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Venting is healthy

Friday, June 03, 2016

I watch my cousins kids at least 3 times a week. Yesterday I got my schedule for the next 3 months. Her and her husband are going to 3 concerts so I get the girls those nights. One of the concerts are on a Wednesday, one of the days I watch them, which means I'll have the girls, 4 months old and 3 year old, from 7am to about 11pm. 16 HOURS!!!

My cousin knows I dont get out since I take care of my grandma and the fact that I have no friends. She also knows that I like to listen to Korn, Marilyn Manson, and Slipknot. No Im not a goth metal head, I like all music but country (but I like bluegrass) and jazz. I found out earlier that 2 of the concerts she is going to has those 3 in them.

At first I was pissed and now Im just depressed. I watch her kids all the time and I dont get to do a lot of my housework and yard work because I watch those kids. Now my weekends are full of catching up on work. Since my weekends are now busy I cant go out to the lake to see my grandparents. I couldnt go out there for Memorial Day for the cook out because of housework and yard work. So Im pretty much saying that she could have asked me if I wanted to go since I watch her kids for her while shes at work, at a drs apt, and even days when she has a lot of housework to do. At least have it be a THANK YOU FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR ME AND MY GIRLS gift.

She knows that watching my grandma is stressful, dementia, and that I have no social life. Before we were best friends that would do stuff and now all I feel like to her is her babysitter.
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  • JUSTME29
    Venting is healthy. I totally understand why you're upset. I get that caring for your grandma and the little ones is part of your responsibility to your family. Your aunt and/or cousin can't work if there is no-one there to care for the old and the young. You cousin is definitely entitled to some fun nights out here and there. But... it seems that since you usually only babysit during the day she should have asked if you'd be willing to watch the kids those nights. You have to be fatigued from all your care-taking duties and you need a break too.
    1836 days ago
    I just watched MM video the other day, some of them want to use you, guess that's fitting. So what is keeping you in your no win situation?
    1838 days ago
    Yes, verbalizing and organizing your thoughts helps
    1838 days ago
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