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Find Your Mental 'Sweet Spot'

Thursday, July 23, 2015

So, I've noticed a trend with myself over the last four months or so of being on SparkPeople. Everybody plateaus. Everybody loses. Everybody, unfortunately, gains and has set-backs. My trend has to do with what I choose to do about it.

When I plateau, I still update my status and talk with people and chat, but I don't update my weight by the tenths of a pound. I just leave it alone. This way, it doesn't bother me that I'm not moving. I'm satiated with knowing that I'm not gaining and maintaining my positive attitude in the process.

When I lose, I blast it EVERYWHERE! On my status, change my weight on the tracker, post it in the groups that I'm in challenges in… Wherever I think I can get great, positive feedback. This helps me gain even more positivity and makes me want to keep going on this path KNOWING I can accomplish my goal weight.

When I gain, I can do one of two things. Of which, I have done both. The first option is to do everything you would normally do if you lost weight. Update status (sad) Change your tracker (sadder), post to all your challenges/ forums that you would had you lost (saddest). I don't know about you, but this just sets me into a tailspin of bad choices. I'm easily swayed by my own critic and am an emotional eater. I go this route, and I end up gaining everything AND THEN SOME back. At least until I see a number I don't like and then decide to 'hit it hard' again. For me, this is the worst option for my mental 'sweet spot'. I am, after all, my own worst enemy when it comes to food and gaining. But it doesn't HAVE to be that way!

Instead, when I gain, I figured out what helps me get over it, put a smile on my face and move on. I do NOT change my weight tracker. I do NOT post my current weight into the challenges/forums. I just don't enter that week/ weeks! I DO update my status. This, to me, means that I acknowledge what happened. The only thing I can do about it now, is sweep it under the rug. It's done. It happened and I have the power to change it. Next week will be better. Or, maybe I plateau. Who knows. I can only give it my all and try to remain positive. There are just going to be weeks where I may not have any will power to NOT eat that ice cream. I shouldn't feel bad about that. Healthy weighted people eat ice cream, I CAN TOO.

Moral of this blog: Find your mental 'sweet spot'. Just because you are signed up for a challenge or have been posting weekly in a forum because you've been doing REALLY good, doesn't mean you HAVE to! Yes, it may work for some people. I don't deny that. It DOES help for accountability. But for others, like me, I just can't handle the negative voice in my head when I post the bad things. I have found my 'sweet spot' and it's working fantastically for me. I hope you find yours!

Good luck in your journey!

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    Thanks for writing this great blog! This must be the umpteenth time I've signed onto Spark People and and after a successful start, (again) I had a gain and instead of dealing with it like a mature adult. I checked out. (again) Didn't log on for months. Right now I'm losing again. And I know no matter how diligent I am, I'm going to slow down, plateau or have a gain. It's just the way it works. So I'm preparing myself for that. I want to figure out how to deal with it now instead of having a knee jerk reaction and feeling like I've failed.

    I love the term mental sweet spot. I'm going to find mine! - Diana
    1673 days ago
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