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Breaking the need to be codependent

Friday, May 10, 2019

Currently I am working on not being co dependent. Seems easy but it is so hard. I want my kids to tell me things, but not everything because it is hard not to want to try to fix it. Well that has been my job since they were my babies. I want my husband to be more responsible. Why should I have to bring laundry downstairs, wash it, dry it ,fold it, bring it back upstairs and put it away? He can help bring it downstairs and back upstairs🤦🏻‍♀️. Before I did it all and now I am changing the rules of 29 years. Before I wanted to make his life as easy as possible but lately I have been asking him to help. Being an empty nester is such new and foreign ground for us. I am changing the rules with my family and I am empowered by making them accountable and responsible. I am enjoying not fixing them and their problems now it is time to focus on me.
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  • no profile photo BANNERMAN
    thanks for sharing..
    My mother wnted all her kids to be co dependent. haat got to be a bad word to mention out loud wih me and my brother and sister.. Don't let it divide your family. independent and responsabile is powerful for all.

    God bless. much patience o you .
    508 days ago
    I quit cooking two years ago. He cooks the food because I did 30+ years & all he did was complain.
    So I just stopped. And he started because there was no more dinner. haha
    He enjoys cooking & he is a good cook.
    Worked out for the both of us.
    531 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/12/2019 8:25:56 PM
    Getting over being co-dependent is difficult.. but so important for our well being.
    533 days ago
    YAY, Jeanne!!!! Love it. Not easy, but totally worth it!!
    533 days ago
    It's hard to change old habits but with hard work & persistence, you got this. Don't beat yourself up if you take a step back here and there, just get up and keep going.
    533 days ago
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