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Giving God the Glory...

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

This is not my usual type blog post on my Sparkpeople page, but it does speak to mental and emotional healing and the power of God. I really don't have anywhere else to express my feelings on this, but I wanted to write it down.

Today, I started getting paperwork together to take my son for a psycho-educational evaluation. What is that? Well, it's a battery of diagnostic tests to prove that my son is what is known as dual-exceptional. This will be my son's 3rd time to take these tests. He has to retake them to get accommodations on the PSAT, SAT and ACT as he is now 15 and going into the 10th grade. The "powers that be" think that his learning disabilities could suddenly disappear in 6 years. emoticon

On the one hand, my son is gifted. I'm not just a proud mom, testing has proven it. But, my son is also learning disabled,hence, dual or twice exceptional. We found this out in the 3rd grade. He was still in public school at the time. My son has dysgraphia, which means that he has extreme difficulty with handwriting and all types of written expression. It's pretty hard to get through the 3rd grade when you can't write. He also has ADHD, OCD, Generalized anxiety disorder, and epilepsy. WHEW! Yep, I tell people, couldn't he just get an ear infection or a cold sometimes??? (Just kidding, but he's really never sick like that.)

So I haven't looked at all these papers in many years now, because in the 4th grade, my husband and I took a leap of faith and pulled my son out to homeschool him. I had forgotten how truly horrible school was for him. Seeing the notes from teachers nearly broke my heart again. You would have thought that he was the devil incarnate and headed straight for juvie. He was suspended from school 6 times in the 1st grade, twice in the 2nd, and twice in the 3rd. Not only was he bullied by students, but he felt bullied by teachers and principals. His father and I did too. You would have thought that we were the worst parents in the world and that DFACS should have been called on us straightaway. The school's ringtone on my phone was T-R-O-U-B-L-E by Travis Tritt, because a call from the school was never good news. (My way of bringing humor into a really difficult and painful situation.)

So here's where the story gets so much better. We've come a long, long way since those days. Today, my 15 year old son is almost a Life Scout, (one rank away from an Eagle Scout). He has just been accepted into Toccoa Falls College's Dual Enrollment program. Yup, that's right, college at 15 years old. He's in a homeschool Beta Club.He is a strong Christian with the faith of a mountain. He has a servant's heart and looks for ways to help others. His Eagle Scout project will be something to help people in wheelchairs after he spent 8 weeks in one after breaking his hip on a hoverboard this fall. He took something bad that had happened to him and turned it into a positive thing.

I wish those teachers that thought this kid should just be thrown away could see him now. All they saw was a square peg that didn't into fit in a round hole. A bad egg. The Spawn of Satan. A potential juvenile delinquent. They didn't see him as God sees him. God had a plan for him all along. God called me to take that leap of faith, cut out household income in half at the time, and trust Him. I just have to express my gratitude to my Lord for all that He has given me. I give glory to God for all of it. If you made it this far, thanks for listening to my story. God's not done with my son yet, and I can't wait to see what's in store next.

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

P.S. By the way, I'm not a public school hater or anything. I have family in public and private schools. Homeschooling doesn't work for everyone, I get that. This was just a story of our experience. Our life today is not utopia by any means. My son still struggles, but he faces his challenges head on.
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    Very inspirational.........thanks for sharing. If only more parents would turn to GOD for the help they need in bringing up their children.

    835 days ago
    It takes a lot of patience and love. Some teachers lack those attributes and expect every student to be on the same page. Yet each person is an individual. We don't all learn the same way or at the same rate. People are not robots. At least someone at the school should have realized this.

    Praise to you and your son for the progress. Sounds like he has accomplished much and plans to keep going.
    1226 days ago
    Thanks for sharing with us! What a beautiful thing you have done for him, and through your patience & hard work, look at him now...you both are very, very special! I'm so proud of you!
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    1227 days ago
  • DENNIS2014
    A shining example of what a parent should be - REAL HUMAN BEINGS - If we don't stand up for our children, who will? emoticon
    1227 days ago
    Thanks for sharing!
    1228 days ago
    I work in Special Education compliance and I have a son with ADD and discalculia. There are so many fantastic teachers out there. There are so many horrific teachers that just don't understand kids with special needs. What a blessing that you were able to identify and advocate your son's needs and do what was best for him.

    Your public school district is responsible for testing your son every four years. Make sure you keep his IEPs forever. I have people contact me all the time who graduated 20 or 30 years ago and need their IEP for disability purposes. School Districts only keep them for five years as they are considered temporary records.

    Did you know that school districts receive federal funds under the IDEA grant? A portion of monies has to be set aside for private schools. Home schooling is considered a private school. The district is required to have an annual meeting that is open to private schools and parents to discuss and fill out paperwork to access these monies. The monies are divided amongst all that apply for it. It isn't a great deal, but in my district usually $500-$1000 dollars per child. We have had parents use it for tutors, educational software, even swim therapy.

    Your son sounds amazing.
    1228 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/18/2017 10:07:48 PM
  • QUINNY2016
    Very inspiring, thank you!!!!!
    1228 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Great to hear of his progress with his challenges
    1228 days ago
    What good parents you and your husband are. You truly are the parent for your child that God wanted for him. Truly you are partners with God.
    1228 days ago
    Oh . . .. my . . . gosh. Blessings to your son. That is remarkable that he's going to take college level classes @ age 15. And I found that was one HUGE problem for MY DS (ADHD, GAS) . . . they did not challenge him enough . . . so he'd get bored and act out in his own way.

    You son is going to achieve something very special. Kudos!
    1228 days ago
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