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Wasted Appointment

Friday, June 05, 2020

Severely frustrated. DH went to his nutritionist appointment this morning... and found out nothing. Apparently, he was not told he needed to log every bite for 3 days and bring that to the appointment. And then she wouldn't even talk to him and said he'd need to reschedule. So, I'm waiting to see if we get billed for that worthless appointment, and he's refusing to go back for another appointment due to his wasted time, and I almost agree. Isn't the idea to tell him what he needs to do from this point forward? I don't think she needs to know every bite he's had to give him advice. Our only experience with this kind of thing was when I had gestational diabetes. I had to meet with a nutritionist in my specialist office for the GD and there was no log beforehand. We met, she walked me through checking my bloodsugar, discussed a foodplan for me, and sent me on my way to work on it and then follow up. Why should this be that different? And now, the one chance I feel we had to get my husband to change his eating is going up in smoke. He volunteered to recall everything he had for 3 days to her, but she was worried he might have forgotten something... seriously, you can get a good picture and then move forward. Geez.

Of course, we've discussed it for the past couple of days and he just flat said some things will not change, period... like his sweet tea. He's not convinced it's a big deal, he doesn't drink that much, and no, he will NOT work on reducing the sugar so it's not as sweet. He was an EMT for 6 years, so obviously he knows more than me, and nothing I say applies to him anyway as he's twice my size and male. AND, then he brought home TWO CASES of packages of crunchy donuts from work yesterday. Really? But that's not a problem either. And I'm not allowed to complain because I don't have the self control to stay out of them. I'm so...angry, and worried, and sad. For the whole family right now. I'm not going to say anything more to him. He'll eat how he wants until he can't anymore and he has to be put on meds I guess. I can only work on making changes for me and the kids, and I can't control what my grown man of a husband chooses to eat and bring in the house. I love him, but I want to shake him.
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  • MAJORK29
    I have been working with a dietitian for a few years now for my daughter (special needs and difficult to feed) and yes if I come to the appointment without the tracking that she requests the appointment is cancelled. The dietitian has been very helpful but expects us to fill in the tracking and bring it with us so that she can help us where we need it. She explained that by not doing the tracking we are wasting her time, not just ours. This was explained to us at the time of intake at our first appointment.
    333 days ago
    Sounds like you are taking his problem and putting the burden on you to take control of his weight. Don't do that. He is responsible. As for the appointment I would have went right to the billing office and told them that there was no appointment. The provider refused to help your husband. I don't blame him for not going back but maybe finding a different provider if that is possible? Good luck! Take care of you and let him make his own choices.
    335 days ago
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