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Why Is It So Hard To Be Kind To Your Body?

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Sometimes I really have to stop and ask myself "what are you doing?" Basically, I got back on track with partial motivation from a weight loss challenge at work. There are 3 rounds, and for the first 3 weeks I kicked butt, took names and lost 10 pounds through hard work and laser focus. Then we got weighed, I came in 2nd out of 7 people and was very pleased with that. But then there was a shift. Sort of like "oh great, this is over, now who cares?" Okay, so not only was that wrong (there was still 6 weeks left to the challenge at the time), but regardless of a challenge or no challenge, it was such a bad attitude on my part.

I have eaten so much junk from Monday all the way up until yesterday. Funnily enough, eating crap makes me feel like crap. I know this, yet I end up falling into the trap from time to time. The longer it goes on, the harder it is for me to crawl back out.

The only reason I agreed to do the weight loss challenge was because I was already working to get back on track, and I thought it would be fun and extra motivation. I assure you I did not join the challenge, with the idea of just trying to lose weight for 9 weeks and then going back to crap habits. My goal was to work on getting back to that sweet spot where healthy habits are so automatic I don't even have to think about it. Over 3 years on this journey I have been in the sweet spot plenty of times, for months at a time, but I need to get back there.

One of my all time favorite sweet spots was the 20 days I did the 21 day sugar detox. Yes, I'm still bummed I sold myself 1 day short, but I should have never agreed to a Disneyland trip on day 21. emoticon I talk about that those 20 days as someone would talk about one of their fondest memories, with pride and longing to relive those moments. emoticon The first few days were rough, as are any big adjustment, but soon I had more energy, fell asleep fast, stayed asleep and woke up rested. emoticon My body felt great, I did lose weight at a pace I would on any "diet plan", there was no miracle weight loss or extreme dieting. I was eating healthy and feeling amazing. So why would I give that up? Why would I allow myself to go to the other extreme?

The answer is laziness. I am lazy, I can't even try to hide it. Eating in that way takes a lot of planning and preparation. You can't just grab processed junk from the freezer or stop at McDonald's when you are eating that way. It takes dedication and a lot of time. I do know there was a point where I got bored with what I was eating, but that was purely my fault. I was eating the easiest, quickest things, and not venturing out to some of the awesome recipes that I wanted to try. I still have them saved and as I prepare to start on Thursday, I am collecting as many as I can.

The trick this time is that I am not in this for 21 days, I'm really ready for that true shift in my eating. Am I a fool and thinking I will eat this way, 100% perfect all the time? Of course not. I'm human, and I'm going to screw up from time to time, eat something I shouldn't, eat too much, etc. It's going to happen. But by not looking at this as something I have to do and that I want to do, I am going to do my best to follow this way the majority of the time. I am not foolish enough to think I will never ever have a cookie or a cheeto again, but they can became that very rare occasional treat.

I will say I am not giving up my whole wheat, high fiber tortillas (no tortillas allowed on the plan), I am also not giving up my protein powder that I love that has 2 grams of sugar. If I am ever dying for a sandwich I may have a whole wheat sandwich thin... these are all "no no's" on a program, but here is the deal: If this was something I was going to do for 21 days and "quit", I could easily follow the plan to a T. But I am trying to customize this for me, for the long haul, so that I can feel good both mentally and physically. I am really excited about this, and I think I am truly ready. I think I am prepared, I have a lot of recipes to try and think I am going to find a lot of things that I ENJOY eating. That will be the trick to this, to make it something enjoyable that I want to do, not to have it be something I feel like I should do.

The only thing I'm kicking myself about now is why did I wait so long to get back to this?! emoticon
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    I REALLY need to try this sugar detox thing. I'll have to research it so I know what I'm doing - but that could be a huge help to me!!
    2200 days ago
    Great idea! I try to eat at least 2 out of three meals as a 21 DSD one! I eat moee fruits than on the 21 DSD. That is my main change from the 21 days of the detox. As long as I stay clear from refine carbs I feel great. I don't even miss whole grain
    2202 days ago
    emoticon I'm cheering you on!! emoticon emoticon
    2204 days ago
    As always, I appreciate your realistic and achievable goals. Treating yourself on rare occasions is what makes the lifestyle overhaul possible long-term. Rock on, chica!
    2205 days ago
    Go, Grrl!
    2205 days ago
    The best news of all is that you're customizing it FOR YOU! The worst thing about any of these "Plans" I read about is how much like nazi prisons they sound - even if it's only for the "first phase" My eye. what is valuable in what these authors have to offer? Use that. what is manipulative? junk it. ignore it. I was so offended by the tone in the South Beach Diet that I refused to even give it a try and I feel the same way about the Beck Diet Solution.

    I hope you are always on the Stephanie Solution Diet. LOL. sounds to me like you're doing it.

    and oh la how often I ask myself "How could I ever stop doing something that made me feel so good?" ah well. at least we're starting it up again. See ya in the 160s.
    2205 days ago
    Look for that sweet spot & stick to your modified plan...you can do it...let us cheer you on!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2205 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4963555
    Great thoughts! Good luck!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon mm
    2205 days ago
    Great blog emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2205 days ago
    Great plan to modify it for your preferences. emoticon
    2205 days ago
    Sounds like you have a great plan to keep it up long term instead of just the 21 days! You gotta do what works for you :)
    2205 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    emoticon One day at a time!!
    2205 days ago
  • WALNUTT1961
    Great blog! I feel better when I eat clean too. emoticon
    2205 days ago
    Like you said - we are all human! I do that to myself constantly too. Just this morning I was on cloud 9 - I thought to myself, I feel so much better for not drinking and feel great after exercising. Tonight, I'm drinking. Why do we do this? Why do we continue to do something that we know we will feel guilty about/or makes us feel crummy the next day.

    99.9% of this I'm convinced is mental - it's almost like we have a subconscious, self-sabotage gene!!!
    2205 days ago
  • VEG954
    emoticon emoticon
    2205 days ago
  • LINDAK25
    I do think this is the way to go. I like the modifications, too. You can prep your fruits and veggies when you bring them home from the store to save time during the week. I also do some batch cooking. Roasting a chicken and then adding to meals during the week makes meal prep faster. You can cook meats and freeze them in serving size packages. Great to throw on salads or in stir fry. Takes a little planning, but it's worth it.
    2205 days ago
  • no profile photo CD15433240
    I think it's great that you are working to get back on track! Every day is a new beginning!

    2206 days ago
    2206 days ago
    I think the modifications you are considering for the plan sounds solid and doable! Good luck finding the right combo to make it a permanent lifestyle change! You can do it!
    2206 days ago
    The key for us, you and me, is to get out of the diet mentality for once and for all! We must, must, must change our life, ourchoices for a lifetime, not for 21 days or 28 days or.... For life is what we must do! Good that you are tailoring it to fit you.You can do it! You know you can! The ultimate key here is to never, ever give up!! If you mess up, then start again!! Keep Sparking!!
    2206 days ago
    Doing low carb for about 8 months really informs the way I eat now. It helped break my sugar addiction for sure.
    2206 days ago
    Go for it Steph! Success is out there. Grab it!!! emoticon
    2206 days ago
    You are doing the best by tailoring this to what you know you'll DO! Good for you.

    Hey, Da Rock has MY attention! LOL
    2206 days ago
    I'm not ready, well yeah sort of...

    I think I get it, maybe...well I dunno

    2206 days ago
    I'm in the same boat. I did the Spark Tame Your Sweet Tooth Challenge and it totally worked. I eliminated sugar and no longer had crazy cravings for it. Now I've let some bad foods creep back in and I just know they are just fueling the cravings. I am on Day 4 of the 21 Day Fix Extreme. I haven't committed to their containers to manage portion control, but I am doing the workouts. Since I gained 3.8 pounds last week, I'm ready to cut the added sugar again. I don't mind having some goal posts, so it's on!! I'm cutting the added sugar for the remainder of my 21 DFX. When it's done, I'll just start another streak. We are streaking through life, baby!
    I'll be checking in on you to hear how you do too!
    2206 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/10/2015 11:36:46 AM
    Great plan! Do what works for you!!
    2206 days ago
    you have to change the title to Steph's lifestyle change plan as somebody else suggested it is & you have to do it best of luck
    2206 days ago
    Well I don't think you are lazy. You wouldn't have come this far nor put as much thought and planning into moving forward. We all slip(been doing a bit of it myself lately). Forgive yourself - You deserve forgiveness and move on- which it sounds like you are ready to do! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2206 days ago
  • MARYBETH4884
    Customization is what life is all about! Good luck in finding the exact formula for you!! emoticon
    2206 days ago
    You know, I often stop and wonder when it has become so difficult to find real food. And real food, IMO, is the key to a healthy weight, mind, body.
    You might want to check out "In Defense of Food" by Michael Pollan.

    You sound ready for your restart. Wishing you much success.

    2206 days ago
    Sounds like a great plan! I like the way you are customizing it to find what you can live with. It certainly does take a lot of time, planning, prepping, etc. but it is so worth it. New foods and recipes keep it from getting boring. Good for you.
    2206 days ago
    ooooh I like SUSIEMT's idea of making it your OWN PLAN! Following someone else's rules never works for me. I've been considering Whole 30 lately, but I HATE strict rules. I rebel! So I'm considering utilizing the principles and not giving up what I can't live without.

    You can do this!
    2206 days ago
  • BETRHO48
    Anything worth doing, is worth doing well. And better health is well worth it! ~Beth
    2206 days ago
  • BETRHO48
    Better health is something some of us have to work hard to pursue and eventually capture. It's just a part of life. We can do it!
    2206 days ago
    You can do it! I think that it takes a lot of dedication and willpower to do this cleanse. I am not sure if I can do it. You have a great incentive on deck and I am sure that you will crush this.

    P.S. I had to re-read your blog because The Rock is totally talking to me. emoticon
    2206 days ago
    Rooting for you to find the "sweet spot" once again! emoticon
    2206 days ago
    Stephanie! I love your blogs! Do you think you need to change the title of this diet from 21 day sugar detox to something like Stephanie's healthy lifestyle plan for life! Just a thought. It might help you look at it differently?

    You are not LAZY! That old saying when you fail to plan you plan to fail rings very true for myself! Just remember that when you do slip or think you slip how you react to the situation is important. It is easy for me to say that but I am still trying to remember to stop and think before I continue to reach for something that is going to keep me on that slippery slope!

    You can do this! Might I suggest you find out what you are afraid of that stops you from reaching your goal? I know! No one wants to hear that!


    2206 days ago
  • no profile photo CD10895053
    I feel the same way as you do, Steph, it just seems so hard and if we'd really listen to our body, it does tell us that it feels alot better to eat clean. It's just a matter of planning and I'm not so good at that at all and I get lazy too. It's easier to grab whatever and I just did that too, with a big bowl of cornflakes, that go right through me! Now I have to eat more healthy the rest of the day. The key is to have the majority of our eating be clean and that makes our bodies feel all the better! Good day to you! Hugs!
    2206 days ago
    good post thanks for sharing
    2206 days ago
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