I have used one with both younger boys and find it to be the greatest thing. They get a sense of independence form not having ot hold my hand, and I know they're safe and can't get out of my reach. It's a win/win situation.

The phrase about being tied to momma's apron strings came from somewhere --- the harness is just an updated version of those strings.

Nobody looks twice at one of the boys wearing it over here, when we went to America to see family 2.5 years ago, the only comments I had were positive - and a lot of older folk wishing they'd had something similar when their children were younger.

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Becky - My 3yr old likes to run in the parking lot, too, and while it always scared me and I got onto him, it scares me even more now. My boss knows a boy - in the same Scouts group as his son - who is technically a quadripulegic. He's going through lots of therapy and experimental stuff to gain some movement and he's actually having some success.

This boy - now 12 - was 20 months when he ran away from his mom in a parking lot and he was hit by a car. He almost died and while they were able to save his life, the spinal injury he suffered is what put him in a wheel chair.

All of the experimental therapy is helping and he may actually walk some day, but none of it is covered by insurance. His mom is single and has another child as well. She created a non-profit org to help raise funds to pay for his therapy - hundreds of thousands of dollars.

I had an opportunity to meet him and he is one of the GREATEST people you could ever know.

But, now, I really make sure I have a hold of my son when we're anywhere near traffic - including in parking lots. I don't even unbuckle his carseat until I have everything else situated (stroller, cart, whatever) so I have his hand in mine as soon as his feet hit the pavement.

And by the way ---- you did not make your son a spoiled brat ---- running away is a game that all kids this age try....some of them give up on the game earlier than others, but they all do it.



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Hi guys, I'm new here and I'm also a new mom. I'm 21 and i was just recently married to a man who has 3 boys. Their ages ar 11, 9, and 7. I need some HELP! I've never done anything like this before, having to be responsible for someone else's life. I grew up looking after my sister who is 3 years younger than me. And my dad had another child, which was a boy, whne I turned 15. So I know a little about little brothers but nothing about raising one, much less 3. My husband has been really supportive and understanding. And on top of all this, I'm trying to lose weight. I might just pull my hair out.

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I am so glad my boys are now a little older (8,11,13). I can so relate to the games - they used to hide amongst the clothes in Kmart and Target. I also used the restraints for a while - got down to one that slipped on the wrist. I even got a friend to scare them to try and let them understand stranger danger. It just sort of clicked in to place. Although the youngest still likes to say "Hi my name is ....." to almost everyone he meets. LOL It does get better, just be firm and consistent as they really do enjoy boundaries.

Jacqui

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I know what you mean I have 3 boys aged 5,4 and 3 and they think its funny to all run in different directions when I take them to the store, it drives me crazy!

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I swear I have somehow created a spoiled little brat. that I don't know what to do with him anymore.
the worst right now is him running away from us in parking lots and thinking it's fun. I know he's only 2 1/2 but he can't do this! This morning I brought him into day care wearing the child harness with the strap like walking a dog! Of coarse right now he thinks its pretty cool.
I am at my wits end. He was doing good, but all of the sudden his whinning and mood is off the deep end.

Sorry, but I just had to get this out today.

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