Had A Fight With My Dad
Monday, January 20, 2020
This morning, I asked my parents if I could treat them to lunch at Sizzler today, and they said yes.
Right now I live with them, but am planning on moving out with my best friend in the next few months. I've been paying my parents $500 each month for rent. Anyway, while I was getting ready for our outing, my mom had the audacity to ask me to keep giving them $500 per month even after I move out, so that she can give that money as my tithe to her church (she knows that I don't tithe). I declined, and said that my giving tithe is none of her business. I do know that she gives my entire rent money to her church as my tithe already, but that's out of my hands, because it's what my parents charge me to live with them. Then I asked her if I give her and my dad money after I move out to help with their bills, will she give that money to her church too as my tithe? And she said yes. :( Then I asked what if I give them grocery store gift cards instead of money? Will they give the gift card amounts in cash to their church as my tithe? She wouldn't answer straight, and said that that was up to her. :( Then I asked what will they do if I take them out to eat? She said that she would accept that as a gift. So, then I said that I had been thinking about helping my parents financially after I move out, but if they are just going to give away my hard earned money to their church instead of using it for groceries or bills, then it would be better for me to just treat them to meals out instead here and there.
Then my dad said that my mom can do whatever she wants with the money I give her. I said that if I am going to be helping them financially each month, I have a right to know that the money I give them will go to good use. Then my dad lost his temper, and screamed that he was not going to lunch, because he didn't want me to spend money on him. I told him that I'm fine with paying for his lunch, and my mom begged him to join us, and then he told my mom to shut up! :( He said that he gave money to me before, and I asked when? He said when I was little, and I said that I don't recall him ever giving me money when I was little. This only made him angrier. So, my mom and I left for Sizzler without my dad.
On the car ride to lunch, I told my mom how my dad is not a good person...a true Christian man would not verbally abuse his wife every day. I feel like I'm being mean saying this, but my dad's kind of a lowlife. He can't hold down a job, and has been mooching off his relatives and the government his whole life. Because of this, my sister and I had to grow up in extreme poverty. :'( I think my sister is over it now, but I definitely still feel resentment. I mean, I will always love my parents, but it's getting harder and harder to be around my dad (which is partly why I'm moving out). My parents don't work, and live off government assistance, and money that their relatives give them. I've pleaded with my parents to move into senior housing, so they won't have to pay full rent (rent in Los Angeles is outrageous), but they refuse to do so, because apparently they have too much furniture to only have a 1 bedroom apartment (we live in a 2 bedroom apartment). I told them how about downsizing? And they won't hear it. Maybe I should just let them become homeless!
When my mom and I were at Sizzler, she asked if we could get takeout for my dad, and I was still angry, so I said that she can use her own money for that, which she did. I tried not to let my dad get to me during our lunch, but unfortunately, my day has been kind of ruined now.
Sometimes I wish I had a better father...you know, someone who is kind, and good provider. :'( Oh well.