100 days of OMAD: 20
Tuesday, April 10, 2018
Yesterday became a textbook example of what I want OMAD to be in my life. Spent all day on the train, from 9.30 in the morning until 17.30 in the afternoon when I arrived in Malmö. This is way south from where I live and the temperature was +22 C, almost a miracle! Was greeted by friend who I never met IRL before but have spent two years in communication over dieting and weightloss issues so we kind of know eachother well. Her husband is a history professor, she is a weaving artist of eritrean origin and together they have produced the book Woven into the tapestry, how five women shaped Ethiopian History"
I was met by heavenly flavours when we arrived at the flat in central Malmö. The husband (retired) does most cooking and is nowadays very into "functiuonal foods" - they are vegetarians, moving towards vegans. He had prepared a casserole with lentils and chickpeas and more wonderful foods and wthere was also salad and cold hors-dóevres. I had one serving and if I hade registered I don´t think it was over 1000 calories - but I was happy and content. We hade the most interesting discussion during dinner about food, eating, the culture influens, all the symbols, the emotional attachment both for those cooking and for those recieving... I really got a lot of most interesting input to think more about. It was also interesting that the man told me that swedes - unlike englishmen and americans – don´t really master conversation. We always go deeper and smalltalk is not our best game. I am not totally agreeing, I grew up in the country and I am very good in smalltalk, a skill I also developed as a jpurnalist to form trust and good vibs before you do an portrait for an article... But it gave me so much to think about as well as his own declaration that fedding people was part of his "right" - it made him feel really great.
This thing is turning into a lifechanging thing to me (maybe, I can´t be sure) and it is not about what and when and how I eat it is about my choices in the context of living with other people.
If food and eating is a problem for me, does this make it impossible to "fit in" among "Normlas" that find only positive things with food? And the things we attached to food, eating and socializing was all very ok in the past where food was not exuberance and market power was not into making us buy and consume.
I am so grateful that I have given up alcohol and lived without it for twelve years. When I decided to do that the idea was vaguely that everything would stay the same in my life, I would not drink alcolhol ... and after twelve years of sobriety I can see that it was lifechanging. I changed friends, I changed interests, I changed social life... and remember that I was not particulary long gone with alcohol, I sometimes joke and say that I am the only alcoholic I know who gave up alcohol before becoming an alcoholic. I never realised that my sobriety would have so deep impact on som many aspects, and it is hard to describe. And maybe a viewer would not see the difference but I can notice... It isa a subtle and slow change and it was all becasue a decision to cut off a substacne I was not comfortable with.
I am really inspired by the thoughts and arguments that we exchanged yesterday and I am so happy that i have another day before I go home again...
The train trip was also an example of possible life to come. Normally a trip is a constant negogtaiation of how to eat and what to eat - very often with bad choices. Now it was all calm, nothing to negotaite, how simple!