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It's Not funny!

Thursday, March 09, 2017

Today started off with me feeling under the weather and went downhill from there. A regular customer came in and I said good morning like I do every morning and he says :was I talking to you?" Nope, but I'm talking to you. Fast forward.. you don't do anything to help me. nothing at all. That's while I'm putting cream in his coffee, clipping his fingernails, rubbing his shoulder when they ache, lace his shoes when they become undone, cut his sandwiches, peel his banana, etc, etc

He looked me straight in the eyes today when I served him his sandwich Have you thought about going on a diet? Yes, I have, That's as far as I've gotten. Well, Big Un" you need to lose some of that weight. I saw your sister yesterday. You look like an old woman. Get a haircut, Why can't you be pretty like your sister, etc, etc

Some days I can laugh about it, some days I just wanna cry and today I just wanted to tell him to get out.

He's handicapped with one arm. Still I go out of my way for everyone. I know he appreciates everything I do that he asks of me but his sense of humor hurts. So do his smart ass comments, sarcasm, and he can be obnoxious. That kind of humor I can live without, It;s hard enough working with the general public and putting up with all the crap. Humor such as his is not welcome or wanted.

Do unto others as you would have done unto you. Is that so hard to do?
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  • no profile photo CD17303035
    No, it isn't funny...is this the hubs talking to you this way? Is he trying to be funny when he says these things? So sorry you have to hear that. He, ideally, should be your biggest supporter and uplifter - not someone who brings you down. You are a beautiful woman. Have you spoken to him about how these things are hurtful? Hope things get better...hugs emoticon
    1284 days ago
    People like that really suck the wind out of your sails, don't they? I can only say that he is probably more miserable with himself than he realizes. People who are mean like that are only trying to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel like crap. That is so sad. Do your best to ignore his comments, and remember that there are a lot people here who support you, and have been in your shoes. I won't excuse behavior like that, but I do my best to put it behind me because people like that just aren't worth my energy. We are all sending good vibes your way, and I hope that your week has gone up from there. emoticon
    1285 days ago
    His behavior is not ok. If you are in a business where you are working with a clientele that needs the kind of care you give, I am sure you already know this on some level, but people in general tend to be the meanest at times to people we like/love and trust to be there. Maybe he is feeling inadequate or insignificant. Not that it makes it ok, but just thinking what might be causing him to behave in this manner.

    Now, take a moment to go look in the mirror at the beautiful, kind, compassionate woman that you are. I know that comments like that hurt so much. It doesn't matter if it is from a client, a friend, a relative, or a stranger, it hurts. But when you look in the mirror, don't see what he (or anyone else says they see) see YOU! Your are stronger and more beautiful than you realize. And you are a Phoenix, rising up from the ashes and becoming even stronger and more beautiful. Hang in there, my friend.

    1289 days ago
  • SPICY23
    Wow, what a hurtful situation. You imply this a 'client'; if so, there should be provisions in place to protect you from abuse like this; ask your supervisor. If this is not a client, or is a family member, maybe you need to step back and let this person figure out how to get his care from someone else. No one should have to put up with this kind of behavior.

    Keep your chin up,

    Peace and Care
    1290 days ago
    Wow. That's rough. He must be terribly unhappy himself to talk to you that way. You sound pretty wonderful and caring to me. Don't give him the power to bring you down. Give yourself some love and feel good about what a kind person you are. I'm sure many many people appreciate it so focus on them.
    1290 days ago
    Not at all
    1290 days ago
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