"Trying to leave food behind as entertainment is difficult for me." What does that mean exactly? I have heard of using food for comfort, for stress relief, when bored... but never as a source of entertainment!
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Thanks for your answers. I'm not a "scorched earth" kind of dieter, but I do have some psychological blocks to limiting what I eat in any way. Trying to leave food behind as entertainment is difficult for me.
Stop trying to change everything at once. Most people can't turn on a dime. So you have to pick one small thing and work on that until you don't have to think about it anymore. It can take six weeks to do something as small as adding a serving of fruit to your day, longer if you have a lot of other stuff going on at the time. Keep making small changes and you'll eventually get where you want to be. I think that people really fail to understand what they were doing before and where it was off, so they go scorched earth for a short time and then back to what they were doing in the first place. Particularly for people with the creeping sort of gains, they're only averaging a few hundred calories more than they need. So starving themselves for a short time to take the weight off just creates more stress on the body instead of cutting out the few hundred that they are over. It's like buying a new house and reflooring the new house when all you did was drop something on a single ceramic tile in the old house. Yeah, you get a finished floor either way, but you could have just replaced the tile you cracked instead of buying a whole new house. Since most people fail to identify the problems they actually have before they go off to follow the latest fad diet that worked for person x, they end up diligently working to fix problems that they didn't really have in the first place. Yes, cutting out gluten will help you if you have an allergy or an intolerance. Yes, it used to be possible to lose weight on a gluten free diet because gluten was such a common ingredient that it dramatically limited food choices, especially processed choices. But the market has corrected that failing and gluten free junk food abounds, just like what happened after fat free, vegan, South Beach, Atkins, whatever else I am missing, what is happening to keto and whatever the next thing to come after keto will be.
So figure out the issue that you actually have (easy to say, very hard to do) and work out the things that you don't want to give up in order (list them all out and run them like a March Madness bracket). Keep in mind that you can rotate through things, just be mindful that you are rotating them out in a way that balances out. Focus on getting the nutrients that you need, in meals that you enjoy that meet your needs rather than cutting out things.
I yo-yo dieted for (literally) decades, before joining Spark. I could lose some weight on just about any diet, as long as I followed it. The minute I went off it, though, the weight came back-- plus usually a little more. Finally got to where I knew I was either going to just give up completely on the idea of losing weight and keeping it off, and just keep buying larger and larger pants-- or I was going to make some lifestyle changes, once and for all.
What worked for me was the Spark approach--- anything, in moderation; make a few small changes at a time; and look at it as a lifestyle change and not just a diet to lose weight. I lost the weight several years ago and have kept it off since.
I found the book The Spark to be very motivational, and this website is a wealth of information and tools to help us along the way.
Ruth in Cookeville, TN Central Time Zone
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