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12/19/11 9:38 P

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There are so many and of course they change constantly, but I have found one of my greatest challenges to be perfectionism and unrealistic expectations held by my daughter. She wants to do things or make things that are beyond her age and skill level, or have me make things beyond my skill level and ability, and when I can't or it isn't just perfect she gets extremely upset. I hate to tell her no we can't do this or mommy can't build a Swiss Family Robinson tree house for her. I don't want to shut down her imagination and creativity. I feel like I'm often telling her no and I hate it. I feel like a rotten mom.

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12/18/11 9:27 P

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Discipline. My son didn't hit the the terrible twos until he was 3. He really knows how to push my buttons.

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12/15/11 10:26 A

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Staying calm. I wish I yelled less. My daughter definitely has her bad days, but mostly she is a pretty great kid. I just don't have as much patience as I think some other moms have.

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12/14/11 11:40 A

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my son and his defiant NO....age 2

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12/13/11 11:28 A

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My 4 year old's attitude. Potty training was a breeze.

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12/13/11 8:41 A

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I would have to say potty training and discipline. My son know how to pee on the potty but not #2. He always goes and hides in places to do it to. I have been doing the regular underwear thing so I am hoping it works.
As for the discipline he spends 3 days a week with my parents while I am at work. They aren't as firm in disciplining as I am and it shows. I have discussed it with them many times. The last couple days I have gone over there in the evenings when my son needed disciplining I explained to my parents what I was doing and the reasoning behind it. Hopefully it will work

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I would definitly say potty training. Its been a struggle to do it at homeand she finally has it... but i have this big fear of taking her out in regular underwear... only becuase i tried one time and i constantly asked her if she needed to use the bathroom and she told me no.. next thing you know im in line ( a forever line ) and i turn around and she is squating on the floor urinating in front of everyone (Wal-Mart). She does a great job at home, but i wont get over the fear of taking her out.

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12/11/11 11:12 A

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My greatest challenge of parenting so far is potty training my daughter. She is not trying to let her diapers so. I have done every trick in the book. I have tried the snacks, letting her walk around naked, just putting underwear on her, etc. Nothing is working. I dont want my daughter to turn three and still be in pull ups. I have ran out of ideas.

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11/30/11 10:54 A

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Lack of sleep (he STILL doesn't sleep through the night reliably!) and worrying that what I'm doing is the right thing. He's at an age where he starts testing the boundaries, and being very frustrated when things don't go his way. Knowing how and when to discipline is tough. But last night he "apologized" to me! We were playing, and he got a little over-wild and slapped me, so I promptly put him down on the floor and said we weren't going to play anymore, because he hurt me. A few minutes later, he came over to me again, crawled up onto my lap and hugged me, then touched me gently (as we keep teaching him to do) on the face and hair, and hugged once more. I considered that a sincere apology!

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Anything with the mouth except bad words~ licking anything,sticking out the tongue,sassy attitude.

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8/11/11 9:53 A

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Virgil does the same thing. as long as you can get the pedialite in him he will be ok. they eat when they are hungry they will eat. i can remember my parents used to tell us we cldnt leave the table til our plate was clear. but that wasnt rly fair to us because sometmes they wld pile on more than we were hungry for. both of my kids go back and forth from eating very little to nothing to eating the house out of food. lol so just hang in there

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8/11/11 9:48 A

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I wouldnt call me a smart parent by any means, I dont even think there is such a thing lol however i have been through that with my 3 yr old. He absolutely loves to play the wii and his d.s. (although i put time limits on how long otherwise thats all he would do) but when he wld throw a fit i would ground him from both for 3 days (a day for every year old he is) he eventually got to learn that his fit throwing was not ok because i took away his main love. so, figure out what her absolutely favorite thing is and when she does 'what she does' lol take it away for every yr old she is=how many days. it may not work for you but it did for me. :) best of luck

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8/11/11 2:50 A

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So far the hardest thing for me has been accepting my own faults and realizing I can't be a perfect parent but I can still love my children just as much. You know those moments when you are about to absolutely lose it or you yell at your child and afterwards you feel horrible? I'm sure I'm not the only one, but those are the moments that have been hard for me. As my son gets older I realize that my husband and I have raised one happy go lucky kid, so we can't be doing too bad.

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Trying to figure out which battles to fight. Pretty much any one thing is usually not worth fighting over, but sometimes I just feel like I never get to win anything. Sometimes I just want my 2 yo to listen to me just because I'm the mom. He's not bad, he's just every inch of two, feeling his way and challenging EVERYTHING.

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Potty training sucks. But I think my hardest thing is getting my son to listen to other people. He thinks Mommy and Daddy are the only people he has to listen too. So we're working on fixing that.

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The hardest part is when I have family telling me that my kids are [insert any negative comment you have heard about your kids]. I'm not the perfect parent, but I don't think I'm bad. I have a DD (3) and a DS (15 mo) and their dad is in Iraq. It's hard enough not to judge myself, but to have people that supposedly love me judge them is just down right horrible. I struggle not to cry my eyes out about it. I know they cry, a lot, but they've got a lot of stress in their lives. It's the hardest thing not to be like "please, just leave me alone!"

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I'm pretty thankful, my little girl is pretty good, but trying to teach her that crying doesn't get her what she wants has been a challenge! It's like Jeckyl and Hyde...one second an angel and the next second the devil pays a visit! I seriously don't understand it. We don't coddle her when she's crying for no reason either. Any advice from all you smart parents who may have been through it?

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My biggest challenge is explaining to my 5 year old why he is expected to have different behavior than his 2 yr. old brother who has developmental delays. The expectations are different, the punishments are different, the ability to understand rules is different. It feels unfair to my 5 yr. old.

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Teaching my oldest who is 8 that listening is not an option! She has reached the age where mom and dad know nothing. She's even got the eye roll!

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Getting my daughter to understand that throwing a temper tantrum is not the solution for getting what she wants.




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Getting him to eat! My son will literally go days consuming nothing but pediasure. It's so frustrating. It's like I have a biological imperative to feed my child, he needs to eat to grow and thrive and I'm hardwired to provide that for him. When he refuses it sets off all sorts of stress and makes me obsess about food, and how to get him to eat. I'll be so glad when he grows out of this phase.

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learning to share!

In God my heart trusts. ----Proverbs 28:7

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

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6/27/11 3:16 A

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Sleep! My 4 year old still does not sleep through the night. She is in her own bed, in her own room, but wakes up a few times a night. She also suffers from night terrors. She gets plenty of sleep, as far as hours goes. I can't help but wonder what all the waking up does for her though! Plus, I miss my sleep!! emoticon

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6/1/11 3:04 P

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Getting my kids to nap!

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6/1/11 9:22 A

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I have seen the same with my 6 yr old. She comes home from K with some pretty interesting stuff to say. BUt you know, the funny thing is that she said worse things in preschool. I have been to a lot of the school functions and a couple kids are a little unruly and the moms seem not to have a lot of control. I try to give her play dates with the children that I would like her to be with without sayin that to her.

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6/1/11 8:55 A

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My oldest is 8 yrs old and has just now begun to take an interest in being with her friends all the time. The hardest part is un-teaching things she hears at school that aren't in line with what we believe or how we have taught our kids...without giving her the idea that her friends are "bad" or deserve to be looked down upon.

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Now that the big hurdle~Potty Training is done[he's 3 and 1/2 ]~ I would say still working on him to be polite in replying when people greet him!

Edited by: MOMWANTSNOWAIST at: 5/31/2011 (03:33)
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5/26/11 6:28 P

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My son (will be 3 on July 5) is still nursing. He won't stop. He is getting better but nights are the worse. I tried putting some hot sauce on myself, he liked it. I tried lemon juice, he likes that. The vinegar, he doesn't like too much, but I don't like smelling like it either. I am going to school 4 days this spring semester so that kind of helps. Sometimes he gets on a kick though and wants it all day long. I tell him no, his says "mine". AAAAHHHH!!!

I love the bond, but geeze it hurts now!

And is doesn't sleep through the night yet. My daughter slept through the night at 8 weeks! He also has bad temper tantrums. My daughter didn't do that that much either. What a difference!

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My 4 yo is still not potty trained. He wears underwear four days a week half a day and manages to hold it. He then will ask for a pull up and it often is not 5 minutes before he is asking to be changed. We are getting serious now as I am making him keep his promise that he will potty train when we get through with the current package of pull ups. I may have a wet floor but if he finally gets the idea that momma aint playing I will put up with it. We have hardwood floors so I do not have to worry about stains or lingering smell.



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5/25/11 7:43 P

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I agree on the potty training. We have been working on it by going nakey and he will hold it til it hurts him or he can't anymore. He won't go on the potty, but he will go the second I pull the pull ups up.
I've taught him sign language (close to 200 signs), his alphabet, numbers, colors, animals (a lot of them). Taught him how to dress himself, working on reading, how to pick up after himself all by the age of two. He turned two in April.
We are going to take a break on consistant potty training and get back to it in a month or so. Maybe he will be ready by then.

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5/5/11 10:44 P

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The potty training itself wasn't so bad, but the irrational fears irritate me to no end. My oldest couldn't use public toilets if they had black seats for the longest time. Now she will use them, but she needs me in the stall with her. If it has an automatic flusher I need to cover it while she goes so it won't flush on her. Meanwhile I can't take care of her younger sister who is blossoming into a very independent reliable child.

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This is huge for me too.


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My oh my I can relate (minus the potty training ) A dynamic, little lady of 3.5 is so amusing and rewarding yet soooo challenging for me. My first was laid back, mellow and easy so I feel like I am parenting for the first time in many respects.

Last night at JK info session, she raised her hand in our full class of staff, teachers and parents when asked if anyone had a questions (pertaining to the presentation) and asked quite seriously what dress is is french ? Add to that a little demonstration of impatience and you can say my daughter is already known. This is hard as I am a introvert and don't manage attention well! She is teaching me everyday:)

Overall "not listening" gives me the biggest grief everyday.....
Singing her up for kinder karate perhaps next week, they say this may help and be something suitable for her....

will visit your site...

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Edited by: INSIGHT4LIFE at: 5/13/2011 (09:40)

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Not letting the stress or anger from one situation with one child affect my other children. The loud or angry words that are said in the heat of the moment are one the worst long-term things that we can do to children, so it is one of the hardest but most worthwhile challenges to BITE MY TONGUE when I'm stressed out or upset.

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The most challenging thing for me is keeping a steady routine and being consistent with discipline. It's hard not to laugh most of the time when my sons do something terrible, because it is usually also pretty funny.

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I think potty training was the greatest accomplishment of my life. I am the mother of a strong willed, high energy 4 yr. old boy who is also also very smart. He is always curious about the specifics of how things work( digestion, plumbing inside water fountains, the specific directions and roads when in the car,etc.) and can get easily frustrated when he can't figure things out for himself or if anything is done differently, (he remembers exact specifics of object placement).

Right now he is challenging because he wants to do things perfectly. He gets frustrated if he is having difficulty doing it correctly. For example he is trying to read (totally self motivated , at preschool he is learning the letter K right now)
I am teaching him that its ok not to be so exact with things but he likes to "get it right" or be the winner (in games)

Does anyone have any suggestions how to get a self motivated child to relax and just try for the sake of just participating in a new activity instead of "getting it right". I'm worried he will miss out on a lot for fear of "doing it wrong"

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Maintaining my patience with my own kids after working all day with teenagers! emoticon

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The most difficult thing for me is the testing behaviours. My 3 year old is very spirited and very strong-willed (much like I was and still am), he likes to do things his own way and in his own time. He is very smart and advanced well beyond the other kids in his preschool, so sometimes its hard to remember that he is only 3.

Potty training was a pain in the ass!! So glad that's dealt with.

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Caraamber I know what your saying. My 3 yo would do the same thing if I put Cheerios in the toilet that's why I have hesitated trying that trick. We are down to bribing him but that does not seem to be working either; I think he is a little too smart for us.



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Potty Training and getting him to sleep in his own bed.

You can make it a great day or not. The choice is yours.


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I completely agree with Potty Training...my four year old daughter was finally completely potty trained by 3, and my son who turned two this last June has really yet to be interest in potty training. People keep telling me to put cheerios in the toilet and let him aim for them, but the problem with my son is knowing him he'd go dig them out and eat them...we have to constantly shut the bathroom door because of his fascination with the toilet in a bad way, he has been known to drink the water out of the bowl or put anything and everything in the toilet.

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Maintaining my cool and not getting angry for typical 3 year old behaviors. It can be difficult when they don't respond right away or push buttons. I remind myself not to get angry and keep my compsure, he is learning to exert himself and this is how it is manifesting itself. I sound like I get angry all the time, however, that isn't the case, but it happens enough for me to become aware of it.

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A strong willed 3 year old daughter. My husband and I get in more "discussions"over how to deal with her when NOTHING seems to work. My stress level is usually so high by lunchtime I wind up eating anything sweet in sight to give me some kind of happiness, although we all know that doesnt last long. I spend most of my time refereeing her that my 6 month old sometimes gets just left to play on the floor a lot because he is so good I know he will be ok for 10 mins while I deal with her. Then I feel guilty for not spending enough time giving him one on one attention. I look forward to Tues and Thurs when she goes to preschool cause thats my time with him. Poor guy!

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I would have to say when Dad isn't home! Whether it's the normal 24 hour shifts, or traveling for two weeks... my son (almost 4) just doesn't know what to do with himself. And, for all the watching DH interact with him, I can't figure out what it is that I am missing. So, we struggle when DH is not here.
Of course, I have realized that my attitude makes a HUGE difference on how I feel about the situation (if not how I handle it), so working out and eating better is improving everything :-)

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...how to get BACK to sleep when my preschooler who's going through potty training/and has difficulty sleeping through the night~~wakes me up!
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Unfortunately Mt Mama some of your 3 yo's bad behavior could be because of his new brother. My 5 yo still goes through periods of it but they still love each other and often play well together. Its just one of those things you have to put up with .

Just to warn you one bad thing about an older sibling can be that he will tell the younger one he does not have to do something until he is (fill in the age); i.e. my 5 yo told his 3 yo brother he does not have to be potty trained until he is 4 yo.



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After reading about the loss and almost loss of a child my challenges seem inconsequential but right now my husband and I are struggling with our little boy who is 3. He is testing us at EVERY turn. Bad language- thanks Grandpa!- no sleeping, hitting and just bad behavior in general. He has always been a dream child so I guess we're due but I think a lot of it is coming out because of his new baby bro. Ugh!

My Mantra "this too shall pass" I say this a lot as I hold him in time out emoticon

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I have the same problem with my 3 yo. The way I handle it is I only put my foot down when it is absolutely necessary. For example when it is below 50 to 60 degrees I insist on at least shoes. Below 40 I insist on socks and shoes. When we go to certain places; the doctors, church, preschool. When we go to the store he generally wants to ride in the cart so I don't sweat it. If he decides to walk I tell him not unless he puts his shoes on.

I will not say it works all the time but there are less fights and tears.



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Making my daughter keep her shoes on.

Seriously.

She is a great girl... smart and well behaved (for a two year old) and sweet... But nothing in this world can make her keep her shoes on. Time outs, talking to her, nothing... I don't know if it's because I insist on no shoes in the house, but everywhere else she goes inside she will not keep her shoes on. She will put herself in time out after taking them off but still fight the shoes going back on.

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For me the greatest challenge has been patience. Dealing with the face that my daughter is only 3 and not an adult and she doesn't understand or remember everything. Everyday is a struggle but I am learning :)

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There are so many challenges you face as a parent and they are always changing. For me, at the moment, is my 5 year old's attitude - she gives you attitude for everything!!! From rolling her eyes to talking back and I know she gets all these "bad habits" from my cousin's 10 year old daughter. But my cousin and I are both only children so we grew up more as sisters than cousins and it's hard for me to keep my distance from her family. She has 3 kids and they have no respect for her, it's sad. We baptized her son and he spends most school breaks with us and he's a totally different person when he's with us. And with my 1 year old it's potty training and getting her to sleep in her own bed. Yep, we made the BIG mistake of letting her into our bed and now we can't get her out. LOL!!! She goes to the potty when she wants to - she'll bluntly tell you yes she wants to go or no she's not going to go. She is something else!!!

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My 11 year old son, Noah, had cancer last year. He was well at Christmas, and by February 8th he was so sick he had to be life-flighted to the nearest hospital (3.5 hours away from our tiny mountain village).

My children are all gifted, and challenging them has been a constant struggle--because they get evil very quickly when the challenge level drops. But none of their antics or shennannigans come close to nearly losing one of them.

Facing their mortality nearly destroyed me.

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Will agree with that one lizspringsteen. My 5 yo has started some things I know he has picked up from the bus and/or school mates.

How to explain to children without scaring them that mommy and daddy both lost their jobs and things may be a little stressful for a while.



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Trying to get my kids to stop their cussing which they learn from their bus-mates.

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A relapse of not sleeping through the night!

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Realizing that I can't reason with a 2 year old. I'm on kid number three and I still haven't been able to grasp that. Ugh!

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Potty training. I also deal with in-laws that live 200 ft away and love to spoil my boys too!!

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Consciously attempting to be a good example for my 5 year old girl. We play, but I need to spend more time with her.

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potty training sucks.

But the following are also challenging to deal with:
"Mom, how does the baby get in your tummy?" (asked by a 5 year old, then again at 7 when I actually answered)
"Mom, what does abortion mean?" (asked by an 8 year old)
"Mom, are you and Dad going to get divorced?" (well, actually that one wasn't challenging, it was funny because my hubby and I are blissfully happy & just happened to be having a rare and minor disagreement in front of the kids!)

but by far the greatest challenge we have had in parenting was to explain to our 2 and 4 year olds that their baby sister died. not fun.

of course potty training is almost as bad (haha- bad joke! I REALLY hate potty training!!)

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Mrsjet I don't know how old your daughter is but my 3 1/2 year old is still very independent and hard headed and as he ages I think it is getting worse because he is able to do more and more on his own (or he thinks he can). With him it is his way or a tantrum. I too try to pick my battles but some days it is hard especially since he has an older brother that sometimes can make things worse.

Kaileighk I can understand what you are going through. Both sets of my boys grandparents live in the same town as us. With my mom it is lollipops and gum at 7:30 in the morning, gummies or cookies (generally animal crackers) or yogurt whenever they want, even it is just before a meal time. With my mother-in-law it is coke, cookies, gummies and probably other things how ever much they want and whenever they want even if it is close to supper time.



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Patience!

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The tantrums! My daughter is so stubborn, it's unbelievable! We spent 20 minutes outside of a restaurant as she screamed, for no reason other than she did not want to sit at the table we had chosen. She is very independent (which I'm not totally against) and demands her way. I pick my battles, but try to be consistent and let her have them without giving in. When they are everyday and sometimes seemingly all day it gets tiring, but I know she will grow out of it (or so I hope!)

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Putting my daughter in prek4 next year. She has been with me since birth and I am having anxiety about it. emoticon

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Potty Training again, he likes to pee on the steps!! Yesterday we wore underwear again and got mad when Mom took them off, since he peed in them!!

Keep it up and start everyday as a new day!!!


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So far biggest parenting challenge is GRANDPARENTS!! My parents (especially mother) absolutely love to go against the grain on anything I say and want, just to spite me because thats what they think being a grandparent is all about. Its the whole junk food for break fast, tv at bed time, spurlge at the toy store even with bad behavior kind of thing. Ive even had my mother remove my daughter from the corner after Ive placed her there!! It drives me crazy!

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my biggest challenge is getting my kids to like school. they are 6 & 4, and HATE it. they would rather be at home with me all day.



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What hasn't been a challenge? I'm surviving the not always amusing Autism Spectrum from the oldest, a feeding tube and unknown medical issues from the middler, and unending energy with no desire to speak from the baby. All on my own 4.5 days a week, and with DS1's bio-father occasionally making a blip on my radar screen. Its a new and different challenge everyday. And that is why they're so cute when they cuddle up to me and go to sleep....it keeps me sane and makes me want to keep on with the challenges!

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Right now it is potty training with my little one.

I can do it. My success or failure is ultimately up to me.


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Is just plain ole being a parent..Should I punish or not, should I let him go or not, is this the right choice, will this scar him for life!!! etc...and the worry the constant worry of what if what I'm doing now will effect them later....????

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The hardest for me has been trying to explain why mommy and daddy don't live together =(

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Mine is trained during the day, but still wears pull ups at night. She's 4 and it's frustrating! One of my biggest challenges right now though is the attitude from my 14 teen and 9 almost 10 year old! HELP!!!

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my two youngest are only 22 months apart also and they do seem to trade off who is going to wake me up at night, who has the attitude, etc. I feel like they are connected in some way without being twins.

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I too agree potty training has been challenging. I have a 3 1/2 yo who still is not trained, his brother was almost 4 1/2 when he got trained.

For me having two boys only 22 months apart their attitudes can be challenging on how to handle them. They seem to alternate one week its the oldest one who has attitude problems, the next it is the youngest. Hopefully I can both in a good mood on the same day.



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my 2 yo won't even look at the potty, refuses to even try. My biggest challenge it getting her to go to sleep without fighting it so much and coming up with excuses of why she can't go to sleep.

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I have to agree with you, at least.... this has been a busy time for me :) and yes... very challenging! I'm training two 2 year old boys, one who's totally into it and one that seems to forget half the time ;)

So yes, I'm with you on this one!

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The greatest challenge for me in parenting so far is potty training!

In God my heart trusts. ----Proverbs 28:7

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