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4/3/19 1:05 P

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I make my cooking healthy and eat small (appropriate portions). I don't eat junk food, but don't judge when he does. So far it works.

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4/2/19 11:26 P

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I think the important thing to remember is we are in charge of ourselves, our husbands make their own choices! I have noticed over the past 6 yrs. that the less I push and just take care of my health, the more he desires the same! Especially when he sees the positive results of my efforts!

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3/29/19 1:21 P

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My man likes food that I do not eat and it has been this way for decades. We simply cook our own meals for ourselves and make no judgements on the choices. I have noticed my rules of organic, non-gmo, unprocessed whole food has influenced him for the better. Telling him what he should be doing does not further our mutual harmony.
He encourages my good choices including walks and bike rides whenever I want as well as my healthy eating. 16 years ago when I resolved to lose weight and get healthy I had a sincere talk about my desires and he has supported me ever since. I do acknowledge any healthy choices he makes. He listens patiently to reports I give him on latest food impact findings and more than a few time I have notices the favorable influence on him. Gentle and loving persuasion emoticon
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3/28/19 6:52 P

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Stock up on the junk and sweets that they like but you don't. Make a compromise main dish like a roast (and cook it over carrots and onion and potatoes and parsnips if you can) and make a side for you and a side for him, say mashed potatoes and lightly buttered steamed asparagus with almond slivers. Have more of your side and less of his, or skip it entirely. He can do the same. Resistance bands are small and travel well as do workout videos (DVD or internet). They make pedals that you can use from any chair or you can use them on the table with your hands. You could keep a small set of weights, or a jug of water or a can of food could easily sub in. You can also look for active meet ups in whatever area you are travelling to.

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3/28/19 11:46 A

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Traveling in retirement requires a lot more time management skill than most realize, and just as much planning and prepping as needed when working.

The only way to make healthy choices easier and faster than "junk" is to purchase healthy items that you really enjoy, and batch prep them so that it truly IS easier at the time to grab them. It can be a bit challenging due to space constraints in an RV, but it just means making the batches a bit smaller and being adaptive with storage.

Some easy batch items are things like baked oatmeal, baked custards, high fibre / high protein muffins, baked fruits, and egg "muffins" or quiches for breakfast and snacks. Make a bunch of hard-boiled eggs, always cook more meat than needed (roasts or whole chickens or a dozen burger patties) then slice and freeze for later, do a couple of pans of mixed veggies either in the oven or on the grill (chop up some parsnips / turnips / radishes / rutabaga / cauliflower / broccoli / brussels sprouts AND some potatoes so you get a mix of nutrients and flavours). Any of these are great as cold left-overs or can be warmed up for a full meal.

While you're chopping - slice up some fresh fruits and toss them together with a raspberry vinaigrette dressing or some homemade low-sugar lemon curd and some chopped nuts and seeds for a quick, sweet treat. Mix some plain Greek yogurt with some cinnamon and vanilla for a sweet fruit dip - or with some dill and dehydrated onions for a more savoury dip for raw veggies.

Make some soups and stews (having an electric pressure cooker / slow cooker such as an Instant Pot is ideal for the option of last-minute or all-night cooking), package in freezer bags and freeze flat, then "file" them in the freezer (super-quick thawing this way, and takes up much less space than containers).

Realistically - when you have lots of healthy options that you really LIKE on hand, then those become your preference. Once you start working together to come up with stuff that you both love, then it becomes a fun part of your lifestyle.

For instance - my husband and I both prefer a sweet breakfast, so we experiment together on various baked custard "cakes". These all work out around 20g protein, 10g fibre, 350-400 calories and are baked 8-10 "servings" at a time so are super convenient. A typical "on the road" day for us starts with one of those "cakes" topped with yogurt, with one snack being a couple of hard-boiled eggs with some cheese and a high-fibre muffin, then lunch is sandwiches made with sourdough bread (I bake my own, freeze in slices) and leftover meat slices along with an apple or some tangerines, afternoon snack is some different meat slices and some raw veggies with yogurt dip, dinner is warmed up leftovers (roasted veggies, meat, potatoes or a soup or stew), and last snack is some plain Greek yogurt mixed with some baked chopped pears and nut butter and seeds (I batch cook the pears or apples by chopping a half dozen or so in to 1/4 to 1/2" pieces, coating with cinnamon, a baking at 325 in an open 9" x 13" for 90 minutes until soft and sweet --- then I package in to freezer bags of 4 portions each and freeze. I then prep 4 snack containers each with 125g yogurt, 1 portion of fruit (80g), 12g of nut butter, and 10g of sunflower seeds and keep in the fridge for a quick grab).

We also plan in lots of walking, especially on travel days! We don't eat in the vehicle, and we plan on stopping every 2 to 3 hours at most (sometimes even more often). Stops are always planned for being somewhere that we can take a 15-30 minute walk, check out the local scenery, and sit down to enjoy our meal or snack before heading out again. Since the "trip" is as much of a priority as the destination, we often plan on the stops being a few hours, and including 3-5 miles of hiking / walking / touring, along with the food. At most we will plan for 7 or 8 hours of actual driving time in a day, but most often we keep it around 5 driving hours, with the rest of the day for walking / hiking / touring and relaxing. We enjoy the planning together, choosing the route and the stops, and making the necessary reservations --- and planning menus and the time to prep them in there too.

Hopefully, you and your husband can find a way to start working together to find healthy and delicious choices that you both love - and start making the experimenting and planning and prepping a new and fun hobby that is part of your new life. One of the great things about traveling is that you can stop and explore new localities, check with the locals about their specialty foods and recipes, and do some experimenting with new foods, too! Including a visit to local farmer's markets can get you some great finds - and chatting with the farmers is almost guaranteed to get you some fantastic new recipes, too. Open the conversation with your husband, take some time to do some planning together, and focus on having fun and finding new delicious favourites.

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3/27/19 11:37 P

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I found this article here on SparkPeople. "6 Ways to Help Your Partner Eat Healthier Without Being Pushy"

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LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 30,927
3/27/19 2:46 P

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You cook one meal.
Meat (chicken, pork, beef) and potatoes is not detrimental at all. You just eat less of it than your husband does.
Have a vegetable and/or a salad ready too.

Not sure what you mean by
"Also, the exercise thing, I need some suggestions on how to cope with this. "
Cope with what exactly?
If you mean exercising alone, how is that a problem?

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3/27/19 1:52 P

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Don't cook two meals. Start introducing healthier food into the menu plan. Use more chicken or turkey -- you can get turkey hot dogs, sausage, etc-- in place of beef and pork. Put a vegetable on the plate at dinner, and have fruit for snacking. Start small, don't drop a vegetarian buddha bowl in front of him. Try something like a salad with meat and cheese, that will be more appealing and filling. Try a hearty vegetable soup or meatless pasta one night a week.

He's not going to change his habits unless he wants to. Meanwhile you keep on preparing the food YOU want to eat and let him slowly get used to it. It may be months or years before he accepts the new reality.

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3/27/19 12:34 P

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I am SO thankful, that my husband is on board with good nutrition and optimal health. It is so huge! The bad part is, if there are sweets in the house, we will both eat them - no self-control. Thankfully, there are zero complaints if I do not buy/make the sweets!

I think in your shoes, I would really start being strict with portions. "Meat and potatoes" are not necessarily terrible. Can you do more fish, chicken breast, and other lean meats? Potatoes are a healthy option in the right portions and without a lot of added butter, sour cream, cheese, etc. They just tend to be an easy food to overeat. One thing I do in our house when I'm making a "richer" dish is to add or heat up more vegetables - or get out more fresh veggies. That way I can take more of the vegetables, a small amount of potatoes and a smaller amount of meat. The rest of the family can eat as they desire. Add fruit to meals? We do that as well. If it's cut up and served, it gets eaten!

I think the biggest thing is that you cannot change others. He will still eat what he wants, but you have to make adjustments (without making two separate meals) for YOU. More fresh fruits and veggies as snacks so that you have a way to snack, but avoid the junk? Small steps.

So you live in an RV. Are you on the go a lot, moving different places? Or do you live primarily in an RV park? Either way, walking!! If you are travelers and stopping places, make sure you are taking time to get out and walk. If you are living primarily in a park or set location, walk! Brisk walking is best. Try to get your heart rate up with exercise. Do you have enough room in your RV to do some squats, crunches, push-ups, etc? Check out Leslie Sansone's "Walk Away The Pounds" DVD. That is something you can play and do with little space.

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I am anticipating some feedback on this particular topic as I am quite certain I am not the only one struggling with this issue. How do you stay on course when you have a serious junk food junkie with a major sweet tooth and loves meat & potatoes? We both are recently retired and travel full-time in our RV. Most days it's just easier to make "junk" to eat rather than cook two meals. Also, the exercise thing, I need some suggestions on how to cope with this. Thanks in advance!

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