Update on foot and on Emma.
I went to the doctor again on the 20th. The big toe is not hitting the ground when I stand or walk and the joint is in a great deal of pain. The doctor gave me a splint for the toe so that i pulls it down in line with the other toes and assigned me some physical therapy exercises. If I do not do them diligently enough I will be required to go to an actual physical therapist who will have no mercy on me. Therefore, I will do them until I want to scream! LOL! If the joint is still not healing by December, I will require a surgery to replace the joint with an imitation one. I pray that that does not happen. I will worry about it when the time comes.
The update on Emma (the niece of my DD's husband that they had taken in) is a little sad but as always I believe it is God's will. This all happened in a certain order so I'll tell it in that order. I don't know how other states are, I only know this state's rules. In order to take in a foster child you must follow a list of seemingly endless rules. Some of those rules require you to take the foster child to many, many appointments and meetings. In the first three weeks there were 6 such meetings plus home visits. My DD's employer told her that if she missed any more work, she would be out of a job. Social services was not understanding. They want those appointments kept no matter what. Then they told DD and her hubby that in order to get any financial assistance they would have to take 6 days of certification classes. Time neither of them can miss from work. So all this is going on and DD and her hubby are trying to figure out how on earth to work this all out because Emma will be a foster child for at least 2 years.
Then Emma figures out that social services does not allow foster children to be disciplined. You may send them to time out but if they don't listen you can't do anything about it. There is a whole section in the rules about what you cannot do/say to a foster child. She has begun beating up the 2 1/2 year old and punching the other 6 year old. This violence is increasing on a daily basis. DD is at her wit's end as to what to do. She told the case worker that Emma needs to be moved into another environment. Preferably with at least one parent who is a stay at home parent so that they have time to go to all these appointments.
This of course was tearing up our whole family's hearts. As often happens in these situations, God intervened. The final pre-trial hearing was held on the 19th. The mother actually showed up and stated that she wants Emma out of DD and her husbands home this very minute. Well nothing works quite that fast but with both the foster family and the parent requesting removal from the current home, it will do a lot to move things along. We don't have a date and we might not find out until they show up to move her. I hope they give DD a bit of time to explain it to her as best she can.
Because of the mother's wishes, none of us will be able to be a part of Emma's life any longer. While sad, if Emma's mother does not get herself together and Emma ends up adopted into a family, it might just be the best thing for her.
Now we have to concentrate on healing all the wounds left in the hearts of her two little cousins. Not to mention the wounds in DD and her hubby's hearts. This will take some time.
None of these things have been easy to deal with and I have been using my energy trying to support DD who seems to be the most affected emotionally by all of this. I admit that I had to take some anti anxiety medication for 4 days there and was not on the top of my game. Today it is all wearing off and I am ever so glad. I am grateful it's there when I need it but when I have gotten through the hard part, I can't wait for it to be all out of my system!
On the upside I am getting my brave on and I'm going to invite my grandson over to spend the night! I figure he could use some one on one time with grandma and pa. Mostly grandma though as pa goes to bed awfully early! Granddaughter will have to wait until she is older though and not quite so attached to momma! I have a feeling we'd be doing a call at midnight to "come and get her!"