100 days of OMAD: 22
Thursday, April 12, 2018
I posted on Facebook yesterday about my trip - mostly to praise that all the trains involved had been on time (it´s been a problem for the last fifteen years, bad maintenance and more people travelling) and immedeately got a comment : "What? Did you visit Malmö without having a lunch with me" and commanding a promise to hve dinner next time... it was long ago I stopped contacting friends just because I visit their home towns. I focus on the issue that motivated my trip and in this case it was viviting these new friends and that theatre... but this uncovered a future conflict – that most people assumes that a social meeting includes eating. And if I don´t handle food "normally" this will be an issue. I remember the same thing when I was giving up alcohol as I belonged to a "wining and dining"-culture. It was the "normal" way to meet to have dinner with wine.
It was not that hard to steer away from those dinners, I simply chose daytime connection and met people at exhibitions, museums, concerts etc instead of eating together. Nowadays I don´t have to stay away from "wining and dining" anymore and people have gotten used to me not drinking but it has changed my life.
OMAD has become an idea because my lifestyle as retired is kind of isolated. I go to the gym, I sing in a choir, I go to theater, movies and concerts but I hardly ever socialize with dinners. My trip to Malmö made me want more, I dreamily thought that as a retired I can spend some days now and then travelling to meet friends - and that will involve eating together. The trip I just made had the purpose to discuss diets so it was not a problem, but most of my firends aren´t compulsive overeaters...I will have to form a new strategy for this.