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Finding the golden middle way between the extremes

Sunday, February 02, 2020

The past few months have been difficult for me on the food front.
The thing is, I seem to have two very different eating behaviors.
A) over 95% of the time I follow all 4 Bright Line Eating rules and my Beck Diet solution skills, and I am Happy, Thin and Free.
Happy with my meals, happy with my high energy levels and good mood
Thin: maintaining my goalw eight or dipping below
Free: free form cravings and hunger, free form mindless chatter about food, basically never thinking of food outside meals
B) less than 5% of the time: I stumble and eat a bite standing up in the kitchen... and a chain reaction starts, with every bite making it harder to stop.
I'm still Thin - but definitely less Happy and certainly not Free.

I have been active here on SP for 9 and half years, planned my food in writing almost every day. meaning several months even years in a row. I logged in and tracked my exercise without fail every day.
That's a lot of tracking and I loved it, but it is getting old as I know my portions and meal combinations by heart.

Now I'm trying to decrease my routines, to find a golden middle way between the two extremes.

It is clear that practicing the 4 Bright Lines (No Sugar, No Four, Meals and Quantities) is essential for my well being and happiness.
Also essential are several of my Beck Diet Solution skills: eat slowly and mindfully, sitting down (not one bite standing), arrange my food environment, create time and energy, practice hunger tolerance, overcome cravings, get back on track immediately, deal with discouragement, respond to sabotaging thoughts, prepare for special & social food situations, eliminate emotional eating, solve problems, reduce stress...

On the other hand, I'll reduce or stop doing things that are not essential to my well being and happiness.
I stopped tracking my exercise (it has been the same for 9 years and I love it)
I stopped planning my meals in writing, and I choose my 3 meals from a menu, planning mentally only.
I stopped checking into SP several times a day - now it is only 3-4 times per week, to see what's going on in my teams and on my friend feed.
I stopped tracking my weight every day - now it is once weekly for the +-3 % maintenance challenge.

I hope this helps me focus on and doing better in the Essential activities, and avoid the rare but painful bad food days.

Note: I'll do the spring Beck Diet Solution group reading challenge this spring, as always : )
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    Good blog. emoticon
    489 days ago
    Hi Krista! I just found my way back to your page, checking in. Hugs, encouragement, and support! I am curious to know how your balance is coming along. I admire all of your efforts at finding peace with food and a healthy body. I share in that search for the middle way. I do really well and actually enjoy it all, then out of nowhere, I’m fatigued of it all. But I keep trying different things. I am confident you will find your way. You have all the tools. Some of those tools may not be necessary for every day while others are. Continue on, dear Spark friend!

    Goal weight/body! A healthy body! All these years...worth embracing the journey! These are only a couple of facets of life...they do not guarantee ease in life or happiness but living in right-size body sure helps! Worth it!

    Best wishes on better, stronger, easier, balanced days!
    517 days ago
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    I just wrote a blog with similar thoughts. Not focusing on food so much and not recording everything or counting calories. There is a balance needed
    519 days ago
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    Please remind me of the dates of the spring re-read, please. Looking forward to it!
    521 days ago
    Keep it up!
    I hope you find the right balance!
    Good learning!

    In process engineering, we keep tracking even if things are on track. These help to identify when a deviation starts to occur, so we can catch it at the beginning.

    I find that manual tracking is exhausting. I try to automate tracking as much as possible, so I just have the data, without any effort to make. What you wrote about is a lot of manual tracking, I am not sure I would be able to do all that!
    523 days ago
  • WHITE-2
    Thank you for sharing.
    533 days ago
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    Finding balance seems to be what it's all about! I'm working on that very thing. *sigh* Good luck in your endeavors!
    535 days ago
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    Great strategy!
    535 days ago
    I think a lot of us are in search of that middle way! Good to see you checking in on the subject!
    536 days ago
    That sounds like a good idea, Kriszta! All the very best for a happy balance!
    536 days ago
  • ALICIA363
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    536 days ago
  • LIS193
    Finding a balance that works for you is good.
    536 days ago
    This is great. I want to be this consistent.
    537 days ago
    I find that I need to write the food down. I know my exercise but I need to plan eating. It does get old but when I stop I gain
    537 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    537 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    537 days ago
    That middle pathway between extremes: yes!!
    537 days ago
    We are each striving to learn what works best for us. I have a feeling we will be working on it forever. emoticon
    537 days ago
    Sounds to me like you are doing awesomely well!
    Like you, I eat basically the same almost every single day so I take shortcuts on my food tracker and exercise.
    This allows me to focus on the moment and to seek and give support to my sparkpeeps.
    And...even after 11 years here I am still learning...mostly from the aforementioned spark friends!
    95% is pretty darn close to perfect and who among us is perfect?

    537 days ago
    Sounds like you're doing well w/the Bright Line Eating principles. They're golden!

    I have found that, after almost 10 yrs. here, too, life situations mean changes. That's all right. I have learned that to navigate changes, I need to be kind to myself. If you're doing 95% clean eating, remember that, vs. the glitches. I find by doing that, I can 'let go' and be kind to myself a little bit easier.

    Good to hear from you.
    537 days ago
    Wonderful blog that I'll come back and read again.
    537 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    Good for you. In order to do this for life, we really have to find a way through after the initial learning to make it work in each of our lives. Wishing you the very best as you transition to the golden middle way!
    537 days ago
    I'm trying to find the same balance. Although my body wants to be a bit higher than my mind likes. Hugs friend. We can do this.
    537 days ago
    Good to hear from you Kriszta; I think you have arrived in a good and balanced place, habits have become well established. Yes you are human and falter at times but you also know exactly what you have done and get back on track very quickly. All the tools you need are in place so enjoy your new freedom and know that you are fit and healthy. emoticon emoticon
    537 days ago
  • DESIREE672
    It seems possible you’re ready for a softening of your routine. I’m sure you’ll find a happy balance with your slightly adjusted routine. I admire the work you’ve put into your health.
    537 days ago
    You will get there :)
    537 days ago
    I wish I could plan my meals mentally. I can't remember what I ate unless it's written down, let alone what I am planning to eat.
    537 days ago
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