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Why Do I Set Myself Up To Fail?

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Sunday, October 27, 2019

Hi Everyone.

Looks like I kept that whole "blog every day" goal for a whopping two days.


Why do I do that? I don't like letting you guys down, and I also hate being a person who doesn't stick to my goals.

So that's just really annoying, and I'm sorry.

I think when I did this before it was a lot easier because I was working, and spent 6-8 hours of my day behind a computer, so I always had time to pop in and update.

That's another excuse but instead of saying I'm going to update daily, I'm just going to say I'll try and update as often as a can.


I'm actually doing really well! Today, the scale read 266.6 which is 23.4 pounds down about 9 weeks. Slow and steady!

The most exciting new thing I'm doing is I decided to start training at an Olympic Weightlifting gym here in Dayton. And my coach is actually former Olympian who went to the 2012 games! How cool is that?

I decided I wanted to do it after asking J.D. if he thought I could. He straight up said no. Now, he said, it's not that I'm not capable, but I don't have the dedication. And he's right, the last three or four times I've started "lifting" I gave up like a week or two in. And that's because I was trying to teach myself by watching YouTube videos and reading books.

It is a whole different ballgame when you have one-on-one personal training working on your form and technique. So now on MWF when I drop Henry off at preschool, I head to the gym and lift. And then after lifting, if I have it left in me, I go to a different gym and do some cardio.

This whole time, I've also been sticking with Weight Watchers. I think the reason I prefer that now to CICO (Calorie In Calorie Out) which was what I did with SparkPeople the first time is that with WW, I don't have to count fruits or veggies, or eggs or chicken breast. So I go for those things first because it's easier. When I was counting calories I still had to care that a banana was 100 calories or that each egg was "costing" me 70 calories.

However, what I do miss is interacting with all of you. So I think my goal will be to weekly, make the rounds of SP looking at your blogs and trying to comment for that human interaction. I always appreciate all your comments, goodies, and messages because it reminds me that I am SO NOT ALONE in this daily, lifelong struggle.

Also, Henry turned two and a half a few days ago, which I think deserves a photo.

So here's me, not making any promises, other than to keep trying every day no matter when, why or how I mess up.

Hopefully, you'll be seeing more of me.
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    Henry is adorable!
    532 days ago
    I'm getting back into Sparking myself. It's good to see a post from you.
    577 days ago
  • ALOFA0509
    emoticon GULP... "I dropped Henery off at school".. Wow how time flies!! lol Your lil man is getting soo big. I think this new Lifting routine with a Coach is a Game Changer for you emoticon These focused workouts are gonna make a major difference!! How Exciting~ Don't sweat the up keep of Spark Land, come when your ready to share! Great to see your update emoticon
    580 days ago
  • no profile photo PENNYD330
    I have been reading your blogs for years! Never posted but feel I know you like a friend. Weird huh. Anyway, I was working out right beside you, enjoying the gym, weight loss, new cloths now 4 years later.... I'm gaining, and gaining and don't seem to care. I love food! My question is how did you get ur mindset back? I can't seem to get there. Every week I say, THIS IS THE WEEK, DATE, TIME then I just stick my hand in the cookies jar again.
    586 days ago
  • no profile photo PRCHILIPEPPER
    Greetings from Puerto Rico! So glad you're back and taking care if YOU! Life is full of setbacks, you just have to breathe, let go and move on. You are doing great... Your baby is so tall and handsome. Another reason to keep your motivation. Take care.
    588 days ago
    I am glad you are doing well. Henry is very cute. Don't beat yourself up for not blogging every day. No one can do that! Just saying. I am sure there are few who do but not many people can do that!
    590 days ago
    Henry is just so adorable!
    592 days ago
    Two and a half... wow.... time sure flies!
    594 days ago
  • GRAMMY065
    Enjoyed your blog-keep writing!
    596 days ago
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    Adorable picture of your son
    596 days ago
    Wow! I can't believe Henry is two and a half already! Where has all of the time gone?
    596 days ago
    Sounds like you are really keeping at it. Good for you. Glad you have found something that works for you, we all continue to make adjustments on the journey.

    Another adorable picture of Henry!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    597 days ago
  • no profile photo INCH_BY_INCH
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    597 days ago
    Girl! Don't beat yourself up over it! Blogging (I'm a blogger myself for our farm The Faithful Farmer Momma) takes a lot of time although many people don't realize that. It can become time consuming and almost overwhelming at times too. With our blog, we try to write a few times a week because daily is just SO hard to do, especially if you are adding pictures and music. I love blogging but I find that focusing on ONE good blog is really so much better than just producing a blog every day.

    Henry is adorable! Geez, the last time I was on Spark, you and hubby were just getting ready to get married! :) God bless little Henry! He's adorable!
    598 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13161572
    emoticon Congrats on your weight loss success! Lifting is my favorite kind of workout because I love the progress I can feel in my strength. I also started off with a personal trainer to motivate me and show me proper form. I would have loved to have a former Olympian as my trainer! Enjoy!
    598 days ago
  • no profile photo CD23801333
    I'm starting at a similar weight too but I"m shorter. I"ve been reading your blog since you were in college! times change. I'm going to do ST too but on my own for now. :) Good Luck I hope it goes great! The holidays are hard but if you can make it through them we both will be stronger for it!
    598 days ago
    Your only competition is you. Don’t do this for anyone else. Your dedication should be to being the best YOU that you can possibly be. After that, everything else should fall into place. I wish you much success in reaching your goals.
    598 days ago
    Congrats on your weight loss! Cheers to you!
    598 days ago
    Henry is adorable. Love his flannel shirt. Blog when you can. Keep on keeping on. Proud of your determination and hard work.
    599 days ago
    Henry is adorable!! Can't believe he's already 2 and a half!!

    We all need to find what works for us - WW, Sparkpeople, etc. - so keep working with whatever you are most comfortable with. I'll watch for your blogs - doesn't matter how often you post, but I really enjoy reading them.

    599 days ago
    Henry is adorable! Good to hear from you again, Jan-Marie! We're all human! We all go forwards and backwards. Take care of yourself and keep lifting when you can... but don't overdo it to the point you start getting inflammation in your body.
    599 days ago
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    599 days ago
    Keep pushing. I want to lift weights but I think that's my issue too is I try to do it myself. I think if I had somebody to tell me & show me what to do besides online I'd be more successful! And your kid is cute!
    599 days ago
    Weight Watchers is an excellent program combined with Sparkpeople. I stopped blogging as life does get in the way and there is nothing wrong with that .... Life is Good. It was difficult for me to respond to others and read their blogs as time did not permit and then I would feel guilty for me, guilt is an excess baggage that triggered me to eat.
    Now, I track , workout and take care of myself first without guilt. I do post on the feed in the morning to check in ( once and awhile) and I very seldomly get to my sparkpage anymore. Everyone is different as to how we accomplish our goals. One day at a time. emoticon

    599 days ago
  • NEWMOM20121
    Always love you "hearing" from you.
    599 days ago
    Do what you can and it will all work out! Henry is a total cutie!
    599 days ago
    My how the time has flown I could hardly believe it when you said you dropped Henry off at pre school ~ What emoticon
    You must find what works for you and what worked 5 years ago may not today so change as you must to reach your goals. emoticon we do emoticon
    599 days ago
  • THINCPL2004
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  • MAWMAW101
    Good to hear how your doing! emoticon
    599 days ago
  • no profile photo CD924924
    You're doing great! Personally, I like it better when people blog occasionally versus daily. Then it's like a nice surprise when you see something from them. I have no room to talk anyway - I blog very rarely, but enjoy hearing from others and cheering them on!
    599 days ago
  • no profile photo GRAMPIAN
    Great picture. emoticon
    599 days ago
    COmmitment and dedication are hard but you got this!
    599 days ago
    I’ve missed you!
    599 days ago
    I do both WW and Spark. I need the interaction with my WW group (I've been going for over 10 years). I am at goal, still attend meetings every week, weigh in and reset each Friday. I've been up and down, the journey is not a straight line. Thanks to WW I discovered my thyroid had taken a dive and decided to slow way down. It took a year to get back to my goal. I need my daily dose of Spark to keep me focused. Today is day 500 of sparking, I have been under goal for over a year. It is still a daily struggle, but thanks to both programs I am in a better position to maintain. So, do what works best for you and keep your goals in sight. Each program offers the help we all need on this journey.
    599 days ago
    Henry is adorable.
    Life is more complicated when sharing it with others.
    Being married a Mom is awesome , it's a full time job.
    Work at smaller goals ones that fit into your lifestyle.
    I'm single, older free to do whatever.
    Working me was 19 hr days , and no time for extras like myself. Ha!
    I've always said, each person has to find what works for them in losing weight.
    If you are happy in your plan, go for it.
    You'll get there, your are a strong determined women, mom.
    Spark on.
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    599 days ago
    Best of luck with the power lifting! Henry is just so adorable!
    599 days ago
    Good plan
    599 days ago
  • NEWNANCY2012
    Henry looks so cute! My grand-daughter is his age, I remember going to WW it helped me to lose 50 lbs. emoticon A Happy Halloween trick-or-treat to Henry!
    599 days ago
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  • no profile photo CD3494791
    Henry is a cutie! You will do well once again on your journey. We all hit a snag in the road, but just have to find what works best in our lives at that moment. emoticon
    599 days ago
  • LIS193
    Henry is adorable!
    Good luck with your lifting, having a one-on-one coach must really help.
    599 days ago
    Now that you have an accountability partner with your weight lifting, I do believe that you will stick with it and you will see progress!!! I am excited that you're doing this and I am looking forward to your wonderful results!!!!

    Henry sure is a cutie and just by looking at his picture, I know he's a smart kid too!!!


    - Nancy Jean -
    599 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    It's kind of like peeling the onion. You're just a layer deeper. I know this journey well.

    Thanks for the picture of your cutie!
    599 days ago
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    Henry is a real cutie!
    599 days ago
  • JENNY888
    Henry is so cute! What a great little boy he has turned out to be.
    599 days ago
    I can't believe that Henry is two already. How time flies. You are doing great.
    599 days ago
  • LINDAK25
    It sounds like you’re making good choices now. I’m blown away when you say losing 2 1/2 pounds a week is slow weight loss. I’ve never been able to do that. How very fortunate you are.

    Henry is adorable.
    599 days ago
    Henry is such a little man, so cute!!!
    You are missed. Love following your journey. I know how hard it is with a child and trying to lose weight. You can do it, just take it slowly. Don't beat yourself up. We love you. Hang in there.
    600 days ago
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