The Curious Learner
Friday, April 09, 2021
I have been that person who always wanted to be in the know and win arguments. I like being right and fighting for what is right. Lately, I have changed my attitude to be a curious learner instead. Claiming to be right is a heavy burden. It’s the high ground that needs to be defended. It involves judgment and pride. My quick “right” answers build walls against people who have different answers. The armor of “ I know” is too heavy to wear if I’m going to hike down a curiosity trail. I want to be brave enough to travel the unknown path and learn what I am capable of becoming. I will become a brave and open teacher.
Being a curious learner is gentler on my ego and my heart. I have fewer enemies as a learner. When I mindfully take the time to look closely and investigate the ideas and opinions of others, I grow. I’m making curiosity a priority. Remembering that I don’t know what I don’t know helps me to dig a little deeper beyond my quick, easy “right” answers. I also remember that there’s more than one way to look at a situation.
Even though it’s hard, I am willing to be vulnerable and curious. I’ll ask questions and I’ll admit when I am wrong. This is how I live a courageous life and have brave students in my classroom. This is the path of growth. Looking at the problem by Brene Brown. Looking at failure, shame Vulnerability, resilience, clarity of values, and trust. I’m taking time to listen. Valarie Kaur: "Deep listening is an act of surrender. We risk being changed by what we hear. It takes courage to really listen to what is at the heart of another person.
Vulnerability and shame get in the way of growth. Being willing to let people into my life. Love and joy come from being included in a family. Honesty, uncertainty, and risk open us up to being hurt. Joy is being grateful for all the good things that are happening. Don’t squander the joy by preparing for terrible things that could come. Be grateful for what you have! Accountability and honesty are needed for us to problem-solve. Have an open heart! Trauma and bias will close the heart. If I want an open classroom, I need an open heart.
I can create a culture of courage in my classroom if I remove shame. I can help students find their self-worth by keeping an open heart. Shame is something that everyone (except for those who don’t experience acceptance and empathy) had experienced in their lives. Shame is the painful belief that makes us believe that we are unlovable. Teachers are powerful entities in their student’s lives. Take the perspective of others and ask; “what did this mean for you?” “Tell me why this is so painful?”