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Thursday, January 16, 2020

The oranges arrived ---Canada Post to the rescue!
I opened the box and gave the workers each an orange--
There is spoilage-probably due to the long trip here-- They took twice as long as usual to get here-

So, I have been on the Dreadmill--only 10 minutes-so far--
It is the last Uber day of the week--so so happy for that! The last day this week to get himself to his office--

Christmas is over----and yesterday, I paid the bills from Christmas--
You know, I don't remember my Mom paying bills-- I do remember Dad, every Sunday night, sitting in our dining room, writing cheques .
Things have changed so much now--I very seldom write cheques--- And Himself doesn't do any of that--It seems to fall onto my shoulders , which is Okay, but just one more thing to do--

Life is so different now than when I was a kid-
My Mom never shovelled snow--
My Mom never took out the garbage--
My Mom never did the banking--
My Mom never bought herself a dress ---or any clothing--- well, maybe once a year--
I never saw my Mom in Jeans---only house dresses, as she called them!
My Mom never washed a car---

Lord love a Duck! Am I the only woman who does all the above?-----plus---- Sparks?

my Mom on the rt--I am behind her-
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  • JERICHO1991
    Impressive list of domestic accomplishments!
    27 days ago
  • QUAIL75
    27 days ago
    Glad you got your oranges - there are a few people here where I am that order those too (central Ohio) and usually share (1 or 2 lol) I grew up in the 50s/60s and we lived in an apartment - so for me....

    None of us shoveled snow because the apartment people did and if they didn't it didn't get done

    My Mom never took out the garbage - nor did my dad - that was one of my chores

    Both my mom and dad did banking but it was my dad who paid the bills and - yep at the dining room table

    My Mom went shopping all the time and most often took me with her

    I never saw my Mom in Jeans either - house dresses all the time

    My Mom never washed a car in the driveway but I do remember going through a car wash - not often so I don't know who ever washed the car or if it got washed on a regular bases

    28 days ago
    Sorry some of the oranges were spoiled. Coming from so far and straight from the orange grove, they are a precious commodity for you. I hope you're enjoying every bite of the ones you have left.
    31 days ago
    I'm so glad you finally got the oranges!! emoticon It took long enough!!! emoticon I love your family photo!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    32 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/19/2020 4:35:47 AM
    So glad you finally got the oranges. I wish I could send some up to you too from down here! Enjoy them. They are certainly worth the wait!


    32 days ago
    And MY Mom never EVER pumped her own gasoline!
    32 days ago
    Mine has never wanted to do any of that in over 45 years. The few times I got him to do something, it was a big headache to fix things up. Worked out better for me to do it all. However, I still do as my Daddy did. He went to each and every place to pay bill in cash because only local bank was only money business he dealt with,.....no in the mail stuff! LOL
    32 days ago
  • KIMBER2245
    My parents started their construction business when I was 3. I can remember going into their office when I was 5 and watching her do the payroll and all the other work that went with running the business. Dad did all the bidding and ran the rest of the company.
    Dad's been gone since November of 2008, and up until May of 2019, Mom was still involved with the day to day office stuff. My brother hired a bookkeeper in 2018 to help Mom out. It's been interesting to watch all the changes. Now all Mom has to worry about is her own bills, but I think she misses being more involved. emoticon
    33 days ago
    Glad the oranges finally arrived. Great family picture
    33 days ago
  • no profile photo NONNAOF2
    We must of had the same mother and father! I've taken over everything for years and years and I know it will all get done if I do! Thank God for my computer so I don't have to leave the house to mail bills off! Your oranges look like they are still good! I hope they are very sweet!! Have a great weekend Lynda! :-)

    33 days ago
  • 2DAWN4
    I love your family picture. Oranges look so good. Tomorrow, I am expecting my first shipment from Misfits Market. I am looking forward to it!
    33 days ago
    Moms do so much work now. More than ever :(
    33 days ago
    Thanks for sharing the family picture, so nice! Glad the oranges are not looking to bad. Have a great weekend, hope you have sunny skies!
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    33 days ago
    I pay the bills, keep the bookkeeping besides the cleaning, shopping and cooking. I did those things with #1 & #2 husbands. Would you believe that I always thought it was my job.
    33 days ago
  • ELSCO55
    Hope there isn't too much spoilage. I do most of it too and work too and am recovery from Breast cancer chemo surgery and starting radiation. Some days I wish I could hire my himself a helper but that would completely damage his ego.
    33 days ago
    Your blog brought back so many memories. My grandmother always wore house dresses. I don't ever remember seeing her in pants or jeans. And she always had her full-length kitchen apron with her in case she needed it for some reason to keep her dress clean.

    No woman in our family has "Had" to do these chores only because there were always brothers, sons, husbands to take them up. We've done so when we've wanted to or when the men needed the extra help.

    I thank my grandmother for all that she's taught me throughout the years, even once she passed.
    33 days ago
    I do it all except shoveling...the maintenance man and hired snow plowers for my senior apartment building do that. emoticon
    33 days ago
    Wow, yes things have changed.
    33 days ago
    Yum! I wish I lived closer to get a yummy orange from you.
    33 days ago
  • NANAGO1204
    I had older brothers so some of that did apply to me as a child, but I shovel snow, I take out the garbage, I pay some bills, I wear jeans, I help wash the car. I have cut wood and I clean fish. We've come a long way baby! So glad your oranges arrived!!
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    33 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/17/2020 4:05:46 PM
    So glad you got your oranges! Enjoy! emoticon emoticon
    33 days ago
    emoticon Glad they finally made it. I am with you I too have done it all and more but here we are three generations later and I see a much different generation that must be turning back the hands of time.

    They can't cook
    They can't clean properly
    They don't want to go outside in the fresh air
    They don't pick up their pets mess, they don't pick up their own messes
    The don't want to go to school or get a decent job

    They do want to sit up hidden somewhere and stay on a computer or phone. My my my and these are the hands we are putting our lives in as we head into this new decade.

    33 days ago
    Yes things have really changed from when our parents were young. I shudder when I think about young people today and should there be a depression like back in the '20's - wonder how many of them could make it - would know how to plant a garden and harvest it - how to cook from the basics.

    Love the picture of the family - have been going through ours and am finding many that bring back a lot of good memories
    33 days ago
    Yay! Your oranges arrived!

    emoticon Oh, yes I remember my grandmothers wearing house dresses. Your blog really stirred up some memories! Some of those house dresses were quite pretty. They came with pockets that held treats for my siblings and me.

    My mom was an army/airforce wife. She had to do the home maintenance because my dad was deployed so much. Her dad taught her how to do many things.She also organized every thing that we took with us whenever we moved - base to base. I used to think she was the original DIY! So, through her tutelage, I learned to use a hammer, fix window screens, tighten toilet seats (so it wouldn't slide off when we sat down), change the lawnmower spark plug and sharpen it's blades - as well as the common household cleaning, making beds, cooking, etc from her. As we got older, my siblings and I were well prepared to find a solution for whatever came up. We had the Reader's Digest How to Do it Yourself manual! After Dad transitioned to civilian life we planted gardens, raised chickens and sold eggs, too. We wore homemade clothes my mom made with or without patterns. That was her "hobby" fun work. She never wore jeans nor house dresses. She wore matching slacks and blouse sets that she sewed.
    33 days ago
    Enjoy your oranges!
    33 days ago
    My mom never did those things either, but when my dad passed she didn’t know how to handle every day life. I am grateful I can do it all for myself, especially since I am single. I don’t want to have to pay some man to do simple household chores.
    33 days ago
    We do it all-as did my mother.
    33 days ago
    So glad your oranges arrived!

    I do it all too!

    33 days ago
  • SWILSON2347
    I do it all....and I am just thankful that I have my health and can do what needs to be done!!! When you lose your spouse, it makes a big difference in your life - at least in mine. My DH and I used to share the duties, but now I get to do it all! emoticon
    33 days ago
    My Mother never shoveled snow or washed a car, and rarely bought herself anything what with four kids to clothe! (she wore house dresses, too), but she did do all the banking and finances... she was a whiz at Math!

    I'm glad the oranges arrived! Enjoy!! emoticon

    Lovely photo!! emoticon

    33 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/17/2020 10:26:41 AM
    I glad the oranges arrived! if I can home and see my wife mowing, washing her car, or taking out the garbage, I'd think I'm in the twilight zone. She'd never done those things.
    Awesome picture of your family
    33 days ago
    Been divorced along time so yes I do all those things! Overwhelming at times but it's just life. But we dont get too much snow here and so I need to wait for it to melt....lol
    33 days ago
    33 days ago
    my grandmother worked , did the wash etc . my grandpa did all the yard work and helped my grandma often , I have fond memories of them washing the dishes together singing, My mom took care of 5 kids after their divorcee and did it all. My husband and I always shared duties , from kids to cooking to yard work to driving. except now i cant see well he does all the driving. he just had three operations and i do it all know and wonder how my mother managed all those years , yes it is a women's world now more than ever,
    33 days ago
    That is a truly wonderful family picture. You all have a great family resemblance and what a treasure to have in photos. There is something to be said about digital photography but I certainly treasure the old photos that I can handle and pull out when I want to just sit and be grateful for my heritage.
    33 days ago
    I think most of that responsibility falls on the woman of the house now days. I'm not sure why, unless we are the more responsible ones to know what is due and when. Shameful, isnt it? My desire is to be debt free, except for utilities. Think that will ever happen? Be safe in your uber drive and have a blessed day.
    33 days ago
  • ALICIA363
    My mom didn’t wear jeans, but she did all the other things you list! She did not wash the car by hand herself, always went to the car wash.
    33 days ago
  • JLAMING263
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    33 days ago
    Lovely family photo! You do do a lot! Your family is lucky to have you. Such a strong matriarch for all your grandchildren. Times are a changing
    33 days ago
    No I do all of those chores and more.
    33 days ago
  • no profile photo CMPADEN
    I do the laundry and pay the bills(except his medical bills and the auto repair bills). My himself and I share the yard work, grocery shopping and cooking. My himself also takes care of our cars and trucks. Whatever division of labor makes your household work is what you need to go with. emoticon
    33 days ago
  • REVMAN1971
    Interesting thoughts! My wife must be spoiled rotten! I do the snow shoveling, banking, pay the bills, take out the garbage and most of the time do the grocery shopping. But, in fairness to her - she washes the clothes and does most of the housecleaning. I help her as much as I can with cooking and washing dishes (we don't have a dishwasher) and making the bed. It works well for both of us.
    33 days ago
    Mom was a beautiful lady!!!!
    33 days ago
  • KMMR87
    I was born in 1942 and I agree with everything you said about life in the 40’s and 50’s. But we now live in the current culture of the “strong woman”. The glass ceiling is starting to crack. Life is different now....and I enjoy the liberty (yes, work) of shoveling, plowing, taking care of the house, the Goldens, the laundry, the shopping, etc. Are we tired at the end of the day? Yep. Enjoy the freedom
    33 days ago
    So much has changed but much has stayed the same.
    33 days ago
  • no profile photo MLR_00
    33 days ago
    I cook but my DH does the washing up! I garden, he mows the lawn. The rest of the chores are divided between the two of us!
    Glad your oranges are safe.
    33 days ago
    My husband does almost all the cooking! I’ll clean up but food doesn’t really interest me.
    33 days ago
    my mother never did any of that wither the world really has changed a lot

    so glad that you got the oranges so sorry that some were spoiled I might be the one who would complain to the shipper about it see if you could get some credit back after all they are the ones who did not get them to you in time
    33 days ago
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