This concept didn't come from me, but boy has it really hit home! I learn so much from my friend Lynn, and sometimes she even shares what other friends have shared with her. This concept came from her friend which she shared with me, and I couldn't be happier that she did!
How many times have you thought to yourself "I'm fed up with my weight, now is time to do something about it?" Fed up is great in theory... fed up means we are done with this nonsense and we WANT to do something about it. But just because we are fed up doesn't necessarily mean we are READY to do something about it.
I have struggled with weight my entire life... I was 205 at age 18 and bothered by my weight as early as age 10ish. Especially in my teenage years (age 15 on) I was extremely uncomfortable with my weight and fed up. I tried off on and on to lose weight and nothing stuck for long. I can't even remember the ages at which I tried various diets, but I was probably 14 when my mom and I did the Atkins Diet together. Crazy stuff right (not the diet but the age)?!
So to say I have been fed up with my weight for a very very long time is an understatement. The thing is, I haven't always been READY to lose weight. I did lose weight, 40 pounds, 3 times and gained it all back. The third attempt was with Spark people in 2009ish. When I gained that weight back I just stopped coming to Spark, I was too ashamed to come back and show my face. All that time went by, my weight was at an all time high, I was more fed up then ever but I wasn't ready.
I wasn't ready until March of 2012. That is when I was truly ready. I managed to lose 90 pounds, I kept most of that off for close to two years. After being so successful with weight loss my mom asked me the following question, and she asked it very delicately and kindly:
I have to ask you this and I want your honest answer... if I had pushed you more to lose weight before, would it have helped you?
I told her absolutely not, I had to be ready and I had to do this for myself on my own time. There was nothing she could have done to help me be READY to lose this weight. I reminded her that she did Jenny Craig with me, nutrisystem with me, Atkins with me in the past and that obviously hadn't helped over the long haul. It just wasn't my time.
She was so happy with my answer, she said that is what she believed but my dad had said she should have pushed me more to lose it (my dad is very supportive but very worried about HEALTH in general, so that is why), and I told him he was wrong.
That is the truth, you have to be READY. No one can make you do this. Being fed up sadly is not enough, it's a good start but it is not enough. If we look around, Spark is filled with people who are fed up, but not READY to go on this journey. They may not be losing, may have regained, or maybe be maintaining the same weight. They might be fed up but they might not be ready, and that is okay!
As for me, after over 3 1/2 years of doing this I got burnt out, I lost track of what was important and that is why I sit here 50 pounds heavier. Over the last year I have had a lot of false starts that stemmed from being fed up, but I simply wasn't ready. But now is the time, I finally feel READY and this time feels RIGHT.
With all of that said, I don't want anyone to think that I am saying you should just sit around and wait for a little Fairy to come land on your shoulder and tell you that you are ready and now is the time.
I am just saying when you are ready it makes this journey just the slightest bit easier.