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On Forgiveness

Saturday, May 22, 2021

Empathy -> Forgiveness

Putting ourselves in the shoes of the other person and not taking things the other person did personally when someone else says or does something is the key to forgiveness. Remember what a person says or does is usually not about you. Often you are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. What they say or do is about them, not you. Your taking offense is always optional, but if the other persons actions give cause for deep concern for the safety of you or others, it could be best to involve the authorities or police. Even then, forgiveness allows you to move on with your life. Just see yourself as separate and immune from the actions of another who may have been traumatized early in their life or just be having a bad day.
So forgiveness here is the key to moving on with your life in spite of the actions of another. We are not forgiving the bad behavior, we are forgiving the other person for not knowing better, maybe due to an difficult early life and a failure to rise above it. Remember this: forgiving the other person enables us to best move forward in our own life.
Hope this helps you when the need for forgiveness arises.
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    I recently cut ties with a family member that was very toxic and verbally threatening on social media. It is inconvenient for other family members. Then after moving to a new state I met a neighbor who's first sentence out of her mouth was, " I heard you lost everything and had to move". this by the way was not true and I was very offended but did not set the record straight because I don't have to explain my business to someone I only knew for 45 seconds before the comment. Now, regarding these two people. Neither one was a poor victim of circumstance. One is a spoiled manipulator who becomes toxic and violent if she doesn't get what she thinks is owed to her (which by the way is nothing)
    and the other is I found out someone who will stretch the truth about other people to get her 15 minutes of fame in the form of gossip. She has exhibited this many times since I met her. Now- I feel no need to boost their ego's or make them feel better in the form of apologizing- for not associating with them and forgiving them. . BTW I am a very forgiving person but have no use for dangerous and malicious people in my life.
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    The key is definitely to realize that what is said is usually about the person saying it, not you. Hard sometimes in the heat of the moment. . . but helps so much in being able to forgive.
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    Bob, It took me some time to realize that what a person says or does is usually about them and not about me. What a freeing realization it was!
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    you are responsible for the energy you bring into the room...regardless the reason for someone's behavior...forgive and move on...life is short
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