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I'm with you Dawn. This is AA as much as any other I attend. I find that I can voice things here that I might wouldn't be able to in an actual meeting, and not just about eating. I think there is even more anonymity here because we never actually meet.

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Randi, Good to see you here. I need all the AA I can get, so it is nice that it is around in lots of different places.

Just for today......Dawn

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Glad to see you back. Good to hear you have been involved with real life AA, too.

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hey all -

really missed this group. been really involved in my RL A.A. groups, but am going to make an effort to be more present here.

hope everyone is having a great sober day,
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One day a while ago, Keith left very negative replies on the topics. I sent him a private message asking him what was wrong. He mentioned something about going into a depression. Then the next day, his replies sounded OK again. Then he was gone. I really liked his sharing on the message boards so I hope he comes back.

Dee and Pam have one year today according to "Sobriety Dates and Belly Button Birthdays". Congrats.

Yes, the rumour is true. I am now your leader. If you want to see something, or see something done differently, send me a message. I am always open to ideas. I work full time, and hubby and I are in the middle of 3 separate side jobs, so I don't have time to be really creative right now. Any input would be appreciated.

Have another sober 24 everyone!

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Yes Not Great News About "Keith"...Maybe He Will Come Back.
I Left Earlier This Year, And Returned...I Would've Missed
Chatting With So Many Cool Friends I Have Met...You Are Very
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Yes, Congrats Stephanie for being Co-Leader ~ great news!!!

KuzenKeith ~ not good news. I had noticed he wasn't around either but didn't check his profile either. I do hope he comes back!!

And thanks Cyndy for sharing my special day with me!! A whole year ~ by the grace of God!!

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emoticon Stephanie On Being Co-Leader...
Today There Is A Sobriety Birthday For Someone On The Team.
Her 1st, Enjoy Your Day.

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You're right, he isn't here. I thought he was on vacation or something, never bothered to check his profile. I sure hope he's OK. He's the kind of character that makes sobriety such a wonderful adventure.

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Boy, my brother-in-law was here visiting, and wanted some wine with dinner. Usually, that is just fine with me, when guests are here. Well, he bought one of those 4 packs of little bottles of wine. I used to buy those, so I could sneak them into work in my briefcase. Seeing those sitting in my refrig was really hard. They left, and so did the alcohol. But last night, I had a dream, that I had bought those bottles, hid them, and was drinking them. It was very frightening.It seemed so real. This is all so still right there inside of me. Deep. Powerful. It kind of brings me up short. I'm hoping that by talking about it, will take some of the power away.

Thanks for listening. Dawn

P.S. Does anyone know what has happened to Kuzinkeith? It appears that he has left SP. Is page isn't even there anymore. Any thoughts?

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10/16/09 2:14 P

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I am glad that I am not the only person who thinks/acts like I do about eating. I was starting to think I was more nuts than I already am. That "you are not longer alone" thing again. It is comforting.

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10/16/09 12:54 P

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Those are really good suggestions about forming a positive mindset. I know I really still think of this as being on a 'diet', instead of 'healthy eating,' and 'healthy living.' I know (although I'll deny it), that I love living in the Poor Me World! And being on a diet, keeps me there, almost permanently.

I can lose a little weight, but never all that I want, and reach my goal. I'm puzzled as to what this is about. I know it is some kind of choice to continue to be 'not good enough.' Consciously, I want to stick with the program, but unconsciously, I just can't do it. I keep sabotaging myself. It is weird.

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10/13/09 4:15 P

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I hope for that kind of focus to happen eventually. Although the restricted list is very short, it seems I focus much more on it than on what I can eat. I had a lightbulb moment as I was writing that. It has to be just like in sobriety. I am aware of the bounty in my life, and don't focus on what I don't have. I have to do that with food, too. Somehow, I think it will become easier now.

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I wish I could channel my old ww leader. When she said a change in attitude she meant it. She said the reason the super restrictive diets don't work is that the list of forbidden foods is so long, all you can concentrate on is the NO list. In WW, the list of foods you CAN eat is very, very long. She made us concentrate on the YES foods. She challenged our creativity (which on the program back then was a big requirement) to take foods from the YES list and make them into something wonderful. And people did. She told us that we get THREE MEALS EVERY SINGLE DAY!! Sounds dumb but I never thought of it that way. The restriction is really my goal weight, not the food. And I like my weight now.

That positive attitude, the willingness to see a task in another way, is something I have to pray for daily. I've had a lot going on in my life the last few months and it's been harder, but prayer works. My reliance on prayer has been the greatest continuing gift of AA.

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I have the same question about what amounts to daily diligence with a weight issue. I can think about not drinking, just one day at a time, but eating in a healthy manner, not. All I can see is having my eating restricted for the rest of my life. Sometimes I feel like it would be easier to just get fat again. I know that is not an option, and I have to learn balance in eating. I have no choice but eat. It is a daily battle, but one that I think I am winning, slowly but surely.

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Tuesday. Rain in Oregon, colored leaves, fall is definitely here.

My sister is here visiting, which is great. But I have been eating anything I want, and weight has shot up. Amazing how fast it has happened. Kind of discouraging. Has got me thinking about this, like my sobriety: one day at a time, remaining ever vigilant. My sobriety is contingent on daily maintenance of my spiritual condition. I'm not quite certain the parallel to my Spark program, but I know it is there. Can anyone help me with this?

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10/10/09 7:31 P

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Welcome. Glad you found us. We can all learn from each other! I look forward to getting to know you.

Dawn

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Hello ILOVEMEFL and welcome emoticon

This is a great team!

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emoticon ILOVEMEFL...Lots Of Sobriety Going On With This
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Welcome to the team. I have found a lot of support and wisdom here, especially with living life on lif's terms. Which of course, helps with the weight loss. Good luck.

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hello everyone...i just wanted to say hi and express how grateful i am that i found this website. i get to have support while losing weight with people who "get me". i can freely talk about the struggles of losing weight and staying sober one day at a time. this is the most hope i have had for my weight loss in a very long time. thank you everyone for being here emoticon

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Welcome Back Sunshine :)
That's fun to key as well to say. Welcome.

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Glad you came back, and hope that you feel comfortable sharing here.

Dawn

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emoticon "*Back*"Pam & TM*Sunshine*"

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Hello T-Sunshine and welcome back emoticon

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Hi Everyone...
I've been away from the site for awhile, I've been learning to live with a new illness that is a lifetime one. So I want to come here more often to check in with others who I hope understand.
Talk to you again soon
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Big Congrats Pam; that's a big deal. Glad you checked in and filled us in. I can read your serendipity :).

Mary

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Hello Pam and thanks for the well wishes. Back too you for your Birthday too!!

Enjoy your time away Dawn. Salmon, YUMMY and good for you too!

Here's to another 24!!

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Pam, It is great! to hear from you! I am glad that you are doing so well. Congratulations on you birthdays! One year, that is fantastic! Have a wonderful time celebrating.

I am off to the coast for a few days for a visit with my sister and her husband. Hopefully we will do some salmon fishing and get some crab. Looking forward to some time away.

Have a great weekend everyone. Dawn

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emoticon I've been catching up with you all tonight reading September's chats. Thinking of you Dawn. If you are into planetary stuff, September was a difficult month all around & it's over. emoticon

October has been (in past) a bittersweet month. My dad, my grandma's & my birthday(13th) were a day apart. My sister (on 22nd), my parent's anniversary, & a close cousin's birthday on (17th) AND that is, accidentally--I didn't PLAN it--long story) my ONE year sobriety birthday! My home group meets on Sat. the 17th so I can share it. Cake etc. is the last week of the month. We pass around the coin to gather energy too. It's cool to see someone hold it close & give me a wink or eye contact, just to let me know...(1st, 2nd, 3rd, 6th, & 9 month coins are given in my groups.) You can ask who you'd like to give you the coin, they give a little talk about your journey, you share a bit, emoticon , lots of clapping and yays. Then it's someone else's turn. When birthdays are over, it's a regular meeting again. I go to two, my home group on Sat, and one that meets M-F. Some overlap of people. Our town (59,000) has A LOT of meetings to choose from & perhaps that is unusual for size of town. Most meetings are 20-25 people. Mine don't have speaker meetings, but there are some available.

My parents passed away 3 yrs ago, several special people have moved away (my sponsor). I had knee surgery in July (went great-- 2nd one on 22nd). Lots of "stuff" that helped it be a healing summer. I went into this year with the idea that I was "sick & tired of being sick & tired AND this time I was willing to do whatever it takes. With that intention I have been graced with support, resources, love and all that I need to grow forward. I like the word "serendipity". I'd use that to describe you all that post on this team. I was barely two weeks sober when I found SP. Check-In was a Godsend! I felt welcome here even though I didn't "know" you all; you KNOW on a deep level.

Man, this is getting deep for this late at night... Congratulations Dee! and all of you that have shared your journey on this thread. Keith, BB birthday the 16th?

Isn't there a song about,,,"It was a very good year..."" from the "Fantasticks"??? Frank Sinatra? I can hear the words...maybe it had something to do with wine!

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I don't think I was willing to go to any lengths until I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. And the death threat thing helped too.

I started drinking seriously after I got to goal. At that age I was still so hurt from being the fat girl. I had married a man because he was fatter than I was, I'd had a baby which left me fatter, and my husband got shipped off to Vietnam leaving me home fat and with a new baby. I was 21. The fellowship and common goals of Weight Watchers kept me sane during that year. I wish I could have applied what I learned there to drinking, but I had to get really really sick first.

I've stayed at goal for (most of) 39 years and sober for 32. And never for a minute do I forget what it was like and that I don't want to go there again.

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That's a good topic and I agree. I think "entirely" ready applies for me....I was entirely ready to have the drink problem removed so I'm willing to do the work and take the action required. I'm not sure I've ever been so ready to address another flaw with such gusto but progress is still progress and all I can do is try to make a good decision now. In this moment. I can also seek willingness and practice good habits. Hmmmmmm. Will I?

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My goal for October is to stick to the Spark Program at least 13 days out of 14. I slack off, and I gain weight. Sounds like what happens if I slack off AA, too, except the weight thing. If I slack off, I backslide. Someday I might just figure out that this applies to all areas of my life, not just AA.

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Nice ideas Dawn. Hmmmm I think I'll try daily practice of meditation (beyond my morning and evening 11th steps) by taking 5 min at work each day. I think I'll also try resuming daily exercise for 30 minutes - I've been slacking off since school started. Happy October everyone! Still off the diet cokes though (except when they are free and nothing else available - like at a party :)

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Hi everyone! Where are you?

Well it is the first of the month, a great day for new starts, new beginnings. What are you all going to focus on this month? I'd love to hear.

October can be a down time for me. so I'm going to try to keep a more positive attitude by writing a daily gratitude journal. Try to see the glass as half full, and my life filled with blessings.

New season, new outlook. One day at a time!

Dawn

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Hi everyone. Glad it is Monday, a new day, new week, one day at a time!

Trying to get more serious and routine about a meditation practice. Have set a daily schedule to really try to follow through, as opposed to just when I feel like it. I am hopeful that with some consistency I can quiet the 'performer/pleaser' in me that keeps saying I'm not doing it well enough, and quiet the monkey brain. One breathe at a time.

Anyway, I'm happy to be alive and well and sober today. Have a good one everyone.

Dawn

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Thanks Stephanie.

Glad to hear you had a wonderful trip!!

Hugs, Dee

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Dee: We do it like your sponsor told you. We get metal medallions for 1, 5, 10, 15 etc years sobriety with an inscription of our choice on the back, with our sobriety date. Most groups in my area allocate a special meeting for the medallion birthday with a guest speaker, medallion presentationa and cake and snacks after the meeting. It is really a big deal here as the biggest group in the area has about 40 members, so birthdays don't happen every week. It is interesting to here how things are done in other areas.

And remember to find the thread Sobriety Dates and Belly Button Birthdays and remind us when you turn 1.

And Restoule was wonderful. There were only 8 campers in the whole park and the weather was pretty good, too. I had so much R&R I couldn't fall asleep last night.



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You are all so helpful!! I'm feeling more excited than scared now :-) Thanks for sharing with me Cyndy!! I know it's not your norm ;-) What a sweet spark friend you are xx

Thank you all very much for your generousity in sharing your stories with me.

It's interesting how different things go all over the world... but very similar at the same time.

Many hugs and thanks again!
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Hi ~Dee~...Let Me Give You Pre- emoticon On Your
Upcoming Sobriety Birthday...I Did Celebrate Mine At
My Home Group...I Had To Sign A Birthday Book, So
The Chair Person Knows Before The Day...At Our
Meeting, You Sit In The Very Front, Next To Chair
Person...Before The Meeting Was Started, I Was
Given A Guideline To Follow...Then Go On With The
Meeting...You Share About Yourself, And It Is Up To
You...I Wrote Mine Out, And Read It...Then I Had To
Call On Others To Share...Also Did Ask Me Questions
Too...And Then Answered As Best I Could...If You
Have A Sponsor, They Provide Your Cake, And Light
Your Candles...Sing The Sobriety Happy Birthday Song
To You, And At The End They Say Not To Take A Drink.
I Was A Bit Nervous To Do This, But It Is Something
Very Important In My Life, I Will Never Forget...It
Felt So Great...And Can't Compare It To Anything I
Have Done...They Put A Candle On A Paper Cup, To
Substitute As My Cake...And Drew A Little Picture Of
Me, Pretty Cool...I Didn't Have A Sponsor At The
Time...There Was A Man There, That Said I Should Get
One...I Said I Would, But Didn't...A Year Later, His
Wife Approached Me...She Asked To Be My Sponsor And
I Almost Said No...I Said Yes, So That Is My Story.
I Didn't Receive My First Year Chip, Medallion...But
At A Women's Meeting At Her House, She Gave Me My
2ND Year Medallion...It Sounds Like Everyone Has A
Different Version, But Whatever Version It Is...I
Very Much Know You Will Be Sparkling On That Day.
They Also Passed Around A Sobriety Birthday Card,
Which Everyone There Did Sign.
~Cyndy~

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Dee -

The tradition by me is that you take the chip on your actual anniversary or after - either where ever there is a chip meeting on the day or at your home group after. People who have an anniversary might be asked to share first or make a point of sharing, but unless they are asked ahead of time to be the speaker, they don't automatically share like a speaker meeting. After whomever receives their chip, they pass it around the room.

Interesting that they engrave the chips - I wonder if they're not using the standard AA chips - as there is no room for anything on those (the serenity prayers is on the back).

For me I think its important not to take a chip early because we want to make sure we're sticking to one day at a time. we can't count sober time we don't actually yet have. At the meetings I go to a lot of long timers say "the person who has been sober the longest is the person who got up the earliest." Because we each only have today no matter how much time we have.

Hope everyone is having a great week.


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Thanks again all. I talked with my sponsor today and she mentioned pretty much the same as you all have. She's never heard of anyone getting more than one 1 year medallion. They engrave it for you though with something special to you. She says I will celebrate on the 22nd of October which is just what you've all said as well. She has also never heard of passing it around either... I did like that idea though.

Thanks again for all your support and strength!!

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I try to stay focused that my goal is to share 'my experience, strength and hope' to be able to help others learn from what I have learned. So they only need enough detail to get the picture, not the nitty gritty. I think the purpose of meeting is not to share the garbage (that is what sponsors are for), but to share the solution.



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Mary summed it up quite well, Dee. We share in a "general way" ...
We find it best to be careful with the truth. I don't use it if it's going to cause harm to someone. Even when making amends, we are cautious.
Read the 12x12 on step #9 ... if that's ok with your sponsor.
We don't keep secrets, but we don't share them ALL at group level either.
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If you let go a lot you will have a lot of happiness.
If you let go completely you will be free. - Ajahn Chah

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Hi all,

Dee...congratulations. that's a big deal. I've always been told that we don't pick up the chip until on/after your anniversary - you haven't earned it until you've made a year. In my neck of the woods, we pick up anniversary chips at all the meetings we attend in the week following our anniversary (potentially 7 if we attend meetings everyday). The first one is for the celebrant, the rest are for the group. It is such fun to watch people pick up chips and see success :).

I wouldn't worry about talking. Just speak from the heart IF it happens. It may not happen. If it does, the big book tells us to share our story in a GENERAL way - no need to share specifics with the big group - save the details for your sponsor.

Congrats again - it is really a big deal. Well done.

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Thanks again for all the answers and support!! Here they start the count down for the chips at 9 months. I've never heard them ask if anyone has a year. That's why I thought you had to celebrate it at your home group.

Tonight I went to a meeting where there was a 4th year celebration. She did get up and talk for about 20 minutes or so and then they carried on like a regular speaker meeting.

Keith, you bring up something else I'm concerned about. If I'm supposed to tell my story, there are a lot of things in my childhood that are part of my resentments (and now gratitude's too) that we (my family) just don't talk about ever anymore. There are things I just couldn't say in front of my family as it would be terribly hurtful to talk about at this time in our lives. Even though we don't talk about some things, I'm well aware of the guilt they feel...

I can remember getting my one month chip like it was yesterday and how I was walking on air for days. I didn't even sleep the night before I was so excited (I was in rehab so that wasn't the easiest thing to do there, especially being a smoker). I held that chip every day and smiled from ear to ear for the longest time. Oddly, I'm afraid of this one year celebration. I've never been good at being the centre of attention so that's part of it too. Part of it could be that even though I'm not drinking, I've feel like a failure for not working the program to the fullest and that I feel I should have a lot more accomplished by now...

Again, thanks bunches (and thanks for listening!)

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Thanks Nell for the reminder. To accept feeling what I feel has been a huge lesson of this program, tears, joy, even anger. And the program has given me the steps to live with my feelings. What a gift.

My sponsor gave me her 2 year chip, and told me about receiving it. What a treasure. It is great to pass them on. That is how this program works. We pass on what we receive.

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I, too, was told not to take a chip even a day ahead. It makes the day more special. Collect as many chips as you wish, then when you are someone's sponsor, you can pass it on at their first year. And of course you can cry. Everyone shares tears of pain, of course, but tears of joy are a joy for everyone in the room.

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DEE --- That will be a wonderful event when you celebrate one year sober. You may do as you wish, but I was advised to NOT take a coin ahead of time.

Dawn is right that it is done several different ways. It's OK to ask some of the locals "where are the chip meetings?". That way you may find a meeting on that Saturday to get a chip & celebrate. I bet your dad would LOVE to be there for that.
You can take another chip with your home group when they give them out ... shoot get all you want... or get up and announce but say "I've got a chip" ...

Don't worry about crying ... it's OK to be real now. I've seen lotsa folks cry in AA meetings ... it's a safe place to express any/all emotions. Say what's on your mind ... honesty is better than "looking good".

We'll be celebrating with you here, too (but you may have to remind some of us old farts!).



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Edited by: KUZINKEITH at: 9/25/2009 (19:52)
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If you let go a lot you will have a lot of happiness.
If you let go completely you will be free. - Ajahn Chah

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Thanks so much Dawn. I'm really nervous actually if they ask me to speak. I'm not even sure what I'd say... I've never told anyone my whole story, never mind hearing myself say it out loud! But now that I have more insight, I'll start thinking of something just in case.

I'm afraid I'll cry honestly as I'm so grateful and emotional about the program and all members I've had the pleasure of meeting. I don't let myself cry very often, but when it happens it really, really happens...

Just hearing you tell about the medallion with 33 years on it moved me as well. My father has 33 years of sobriety. He started taking me to meetings in the beginning when I was afraid to go by myself. He doesn't come as often anymore, but that's only because he lives so far away and I hate to put him out like that. He did join me last night to meet my sponsor. I'm not clear on his story either (except what I saw growing up), but he has said he didn't stay in the program very long. He also quit smoking with his stubbornness without issue!! I've always expected to see him walk on water next LOL.

I love that idea of passing it around. That too fills me with emotion.

Again, thanks bunches!!!

Hugs, Dee

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