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Tuesday, July 07, 2020

My daughter is adjusting -to her ability - of not living with us as we are trying to break away from her feeling she has to see us every day. McDonald’s has closed the lobby’s and no dine in eating again but thankfully this time keeping her. My son has lived in his apartment for nearly a week and only taken what he wants. We drew up the paperwork with an attorney yesterday to remove his personal belongings including the two vehicles and now waiting to serve him since we have no address but ours. We very politely are setting boundaries with my parents and “there need to know” since it’s very difficult to explain to others who have “normal” kids that mine are not and cannot expect them to think, act, or do as if they are, I cracked open a door I should have remained locked and in doing so have caused permanent damage. By opening up to share some of our life has caused my parents to never accept my son or allow him to come for any holidays or events - and now I have to live with that!. His feelings of rejection and not being accepted are real, he is rejected and he’s not accepted.
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  • TCANNO
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    106 days ago
  • DOVESEYES
    What love helps us do as parents is not always easy for others :) hugs.
    106 days ago
  • KATRINAKAT23
    I agree with others about talking to someone. A professional who has experience with what you are having to deal with would probably help you. Wishing you the best. Glad you are talking to your parents, They are doing what they think is best.
    107 days ago
  • NANCYPAT1
    I feel your pain - both the challenge of kids who are super challenging and the feeling that others are judging you and yours. There is a lot to deal with. Talking with someone (counselor or minister, friend or someone else who might understand without judging you) can be very rewarding. They can help you sort out the mix of feelings and move forward.
    107 days ago
  • SLIMMERJESSE
    Just when things were looking brighter for you, something happens to upset it all. Please take care during this stressful time.
    107 days ago
  • RUTHIEBEAR
    emoticon What an emotional time this is for you. I am glad you can share some of those feelings and frustrations here. We are here for you. emoticon
    107 days ago
  • KELLYRAMONA
    I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Issues with our children, whether they are grown or not, are the hardest to bear. It's also hard to keep all the trauma to yourself, such a weight to carry. Speaking to someone you trust, sharing your feelings with your spouse, or finding a professional could really help.

    Setting boundaries with people who bring toxicity into our lives is a priority.
    I hope staying present in today can bring you some peace emoticon
    107 days ago
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