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Tuesday, February 23, 2021

Hello dear sparklers!

Another long lapse between blogs. It's really all I can do to keep up with the communications from all of the menfolk in my newfound 'meetup' hobby.

Well...not really. I do still converse with several interesting men who I have met through these online dating sites.

BUT...I have a favorite of course. He is a lovely, lovely, REAL DEAL of a man who lost his wife after taking care of her for some 30 years with Parkinson's and Dementia.

We have been seeing each other off and on since probably early November. It all started with a smile he sent...how cliche is THAT?

I adore everything about this man. He is romantic, and honest, and caring and kind. He is a class act gentleman most of all. He is...wait for it...wonderfully wealthy but not in a pretentious way whatsoever. He is a retired lawyer which normally I would run for the hills from but he actually gives the profession a good name.

BUT...as in all situations things are a little complicated. When you are new to the online scene having been married for so so long it's a weird dynamic.

You really want to kick some tires so to speak. I know this gent has TONS of options due to his refined taste, his style..and let's face it his mega bucks.

I'm sure all of the little Naples lady lapdogs have him on their radar in a VERY big way.

And..quite honestly it's kind of hard to see what his attraction is to me...a little hippie gal with a big warm heart, but certainly not a wealthy woman whatsoever.

I guess it's true...opposites DO attract and I am being careful about crowding him on any commitment beyond what he is comfortable with.

BUT...I WAS the one he selected to spend his Valentine's Dinner with at his swanky golf club...so THERE ladies of the 'elite, meet to eat' richie rich Naples crowd! emoticon

We shall see what we shall see but he is very attentive and extremely kind to me and I'm over the moon happy with his attention.

Truly...if he made an indication that he wanted to be exclusive I'd have to say...okay let me think about that for a minute....OKAY!

It DOES take effort to meet these other menfolk and you remember I'm a working gal at my little consignment gallery so WORK on top of WORK is not exactly what I always need.

I've met some doozies...let me tell you.

Like the civil engineer from Lakeland that insisted on driving 3 hours down to visit me for two days. He stayed at the Hyatt Regency which is nearby my home and we had a lovely time.

I LOVE to play tour guide to my little city and he loves history so I took him to Koreshan Park and a few other FL landmarks. We had a great time and I was happy to agree to FaceTime with him pretty extensively for about 3 weeks. I'm telling you these were MARATHON FaceTime chats. Eventually it just became too much and I told him I just couldn't manage that kind of time commitment every SINGLE night.

I do a lot of my computer work at night with my social media for my consignment gallery and I also need some down time after my busy days of being around so many customers.

BUT...I'm SO grateful I did do the FaceTime calls. You LEARN a heck of a lot about a person in their own surroundings.

I realized that this man...as bright as he was...as amazing as he was at writing (which of course grabbed me right from the get go)...I LOVE a wordsmith...he had a VERY severe drinking problem. He guzzled wine during every telephone call and chased it...wait for it...with shots of whiskey! emoticon

He also was a slob, crunching away on Dorito chips during much of the call...so LOUD...really SO obnoxious. On top of the that he must have a death wish as he has only one kidney having one removed when he was a child.

So when he started planning for a return trip over the Valentine's Day weekend..this time for FOUR days...I just had to tell him not to come. I FaceTimed him with the news..how do you cancel a visit that had been planned for two months prior via text? I guess it IS done in this day and age but I felt that would really be harsh. OMG...I thought he was going to start crying...it was the WORST situation possible. I felt like such a creep but I told him it would be so much kinder than letting him come here again, wasting all of that money on the hotel when I could see NO future forward whatsoever.

He did NOT take the news well and angry texted me for days. I finally had to block him.

So...had I only communicated with him through his messages I NEVER would have caught these red flags. His writings were treasures...he is a gorgeous looking man, seemingly so sweet and kind...but underneath it all I uncovered he has an agenda. A big deep angry agenda towards women and who knows how many he has suckered in under this innocent and seemingly submissive behavior? Probably a lot...it's sad and scary knowing how many more men like him are probably out there.

Sooooo I'm going SLOW...slow...VERY slow and really taking my time getting to know some of these men before even giving out my phone number.

Can't be too careful in these times and I've always been privacy and security conscious..all of those years in banking kind of drilled that in my head. Good thing..people can learn EVERYTHING about you just from a phone number.

But...if I hadn't ventured out there I never would have met Mr. Michael so there's that! emoticon

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  • JUDYAMK
    The reason the last man was so angry is because you got him at his game & no doubt no other woman did that they just gravel at his feet. He uses & then tosses them away you did it first . Who the heck wants someone already slipping in the grave with his abusive way he uses his body, you would be a caregiver !YIPPY SKIPPY for you !
    55 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    I got my FIRST moderna vaccine today!
    60 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    I am glad that you are now partially protected! I just got my first appointment after waiting two months. IT is Saturday. Yippee!
    62 days ago
  • NGCHILD
    Happy to hear your news!! I will be thinking about you!!

    Nic
    63 days ago
  • NEWFLABULESS
    I'm so happy that you have found companionship. He is one lucky fella! I can't imagine what you are going through but I'm glad to hear that you are keeping busy and finding a way to meet people. Just be very careful as there are a lot of crazies out there that love to prey on vulnerable people such as yourself.

    Continued prayers!
    64 days ago
  • ANGELA-105
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    65 days ago
  • 1958TMC
    Bobbi , just be very careful out there in the river of not so nice people. We love you and want to see you happy again but just be careful ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ
    68 days ago
  • ICECUB
    MICHEAL SOUNDS WONDERFU. BUT BE CAUSTIOU/ TAKE CARE.
    69 days ago
  • LINDA!
    I am so happy for you. It would be difficult for me to date as well, after being married so long. Enjoy your time together. emoticon
    70 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/24/2021 6:08:40 PM
  • PICKIE98
    I think you are wise for cutting the alcoholic loose.

    As far as Michael, he can either be one that likes his newfound freedom post-widowing, or would like to be closer, faster. Either way, you are both navigating this new life for yourself, no rush.
    PI's can do a lot, but gut instinct tells a lot too.

    70 days ago
  • MSLZZY
    Continue to be cautious and hoping all goes well. Taking your time
    is the best option.
    70 days ago
  • BBONET
    It is so nice to read about your adventures and how cautious you are being - good for you!! I sure hope Mr. Right comes along because you deserve it. I can see how happy you are feeling and this is really awesome!! Lots of luck on your quest and keep those nice guys around!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    70 days ago
  • ALIHIKES
    So glad you met someone nice to spend Valentineโ€™s Day with. I am glad you broke it off with the other gentleman, that wrote you nice emails but had a drinking problem. It is great that you are putting time and energy into meeting new people.
    70 days ago
  • SERENASEA
    You're a good judge of people, and after hanging with that dinner group for so many years -- and seeing the many sides of one-upping and snooty -- I have every confidence that you are easing into this new relationship in a way that feels right for you. Probably even more so after supporting your friend who was taken in by a big talker, moved across the country for him, and ended up without a happy ending. Please don't question why a man would seek you out over others vying to be noticed -- you are fun, generous, loving, giving, honest and genuine, and not somebody who is willing to mold yourself to someone's "perfect" person. You have worked on loving yourself and are worthy of love, laughter and good times. Thank you so much for checking in with the updates on how you're doing. Thriving!
    70 days ago
  • TERMITEMOM
    I am glad you are being very careful! Think twice and check,,,
    70 days ago
  • BUTTONPOPPER1
    Oh wow. I was totally gripped by this account of your online dating adventures, Bobbi. I think it's great that the engineer angry-texted you after you declined to see him again, because now you know without a shadow of a doubt that breaking off communication with him was absolutely the right thing to do. He needs help, and it's not your job to provide it. Whew--bullet dodged!

    I do hope things work out with your good guy! Keep us posted! In the meantime, take good care and yay about your scheduled second vaccine!
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    70 days ago
  • KATRINAKAT23
    Great news! You sound so happy, love it.๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’š
    71 days ago
  • KATRINAKAT23
    Great news! You sound so happy, love it.๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’š
    71 days ago
  • JUDITHANNIE
    I'm happy for you
    71 days ago
  • LYNCHD05
    Absolutely love hearing about your adventures Bobbi. Good to see you are having fun and that is just what you need.
    Thanks for sharing with us!!!
    71 days ago
  • SHOAPIE
    Iโ€™d advise you to be very careful with this seemingly prefect man. To many con men and leaches out there. Remember the old adage, if it seems to be too perfect, it probably is! Not to be a Dona Downer, but be careful out there! Iโ€™d hate see you get ripped off and hurt. Do lots of investigating of this โ€œperfectโ€ man. There arenโ€™t a lot of men out there as good as your husband was! emoticon emoticon
    71 days ago
  • REGILIEH
    Mr. Michael sounds wonderful!!!

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    Anne
    71 days ago
  • PACEKA1
    I love hearing you so happy!
    71 days ago
  • ALEXSGIRL1
    wow wishing you love and happiness
    71 days ago
  • IMUSTLOSEIT1
    Do be careful, you just never know. But how do you tell if you can swim in that water unless you put your toe in the pool. I also know that you have the common sense it takes to know when are being hustled.
    71 days ago
  • SLIMMERJESSE
    Oh I'm so happy for you and hope Mr. Right continues making you happy. I'm impressed that you've met interesting men during Covid. You should give pointers to others who can't seem to find nice guys. All the best, my friend.
    71 days ago
  • VALPARAISOGIRL
    Best wishes!
    71 days ago
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