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Sunday, September 22, 2019

good morning - things are getting better but DH is just in a bad habit that he needs to change. What I have done is not just ignore this behavior. When he gets this snotty replies or attitude. I stop him and tell him that is what I am talking about. There is no need for this. He has apologized multi times yesterday. This morning he is trying to change our passwords to our email accounts something we had to do due to our provider enhancing security. He gets snotty and impatient. He knows this is not right but he has an automatic response many times. This is not new behavior he has done this for many years when he was stressed from work. It was just easier then b/c he went to work and I did not have to deal with it until he came home. He has a very nice side of him or we would not be married so long. It is just that he does not think before he responds. I know he could not be like this at work or he would have been written up and not as successful in his career. We have talked - since he has retired which is not even a month. The last time was Friday when I told him if he does not start treating me with respect and start learning to adjust his attitude- I will go on vacation by myself and have a wonderful time. That really made an impact but he has a way of just tuning me out and go on to whatever he was doing. I am taking one day at a time. Life is challenging. I am losing weight. I know this adjustment period can be painful. I am moving on and doing my own thing. I think too much of myself to accept this behavior. I am strong, positive and confident. Have a good day - I will!!! emoticon
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  • LINDA!
    My husband and I are both retired. It WAS much easier to have a job to go to where I could just do my own thing. Being together 24/7 is not easy. My hubby is far from have a laid back personality, he gets upset often. I now just go to the gym most days of the week or shopping.
    23 days ago
    OH boy, yes, the adjustment period can be a virtual minefield. BUT I am right with you in that if I am not spoken to respectfully, I mention it. If I am not treated respectfully I just say I don't tolerate that kind of behavior. And I continue doing what I want/need to do.

    23 days ago
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