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Its not magic...

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

I remember, as a teenager and young adult, desperately wanting to be able to lose the extra weight once and for all...imagining that there was some magical place where, once that happened, I would be free...as if walking out of a prison of my own design and never having to look back. I imagined that if I could just GET THERE, everything would be fine...I would be worry free and in control for the rest of my life.

Of course I did know that was indeed magical thinking...and it did not get me any closer to my goal at all. I felt like I knew that the key to weight loss was not diets, but lifestyle change. But I also felt like that was a mysterious and illusive idea as well, like once I was able to "achieve" lifestyle change, I would be worry free and in control for the rest of my life.

One of the things I have learned about myself over the last 16 months is that FOR ME, lifestyle change is more about my approach to life than the specific actions I take each day. For instance...I approach life from the perspective of an ACTIVE person. That does not mean that I exercise perfectly. It does mean that I recognize the benefit to my body, mind and soul of movement and activity, and pursue it daily, to the best of my ability. Sometimes my best is not great...but THAT is not a reason to beat myself up. It is a reason to say, "Yep, life can get in the way...but I can keep steering this ship."

I expected FOR SO LONG that I would somehow be able to achieve perfection, that it was incredibly hard for me to accept that that expectation was the PRECISE thing that was getting in my way.

The longer I keep at this, the more I know that the length of the journey is as important to my success as ANY other tool I pick up along the way. The longer I face challenges, and KEEP steering my ship back on course, the stronger my skills become.

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    Excellent blog. The more we do it... the stronger we become. I love your approach. It clarifies things for me because those same magical thoughts were in my head too.
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    I really like your writing style. I am going to add you to keep up with your blog and journey! emoticon
    2077 days ago
    Very well said! I was reading the first part about wishing there was a magical place... and I remember as a teenager from like age 13ish onward up to even late teens, I wanted so desperately to wish my weight away. I imagined how amazing it would feel to wake up the next morning being skinny. Sad but at the same time, all the hope we had back then lol.

    It is very much to do with how you approach life. Things will get in the way, some days won't be anywhere close to perfect, and perfect itself is just not achievable. We just keep doing our best and that will get us far.
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    emoticon Life gets in the way and it does for all of us, we need to just keep steering our ship forward. Learn from our mistakes and yes those challenges do make us stronger. emoticon emoticon
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    This is a great blog and so emoticon This should be a featured post for sure! emoticon
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    It looks to me like you found the magic after all. That magic is within you and helps you to keep going and believe in yourself. You are right, you can do it.

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    Hang on, there's no magical way to do this? You mean all those covers of Woman's World" magazine are lying to me?!

    Couldn't have said this better, you are right. The more challenges we go through the more we learn and the stronger we become.

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    Think there are many of us who have had that 'magical' thinking. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    I know exactly what you're saying! When I was a teen, I used to wish that I would wake up skinnier in the morning, with a whole new wardrobe and outlook on life, and then would wish so hard, I'd fall asleep. Next morning, I'd wake to find that nothing happened. You have definitely hit the mark about the lifestyle change! emoticon
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