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100 days of OMAD: 13

Tuesday, April 03, 2018

If you like me accept that you have an eating disorder you look for cures for that disease = changing behaviour and habits.

If you like me suffer from obesity you look for cures from that condition = weight loss.

I find it hard to find support groups that deals with both goals – groups like OA (Overeaters) deals with the obsession to eat compulsively, groups like Weight Watchers use weight numbers as measures of success. That is not entirely true, for example Spark people emphasises the importance of adjusting lifestyle to reach a healthy weight - but the discussions and challenges in different groups are very much about weight lost.

And to me - morbidly obese – weightloss is a most wanted and life-saving necessity goal, even though I know it is meaningless without changing my behaviour. without that the weightloss is "only" a diet and the weight will inexorably come back.

The numbers on the scale are an important sign that my changes are working in the right direction, but they are unreliable, I can do the right things but the body does not cooperate (for a while, in the long run it does...)

Writing this I realise that it is a confused blog, I feel a little divided in where to put my focus. If I deal with behaviour mostly I tend to deny that my obesity remains, if I focus too much on kilos lost, I tend to go into obsessive thinking....

O well, who said it should be easy... (I did! I want it to be easy!!!)

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    I appreciate the value of selecting the 100-day timeframe. You've already defined your goal -- 100 days of developing this OMAD habit. You're not abandoning your goal of ending your obesity, you're just not making it your primary focus for 100 days.
    Hang in there!
    594 days ago
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    I hear you. I have the same type of thoughts and confusion.

    " If I deal with behaviour mostly I tend to deny that my obesity remains, if I focus too much on kilos lost, I tend to go into obsessive thinking..."

    My short answer is that if I had to pick the one or the other I would definitely focus on the behavior. Because the right behaviors will / should lead to weight loss in the end. Whereas focusing on kilo's lost (or kilo's to lose) indeed can lead to obsesson and obsession will, in those people with an eating disorder, lead to bingeing in the end. Which will hurt or undo any weight loss.
    My longer answer...
    In the BED treatment they insisted that I do not aim for weight loss but just to have a steady eating pattern, using cognitive behavior therapy and eating 6x per day - if you ask me they were keeping the blood sugar levels high in that way, as they were also promoting the use of 'healthy' whole wheat cookies and such, and fruit, for a snack. (shaking my head). That is of course ONE way to stop binge eating: eat something sweet and grainy every 2 to 3 hours.
    I could never give up on wanting to lose weight though. If you have physical complaints, like me, that might get better if you lose weight, that is so logical. In my eyes that is.

    Ramona may have a point. I am re-reading Dr. Fuhrman's work now and it may be so that if you eat only very healthy foods for a longer period of time,and eat no more than 3 times per day, the drive to overeat might subside and disappear - I have not experienced that myself because I haven't been able to stick to such a program long enough, but I can imagine it's true.
    (Maybe I should add though that Dr. Fuhrman is against the use of animal products.... in his eyes eating a lot of protein and fats is one more way to stay addicted to food and avoid the detoxification process).

    594 days ago
    Good blog.
    594 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/3/2018 1:00:59 PM
    I understand where you are coming from. We all have these moments. That's why I been trying to make our weight loss challenge about nutrition, exercise, self love, positive attitude, & fun-- I believe we need to do all those things to become healthier and by doing that we will achieve weight loss. And Happiness!! That's why I give you a different challenge every week (to help keep the motivation going) emoticon
    594 days ago
    The struggle for balance is real, for sure.
    However, there is another another approach that addresses both concurrently... you can consider that your tendency toward obsession isn't as much in your mind, but in your body (the roots are physiological not psycho-emotional), and when you balance the body (via fasting and LCHF) the obsession takes care of itself, while you focus on weight loss... and the resulting weight loss becomes the inspiration and motivation, which supports/drives you to adjust behaviours to continue getting what you want MOST.

    595 days ago
    KPHEALTHY4LIFE – As I have been a member of OA for more than ten years I know how they work and I sometime find weight control to become "the elephant in the room" although it IS an important part of recovery.
    595 days ago
    Hi, OA works with being relieved of the obsession over food, while make positive changes in how you think and behave.

    I wish you much luck on your journey no matter which path you take.
    595 days ago
    It isn’t easy. Hang in there. We can do this.
    595 days ago
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    595 days ago
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