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6/20/12 5:14 P

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I really appreciate both Judy and Gloria for allowing me to share the stress that I have been going through this week. I do have good news today. The Dr. allowed Mary Ann to leave the hospital here a couple of hours ago so that she can be taken to Nashville (that is where she and our son live) to have rehab there (probably for 6 weeks).. They will stay overnight in Baton Rouge and depart early tomorrow morning. Our granddaughter, Toni, from Boston will be in the car with her parents and of course they have instructions on what to do should Mary Ann start experiencing any type of discomfort and the importance of stopping frequent for her to get out of the car and walk around for awhile. It is comforting to know that I can share this with you..

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6/20/12 12:53 A

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Hello Carol,

I am so glad that you were able to come to us and share your problems. As you saw, Gloria has experienced some of the things your DIL is experiencing. She can share with you her experience and her wisdom based on that experience. I do not have any experience with heart problems, but I do have a very strong shoulder upon which you can lean if you need to.

I have been to your city a couple of times and know the distance from there to New Orleans. One of my favorite places in LA is Avery Island. Have you gone up there? When things calm down, and they will, take yourself off on some sort of retreat. You need to take care of yourself too!

Keep safe!!!

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6/19/12 9:29 P

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Carol, the place where we 'chat' is the very first thread, called "Let's Have A Cozy Chat Over A Cup Of Tea".
It was okay to talk in here but best to go there to chat. I'll try to pop in daily.
You certainly are having some stressful days! I hope your daughter in law is coming along okay? It's a good thing you got her to emergency so they could tend to her and now the healing can begin. I've had a heart attack too and also two heart bypasses, the last one was last fall, so I understand what this is all about. Very worrisome time but keep your chin up and keep a positive attitude, that really helps these kind of situations.
Most of us tend to eat whatever during stressful times Carol, just do your best and try to get back on track, for your own sake. You'll stay healthier in order to cope.

I hope this helps you a bit, you're not alone, come in and talk/vent/cry, there is always someone to listen and reply.

I'm off to bed shortly, I'm an early riser and tomorrow I have a Curves session first thing! I'll look for you on the chat thread tomorrow, okay? Let me know how your son's wife is doing, you can even go on my page to talk to me!
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CHB91871 Posts: 642
6/19/12 9:10 P

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Gloria, I know this may sound as though I don't have a clue but can you tell me if the "chat thread" is something different than what I am on now?

I have had some very stressful days starting with Sunday when one of my daughter-in-laws, her name is Mary Ann, was in town without our son (he was at there home in Nashville) and I received a call asking me to pick her up and take her to the emergency room which I did. She thought she was having complications from Lupus (which she has had for 12 years) but she was actually having a heart attach when I got her to the emergency room and had surgery that night without our son being here. It was so hard to tell him on the phone that his wife was having a heart attach and being taking into surgery. I really haven't been eating right since Sunday either. Have made 2 trips to New Orleans airport one to pick our son up yesterday and then again this morning to pick up their daughter who lives in Boston and most of the rest of the time I have been at the hospital. Is this a proper place to be sharing this time of information for support in times of stress?

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6/19/12 3:33 P

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Hi Carol, nice to meet you! Sparks is the best healthy lifestyle site on the net, I'm glad you chose to join. Have you been on the chat thread yet? That's generally where we all find support and encouragement, make new friends, share our days, etc.
Look forward to seeing you there!
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CHB91871 Posts: 642
6/19/12 3:25 P

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Hi Gloria, my name is Carol and I live in Baton Rouge LA and have only been a member since May 23rd. I look forward to sharing with you.

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6/19/12 10:15 A

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Very good thread here! I totally agree with Judy that sharing experiences often helps others. And I do think the majority of us care when someone posts, maybe some just do not have the time to respond to every post, maybe?

I'm new but not new on here, I had been a member of this team for years and once was leader but left for various reasons. Well, I rejoined today and look forward to seeing you folks on the chat thread! Let's get in there and share our days, encourage one another and just plain gab!
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6/14/12 12:33 P

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My post yesterday was not meant to elicit sympathy, rather to show the life changing effect that sharing can have. Had my friend not shared her experience my life would have been considerably different.

I have found that sharing of Ideas and experiences to be beneficial to almost all parties to a conversation. Even the person who describes their problem or idea benefits from that expression. When I discuss my experiences I am better able to formulate new ideas and practices. I know more about what I have done and what I can change to make my experience better.

Your feedback helps me to see more clearly the real situation I am experiencing and I can improve my status accordingly. Give and take is important in the scheme of things. Perhaps that is why humans have developed our communication skills.

Thank you for allowing me to clarify my thoughts.

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6/13/12 11:07 P

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You are certainly right, Judy. Participating serves to involve us and keep us on track. I'm sorry you were battered and very happy that you corrected that situation.
My weight gathered onto me when I quit smoking 15 years ago, and I'm sure getting older and slower helped. I'm trying to move more these days. So far, minimal success on the scale, but I am quite proud of how much I can get done in a day.

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6/13/12 8:54 P

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Participation in these forums is critical for gathering new ideas and solutions. If we don't share none of us will do as well, and our goals become less attainable. I'd like to share with you some of my experience.

I was a battered wife for many years. I always thought it was my fault and that I deserved what I got. I also thought that I was the only one who was treated like that. Then one day I was sitting at a lunch table with a large group when one woman described the work she was doing in a women's shelter. She told us that most of her clients thought they were the only ones and that they all thought they deserved that treatment. She must have recognized something in my eyes because she became really explicit about what the women with whom she worked voiced.

After that conversation it took me only two months to exit the situation with all of my children and establish a new and far more peaceful home. If she hadn't shared the consequences could have been tragic, they were headed in that direction.

Sharing our experiences is helpful to both ourselves and those with whom we associate. Keeping our problems to ourselves leads nowhere. We don't find solutions and neither do others. Participation is important, no matter how small are your problems or successes there is always someone who will benefit from what you share.

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CHB91871 Posts: 642
6/13/12 11:35 A

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Yes, I do. I really enjoy the devotion every morning and reading what other are doing. It is inspiring to see that others in their 70's have are trying to lose weight and are successful.

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6/13/12 10:43 A

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I think forums help. I have been away fro Spark and slowly getting back into it.

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3/11/12 7:46 P

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And besides that, many times when I voice (type) a problem I get a lot of replies from people having the same reaction. It makes me feel like its not just my problem, but our problem. The suggestions to correct it are also very good and inspiring.
I also live alone, but I volunteer at something five days a week and go to Church on Sunday, so I pretty much talk to adults every day. When I don't, on Saturday, or when I feel lonely in the evening, there you all are!
Please, there is no such thing as a useless blog.

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3/11/12 7:34 P

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Sharon, I care! Anyone that doesn't care doesn't understand how much we can learn from others so why waste a chance to learn. Most folks on here are nice and they won't attack you if you say something they don't agree with so this is a safe place to speak out and, like I said, you benefit from the act of putting your thoughts together on a subject - any subject.

When I took command of a Navy aviation squadron the first thing I did was destroy the suggestion box because no ideas ever went into it. Instead, people put obscene stuff in the box. I told the squadron that if anyone had an idea they thought needed to be heard they were to submit it to their supervisor and no one but me was authorized to turn down a suggestion and I would personally explain why the idea wasn't incorporated. One young sailor submitted 17 handwritten pages recommending a change to the squadron training program. It was reviewed by our senior NCOs and they recommended approval. I did, got the sailor an award, and in one year the squadron went from last to first in the Air Wing. Everyone in the squadron got an award for that and the sailor went on to have a great career. I tell this story to show how important it is to listen to others irrespective of their position in an organization or life.

So - speak up everyone - we want to hear what you have to say.

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3/11/12 5:00 P

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I agree with Sharon. I suspicion that a lot of members wonder if any one cares if they post. I wonder what a good way would be to let people know we are interested in what they say and miss them when they don't post.

I want to thank Lew for continually opening new topics for us to think about and discuss. Living by myself and frequently not seeing anyone for 2 or 3 days at a time, I really enjoy having something new to think about.

Hope is here-Perfection isn't

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Your comment about sitting when we are typing brought to mind the "desk" outside of each room when I was in the hospital. They were all at the correct height for standing typing. Perhaps we should look for those desks for our homes. I don't think it would be terribly difficult to construct one either. Hmmm!

And there is another reason to post. We do care what you have to say. It triggers our thoughts and imagination. We draw from the experience of others. So please post away.

Love, Judy

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3/11/12 1:37 P

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Your theory is fine. Here's an idea for exercising while participating. If you have an exercise ball, sit on it while you type. It makes you sit up straight, tightens your tummy muscles, and improves your balance.

And one reason I sometimes don't post. Does anyone really care what I think? I believe that would apply to a lot of other people, too.

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3/11/12 1:10 P

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I've been thinking about why more people don't participate in these conversations and I have a theory. My theory is that most people just don't understand how much the activity helps them. If they understood that getting involved at our age has many physical and mental health benefits then maybe they could overcome their reluctance. I'll leave the reasons for reluctance for another conversation.

Part and parcel with my theory is that the main benefit is to mental health. I really believe that the mental exercise of putting together my thoughts for a post keeps me mentally sharp. If I burn one calorie while typing that's a physical bonus. Research has proven that challenging our mind helps maintain mental acuity. If we post something and we develop a connection with another member that actually helps our self image.

The only fitness drawback is that we're sitting as we type but I find I still have enough time to exercise. As we participate we may find something that helps us overcome a physical obstacle and our physical health improves. There may be other physical benefits but they escape me at the moment.

Please feel free to blow holes in my theory. You won't hurt my feelings and I sure won't flame you for doing so.

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