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4/3/10 6:17 A

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I feel Whatever about it. People shouldn't need a day to remind them about love, and the way companies push it for profit is disgusting.

I did feel Nay at school when the girl (dating the guy I asked out and was rejected by) talked to others about the gifts he bought her.

"For every dark night there is a brighter day..."


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2/15/10 8:27 P

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Thanks for including the website. I had thought about asking you about it. Sounds interesting.

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Tks for explaining S.A.D. I feel that's not really what it should be called either, what is it that singles should be aware of? Or is it to make others be aware of singles? Then to have it as SAD, like teary eyed. Different.

It's so gorgeous out! Like March or April!! Definitely not February. Got to thank El Nino for that.

The site is ConnectingSingles.com I like that there is a mix from all over the world on the main site, then a breakdown of forums for different countries. Plus quizzes, games, polls etc. So its different than a typical date site as its more a social scene. The guy I'm talking to, we've exchanged pictures of our area, are connected as he lives in the far north and I used to, so already in a hour I made a new efriend. There is some trolling and some scamming, it looks like from the rules and boxes on the site that the moderators are very aware. There is an easy way to report inappropriate posts or emails. From what was said on boards, even though moderators and owner are quiet and behind the scenes, they deal with things quickly. They have warnings posted on how to stay safe, how to deal with scams. There is a IM on the site, so easy to chat and other ways to communicate like send flowers, send a buzz etc. Just nice to not have it set up like a meat market, as I had accidentally hit a Match.com ad when I was in Facebook and it reminded me why I hate those sites. The only thing I didn't like on this on was they rate photos and to me, that's not adult. That's very teen orientated and considering many have their faces up in photos, that can be demeaning. Still...that's the only drawback so far.

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2/15/10 2:22 P

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Sounds like we all had an enjoyable V-Day! :)

S.A.D. stands for single awareness day. Part of the reason I think it is so depressing to call it that is because I know I'm single and don't need a day to be reminded of that.

Anyway, hope everyone is having a fantastic Monday!

P.S. Sassi, I'm curious as to which website you were on. Mind sharing the info?



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2/15/10 2:53 A

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Glad you dropped in. Snowdrop walk, that sounds lovely. The recipe with salmon sounds absolutely delicious!! What a great way to spend the day. :)

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2/15/10 1:39 A

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Hi - I am new here, I donít feel at all lonesome either being or living alone. So I donít feel the need to pay attention to Valentineís Day. Same as alicotter - just another day.

I went a snowdrop walk on Saturday, along with my niece and family. That is what I like about mid February - signs of Spring on the way. Sunday 14th, I made up a nice new recipe of salmon with asparagus, french beans, mushrooms, broccoli, cauliflower, and garlic. All cooked in a foil parcel.
I felt almost guilty eating it alone - certainly didnít feel deprived.

Nice to read all your posts. I am still working my way round here, only joined a few days ago.

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2/14/10 7:38 P

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Sounds like folks have had good stuff to do today. I'm having a lazy day despite the fact that I woke up at 7:30AM ready to go into work, to do files without anyone around. Never did make it. Watched a movie - Practical Magic - then found a social site that has forums for different countries, so it has a real international flavour and is 100% free. It's a dating site, however, its more a social site the way it's set up. Chatted with a fellow from the true north and he's sending me photos of his area. It was fun. Waiting for my nephew to be ready, then he's coming here to help me bring up boxes from my car and my laundry has to come up. Haven't decided if I can carry the laundry or not. (back injury) It's gorgeous out, my bedroom window is sparkling and I should have also done the balcony. In fact, I think I'll do that now. The moving stuff is getting done slowly.....

Nice wishes for Vday. Pretty. Have a good one!

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2/14/10 2:09 P

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The girls and I have walked 6kms so far today and they are now both sleeping. I also did 75 mins at the gym, my gift to me.

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2/14/10 11:53 A

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Happy Valentine's Day, I hope everyone is sharing it with someone that you love. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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2/14/10 10:21 A

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2/14/10 3:59 A

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I make my favorite meal of linguine and clams, have a glass of wine, and watch a bunch of chic flicks. Valentine's Day has been a favorite of mine in that I embrace my singleness. I used to not like it when I was in my early 20s because it seemed to celebrate couples (happy or not) on that one day and it was too commercial. But now it gives me a chance to enjoy my special day. emoticon Happy Valentine's Day, everyone!!!

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2/12/10 6:49 P

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I'm curious what does S.A.D. stand for in regards to Valentines. I only know it as seasonal affective disorder. I think it's great to have a Valentine's movie night, that'll be fun.

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2/12/10 5:09 P

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My attitude towards Valentine's is eh...whatever. Even when I was in relationships I didn't stress out about it. Just another holiday.

This year I decided to invite some friends over and watch movies. I don't really like the acronym of S.A.D. because that just sounds depressing. So I'm calling it a Valentine's movie night. We will probably watch something like 10 Things I Hate About You, or How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. LOL It should be fun and relaxing. I'm looking forward to it!

Happy Valentine's to all of you!
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Intersting to read the feedback and as others have said awesome positive attitudes. Love that some folks simply let it slide without worry and others plan a fun day/evening. Very cool.

Adlins I was mixed bag when I was in a relationship. My last relationship I recognized the day, knew he wouldn't as it was such a stressful day - he was the kitchen manager of a major restaurant, so to him it was one killer day! So I spoiled him when he got home - via distance but still - and he spoiled me all year round. Win win in my eyes. *grin*



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2/12/10 3:41 P

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I used to DREAD Valentines Day, but this year not so much.. which is weird because I am sooooo very single this year. I am going to get a bottle of wine, a couple movies, and curl up on the couch with my dog valentines night. Totally happy with that!

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2/8/10 12:41 P

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I don't really pay that much attention to the day either. Even if I'm dating, I don't think it should be a production. I'd rather have little things throughout the year that a big production on one "special" day.

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2/6/10 10:49 A

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I have never really paid that much attention Valentine's day. Just another day the media says we should do something or feel something.

I find it interesting that very few of my married fiends do anything on the day. Their husbands long ago forgot it and they got tried of expecting something that wasn't going to happen.

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2/5/10 2:41 P

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FYI... this is the poem that went out with our pub crawl invite!
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Roses are red
Violets are blue
If you hate VD
This pub crawls for you.

Bitterness and heartbreak
Envy and greed
Friendship we love
VD we don't need.

Many places we'll visit
Drinks and dancing til dark
We'll have us a blast
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That sounds so cool!! Like you said once word gets out, it'll take right off. I wish I lived in a more populated area as I'd love to take part in something like that. Welcome to SP and to the team. Glad you found us here. And if you need any help, feel free to ask. :D

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2/5/10 8:48 A

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I will be doing something similar to GolfChick2-0 and organizing an event for all of my single friends. So far it's a small group, but once the word is passed around it should grow. As if we would sit at home pining away and contemplating our singleness! Not a chance. By the way I am new to this group and sp.

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2/5/10 1:21 A

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Crazepuppies, your brother and my niece will be having their birthdays on the same day, cool. That's why I look forward to the day. :)

Some folks really do go all out for it and really think/believe that we singles are sitting home crying because we can't join in. Hah! We aren't. Fooled them eh.

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2/4/10 10:35 P

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Well, luckily for me V-day is my little brother's birthday, he'll be 18!! So, usually we have a family thing for him. I don't really look at it as a huge ordeal nor feel bad if I'm not out with someone 'special'. I don't think it is a big deal, but so many people make such an issue of it.


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That sounds like a blast!!! You will have to tell us all about it.

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... of course this year I will be making better food and beverage choices... and logging my time dancing, for there will be much burning of calories!!

Patriots, Red Sox, Keto, Zumba, Highland Games are my passions. I may live in Oregon but my heart still roots for Boston!!


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What a creative fantastic idea!! It sounds like an absolute hoot!!!

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A group of friends and I have an Anti-Valentine's Pub crawl in Portland, OR. We start at a bar called "The Bitter End" and go to 3 or 4 pubs before going dancing. We usually have a small group of between 60 and 100 people depending on the year and the weather.

The color red is discouraged. Some creative person will come up with non-PC, non-Halmark cookie or cards. You can come if your single or in a couple. However, known couples are not allowed to have their faces within 6 inches of each other. New "pairings"

We have succeeded in making what can be a miserable time for single peeps into a very fun night!

Patriots, Red Sox, Keto, Zumba, Highland Games are my passions. I may live in Oregon but my heart still roots for Boston!!


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The blacksmithing class does sound really cool and that's a neat idea to forge yourself a heart. :D

I looked up why is the heart the shape it is and no one seems to know.

That's a good question and I wondered about it myself too.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_(symbol)

Then there is this site that claims the shape came from the potter shape of an ivy leaf, then was made into a playing card heart.

www.heartsymbol.com/english/index.ht
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The blacksmithing class sounds like fun. You should have a blast!!

I'm so glad everyone is so positive about this. Here's something kind of related to the subject but kind of not...where did the shape of the heart come from? Our actual hearts look totally different. I know it's random, but I'm curious.

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This year, I'll be starting a week-long blacksmithing class. Maybe I should forge something heart-shaped. I generally ignore it, but I love the idea of loving myself on that day (as well as the other 364 days).

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Another great attitude, I love it NikeGirl!! I love that you really showed how special being single and how a single person can celebrate the day - celebrating self. That's awesome!! And cool you bought yourself the truck you wanted for a bday present, that's great!!

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I love your attitude FOXXYGRL82 with this day!! Sounds like you have great plans for the day prior and all the best with the run. That's terrific!! I haven't heard of Contra dance though, what is that? Sounds fun, just by the name.

For me the day is special as my niece was born on this day. Her older brother, who is 16, chose this date for his sister. His birthday is almost on Christmas and he wanted his sister to have a special holiday too. He thought Valentine's would be really sweet for a girl. When we asked what he'd do if he had a brother, he shrugged and said it'll all work out. No one knew, as we are not allowed to ask for gender in BC and they didn't leave the province to find out. (or talk the tech into it despite the law) And it did work out. So for me, its a really great day and I'll spend it at her bday party.

Prior to my niece's birth I usually didn't do anything unless I was working, then I helped the children make cards. Even as a couple though, I tended to not make this a huge day.

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I have experienced Valentine's Day as a wife, girlfriend and single female...I have had pleasant, and unpleasant, experiences as a wife and a girlfriend, but I have to admit, all of my experiences as a single female have been positive..LOL!

I remember walking into my attorney's office on Valentine's Day, 2009, and his partner said "Oh, it's Valentine's Day - you must be miserable"...I started LMAO and say "Why? Are you serious?"...I said that I had sent myself one dozen red velvet roses and was having filet mignon for dinner and watching a movie.

So many people think that being single, and being depressed or unhappy, run parallel...i completely disagree...i treat myself well and with respect..

Hell, for my birthday last year, I bought myself the truck I had been pining for for months (first new wheels in ten years).

Life is good...tough - but still very good.

Enough said.

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2/4/10 11:29 A

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Thanks for the article, it was nice to review how this day came about. I celebrate Valentine's Day with or without someone. Usually I'll make a date with one of my friends or go to a party around here. I make sure that I have fun and enjoy that day. I used to cringe at the thought of every couple enjoying this day, but then thought why should they have all the fun.

This year I'll be celebrating myself by running in a 5K, getting my hair done, and possibly contra dance the day before Valentine's Day. There's also a bitter ball that day too, but we'll see if I go. On the actual day I have no plans. Probably treat myself out for Sonic's new milkshake (Valentine's related) or something small. Not completely sure yet though.

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I know Ali has done discussions in the past on this topic, cannot find it though, so we'll start a new discussion.

Do you celebrate Valentine's Day? Do you ignore it? Do you cringe because everyone around you is in "the spirit" and you just want to eat the chocolate? What are your thoughts on this day?

If you are curious about this holiday, how did it start, where did the traditions come from, we all now Wikepedia has holes but it does a good job summarizing.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Da
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