my only regret is that my older rescue kitty Miss Bilbo Baggins is still not pleased ... hardly see her at all she's really in a pout .. I'll give this little girl another week to convince the old gal that life is going to be more fun and to accept her or I'll have to return this kitty to my son and his family .. I know I won't want to because of course this little turd is a heart stealer .. but my first responsibility is to my old kitty .. my old love .. my old cuddle bug that has now become distant and hides .. makes me sad .. so any ideas that you have to help my old grumpy pants accept this new energy kitty would be appreciated ..
Wow, she is adorable! Lucky you. I love her name and I'm sure that your older lovey will friend her soon. It seems they need to do it on their own terms. I would definitely pay extra attention to the one you've had the longest right now. 153 days ago
Cats can be very finicky when it comes to making friends with the new addition. My advice would be to keep them separated if possible and gradually introduce them for a few minutes here and there thru out the day. If too late for that, show both cats some affection where they can see each other getting some attention. There will be a lot of hissing going on, especially from the older one, so you have to reassure that one how much she is still loved. Let her hiss but tell her it's okay, pet the kitten and then pet her then back to the kitten (you are transferring their scents this way, too. If the older one tries to hurt the new one, do not allow her to get away with that. A harsh "No!" and/or squirt from a spray bottle but only if the claws come out and it's nasty. Swatting but without claws is her way of saying "I am in charge." But do give it ample time...another week may not be long enough. As long as they are not actively hurting one another it can take a few months for things to settle. Little one will probably keep trying to engage the older one in play, older one will be hissy and grumpy, then show a bit of dominance but start to interact...and eventually they may become best buddies.
We have had many cats over the years - currently we have 5. One of our older ones is a real "special case" in that she lives up in our bedroom and has not come down stairs in months...she used to be "normal" but we're not sure what happened - she did disappear for 3 weeks, perhaps she was traumatized. Anyway she tolerates the other cats and dogs but does not interact with them at all other than to share the bed . We did bring a new (older) kitty in a few months ago (owner had passed away) but this upset the older one so much she started peeing in our bed. The new one subsequently went with my daughter when she moved out and the older one is better. Older cats are more accepting of kittens but it does take time. Patience, extra lovies, treats... 153 days ago