Recently I have been engrossed with studying about habits, the brain and how it works in regards to changes, and how to keep myself motivated every single day. The reason I started my knowledge quest came from starting 2019 on a huge motivational high ready to make this year the best.
As with all starts, everything was going great and my motivation grew with each day however there was one area where I felt like no matter what I was doing I was not seeing results. This was losing weight. As days passed I felt that my motivation was still pretty high, but I got a bit concerned that if I didn't see results I would lose my mojo. And as I predicted this did happen about mid-January. It wasn't a big crash, just that quiet voice in the head that asked, what happened to your motivation? Where did it go? I have said more than once, if I could just bottle up this mojo and sell it, I could make a million dollars. The funny thing is people are actually doing that all over the place and I have never put 2 and 2 together. And besides that, we all have this knowledge inside of us for free, but we just forget how to access it.
So the answer is really simple, just remembering to do it is where the problem happens. Everyday you must ask yourself what am I willing to do to get the results I want? In fact you can even shorten the question to what am I willing to do?
Let's say that everyday you get up and you have your day planned out and on that plan you have all the steps you feel will help you reach your goals. But somewhere along that day something triggers you to think, I really don't want to exercise, or I really want a piece of chocolate. And in your head you start a negotiation conversation. What if you just had a trick to stop before that negotiation started. My Sparkfriend Lifechangz came up with the word DELINK - That is a mantra she and I have been using to stop us and remember to separate the craving or the thoughts from getting us off track. Then you can choose another action to take your mind off of the thing that was about to derail you.
My next step has been something that I have never done before. I am sitting in my discomfort and really feeling and thinking about what is going on. I will journal this if my journal is near and convenient, but if not then I just move on and ask myself, What am I willing to do to get the results I want? For some reason when I ask the question that way it helps me feel that I have choices. It makes me feel empowered and powerful. And with that feeling I get my motivation back online. Of course this is in conjunction with already having written a lot of baby steps that I want to get done for the day. So asking the question reminds me that my actions (baby steps) are what is going to get me my results. This reminds me how important each thought I have and give energy will either bring me closer to my goal or take me farther away. When I am reminded that I have that free will, it helps motivate me to choose all the baby steps that support moving me closer to my goal. And it also reminds me that when I choose something not on my plan, I am responsible for derailing myself.
By the way, it is ok to choose something that doesn't support your plan. But if you do find that you are doing this over and over again, then maybe your plan doesn't fit you right now. Maybe you need to start with less baby steps on your plan. It is really important to feel that you are having success. Each success, no matter how small, helps to build up your momentum and your motivation. So I would encourage a person to start small and build up your list of baby steps as slow or fast as you can. This is not a race. This is your life.