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Thursday, February 28, 2019

I've been doing some thinking lately. I still see myself as fat. I had lost almost 50 lbs. at my lowest 2 years ago (then 135 lbs.) and now at 155 lbs. I know I have gained some but am trying to re-lose the weight I put on again. But I look in the mirror and see a fat girl. I also still struggle with negative self talk, hence the fat girl talk too lol.
What do you all do to stop looking at yourself as fat? I also hate the muffin top tummy!
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    I think I’d be happy if I felt good after doing a body scan meditation. You ask a very good question. I’ve felt fat 100 lbs less. Oh what i would give to be that fat today!
    590 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/17/2019 6:01:52 AM
    I know that must be hard. I am still heave at 171.5, but when I was younger and weighed a lot less, I use to do the same thing.
    595 days ago
    This is and continues to be one of the hardest things for me. On the advice of my therapist, I set a goal to look at myself in the mirror once a day and say something nice about myself. Honestly, I couln't do it for a long time. It wasn't until I heard a song on the radio that talked about being perfectly imperfect that I realized that my body has survived in SPITE of all the challenges it's had emoticon . I could finally start to appreciate it. So, on my start page I set a constant goal of looking in the mirror and saying something nice about myself each day, first thing. It's still hard, but I'm getting better.
    597 days ago
    I have about the same weight track record as you; lost 50, down to 135 and back up a little. While I don't see the fat girl in the mirror, I still feel bigger than I am. My MIL bought me pants and I didn't even try them on because I was sure they were too small. I exchanged them for a size up and found out they were too big. Still trying to learn what my size really is and I've maintained this size for a few years now - not that sizing is consistent thru the industry. Don't know if I will ever not feel like a bigger girl. (Don't care for my muffin much either, but it's a smaller muffin than it used to be!!)
    600 days ago
    I try to catch those negative thoughts and turn them around or "reframe" them. i.e. - I'm fat. Reframe - I am heavier than I want to be but I am healthier. I look horrible in my clothes. Reframe - My clothes fit better today than they did a month ago.

    It's a process of bringing positive honesty to my negative thought bashing. It's work but after a while the reframe is almost automatic. Also, I try to give compassion to myself I would give others. I have to treat me better mentally to treat me better physically. Make sense?
    601 days ago
    We are so hard on ourselves. Keep exercising and eating well. Try writing down 3 things per day for which you are grateful. Also try to focus on your strengths not weak areas. Look how much progress you have made!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    603 days ago
    I think changing our 'view' of ourselves is really hard - I can never quite feel 100% confident that I am going to get my smaller jeans on, even though I've been wearing them for several months. It's almost like I feel like a 'fake' slimmer person, and the chubby one is there just waiting to jump out from behind the disguise!
    604 days ago
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