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Here I am again being scolded by my parents at 63

Tuesday, November 10, 2020

I am heartbroken and no matter how hard I try or how much I do I keep hitting a wall of control and being a child. Today my dad is driving my mom to her specialist to get the mri results. He promised me we were going to take them, we drive out there and I feel degraded, cut down, and back in the child mode. I called his dr to inform him he is driving against his dr orders since it has only been 2 weeks since breaking his ribs. We started building the deck yesterday which is going to be done with or without us and that’s where we’ll be again tomorrow. Mom doesn’t like the way it looks and dad is going to get it done before winter. My daughter again has possibly been exposed to two more covid possibilities we are waiting for results on as our number yesterday was 9010. They are coming here after the appointment to “stop this nonsense “ and I’m praying for strength, wisdom and a sound mind
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  • NANCYPAT1
    I deeply sympathize with your situation, but being a person who has said final goodbyes to 3 parents, a son and one of my two sisters (the other is dealing with cancer that is expected to be fatal in the near future), I envy your still having your parents to scold you. It is stressful and difficult but at least you still have them. I pray for the strength for you to deal with your "blessings" because even when they are blessings, they keep you on your toes. It is doubly difficult when EVERYONE in your family (you know, those blessings) is being difficult and irrational.
    212 days ago
  • RUTHIEBEAR
    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I am so sorry you have so much to deal with. I continue to pray and send hugs emoticon
    212 days ago
  • DOVESEYES
    It is hard to get older, after being so strong all your life, it is also hard to be told that you need help :).

    You are a wonderful Mom, wife, daughter and friend, try to think how you would want to be treated, forgive and keep being available.

    Humungous hugs :)
    213 days ago
  • KR7770
    Your dad sounds like he is reacting out of fear... knows winter weather is coming, experiencing pain himself and feeling like he will not be able to get it done.

    Yet, even more importantly, he is worried about your mother's health and facing another serious unknown.
    I will pray for you to have God's peace and wisdom. People strike out against those they love dearly because they don't know how to handle the situations they face. That is not to defend them but to help us understand where they are coming from.

    Think of how you would want people to respond to you if you were in your parents shoes...it will help.
    213 days ago
  • TRIMNUP
    RE: dealing with elderly parents who are desperately trying to hold on to their independence; been there, done that and I kept praying, "Please God, don't let me do this to MY children!" Humans do seem to repeat history and patterns of behavior if we don't make an effort to stop and change what we don't like. We also don't seem to be able to change on our own - we need divine help.

    Is there any way possible that you can "make it their idea" how the back deck is built. Like, have dad supervise or explain how to do it his way? That way it seems to be in their control... just throwing out possibilities.

    I do hope the waiting to know Covid test results is over SOON!
    213 days ago
  • SLIMMERJESSE
    Oh no! This never ends, does it? Prayers.
    213 days ago
  • THINCPL2004
    Prayers my parents are about the same! Heart ❤ goes out to you!
    213 days ago
  • TSHAWGER
    Prayers to you. Stand strong to your parents.
    213 days ago
  • MSMOSTIMPROVED
    PRAYERS!! This is a lot for anyone to deal with. I pray for your patience. emoticon
    213 days ago
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