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Monday, November 23, 2020

A few are asking about my status today so here is a short explanation.

Another user (not on my friends list) posted a comment on a friends status. It was only one word but honestly, I could feel the hate dripping off of it.

Look, I do not care what political party you belong to, what religion you are, what race you are, what gender you are, who you love, or anything else! BUT...Sparkpeople is NOT the place for hate or divisiveness!

If you don’t like or agree with someone’s status, then scroll on by (or if you feel it qualifies – report it). For the curious, the original post was a very simple statement about the persons plans for the upcoming holiday in the United States. I had commented I was doing something quite similar. The offending person responded with their one word answer and honestly, not sure if it was directed at me, the other person, or both of us!

I have tried so very hard to keep my political feelings off this site. I’d say most of you have no idea of my current stance on much of anything going on right now. (except a status begging everyone to stay safe for the holidays) Mine and the original posters statements were quite innocuous and nonthreatening. Nothing about what we thought others should do.

My last comment about this...keep your HATE to yourself or your political Spark team (that is why they exist). It does not need to be ANYWHERE else on this site. (this is not the first time I have seen this, but this is the one that "got" to me)

Spark has been my safe haven from the nasty world since 2006. I do not want to see that end.

If you are nice to me, I will be nice to you, it is that simple.
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    I agree...let's just try to be kind...
    246 days ago
    And I’m impressed that you have changed the background of your blog page to a Merry Christmas theme.... now you have inspired me to figure out how to do it, too!
    246 days ago
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    248 days ago
    great post
    amen to that emoticon
    252 days ago
    emoticon I totally agree. I have scrolled by many a post I haven't agreed with or liked and let it go at that.
    I do my best not to annoy anyone as this is supposed to be a helpful site and not a hateful one.
    I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving weekend.
    253 days ago
    I missed out on this blog, but totally agree. SP is the ONLY social media I do and I love that I do not have to be bothered by opinions here. Well said.
    253 days ago
    253 days ago
    I will say this ...... thank you ! You go girl . Make sure that at least you block that person . I hope if I ever say something please message me . It is sad when people hurt others with and intent to that . emoticon emoticon
    253 days ago
    I appreciate you SparkFriend!
    254 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/24/2020 5:33:33 PM
    Yeah it seems there has become a lot of negative comments/people on EVERY social platform and basically I strive to avoid giving them any credit either direction. If I’m able to delete them..I do! Meanwhile I don't give them the pleasure of ever knowing they ruffled my feathers. They totally get a kick out of making people upset. It bothers me that they do get what they strove for ATTENTION~just like satan
    254 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/24/2020 5:32:39 PM
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    AGREED! Polarity about politics (etc, etc) is allowed. Hatred? Never. God bless your sweet heart.
    254 days ago
    Oh how very much I agree with you. This is my safe haven. emoticon
    254 days ago
    Well said.
    254 days ago
    Amen emoticon .
    If you cant say anything nice ,say nothing at all .is a good rule.
    Have a great day emoticon
    254 days ago
    254 days ago
    sorry you had to go through what you just went through. i would report them and their post. they could be just someone that joins SP just to be nasty. so sorry anyone has to deal with people like that.
    take care. (((HUGS))).
    254 days ago
    Amen. I posted a similar status a couple of days ago. This is no place for nasty hate filled comments.

    Stay safe. Be well. emoticon
    254 days ago
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    Sorry you had to deal with that. I had an issue today too, though not on Spark, so I know how you feel.

    I used to spend a lot of time reading the SP Community Feed before I started working, but I noticed a lot of conflict and drama there at times and decided I didn't want to expose myself to that. I never go there anymore, I have my settings so I only read posts of people I am friends with, and that works for me. As you say, SP should be drama free.
    254 days ago
  • JAMER123
    I totally agree with you! Our world has become so divisive and hateful and it's spewed over everyone. We need a lot of kindness and "love" to come back into our world. Sparks is a place where we see the kindness and the support and the "love" of our friends. Political views do not belong here. I am so sorry you have had to deal with this. The past yr(s) have been difficult but we don't have to accept the lack of sensitivity.
    254 days ago
    HEAR! HEAR! I totally agree! emoticon
    254 days ago
    I agree! Sorry that happened to you.

    This is a great community and the majority of members are really friendly, kind and supportive. There are few whose rude and or snarky comments make me cringe and sometimes angry. But, I hold my tongue because I don't want to stoop to their level. Their comments speak volumes about who they are.

    I agree about keeping politics and issues off this site that cause hate and division.

    Don't let someone's ignorance get to you.


    254 days ago
    I agree with all that you said and am fortunate to not, so far, have been the recipient of nastiness. Frankly at my age I have little or no tolerance for it. It takes so very little effort to just be nice.
    254 days ago
    Wish Spark people was NOT the avenue for hate. I have my opinions on everything the current level of hate saddens me.
    255 days ago
    255 days ago
  • LINDA!
    You are right. I actually have heard two people mention that they received some nastiness on their blogs in the past couple of days. Why? I know there are many that are going through a difficult time during this pandemic, but we all need to be kind.

    255 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel. I also feel the hate, and have experienced it in here. Just so sad. Spark People is not the place for one's political feelings. Spark People should be about uplifting one another, not tearing someone to shreds because they don't fit into their molds. You're a good person. Just hold on to that, and keep moving on. emoticon
    255 days ago
    I agree
    255 days ago
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    I so agree with you and commend you for bringing this topic up! 😊 ... I have said it before as well that I joined spark people because of the site it is which is health wellbeing and fitness. Nothing more! ... I would never want to see sparkpeople turned into a replica of facebook! To each his own I suppose but because of the animosity, and sometimes pure hatred I seldom go there anymore! What's the point!? ... emoticon
    255 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/23/2020 1:34:03 PM
    It is so easy to be kind...or not comment at all. That ugly-minded Sparker will carry her attitude with her for all her life....so very sad. I am fortunate that I have not had comments like that on from any sparker. Actually I tend to be a bit too like Pollyanna so I expected some on my last blog.

    Please don't ever let a negative person take you away from Spark, Kat. This is a safe place where you love to be....there are only a few bad apples.

    Kindness and support are what separates SparkPeople from other social media!

    Please report that person to SparkPeople if that "one" word was especially objectionable!
    255 days ago
    I am sorry that you encountered such a rude person. There is never a place or time to be unkind. I think I am seeing this rudeness much more since around the elections and the precautions for Covid. Many people are very self-centered and want people to agree with them. I will agree to just not interact with them until they can act like civilly.
    255 days ago
  • MARYBETH4884
    I leave an extra supportive and kind comment when I see a hateful comment directed toward someone here. You are right, we are all here to regain a healthy lifestyle so we should be on the same side. Each person's method is different, but the ultimate goal is the same!
    255 days ago
    My husband gets very upset regarding the opinions of others. I don't allow the opinions of others to upset me and I hope you won't either. We can't agree on everything. We all are the sum of our environmental upbringing and they are often very different. My parents taught me to embrace diversity though I won't embrace things like hate, prejudice, cruelty, bullying, etc. There is some good in every person. So I tend to look for that and if they are not agreeable to that I avoid them. I like to be happy and positive so I decide what to allow in my life. You have the right to do the same. Hugs.
    255 days ago
    Kindness . . . . that is what is needed in this world!
    255 days ago
    So true! I am sorry you experienced that. Hope the rest of your day goes well.
    255 days ago
    255 days ago
    I agree, I try to be positive on most things i post on peoples pages. if someone gets nasty with me i just unfriend them, I haven't the time or energy for the drama. We all have a right to feel and do whatever we think is right for us.
    255 days ago
    Thank you for the explanation. I agree - there is enough hate and division in the world these days and SP is not the place for it!
    255 days ago
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