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Saturday, November 07, 2020

My parents are impossible, my mom will not accept the fact my dad is hurting and is pushing him to build the deck. Insist he can do a board or two a day. She has a follow up from her mri Tuesday and insist dad is driving her. My sister talked to our dad’s dr about our concerns and now dad has told him he is not to give us any information. His feet are still swollen and his feet, sides and back are black and blue. They cannot regulate his blood pressure, blood thinner medication and now with broken ribs he does not have clearance to drive. I keep telling them they are risking their own lives and others but their anger is taken out on who speaks against them. My sister is going to Ohio for awhile because this is taking its toll as she lives next door and she is their enemy. We’ve been there every day and in our way out again and my mom’s dementia and dad’s anger makes it so stressful
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    My suggestion is and this is going to sound cruel, but leave them to their own devices! They don't want any help because they don't think they need any. The more you try to reason with them, the more they dig in their heels!

    Save yourself the aggravation and heartache, even though they are not doing the right thing, and let them be. You can't save them from themselves only yourself!

    215 days ago
    Dear one, you have so much to cope with. I am so sorry. Sending hugs and prayers. emoticon emoticon
    217 days ago
    How wonderful they have you ... hugs
    217 days ago
    Prayers for you and your family.
    217 days ago
    I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. My opinion (and it's just that, an opinion) is to find a caregiver support group. There are so many adult children going through exactly what you are enduring. Hugs and prayers that things are better soon
    217 days ago
    It's so hard being a caregiver.I hope things I'mprove for you!! Don't give up things do improve.You need to take care of yourself first!! If you don't take. care of yourself .How can you give and be a caregiver.Take one day at a time!!
    217 days ago
    My heart goes out to you. I pray you find grace and favor in the ears and hearts of your parents. I pray you are given the words they need to hear. My mom had Alzheimer's and my dad had multiple mini strokes until a big one took his life. It was hard to deal with because they expected me to fix everything that was far beyond my abilities. I had to keep telling my dad my magic wand is broken. My mom couldn't remember my name but expected me to be there daily. I understand the toll it's taking on your sister and you. Love endures all things but nothing was promised to be easy. The heart is willing but the flesh is not able.
    217 days ago
    This is one of those impossible situations where so much is beyond our control. As always, you and your family are in my prayers.
    218 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    I'm sorry you are dealing with that. I always think about the money situation such old people can get into. A girl I know who works for a bank said an 86 yo man took out $50,000 from his savings and then came back in wanting to borrow $50,000 and he said "They called me and said I was going to lose my house because I hadn't paid for it, but I told them I had and they said I had to send $50,000 to them or I'd lose it and now they say they didn't get the money so I have to send it again, but I'll have to borrow it." The girl said he was referred to the manager who told him to see the BBB and told him where to go, as they are not suppose to tell people they have been scammed. Hopefully, the BBB did. Just sad that old people can be taken like that. I hope your parents are not running up bills.

    218 days ago
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