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5/25/20 3:21 P

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Ei, prayers for John. This is such a tough job market. I just saw on tv how hard it is for college graduates to find jobs. Good luck paying off their student loans.
As we open up here in Ohio, I see more and more people venturing out and my husband even went back to work at the golf course yesterday. Only one day a week right now until the numbers go down or he feels more comfortable. I did see all the grandkids yesterday at my daughter’s house. I sat under a tree while the kids played in an inflatable pool. It felt good watching them play.

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Good morning ladies. Happy Memorial day to everyone. emoticon
Pat,
How nice for you to receive the snow babies your mom had as collections. I am sure your girls will love these and have a nice memory of their grandma. I am sorry to hear you will be needing surgery for Parthyroid. Will be keeping you in prayers for this. I hope it is not too difficult for you to go through. Is this considered major surgery? I am not familiar with it. Hope your daughter will be ok working with the kids there with her. Such a worry for all of us with this terrible Covid19 going on. I know you miss your grandkids but at least you can see them at a distance. That is how It is with me too, distance for visiting and no hug....sure miss the hugs and closer times together. Take care Pat and know I am thinking of you and keeping you in prayers.
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So sorry about your dog Bhaloo. I am glad though that the temporary home is making him happy right now. Hope in time a permanent family will love to adopt him. Do hope his surgery will be ok also for his ear. I am sorry you need to move now and it will be a challenge to pack all up again and move out. Too bad your landlord is such a angry person. I am happy Vishal's girlfriend is so cheerful and helpful to help you with packing. That is a immense help, since it is such a Huge job to move. Will you be able to see Hock soon? I am not sure if he is in another country right now or nearby.....All the best to you Prema. Know I am thinking of you and hoping all goes well. Take care and stay well too.
Kathy,
Hope your test results will go well and you will be cancer free. Prayer coming you way for this. What does 2.0 mean for Kansas? Not familiar with this. I am so so
sorry about Rob attemting to commit suicide. How sad you must feel for him. I am glad Justin has patience with him and hopefully the therapy will help him return to a more comforting level with medication and help. The Jacob's Ladder sounds like a very beneficial program. Prayers and hugs for a good outcome on this. Don't overdo that yard work. Take good care Kathy and know I am keeping you in prayers. By the way I believe I am the OLDEST of our group, here, and hard to believe I am this old....I turned 77 this past Jan.31.....I do always remember what my mom used to say...She said she was YOUNG at Heart , whenever she had a new birthday.....She was a sweetheart.......

Welcome to SMJTeller,
Sorry have not met you yet. I do not come on here daily but do try to keep in touch as much as possible with my lovely sisters. Glad you have tried us here and hope you stay in touch with the gang......I live in OH and have divorced for many years....Have 3 wonderful grown kids, Michael is 51, single and lives in Beacon, NY.....He is my oldest. My girls are Mary, 49 now and lives in Westlake, close to my house. She is married to John and they have 2 kids, Niamh and Liam, who are 12 and 9.....My youngest dd is Colleen. Her and Bryan live in Akron, OH for 3 years now. They have one son, Peter who will be turning 13 in November, so hard to believe. Kids have grown up fast.
Tell us about yourself and what works for you with healthy eating and exercise.....
Well, better get moving gals, Enjoy your holiday. Although it sure is different for all of us. Be safe and take care.
love, hugs, prayers, always.......
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p.s. by the way, please continue to keep my son in law, John in prayers if you can. still has not found a job..his severance will run out at end of Nov. or Dec. I believe ....

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5/25/20 9:19 A

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Prema, Natalie is a sweetheart. A great catch for Vishal.
Your numbers are great, here are the Ohio numbers:
Cases 31,911
Hosp. 5,476
Deaths. 1,969


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Thank you Pat. Toe definitely on the mend.

Natalie (Vishal's girlfriend) is turning out to be such a darling. She has been turning up every day to help with the packing and has an amazing sense of humour about the whole matter. Vishal is one big mess - he had to 'marie kondo" his room and pack....and she was helping him do this.
The day before, she had also helped me pack all my books from my shelves.

Her mum is a bit strange....she finds it unacceptable that Vishal is younger to Natalie by almost 4 years. We were all puzzled about this - if any one should be objecting, I guess it should be me! But I have no problems at all. I always knew that Vishal would fall for an older girl.
People are strange.

Our number of cases spiked to 172 today - these were mainly foreign workers in 3 different centers. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's confined to just these 3 centers.

Stay safe and take care, Pat.

Many Hugs and Much Love to my sisters, Prema

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Prema, good luck with the toe and the move.

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Pat, glad that you are okay. My toe still needs to be bandaged but getting okay, too.I hate packing - started it today and will continue till Wednesday. Movers get in on Thursday.

Kathy, did you feel unwell or did you feel yourself going through some imbalance? I hope it as just the heat.
I hope Rob gets the help he needs and if it's 6 months, then it's a bit more of a long haul journey for him and maybe some things will change. I feel hopeful....do let us know a little more about this Jacob's Ladder. I have not heard about it.

Stay safe and stay happy, my beautiful sisters. Hugs and Love, Prema

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Kathy, was it hot out when you started feeling ill? I hope you are feeling better after some rest. It was nice of Justin to update you. Prayers for Rob.
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I went to pick up prescriptions this morning. I could've asked Pat to do it, but I had to be present in order to put Pat on my account, enabling him to pick up my prescriptions without my driver's license. There was no one in line, so I went right through.

I worked in the yard for nearly two hours. I got a bit wobbly, so I came in.

I didn't hear anything about the scheduling of my CT scan. They have to get insurance approval.

In talking with Justin yesterday, He said the couples counselor they're seeing suggested a residential program for Rob called Jacob's Ladder. It's a 6-month program. Justin's checking on insurance.

Enjoy the weekend, my adik-adik.
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Prema, I was a klutz yesterday too. I took something out of my microwave and opened it and the steam burned my finger and out my f reflex, I moved quickly and hit my head on the corner of the microwave door which I had not closed. That smarted. All is okay today. I got in my walk early today, it’s going to be a hot one today.
Kathy, I hope Rob is feeling better today. Happy Memorial weekend. (It doesn’t feel much like a holiday. )
The kids finished up school yesterday.

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Kathy, I second all that Pat said....cos both of us will be doing a happy dance ourselves, too.
Right, Pat?

No bloodwork, Pat? Happy to know this....

I had a bit of blood work which I did to myself when a thin glass container broke on my feet. Clumsy especially when I am going to move in a few days. I plastered it and hopefully it starts closing up tomorrow and does not bleed when I replace the dressing tomorrow. I am such a klutz!

Hugs and Love Always, my sisters.

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Kathy, my prayers are with you as you continue to get stronger. You will beat this and you and Dr. Morgan will be doing a happy dance when your numbers start going down. I am happy to hear that you got to talk to Rob. Hopefully he has found purpose and continues to get the therapy he needs.
My doctor appointment went well and she decided not to do bloodwork. Since I will have to have it within 30 days of my surgery, she didn't want me to have to go through it again if my surgery is 31 days out or later.
Prema, we are all strong. Each of us has a quality that we use to boost each other. That is why I love each one of you.

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Dear Pat,
Thank you for your kind words. All the best for your doctor's appointment. Will check back in for your update.


Dear Kathy,
We have a whole range of strengths in this group - thank you for that.

I am sure Dr Morgan told you that the CA-125 does fluctuate before it actually shows the right reading. Although I do feel slightly anxious about it, I think she's right and the readings will soon drop and stabilise.
My prayers will be that there this stabilisation happens soon and that the cancer never returns, Kathy. This situation eclipses all ridiculous drama with my landlord at the moment and my focus is on definitely on you, Kathy.

It's very clear that Rob loves you, Kathy. And he does not want to worry you. All will be well, soon.

Take care my beautiful sisters. May God's Blessings continue to be showered on you.

Many Hugs and Much Love, Prema



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Our strengths may not be the same, but we're all strong.

Pat, how did your appointment go?

As for Rob, I talked with him yesterday today, and he seems to sound okay. It's not always easy to tell though.

I saw Dr. Morgan today. The physical exam shows no evidence of cancer. That being said, the CA-125 went up again. It's still well within normal limits, but it increased again by 9 points--increasing the same amount as last time but in half the time. She said it may mean nothing, but it could also mean that the cancer is trying to make a come back. My CT scan will be done through my primary physician's office, so they'll have to call to set up the appointment.

I've been working in the yard. I haven't taken any trees out, but I have my eye on a few tender young ones.😀 It's best to keep busy.

Stay safe and stay lovely!!
Kathy

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Prema, do not think for a minute that you are not strong. I can not imagine the hell you went through with the divorce. I would take one thousand needles before I would want to go through that. Shoot, I would rather have 2 total knee replacements before going through that.
I have to get ready for my doctor's appointment. Have a great day.

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Do you know what I love most about talking to both of you and Ei? It's the way you make every problem seem way smaller than it is and way, way smaller than I see it.
I like the way Pat tells me that anyone who tries to get the better of me better think again. And then Kathy, our big sister, just says, in a matter of fact fashion, that he may have lessons to learn from me...
It's amazing how both of you can just drag me out of one of those emoticon emoticon days so easily......THANK YOU.....

I remember the painful days of my ex and the way I was propped up....each and every day....if this is what it means to have older, caring sisters then the only thing I can shout out is SISTERS ARE THE BEST!!!!!!!

I feel so horrible for both of you when it comes to needles. The last one I did was last year when Prof Fred did the infusion for me. I hope to be able to stay away from hospitals and clinics for a long time....and I guess since you both have to be there more regularly, I just pray that they find some other way of finding veins or inserting stuff into your body. This is a bit of a nightmare!

Kathy, as Pat said, I hope your call to Rob goes well. Please keep us posted.

Much Love and Many Hugs, my wonderful sisters. You are truly the best!!

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Kathy, I hope your call goes well.

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I didn't talk to them yesterday, but I'll call them later.

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Kathy, I often have my blood drawn from my wrist. After decades of blood donations, my arms have scarred up and finding a viable vein is hard. They usually try both arms first before they go to my wrist. I feel like they have just had target practice. There will be another blood test tomorrow. Have you talked to Rob or Justin lately?

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You're so right, Prema, about God's sense of humor; but it's not without purpose--resilience!! However, maybe that landlord is not in your life for your benefit, but for his. Lessons go both ways--perhaps he has something to learn from you.

I went for my blood work yesterday. They seem unable to find a serviceable vein in either arm, so the blood draw was from the back of my hand. She didn't hit it head -on, so I have a sizeable bruise on my hand.

Kansas is moving to 2.0. I hugged my son yesterday!! It felt good.

Virtual hug to all and, with it, lots of love,
Kathy

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Prema, good luck with the move. Life seems to get the best of us at times. Let's see that guy try to keep your security deposit. I am sure you will fight him tooth and nail. Make sure you take pictures of each room and demand a walk through. Best of luck to you.
Another rainy day in Columbus, Oh.

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Hi Pat.
I recall you telling us about the reason for possible surgery in the future and I guess, the time has come for it be done. I am glad that you have such attentive doctors but my heart is still in my mouth every time anyone has to go to hospital. I know you will keep safe and that's a big plus.

Hi Kathy. 8 years is far too long for Rob to not hold a job. It becomes that much harder to get into another job as prospective employers will struggle to give anyone an opportunity after that length of time. Justin sounds like a very patient young man and I hope they are both able to work through these current difficulties.

Sounds like you will be seeing the doctor on Thursday, Kathy and you will be seeing the doctor on Friday, Pat. Prayers commence for both of you today....

I am vacating my current apartment next week on Thursday, 28th May. My landlord is making life difficult for me and we believe that he may be doing all these to ensure that he does not return my deposit to me. I believe I have found a landlord who is almost like my ex! God certainly has a quirky sense of humour!
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Take care, my lovely sisters. My prayers, my hugs and my love always.

Prema

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Kathy, a sense of worth gives us a reason to live. A job, even below his perceived level would give him purpose. Hopefully his therapy includes finding a job. I can’t understand how Justin would tolerate that. You set a good example for him growing up how important having a good work ethic is.
Parathyroids (4) surround the thyroid. When they don’t function well they leech calcium from the bones and it moves into your bloodstream. Bones become weakened. Surgery starts with 1 parathyroid and if your numbers drop they are done. They continue until they find the right one. The most affected is the bottom left. It only takes 7 minutes to see if the right one is removed. You only need .5 to survive.

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Pat, Rob has not really worked for about 8 years. Briefly, when they were in KC the last time, he drove Uber. I think it would be good for him to get a job, any job; he has an inflated ego and feels there's none that will pay him what he's worth. Justin tolerates it, so . . . .

What are the issues, Pat, that revealed the parathyroid issue? I'm not familiar with that at all.

I went for blood work this morning--I'll see Dr. Morgan Thursday.

Prema, I'm glad that Bhaloo has found a home.

Peace and health, my adik-adik.
Kathy

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Prema, I will keep you posted. I am glad that Bhaloo has a happy and stable home. It has been raining since yesterday afternoon when we were under a tornado warning. All was okay though.

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Pat, please keep us posted. These days, I get worried whenever anyone has to go to hospital. I am glad though, that they are doing the COVID-19 test.

Vishal has been to the house and it is not at all noisy. The dogs have adjusted to one another and also very quickly to Bhaloo. No fights and no growling. All good. My Bhaloo has become attached to Brenda's mum as she is the one who prepares his food and the food for the other dogs. He usually plants himself in the kitchen with her and is the first one to wait for her when she comes down in the morning. Brenda and her mum live upstairs and the dogs are all downstairs.

No news from Kathy yet. Keeping my fingers crossed that all is well with Rob.

Take care Pat. And I will do a quick prayer for you that everything proceeds smoothly and that the clinic is not crowded!

Stay safe and God Bless. Hugs, Prema

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Update. I will have to have parathyroid surgery. No date yet but it will be outpatient. I have to have a pre surgery physical and 72 hours before surgery, I will have to have a covid19 test.

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Kathy, please keep us posted about Rob. Has he been working throughout this pandemic or had he been sitting at home like most of us? I can see the pros and cons of both situations. I continue to pray for you, Rob and Justin.
Prema, I do not know how someone can live with 9 dogs. It must be loud around her house.
Melanie has not contacted me in a couple of days but I think she must be completely exhausted at the end of each day.
Today I see the ENT surgeon about my parathyroids. I will update you tomorrow on how it went.
Much love to you, my sisters.

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Hi Pat. This foster home boards dogs until owners decide for themselves that they can take the dogs back. In our case, Brenda will be boarding my Bhaloo permanently with her 9 other dogs until perhaps, forever, with weekly visits from us. My mum really did not take care of him as can be seen from the vet and hospital bills. Thanks to the groomer and her husband who boarded him for a week before going to Brenda, my Bhaloo looks and behaves like a very happy dog.
When I went to pick him up, he came running over to greet me and whined ever so much as though he was grumbling about my mum and her helper!

Please continue to proceed with caution and let us know the challenges Michelle is facing at the day care. It's quite frightening when one thinks about it!

Hi Kathy. Yes, the Hong Kong flu was on at the time of Woodstock and it was fairly brutal.
Keep us posted about the boys - perhaps Rob will be able to obtain the help he needs to enable him to progress forward.
Glad you are doing yard work but mind you, trees have to stay where they are!! emoticon ....agree, Pat?

Landlord getting nasty. The building management is also quite fed up of him and so is the agent. So are the residents. Sometimes I wonder how people can ever be happy when everyone hates them!!

As usual, stay safe. God Bless and take care, my wonderful Kakak-Kakak.

Many Hugs and Much Love, Prema

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Strange, my eye doctor asked if I remembered Woodstock. I told him that I didn't go, but I did remember it. "Do you know what else was going on at that time?" he asked. Without allowing me time to answer, he said, "Another flu pandemic--the Hong Kong flu.". That I remember because I was in graduate school and, in fact, managed to get that flu!! It was the first flu shot I ever received, and I never took another until I went on Medicare. Clearly, the vaccine didn't protect me from catching the flu.

I haven't talked to the guys today, but I will. I did work in the yard for a while, but I got pretty warm.

I didn't sleep much last night, maybe because I slept so much the night before.

Love you lots,
Kathy

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Kathy, I am sure you will make the right decision on whether to travel or not. Our children are so important, no matter how old they are.
Good news on your neuropathy. The trade off is worth it. Good luck with watching Stella and Nolan. Make sure you speak up if it is too much for you to handle.
Prema, Bhaloo will hopefully be happy in his foster home. I hope he gets a permanent home soon.
We continue to take each day as it comes. People are going out with reckless abandon, ignoring the distancing rules. Somehow they equate lifting some restrictions means the virus has magically disappeared.

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Dear Pat and Kathy,
I was totally out yesterday handling my dog and placing him with his foster caregiver. And after we came back home, I was totally exhausted and only just saw your messages.

Kathy, I am so very sorry that Rob tried to commit suicide. And I am so sorry that you are going through all this right now. Whatever you plan to do, trust that inner voice of yours when you make your decision. I am convinced that God is watching over you and yours.....all of you were together when you received the news and Justin was with Rob and possibly intervened at the right time.
My prayers go out to you completely. Please keep us posted.

I am glad your medication is helping the neuropathy. That's one less problem to contend with.

I am glad that Pat and you are both very vigil and aware about the far reaching consequences of throwing caution to the wind when it comes to COVOD-19. Whether it's watching over the grandchildren or flying out to your children or lending a hand, you have no idea how comforting it is to know that you are both well prepared to handle this for yourselves.

Many Hugs Pat and Kathy. Please stay safe, my sisters.

God Bless, Prema

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Thanks, Pat. I'm conflicted about going to W. Va. Flying doesn't seem very smart, but Pat told me that if I needed to go they'd find a way to get me there. I'm not sure my presence would be beneficial, and I surely don't want to add another dimension to an existing problem.

I think I start watching grandkids Monday...if that's when summer starts for them. I'll have to verify tomorrow.

This new medication is helping my neuropathy, but it's also making me gain weight. I guess that's some sort of trade-off. It really feels good to have the neuropathy improving though.

Thanks for your prayers for Rob and Justin.

I hope you're all having a great weekend. Love you all.
Kathy

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Oh Kathy, I am so sorry. I am praying for Rob and Justin to get through this. Prayers for you too. It must be so hard on you being so far away. emoticon

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I'm not sure how to do this, so I guess I just say it: Rob tried to commit suicide Tuesday. I didn't know until Justin called me yesterday. Thankfully, Pat and his family were still here when Justin called. I've talked to Rob three times. He sounds good, but then who really knows?

Kathy

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Prema, our numbers are unbelievable and our population over the age of 60 account for 80% of the deaths. Our overcrowded prisons account for many of the cases along with senior living facilities.
I hope you get the complete shutdown. That would help.
My SIL took Donovan and Davis fishing for the first time last Wednesday. Both boys caught fish and really enjoyed time with their dad. Michelle was happy to have them out of the house for a few hours.

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Dear Pat,

The anxiety is incomparable and so agonizing for everyone. And the truth is that you will continue to agonize until either a vaccine is found or this whole COVID-19 disappears! There is only so much social distancing you can practice with kids...

The medical practitioners in Malaysia have reverted with strong suggestions on having a complete lock down on the 2 days of the festivities to make sure everyone stays safe. We do not need another round of cases - one round is hard enough.

Ohio has 1/3 the population Malaysia has. We stand at 30 million citizens. You have just over 10 times more deaths than we do. That's a little scary, Pat.

I am keeping my fingers crossed that you don't see any negative repercussions after Tuesday, or weeks from Tuesday.

Stay safe, my sister. God Bless and Hugs, Prema



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Prema, we will not know if Melanie and the kids will be okay until days, weeks or months after going back to work. I worry about them and their possible exposure to all of this.
It sounds like your country may face an increase of cases when they allow groups of 20 or more get together. Hopefully they follow safe distancing and good hand washing and sanitizing. Your numbers have been good.
Ohio cases 25,721
Hospitalized 4618
Deaths. 1483
Our retail businesses opened up on Tuesday. Dangerous move.

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I was wondering who SMJTELLER is....and realised that I missed her/him from the onset. My apologies to you SMJTELLER. Please do tell us about yourself.
My name is Prema and I live in Malaysia. I am a working single mum, aged 62 and I have two adult children and a god-daughter. My daughter lives and works in Melbourne, Australia and my son works in Malaysia and lives with me. My god-daughter is married and I have a 4 year old grandson from her.

I echo all that Kathy has said - I myself went through a very bad divorce about a year and a half ago, and my amazing sisters were there for me offering their support and virtual shoulders throughout this entire ordeal. There was no way I could have made it this far, without them by my side...

Pat, you did tell me that Maya had to go back to work and bring her kids with her. I am keeping fingers and toes crossed that they are all able to stay safe, especially when everyone is trying to find a balance between saving lives and saving livelihoods. Tough times!!

Kathy and Pat, I am so glad that your medical appointments are being handled carefully. That's really comforting.

Hari Raya or Eid will be celebrated next week on the 23rd or 24th of May. Our leaders, contrary to the advice of our DG of Health, has decided that people can visit their families on the first day and limit all gatherings to no more than 20 people. This could end up being a nightmare....it's almost as though they believe that the virus will, out of compassion, take a day off and ensure that no one gets infected on that day. emoticon

By the way, my ex and his mum will not be taking my dog, so Vishal and I are looking at alternate arrangements. Will keep you posted when we get through this.

In the meantime, please continue to stay safe, my Kakak-Kakak. God Bless and Many Hugs,
Prema

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Kathy, when I went to the dermatologist s couple of weeks ago, they did the same thing but they also took my temperature before taking me back. I see the ENT doctor on Monday.. I hope they do the same thing.


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SMJTELLER, welcome. I'm the true senior here; I'll turn 75 in July. You have arrived in a group who have been loving and supporting each other for multiple years. Our group has remained small, but that's not by design.

I'm a retired middle school English teacher and have raised two sons. My older son and his husband live in W. Va. My younger son and his family live about 18 minutes from me, and that includes two grandkids, 10 and 6. I'm just south of Wichita, Ks.

Last year these ladies prayed me through ovarian cancer. They always have been there for me. Though we've never physically been together, the bond is secure and very real.

I was advised by my eye doctor's office today that I should call the office from the parking lot in the morning. They'll call me back when they're ready for me, and I should wear my mask. I'm relieved that they're taking precautions. I think the opening around the Wichita area is going well. I think the Kansas City area has had some extra cases emerge, we've had two new cases. We're up to 20 deaths in the county, one recently.

Please take care; take no unnecessary chances.

Love to my adik-adik,
Kathy

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SMJTELLER, tell us a little bit about yourself. My name is Pat and I am 65 years old. I live outside of Columbus, Ohio. I am married and have 2 grown daughters and 3 grandsons ages 13, 7 and 4 and one granddaughter age 3. All of my grandkids live within 2 miles of my home. My oldest daughter is a kindergarten teacher and my youngest daughter is a director at a daycare. She just went back to work on Monday. Both of my son in laws have been working right through this pandemic.
Prema, I don’t remember if I told you that Melanie went back to work. Her boss decided that he was losing so much money that they turned into a pandemic center. Maxwell and Maya have gone back with her. It scares me but if she didn’t go back she would not be able able to continue to get unemployment.
How is Dhivia doing? Is she working?

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Liked yesterday how friends reached out to check in with each other.

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Hi Pat.
I like the picnic and the safe game of hide and seek....how very clever.

In Malaysia, in supermarkets, the pork section is located in a separate area and one has to pay for it separately so that Muslim customers and cashiers do not accidentally handle the pork. If there's a dinner function with Muslims, no pork is served at all.
There are many restaurants serving pork and one patronizes these places if there are no Muslims in the group.

I have Muslim friends who never minded the fact that I had dogs. And I had as many who did mind this and I had to keep the dogs at the back when they visited. It was something we have gotten used to over these years...

Stay safe, and continue your safe distancing ways, my sister.

Hugs, Prema

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Kathy, Rob and Justin have a lot to work out. I hope they can make it through all of this and come out stronger on the other side. Hooray for hugs from the grandkids. Melanie came over yesterday with Max and Maya. They had picked up McDonald's and sat on a blanket and ate dinner. After that the kids and I played a socially distanced game of hide and seek.
Prema, the dog thing makes sense to me now. I do not know what percentage of your population is Muslim but it does make sense. That would never be acceptable here. When a few grocery stores started posting signs at the end of the belt to please not use a lane if you were buying pork because the cashier was Muslim, that did not go over well and was stopped almost immediately.
Have a great day ladies.

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Hi Pat.
My girlfriends who moved to America with their husbands cannot imagine living in Malaysia or any other country where pets, especially dogs, are not allowed in apartments! Generally, the Muslims do not care for dogs and will not occupy an apartment if there are dogs around - so the government has decided that no dogs in apartments. Truly sad!

Glad that you saw Melanie and the 2 boys....they must really be missing their grandma. Will keep my fingers crossed for Michelle and her children.

Hi Kathy. I honestly fear for America and Europe most of all. there could be a second round of COVID-19 across many places if the suggested precautions are not taken into consideration.

And no, I was not surprised by my sister. Merely irritated with her, my cousins and my mum. And my Vishal now wonders how I turned out the way I did with a mum who was not really a nice person at all....

Rob is really quite lucky to have someone like Justin looking out for him. Please keep us posted....it will be good if Rob chooses to address this as it would be most helpful for him in the long run. Keeping fingers crossed all the way.

Stay safe, my sisters. Take care and God Bless.

Hugs, Prema

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Happy belated Mother's Day!! The kids brought lunch yesterday AND I got permission for one hug from each grandkid. It was awesome!!

As for my niece, she's a social worker at one of the hospitals, and she strips in the garage when she gets home from work. Her husband has been ill, has Chron's, and just had hernia surgery; he doesn't need exposure to anything. Silly me, I asked her if she closed the garage door before stripping. emoticon

It's rained all day, so no walk for me today.

The YMCAs are opening with fewer hours, no one under13, and exercise classes that are held outside. Second week of Phase I. With doing more testing, of course they're finding more cases. The trick is trying to figure out how that is taken into account for opening purposes. Pat said the Village Inn parking lot was packed yesterday as they passed.

Prema, sorry about you having to move-- I hate moving!! Glad you can still connect with Hock. You weren't really surprised about your sister and Bahloo, were you?

Rob's version of the drugs was different--no surprise there!! He claimed he only took Justin's "extra" pills. They see the doctor tomorrow. I asked Justin if there was a prescription less likely to be abused, and he said this is it. The last prescription was for Aderall, and it was switched to Vyvanse because Rob had done the same thing with the Aderall. Of course, Rob doesn't want a label of possible drug addict. His poor, bruised ego. I'll be glad to hear how this plays out; Justin said he'd call. Of course, Rob isn't currently talking to him.

Ei, always glad to hear from you. Sorry about your fx.

Stay safe, ladies.
Kathy

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SMJTELLER, sounds like a great evening.
Prema, it makes sense but landlords here allow dogs in many apartments if you pay a pet deposit along with your rent. In Melanie's complex, they even have a dog park. I could never imagine having a pet in a 2 bedroom apartment.
Yesterday was a quiet day. Michelle had come over on Saturday to give me my present. I also got to see Donovan and Davis. They stayed in the driveway and I stayed on the porch. The three of them were wearing masks too.
Melanie did not make it over. She had to get groceries because she starts back to work today. She has to pack the kids breakfast and lunch. I am hoping that they stay safe.


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Hi Pat. Happy Mother's Day to you, Kathy and Ei.
My grandson sent me a little pot of phalaenopsis orchids for Mother's Day. And it is gorgeous and made my day.

Unfortunately, apartment blocks in most places in Malaysia are not pet friendly let alone dog friendly. The authorities only allow dogs if the owners live in houses and landed properties, not apartments.
And, on top of everything else, I return late every night from work so it will not be fair to keep any dog, let Bhaloo, with me unless I have a reliable helper at home. The only reason I am home now is because of COVID-19.

I am so glad your snow babies arrived in time for Mother's Day. What a lovely gift for each of their girls to remember their grandmother..

Stay safe and take care. God Bless and Hugs, Prema

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enjoyed time with a very few friends last night: campfire, camaraderie, BBQ and salads.

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Prema, good morning and Happy Mother’s Day. I feel for your poor Bhaloo. I hope his ear gets taken care of. Is it possible for you to get him back if you move to a pet friendly apartment building?
I got a special gift in the mail yesterday. My mom collected snow babies. I had asked my brother if he could send me something that was special of my mom’s that my daughters could have. He sent a snow baby for each of them. My girls were so happy to get them.

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Hi Ei. How wonderful to hear from you. Thank you for your kind words and your wishes. They mean a lot to me.
I did know that you were actually trying to heal yourself through a stress fracture. That seems to be the common thread among all the Super Grannies - we get injured, stressed out, ill, etc etc.....we fight to come back again and just get on with life without complaining. Thank you for being so strong and so inspiring, Ei.

I have another issue now. My crazy sister has decided to send my cocker spaniel to the SPCA because she is convinced that his ear infection will kill my 90 year old mum. She has gotten 2 of my cousins to help her look out for my mum because she has yet to move from Penang.
And my mum is no dog lover. She only agreed to take my dog because she wanted a guard dog! Her previous helper loved my Bhaloo and adhered to all the instructions about his care and he was thriving.
My sister did not like the helper and replaced her with a new one and that's when the drama started.
My Bhaloo may need to go for ear surgery and the children have decided to get their father and his mum to look after their dog. He has agreed and to be fair, his mum is a much better caregiver than my mum will ever be.....
Let's hope I can get this sorted out this coming week.

Stay safe my sisters. Politicians everywhere are going crazy, opening up the economy too soon without assessing the repercussions. You keep to your SOPs as they seems to be working out a lot better.

God Bless and Hugs, Prema

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Prema, too bad your idiot landlord doesn’t realize what a good tenant he has. Pays on time, keeps the peace and I am sure you don’t make a lot of noise. I hope you find something better.
Ei, oh no on that stress fracture. I am glad to hear that you have recovered and are doing on line classes.
Covid 19 birthdays are a real bummer and we are in for a long summer with no pools or gyms.
I think governor DeWine has caved in to demands by the loudest of Ohioans. Dr Amy Acton has had protestors at her home demanding she change her orders and open up the state. We started out great and now things are opening up too soon in my opinion.

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Good morning dear friends,
Been thinking about all of you and keeping all in prayers. This has been a awful time with the Covid19 virus going on. Going to be a long time before a virus is found I understand. The next year or more our lives will be so different and never the same. Luckily no one I know has had the virus, but so many have died and are in the ICU and it is so sad and scary at times. Our Governor OH, Mike Dewine seems to be doing a very good job daily and trying to makes things easier for all of us as time goes on..
Pat,
How are you doing? Sorry about the derm appointment. I do hope it will be ok.
HB to your husband Jim and also to Melanie. Hard to have a birthday when we cannot plan a gathering to celebrate. My daughter Mary will be 49 next week on the 13th too and will be hard.
I do agree that we are opening too soon. The protesters are making such a nuisance to stay outside the building when the governor speaks and they are all close together. Sad that they do no abide by safe decisions.... How kind of you to help your daughter with her rent and a nice dinner. I am thinking she is not working right now.She is lucky to have such wonderful parents. So SORRY again about your mom passing. It is always hard to lose our parents no matter how old they are. Glad she was with your brother her last weeks and had some comfort and peace with family. May she rest in peace now. Cherish those special memories and I know you will miss her. Not sure if they will open our pool here at the Condo association either this year. Possibly not. My kids and grandkids will sure miss this. The SENIOR shopping hours is very helpful and glad you are using this and getting in and out quickly with mask on. Take care Pat and know I think about you and your family and hope all will be safe and well. Hugs to you and love.

Prema,
How are you doing? Sorry for the loss of your friend Karena. Not easy to deal with and so young. I am sure you are missing Hock also and glad you can do video sharing. I do this too with my kids, either Skype or FaceTime. It does help but of course seeing each other in person is so much nicer. This social distancing is hard when we cannot hug our kids, grandkids and spend time together. We just need to be safe and wear the mask and gloves and stay in if possible. I was walking daily for several weeks, but did get a stress fx on my rt foot. So had to wear a shoe from the Derm dr. for 2 weeks. IT is better now, thank goodness. Sorry you have to move again. That is such a big job. So happy your son will be able to do anything that is hard to move, etc. Hope you find a nice place and it works out well for you. Well, take care and know I am thinking of you and your family. Hugs and love.

Kathy, How are you feeling? sorry to hear about your hip pain, hope it gets better.
Noah looks so tall and grown up and adorable. Happy birthday to him, 6 is hard to believe. Glad he got over his fever and flu bug and is back to normal. Such a worry. So sorry for the loss of your aunt. I am sure you have precious memories of her. My deepest sympathy to you. Sorry Rob is having health issues too and hope all will turn out ok, will keep him in prayer. Glad your son Pat is shopping for you. Better not to go to if possible. Curbside is the only way we get a restaurant now to get food. Almost easier to eat at home. I know with the social distancing my kids aren't allowed inside to visit me either and we do a garage outside and me inside type visit. So, anyway keeping you and all in prayers and sending hugs and love.
Doing reading, clothes sorting to give away, photo project to give to kids when done, big job. Exercise classes are now on ZOOM from my rec center 5 days a week for the Silver sneaker classes...So that has been good.
Well, got to run, daughter Mary and Niamh are stopping over now for a 15 min visit outdoors.......Will ty to come back more often. Do miss you all dear sisters.
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Pat, I hope Melanie can initiate a discussion with her boss on the fact that if anything does happen at the daycare centre, they will be totally liable for the costs involved in sanitizing the whole place, quarantining themselves, parents quarantining the kids etc etc.....does not seem to be worth it...

I may be moving out of my apartment to another apartment in the same vicinity by the end of this month.

My current landlord is an idiot of the highest order. All the rentals everywhere in KL have come down as most expats have moved back to their original countries and many companies have decided that they can no longer rent properties for their senior people.
My landlord wants to substantially increase my rental (30% more than market rate)!! and wanted me to move out during the current lock down period.
Fortunately, the management office agreed with me on the stupidity of this situation and told him to wait until the lock down was totally lifted.

So, I am on the lookout and the only issue is the inconvenience, which I should be able to manage together with my son.

We still have a lot to be thankful for.....and this is nothing more than an inconvenience.....

Stay safe my sisters. Take care and God Bless.

Hugs, Prema

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Kathy, oh my, not good news about Rob. It must have been hard for Justin to report it but definitely the right thing to do. Prayers for Rob and Justin. It is do hard to have them so far away. They are still in West Virginia, right?
I feel for any mom spending mother's day in a nursing home or rehab center. They are locked up tighter than Fort Knox. Our nursing home numbers are quickly rising. The only way to stop that rise would be to have the staff live with the residents until the all clear sign is given.
Prema, I went grocery shopping today and saw Melanie's car at her work. Daycares have not opened up but she said her boss wants them to start working Monday with a small class size. I hope they do not get into trouble for opening up before the governor gives them the all clear. That announcement comes on Monday.


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Dear Pat. Hock is doing okay, thank you and yes, we are missing each other quite a bit and have to rely on video calls to keep each other company. The stats in your state are a little worrying but I am glad that you and your family are doing all the right things.
Glad you also managed to get your little piggies fixed and in quick time under very safe conditions. Your podiatrist is as smart as you are.....

Hi Kathy. It is not quite an upbeat day for you, my Kakak.
I agree with you about taking more precautions with your Bible Study group - as you said, why risk it?
I am still a little worried about your hip but feel a little upbeat since you are staying positive....you are amazing....
I feel really bad about your niece's husband...but am still wondering if you should join them Sunday.

And, my prayers go out to you for Rob and Justin. I was just telling myself that everything up to now has been going okay for Rob and I was really glad for you. God is looking out for you, Kathy, and I am sure Rob will get the help he needs. Please keep us posted.

Ladies, my heart and prayers go out to both of you. If you can imagine our world without social distancing, I am holding you both in my arms and praying that normalcy comes back into our lives as soon as God deems this possible.

All my prayers, hugs and love....always.
Prema

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My niece's husband called a while ago and asked if I'd like to join them Sunday evening for Mother's Day. His mother, confined to a nursing home, will spend her Mother's Day without her son. Her dementia is really bad, and Jim usually sees her almost daily; this is probably harder on him than his mom. My brother and his wife will be there too.

It was a depressing day with no sun. Darkness settled in very swiftly.

Prayers needed, my adik-adik. Justin called me this morning. He and Rob both take meds for ADHD, and Rob's been taking both of their prescriptions. Because of his job, Justin had to report this to Rob's doctor. Because of his job with the FBI, if they discover Rob with an untreated addiction, Justin's security clearance could be revoked and his job gone. They have an appointment with Rob's doctor on Tuesday. Please pray that my son gets the help he needs.

Sweet dreams.
Kathy

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Kathy, it is a good idea to stay away from groups that are not wearing masks. It just takes one sneeze or cough to pass on the virus. Take car. It is good of Pat to take care of the groceries. I too will not drink milk past the expiration date. If milk is close to expiring, I will not buy it.
I will go grocery shopping tomorrow. Today I called my podiatrist to tell him I needed to get my ingrown toenails removed or whatever. My little piggies were burning and painful when walking. The receptionist asked how far away I lived. I told her just minutes away. She said if I could come in right now, he would see me. He clipped and filed both big toes. He also applied lidocaine and wrote me a prescription. From the time I made the call, drove there, had my appointment and drove home was 35 minutes. Oh, and everyone was wearing a mask.

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