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Learning and Loss

Monday, March 12, 2018

Loss, regardless of the cause, is one of the most profound feelings we, as humans, get to process. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was incredibly on point when she she published her key work so many years ago. The steps of grief are walked through by each of us, in our own unique-yet-predictable ways, and affect us on far more levels than we care to disclose. It is a silent, excruciating journey that changes each of us forever. I, personally, continue to learn through honoring those feelings with new circumstances as old friends and other contemporaries move on. I work hard to examine each step as I trod through this minefield, and try to recoup my strength through whatever means I am shown. I am grateful for each nuance I learn and will forever choose to use that to be of service.
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    I read this because I was missing my mom terribly this morning. She left us one year and eight months ago. I l was her caregiver for almost ten years. Caregiving was hard but a blessing at the same time. Her and I fought like cats and dogs sometimes but, I miss her presence. Thank you for sharing.
    1039 days ago
    This is so true. Every person has a different path through the stages of grief. We never forget and always remember them they are in our hearts no matter how long it has been.
    1153 days ago
    I lost my mother when I was young, and a friend shared a grief model that has been profoundly helpful to me over the decades. He said that grief is like an infinity symbol (a sideways 8). You will never be "done" with grieving, but you will get to a place of balance and acceptance: the middle of the 8. In the early days of grief, you may swing around a lot, from denial to anger to sadness and back again. That's normal. That's okay. Even after many years, something may trigger you to fall out of balance. That's normal too. People move around the 8 in different ways and at different times, and that's okay. How you process your grief and on what timeline may differ markedly from others also grieving the same loss. I found this model to be more helpful than Kubler-Ross's stages, which seemed more linear, made me think I wasn't grieving "properly," and made me compare myself to others.

    Whatever loss you have experienced, you have my sincere condolences.
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    1239 days ago
    Grief is tough! Stay strong.
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    1239 days ago
    Yes, there are those stages of grief and we must all go through them when we are faced with losses. It's a good thing to be aware of and I needed this reminder today.
    1239 days ago
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