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5/17/19 9:14 P



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We should all focus on ourselves but that doesn't necessarily equate to being selfish.

Sometimes we can give too much of ourselves to others and it can lead to our downfall. Self-preservation is vitally important for our health/well-being.

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5/17/19 4:25 P

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I'm also in this boat and for the first time in my life, I'm going to focus a little on me. Weird, I know. I'm not sure how long I can keep up my bit of selfishness, but for now, I'm going to try. Hopefully putting a little time in the kitchen and allowing time to work out will help me stay motivated. It helps to have people working toward goals with you.



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4/23/19 6:04 A

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I am in the same boat. Today, I changed things up and worked-out in the morning. That one change is spiraling up with my mood and breakfast choice. I am one of those all-or nothing individuals. I am finally converging to the middle.

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4/23/19 12:50 A



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@SUZABELLA1967 - I can't say I have ever noticed few responses to those in need than for the more positive posts, and I have been on these message boards, including as a Community Leader on the Community Message Boards, for quite some time.

ANNEDEN1 - A lot of people end up feeling a bit down when they decide to make changes to reduce weight when they can't see much of a change, or any change, in the scales quickly enough.

A lot of people want and/or expect their weight to come off quickly. It doesn't work like that. The slow losses are what should be aimed for, and accepting that your weight isn't going to always go down. There will be times where it will go up, even if you are doing everything correctly. There are a lot of reasons for that.

It might be TOM
It might be the time of day you weighed yourself
It might be the food still in your digestive tract (or if you have just had a glass of water)
It might be that you had a lot more sodium in a meal the last couple of days.
There are other reasons too.

Slow losses are the ones to aim for. They are a lot healthier for your body, and also far more likely to stay off. The slow losses also can considerably reduce the amount of loose skin you have once the weight comes off.

If you don't weigh all of your food (increased accuracy) I suggest that you do so, and enter everything you eat into the Nutrition Tracker. Then you will be able to make tweaks based on knowledge rather than just winging it.

You can do it .... you KNOW you can do it, but patience and perseverance is what will get you there, as well as good choices of food.

Good luck
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4/22/19 8:33 P

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I can't help but notice that the positive posts get more responses - just like in real life situations, people turn a blind eye to those reaching out for a hand up. Those in need should get MORE support, more responses than the "happy ads." I have been and pretty much am where you are, and to answer your question: how many times...? I would have to say "Every Time!" Just keep picking yourself up by your bootstraps and keep moving forward. The alternative is simply unacceptable. You will find a way. We all will, eventually. Perhaps you could try joining an actual support group along with this virtual forum. If I didn't live in such a rural area where nothing exists, I would consider a group like Overeaters Anonymous.

Nothing ever changes if nothing ever changes.


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4/22/19 7:11 P



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Hello Anneden1,
If you eat when you get discouraged then choose wisely WhAt you eat. After you truly resolve to be successful it will be easier to make those healthy choices. It helped me to remind myself that feeling hungry (when I really did not need food) that it meant I was having a positive impact on my weight loss goals. I remember satifying my want to eat with a whole bag of arugula. Make changes that include substituting fruit for a cookie and such. When tempted you can also play a game with yourself that you can wait until tomorrow to overeat...then promise that the next day and so on.
Write down your goals and ways you will make that goal happen and make changes that benefit mindfully caring for you body.


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4/22/19 6:11 P

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Do you want to lose weight or do you want to lose weight and keep it off? Faster losses are associated with quickly regaining whatever you lose.

Do you think ten miles per hour is a fast speed? If you are driving it probably feels slow, but it is a zippy running pace. Remember that you are not some sort of prototype jet breaking the sound barrier, you are a person, with habits, and those habits take some time to change. As in six weeks for each habit. Faster is not better. The best piece of advice tat I have heard on these boards was that if you get a nail in your tire you do to head out to slash you three good tires. Your incorrect perception of slow progress is causing you to undo the good that you are doing.

-google first. ask questions later.

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4/22/19 12:02 P

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Try to remember that slow progress is still progress! Barring medical reasons, most of us didn't gain our excess weight quickly and won't lose it quickly either.

Perhaps shifting your focus to establishing healthier habits/streaks might help keep you motivated? Try not to weigh in frequently. Use non-scale measures like body measurements (once every 4-6 weeks), fitness challenges, energy levels, etc.

Instead of focusing on loss, set goals like: drink 8 cups of water 4/7 days a week, eat 1 additional servings of veggies each week day, go for a walk during your lunch break 2x a week, etc. Once you start reaching these goals (and setting new ones), they'll start to become habits and suddenly you'll find you're eating much healthier than before (and hopefully also feeling more energetic!).

Hopefully some of these approaches may help you stay motivated. I definitely understand the struggle- I have started and then abandoned my progress so many times! For me, I often want to sprint before I can even walk and try to incorporate all of the changes at once and then get overwhelmed with everything. Focusing solely on food really helped me lose weight last year and start to establish better eating habits. Now I'm pregnant so focusing on loss is out of the question- I try to focus on getting enough protein, not overloading on carbs, and increasing my activity level.

Good luck! Remember, even if the scale isn't moving, healthy choices and actions are impacting your overall health and well-being!

Healthy choices and actions have positive impacts, even if the scale doesn't move!


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4/22/19 9:40 A

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I was so determined this time to lose weight and my body tells me each day that I need to get on with it but somehow I get discouraged by the slow progress and then just eat. How many times do you have to try before you succeed?

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